To-do list for newborn babies one month after birth | Shrine visit, naming ceremony, and one-month checkup preparation
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To-do list for 0-1 month after giving birth
15 Must-Read Items for New Moms and Dads
What can I do for this little life?
The moment you hold your beloved child in your arms for the first time immediately after giving birth.
Along with deep love, a sense of confusion crosses my mind.
"What if I forget to follow the procedures and this child is at a disadvantage?"
When and how do you do a shrine visit?
"Can we really take care of you?"
With the experience of a midwife who has looked after over 3,000 new parents over the past 30 years,
Born from the real experiences of 100 experienced moms and dads,
This is a complete guide that will perfectly support your beloved child's first steps .
From birth registration to a 420,000 yen grant, newborn photos to shrine visits.
Important information that is easy to overlook because it is your first experience.
It covers everything in 15 items.
"Oh, so that's the reason!" I discovered something new,
We have the confidence that "we can do this too."
Take it home with love.
The practice of love begins on the day you leave the hospital
Umbilical cord care, bathing, and jaundice check | The first 48 hours save your baby's life
"I can finally go home... but will I be able to protect my child at home?"
The day of discharge is a complex feeling many new parents feel.
The first 48 hours after discharge from hospital are a special adjustment period for your baby as he or she gets used to his or her new environment .
Proper care during this time can help boost your child's health and your self-confidence.
How to lovingly care for your umbilical cord
The umbilical cord is a bridge of love that connects mother and baby for about 10 months.
Caring for these marks with love is the first act of strengthening the bond between parent and child.
Proper care instructions:
1. Wash your hands thoroughly with soap for 30 seconds
2. Gently wipe away any secretions with clean gauze.
3. Air dry (no alcohol disinfection required)
4. Adjust the diaper so that it doesn't touch the umbilical cord
Signs to watch out for:
If the redness increases, there is pus-like discharge, a foul odor, or fever, consult a pediatrician.
Special bathing method immediately after discharge
Bathing a baby with the umbilical cord is safe if done properly.
Points to remember immediately after discharge:
Temperature: 37.5-38 degrees, 0.5 degrees lower than normal
Time: Completed in under 5 minutes
・Order: Body → Head → Finally, around the umbilical cord
Drying: Dry the area around the umbilical cord completely
Jaundice's Love Observation Technique
Physiological jaundice, which occurs in 60-80% of newborns, is a sign that the baby is adapting to the outside world .
Observation points:
- Check in natural light (morning recommended)
・Check in the order of face → chest → stomach
- Check the color of the whites of the eyes
・Comprehensive judgment based on breastfeeding status
Signs of relief: Starts 2-3 days after birth and gradually fades away, breastfeeding vigorously
Warning signs: Within 24 hours of birth, sudden deterioration, yellowing of hands and feet
If you have love, you will acquire the necessary skills.
Don't strive for perfection, just take each day as it comes.
Complete schedule of procedures you must not forget
14-day birth registration, child allowance, and various benefits | Meet the deadline to protect your child's future
"The process is complicated and I don't know where to start..."
These procedures are an important foundation for building a rich life for your beloved child .
It's not difficult at all if you follow the right steps.
[Top priority] Birth notification (must be submitted within 14 days)
Birth notification is the most important procedure for recognizing a baby as a Japanese citizen .
This notification will begin health insurance coverage, entitlement to benefits, and vaccination subsidies.
Required documents:
・Birth certificate (issued by hospital)
・Maternal and Child Health Handbook
・Seal and ID of the person submitting the notification
Where to submit: City, town or village office of your registered domicile, residence or place of birth
We recommend your address (you can also apply for child allowance at the same time)
[420,000 yen] Lump-sum childbirth and childcare allowance
Blessings and support for new life from the country.
If you use the direct payment system, in most cases the cost will be automatically deducted from your childbirth expenses without you having to go through any procedures.
Additional steps required:
・Birth expenses less than 420,000 yen → The difference can be claimed
・Giving birth overseas → Full amount of 420,000 yen can be applied for
[15,000 yen per month] Child allowance (up to 15 days)
The deadline is short, but it is extremely important. If you delay, you will never receive the benefit .
Amount:
・0-3 years old: 15,000 yen per month
・3 years old - elementary school completion: 10,000 yen per month
・Middle school students: 10,000 yen per month
Total amount for 15 years: Approximately 2 million yen
Required documents:
・Certification request form ・Health insurance card ・Account information ・Seal ・ID card
[Free medical expenses] Medical expenses subsidy for infants and young children
Medical expenses for infants and young children are free in almost all municipalities across the country.
This covers consultation fees, medication costs, testing costs, and hospitalization costs.
Example of grant period:
Tokyo, Yokohama, Nagoya: up to third year of junior high school
Osaka City: Up to 18 years old
Perfect Schedule:
Discharge day: Birth certificate collection
3-7 days after birth: Birth notification and child allowance application
1-2 weeks after birth: Apply for health insurance and medical expenses subsidy
One month after birth: Apply for the lump-sum maternity allowance (if necessary)
As the first gift for my beloved child,
Make sure you complete the process by the deadline.
The truth behind the myth that newborns need 18 hours of sleep
Is a 12-hour sleep a normal baby? Affection observation method to understand individuality
"The parenting book says that babies should sleep 18-20 hours, but my child only sleeps 12 hours..."
Your dear child is not abnormal in any way .
The "18-hour sleep myth" is based on limited research data from 60 years ago.
Modern babies grow up in a bright environment with plenty of stimulation,
Being more active and curious is a natural adaptation .
The four sleep types of modern babies
Research since 2020 has revealed that there is significant individual variation in the amount of sleep newborns get.
Long sleepers (25%) : 16-20 hours
→ Gentle and highly focused, with great potential
Balanced (40%) : 14-16 hours
→ A systematic and cooperative future
Active type (25%) : 12-14 hours
→ Curious and sociable with a bright future
Short sleepers (10%) : 10-12 hours
→ High awakening, future with leadership potential
Quality is more important than time . Don't worry, if you:
✅ I have periods of good mood when I'm awake
✅ Calms down for 1-3 hours after feeding
✅ Weight gain of 20-30g per day
✅ Urinating more than 6 times a day
A 7-day observation method to understand your child's sleep habits
Items to record daily:
1. Total sleep time
2. Longest continuous sleep
3. Mood when awake
4. Post-feeding satisfaction
5. Response to external stimuli
6. Active times
Within seven days , you will begin to see your child's unique patterns .
The hidden talents of short-sleeping babies
Babies who sleep for short periods of time:
The brain develops quickly
・Early development of vision and hearing
- Early development of social skills
Strong foundation of learning ability
"Not sleeping well" is not a problem, but a possibility that your child is intelligent and sensitive .
The best way to raise children is to understand your child's individuality and find a rhythm that brings smiles to the whole family.
Prioritize quality and satisfaction over length of time, and cherish this child's individuality .
Free yourself from the myths of breastfeeding and breastfeeding techniques with love
Every 3 hours is an outdated common sense | The real timing your baby wants
"The basic rule is to breastfeed every three hours." "Breast milk is best, and formula is inferior."
There are so many mothers who are bound by these common sense rules and end up blaming themselves .
However, I can say this with confidence based on my 30 years of experience as a midwife.
Love is the best nourishment, and we find the answer in our relationships with our children .
The surprising history of the "every three hours myth"
Why every three hours?
In fact, the basis for this is the practice of formula feeding in the 1950s .
At that time, artificial milk took three hours to digest,
Breast milk is digested within 1-1.5 hours , so the standard of every 3 hours is not realistic.
In modern science,
The ideal way to breastfeed is when your baby wants it and only when he wants it .
Breastfeeding every hour is proof of affection
"Breastfeeding again? I just had a drink..."
Frequent breastfeeding is a way for babies to show their love for their mothers.
What frequent breastfeeding really means:
- A request to "make more boobs for mommy"
・An expression of affection that means "I want to be close to Mommy"
・Collaboration based on the idea of "growing together"
A surefire way to tell if your baby is getting enough breast milk
"Do I not have enough breast milk because my breasts aren't full?" This is a misunderstanding.
✅ Signs that your baby has enough breast milk:
- Urine is light yellow and occurs more than six times a day
- Soft yellow stools 3-8 times a day
- Calms down for 1-3 hours after feeding
・Weight gain of 20-30g per day
⚠️ Signs that you should be really worried:
- Urinating less than 6 times a day
No weight gain for a week
- Baby always starts crying within 30 minutes of being fed
Milk is an ally, not an enemy
What's important is that the baby is happy and the mother is smiling .
Smart milk combination:
・Complementary milk: About 20-40ml after breastfeeding
・Mom's rest milk: 1-2 times a day, dad or other family member is in charge
・Milk when you're out: A relief when there are no nursing rooms
Tips for turning nighttime feedings into affection time
How to turn nighttime feedings into special parent-child time :
Talking in silence
・Share body heat by breastfeeding side by side
・See it as a precious time when "this child needs me"
・The effort you put in now will be an investment that will form the foundation for your future mother-child relationship.
Breastfeeding is not something you "have to do"
This is the first deep connection I have with my child .
Don't strive for perfection, just cherish each and every day.
Please nurture this special time just between you and your child with lots of love.
Bathing a newborn deepens the bond between parent and child
The scientific reason why 38 degrees is the optimum temperature and umbilical cord care complete guide
"What is the correct bath temperature?"
A midwife who has given bathing instruction more than 3,000 times over the past 30 years
Finally, we'll give you a clear answer.
Conclusion: The optimum temperature is 38°C in summer, 39°C in winter, and 38.5°C in spring and autumn.
The scientific basis for seasonal temperature settings
The normal body temperature of a newborn is 36.5-37.5 degrees.
Ideally, bath water temperature should be 1-2 degrees warmer than body temperature.
However, the room temperature changes depending on the season.
This creates a difference between the perceived temperature and the actual water temperature .
Summer (room temperature 26-28 degrees) : 38 degrees
→ The room temperature is high, so a slightly lower temperature is sufficient.
Winter (room temperature 20-22°C) : 39°C
→ Prevents you from getting cold the moment you get out of the bathtub
Spring and autumn (room temperature 24-26 degrees) : 38.5 degrees
→ Stable comfort at intermediate temperatures
Why setting it to 40 degrees is dangerous
The "40 degrees" mentioned in some parenting books is an outdated bathing standard for adults .
40 Degree Risk:
・Promotes dry skin
・Washes away even necessary sebum
・Fatigue due to elevated body temperature
- Sudden drop in body temperature after getting out of the bath
The "wrist test" measures temperature accurately without a thermometer
Emergency Techniques:
1. Immerse the inside of your wrist (where your pulse is measured) in hot water for 3 seconds.
2. "Just the right temperature" - about 38 degrees
3. "It feels a little hot" → 39 degrees or higher
4. "Is it lukewarm?" → Below 37 degrees
The key is to use your wrist, not your palm.
The skin on your wrist is thinner and can sense temperature more accurately .
Bath magic to calm a crying baby
Most babies cry because they are scared .
Five techniques to overcome this fear:
1. Gradual flooding method
Gradually warm up your body in the following order: toes → knees → hips → chest → shoulders
2. The hot towel strategy
Put a warm towel over the area that is not submerged in hot water for a sense of security.
3. Mommy's voice therapy
"It feels good, it's warm," she said in a gentle voice.
4. Stable Hold Method
Support your neck and head with your left hand and your thighs with your right hand.
5. Relaxation time before bathing
Room temperature adjustment, music, light massage 30 minutes before
Complete guide to umbilical cord care
Babies can be bathed even if the umbilical cord is still attached.
However, special considerations apply:
・Be gentle around the umbilical cord at the end
・Do not scrub, just rinse with clean water
- Dry thoroughly after bathing
・Press with a clean towel to remove moisture
Bathing is not something that needs to be done perfectly.
Communication time with your baby .
Even if you don't do well at first, you will definitely improve if you keep doing it every day.
Babies, moms, and dads all learn together .
Newborn photo and naming ceremony for 2 weeks after birth
Beautifully capture the once-in-a-lifetime newborn period with commemorative photography and loving naming
When should I take newborn photos?
Is a naming ceremony really necessary?
The first two weeks of life are a special time that will never come back .
With commemorative photos and a naming ceremony during this period, you can give your beloved child a beautiful start in life.
The best time for newborn photos
Ideally, between 5 and 14 days after birth .
Babies at this age have some special characteristics:
- The curled up posture while still in the womb
- Allows for natural poses during deep sleep
- Soft skin texture unique to newborns
・Undeveloped facial muscles and a calm expression
After three weeks of age,
The limbs are stretched and the waking time is longer,
That unique newborn quality will be lost .
Professional photography techniques for taking photos at home
If you can't get to the studio, that's okay.
You can take beautiful photos at home with love :
1. How to use light
The natural light in the morning is the best.
At the window, soft light shines through lace curtains.
2. How to choose a background
Keep it simple with white sheets and towels.
Keep the background clean so that the baby is the main focus.
3. Timing of the shoot
30 minutes to 1 hour after feeding.
A time when your pet is full, in a good mood, and at low risk of vomiting.
4. Safety First
Do not pose in an awkward manner.
Pay attention to the posture your baby naturally adopts.
5. Don't forget the family photos.
Photos with mom and dad are the best treasures.
A realistic record of love, including tired expressions.
A heartwarming guide to modern naming ceremonies
The Shichi-ya and naming ceremony are affectionate events where everyone celebrates the child's name .
Celebrate in a family-like way without being too formal.
Naming ceremony styles chosen by modern moms:
Simple naming ceremony (70%)
The family wrote the naming certificate and took photos together.
No special dishes were prepared, just a heartfelt moment.
Family naming ceremony (20%)
A simple celebration with the grandparents.
A warm meal surrounded by everyone and homemade red rice.
Postponed naming ceremony (10%)
Prioritize your health and carry out the test 2-3 weeks later.
There is no expiration date on love.
How to write a baby's name card with love
It doesn't have to be fine Japanese paper.
Letters written with love on ordinary paper are more valuable .
Contents:
- Baby's name (large and in the center)
・Date of birth and time of birth
・Name of the person who named the name and their relationship to the name
・Wish contained in the name (one word)
Tips for taking commemorative photos
From beautifully decorated photos,
The photo that captures mom and dad's natural smiles will be a treasured one.
Recommended composition:
・Baby name card and baby together
- A shot of three family members holding hands
・Smiling family members surrounding a baby
The most important thing
Newborn photos and naming ceremonies
"Loving time" is more important than "perfect records."
If you are not feeling well, don't push yourself.
Putting family smiles first.
Photos that can only be taken at this time of year
A commemorative event that can only be held at this time of year,
Please leave it with lots of love .
Complete Guide to Preparing for a Shrine Visit | Important Events in the First Month of a Baby's Life
Clothing, offerings, photos, and postponing the ceremony | My child's first big day
"Do I really have to have my baby's shrine visit on the 31st day after birth?"
"Is it okay to take him outside when he can't even hold his head up yet?"
To all new parents who feel anxious about this.
The shrine visit is an event to pray for the health and growth of a beloved child .
It would be counterproductive to push yourself too hard and end up getting sick.
Modern standards of judgment are more important than the 31-day-old theory
The rule of "Omiya-mairi (shrine visit) is held on the 31st day after birth" was established in the Edo period.
At that time, it was a miracle that a baby survived the first month of life.
Nowadays, medical technology has advanced
The correct answer is "The health of the baby and mother comes first."
Modern criteria:
Baby health check
- Stable breastfeeding rhythm
・I can sleep well at night
・You can stay in a good mood for 1-2 hours when you go out
Mom's health check
Lochia has calmed down
・You won't get extremely tired after going out for 2-3 hours
・Feeling relaxed
Consideration of seasons and weather
・2-3 months is acceptable in midsummer or midwinter.
・Postponement on rainy or windy days
・Make careful decisions during infectious disease outbreaks
Recently, the number of families taking their baby to the shrine when they are 2-3 months old is increasing.
Many people say that it is safer to wait until the baby's neck is strong enough.
Smart decisions about clothing choices
Baby's celebration wear
Purchase (30,000-80,000 yen) vs. Rental (8,000-15,000 yen)
Recommended to buy:
I have plans to have siblings
I want to keep it as a souvenir
・Useful for first meals and first festivals
Rental recommendation:
-Planning to have an only child
・I want to reduce initial costs
There is no storage space
Important points for mom's clothing
We recommend a "set-up (top and bottom separated)" that takes into account changes in your body shape after giving birth.
It is easy to breastfeed and the size is adjustable.
The color is bright for a baby's celebration wear,
Look elegant with "navy," "gray," and "beige."
Market price of first offering and how to wrap it
Average price: 5,000-10,000 yen
・Regular local shrines: 5,000 yen
・Famous shrines and large shrines: 7,000-10,000 yen
How to write on a gift envelope:
・Inscription: "First offering" or "Tamagushi offering"
・Bottom row: Baby's name (with furigana)
・Mizuhiki: Red and white bow
Key points for successful photography
Professional vs. Family Photography:
Professional photography recommended:
・I want to keep it as a once-in-a-lifetime memory
I want a photo with the whole family in it.
I don't want to be affected by the weather
Recommended for family photography:
・I want to cherish a natural look
・I want to keep costs down
・I want to proceed at my baby's pace
The love standard for postponing decisions
Don't hesitate to postpone if:
- Illness of mother or baby
・Bad weather (rain, strong winds, extreme heat, severe cold)
・Infectious disease epidemic period
Family circumstances don't suit me
The shrine also understands the current situation,
"The health of the baby and mother comes first," he said.
The most important thing about a shrine visit
More than the accuracy of the format and schedule,
"The whole family can smile and pray from the bottom of their hearts for their child's growth."
than expensive clothes,
Rather than perfect preparation,
A loving prayer is the most important thing.
Baby Sign Reading Love Dictionary
How to determine your child's feelings and urgency based on 6 types of crying sounds
"What is this child trying to tell me?"
"All the cries sound the same..."
Newborns cannot speak,
They communicate in a variety of ways through their cries, facial expressions, and gestures .
A midwife who has cared for thousands of babies over the past 30 years shares her experiences.
We will introduce you to a dictionary of love that will help you understand your child's feelings .
A complete explanation of the 6 types of crying patterns
1. Hunger cry "Meow, meow"
Characteristics: Regular, short cycles, gradually increasing in strength
Response: Breastfeeding. When a finger is placed near the mouth, the baby tries to suck it.
Urgency: ★★☆ (response within 30 minutes)
2. Sleepy crying "Unyawnya"
Characteristics: Weak, whiny cry, eye rubbing
Response: Holding in a quiet environment, soft lullabies
Urgency: ★☆☆ (No need to rush)
3. Unpleasant crying "Waaaah"
Characteristics: Sudden onset of moderate crying
Response: Check diapers, room temperature, and clothing
Urgency: ★★☆ (Cause resolved within 15 minutes)
4. Crying for affection: "Eeek, eeek"
Characteristics: Relatively weak, but calms down a little when seeing mom's face
Response: hugging, physical contact, talking
Urgency: ★☆☆ (This is a sign of affection, so there's no need to rush.)
5. Crying when unwell "Gyaa gyaa"
Characteristics: Intense crying that is completely different from usual and won't stop
Response: Check for fever, vomiting, and breathing, and see a doctor if necessary
Urgency: ★★★ (Check the status immediately)
6. Crying for unknown reasons: "colic crying"
Characteristics: Often occurs in the evening, and won't stop crying no matter what you do
How to deal with it: Holding the baby in your arms, taking them outside for a fresh air bath, listening to music, giving up and just playing along
Urgency: ★☆☆ (Temporary phenomenon in the growth process)
Important signs other than crying
Reassuring signs:
facial expression
・Satisfied expression after breastfeeding
・Gentle eyes looking at mommy and daddy
・Occasional smile (physiological smile)
Hand condition
・Open palms when relaxed
・A reaction of shaking hands
- Moderate muscle tension
breathing/sleep
Regular breathing sounds
Deep sleep and proper wakefulness
・Natural turning over (back to side)
Danger signs to watch out for
Immediate medical attention is needed:
breathing problems
・Rough breathing, tends to stop
- Chest rising and falling violently
・Breathing with the nostrils wide open
Changes in complexion
Pale, purplish lips
- Abnormally red or grayish skin
Sudden worsening of jaundice
Decreased activity
・Weak and slow to respond
Extremely weak crying
Sudden weakening of sucking power during breastfeeding
The scientific basis for valuing a mother's intuition
A mother's intuition that "something is not right" is accurate over 90% of the time .
This has been medically proven
-Detection of subtle changes through long-term observation
- Increased sensitivity due to maternal hormones
・Intensive observation based on deep affection for our children
It's a combination of these things.
Tips for improving your sign reading skills
1. Daily Observation Record
Record crying patterns and times when your baby is in a good mood
2. Sharing information with family
Share what you've noticed with your dad and grandparents
3. Don't expect perfection
It's natural to have times when you don't understand something. Trial and error is growth.
By understanding my child's "non-verbal communication,"
The bond between parent and child becomes deeper.
Responding to each sign with love,
It's the ultimate expression of love .
Newborn Poop & Diaper Observation Techniques
Is 10 times a day too much? How to check your pet's health and affection by checking its color and shape
"I poop 10 times a day, is this normal?"
"It's greenish in colour, is that ok?"
A newborn's poop is the most important clue to their health .
Every diaper change is a valuable opportunity to check your child's health.
A midwife who has observed tens of thousands of diapers over the past 30 years
We will teach you how to monitor your health with love .
Normal newborn poop pattern
Frequency: 3-10 times a day (average 5-6 times)
Newborns have active intestinal peristalsis,
It is normal for your baby to poop after every feeding .
"Is 10 times a day too many?"
No, no, this is proof that you are healthy and in good health .
This is evidence that digestion and absorption are proceeding smoothly.
Changes in feces by season
0-2 days after birth: Meconium
- Color: dark green, tar-like
Characteristics: Strong viscosity, almost odorless
・Meaning: Waste products from the stomach. Normal excretion
3-5 days after birth: Transitional stool
Color: Greenish yellow
Characteristics: Between meconium and milk stool
・Meaning: The intestinal environment is adapting to breast milk/formula
After 6 days of age: Mature stool
Color: Yellow (breast milk), brownish yellow (milk)
Characteristics: Soft paste
・Meaning: Completion of normal digestion and absorption
How to check your love for your pet's health by color
✅ Reassuring Colors:
yellowish
Bright yellow: the ideal color for breastfeeding
・Slightly brownish yellow: Normal color for bottle-fed babies
Light yellow: Too much water but within normal range
Green (conditionally normal)
・Yellow-green: The intestinal transit time is fast. If you are healthy, there is no problem.
Dark green: Often seen after iron supplementation
⚠️ Colors to watch out for:
white/gray
→ Possible abnormality in bile secretion. Immediately consult a pediatrician.
Red (contaminated with blood)
→ Possible intestinal bleeding. Urgent medical examination required.
Black (after 3 days old)
→ Possible upper gastrointestinal bleeding. Seek medical attention immediately.
Digestive status determined by shape and quantity
Ideal shape:
・Soft paste
・A little bit of grain mixed in
・Not too watery, not too hard
Shapes to watch out for:
Completely watery (possible diarrhea)
- Hard, lumpy stools (a sign of constipation)
-Lots of mucus mixed in
Health information revealed by smell
Normal odor:
・Breast milk stool: Slightly sweet and sour
・Milk stool: Slightly sour, cheese-like
Smells to watch out for:
・Unusually sour: Possible infection
・Foul odor: Deterioration of the intestinal environment
・Bloody smell: Possible bleeding
Criteria for Diagnosing Constipation and How to Treat It
How to determine constipation in newborns:
・No bleeding for more than 3 days
・Even if it comes out, it is hard and round
- Straining or crying during bowel movements
・My stomach feels bloated and painful
Loving constipation relief:
・Stomach massage
・Leg flexion and extension exercises (bicycle pedaling)
- Warm your stomach with a warm towel
・Hydrate before breastfeeding (a small amount of cooled boiled water)
Diaper changing can be a form of affectionate communication
Changing diapers is not just a chore,
Important communication time with your baby .
Tips for loving diaper changes:
・Gently say things like, "Let's clean up!"
・Warm the baby wipes to body temperature before use
・Do not scrub, but press down
・"It feels good" when putting on a new diaper
How to keep records
Use a smartphone app or notebook to record:
・Time and number of times
・Color, shape, amount
・Odor characteristics
・Baby's condition
If you share this with your pediatrician at your baby's one-month checkup,
You will receive more accurate health advice.
Check your love for your child's health with every diaper change.
Noticing small changes,
You can be the best mom and dad .
A complete guide to recovering your mind and body after giving birth
Lochia, hair loss, constipation, episiotomy | How to live a loving life without straining yourself
"I'm so busy taking care of my baby that I put my own needs on the back burner..."
"But if I'm not feeling well, I'll be a nuisance to this child."
Mothers who work hard for their beloved children should take care of their own bodies .
A midwife who has watched over the postpartum recovery of 3,000 mothers over the past 30 years
We believe that a healthy mother is the greatest love for her baby .
We will teach you science-based recovery methods.
Changes in lochia are signs of recovery
Lochia is a natural phenomenon that causes the uterus to return to its normal size .
Please observe this with love as it is evidence that your pet is recovering properly.
Normal course of lochia:
1-3 days after birth: red lochia
Bright red, large amount
- Amount equivalent to the amount on the 2nd or 3rd day of menstruation
There may be blood clots mixed in
4-10 days after birth: Brown lochia
- Change to brownish color
- The amount gradually decreases
・The smell is fishy
2-6 weeks after birth: Lochia
Light yellow, almost colorless
・The amount is similar to vaginal discharge
・Almost no odor
Signs to watch out for:
・Fever of 38 degrees or higher
- Abnormally foul odor
Persistent large blood clots
Fresh blood begins again after 3 weeks postpartum
Postpartum hair loss is evidence of the "love hormone"
"I'm losing a lot of hair and I'm worried I'll go bald in the future."
There is no need to worry about that.
Postpartum hair loss is caused by a sudden change in estrogen (female hormone) .
The hormones that increase during pregnancy to "protect the baby"
This is evidence that your body is changing to produce breast milk after giving birth.
Peak hair loss: 2-6 months after giving birth
Recovery period: Gradual improvement over 6-12 months after delivery
Full recovery: Return to normal within 1-1.5 years after giving birth
Loving Hair Care Method:
・Wash your hair gently with a mild shampoo
- Dry with cold air using a hair dryer
・Nutritionally balanced meals
- Adequate sleep and hydration
A loving technique to relieve postpartum constipation
Postpartum constipation is a natural phenomenon experienced by 90% of mothers .
Don't be embarrassed and take proactive steps to care for yourself.
Reasons for constipation:
・I can't push because of the pain from the episiotomy
- Dehydration due to breastfeeding
Lack of exercise and muscle weakness
・Changes in hormone balance
Immediate solutions:
・First cup of hot water in the morning
- Hydration before and after breastfeeding
・"Clockwise abdominal massage" 5 minutes
- Leaning forward on the toilet seat (35 degrees)
Correct recovery from an episiotomy
"How long will the pain last?"
With proper care, significant improvement can be seen within 2-3 weeks .
Pain Relief Loving Care:
・Use of donut-shaped cushions
- Complete drying after showering
Change clean underwear 2-3 times a day
・When sitting down, try to sit slowly
Helping mom recover emotionally is also an important act of love
"When my baby cries, I feel like crying too."
"I have to work harder for this kid."
These feelings are evidence of deep affection .
However, don't try too hard.
Signs of emotional recovery:
・I'm truly happy to see my baby's smile
・I feel glad that this child is here.
The desire to go out gradually increases
Enjoy conversations with your family
Taking care of yourself for the sake of your beloved child is also an expression of love .
Don't push yourself too hard and make the most of each day.
The perfect plan for returning home after giving birth at your parents' home
How long will it take? What are the procedures? How to relieve stress at home and maintain a marriage relationship
"When is the best time to go home?"
"It's easier to live with my parents, but I'm worried about my relationship with my husband..."
Giving birth at your parents' home is an important choice to protect your beloved child and yourself .
However, if you choose the wrong timing to return,
This can lead to anxiety about marital relationships and child-rearing.
From our experience of watching over 3,000 families,
We will tell you about a homecoming strategy that will make the whole family smile .
How to decide wisely on the period of your visit home
Ideal time to return home: 6-8 weeks after giving birth
There is a scientific basis for this timeframe:
What does 6 weeks postpartum mean?
The uterus returns to almost its original size
・Lochia calms down
-Recovers stamina to 70-80%
・Breastfeeding rhythm established
What 8 weeks postpartum means:
・Mom's mind and body are stable
- Makes it safe for babies to go out
・It is possible to do housework and childcare at the same time
・Ideal for couples to build a childcare system
Comparison of advantages and disadvantages by period:
Less than 4 weeks after giving birth (short-term)
✅ Early building of marital bonds
❌ Mom's physical strength is not fully recovered
→ For experienced mothers with second or subsequent children
6-8 weeks after birth (recommended type)
✅ Physical fitness, breastfeeding, and childcare skills acquired
✅ Minimal negative impact on marital relationships
→ Ideal for first-time mothers
More than 3 months after giving birth (long-term type)
✅ Minimize the burden on moms
❌ Loss of opportunity for husband to participate in childcare
Only if there are special circumstances
Love techniques to relieve stress at home
"My mother interferes too much" and "I'm forced to use outdated child-rearing methods"
More than 70% of mothers have this problem.
How to successfully bridge the generation gap:
The art of expressing gratitude
"Thanks to you, my baby and I are doing well."
→ Improve relationships by expressing gratitude rather than criticism
Modern information sharing
Instead of "Recent studies have..."
"My pediatrician said..."
→ Communicate as an expert opinion
Clarifying the division of roles
"I'm in charge of childcare, and my mother is in charge of housework."
→ Make the boundaries clear
The secret technique for maintaining a marriage
The biggest cause of postpartum crisis is the deterioration of marital relationships during a visit to one's parents' home.
However, with the right communication techniques, the bond can become even stronger.
Daily love communication techniques:
Morning report (7-8am)
"Last night I breastfed ○ times, and this morning my baby gained ○g."
→ Fostering a sense of fatherhood through concrete information
Photo and video sharing (daytime)
"I'm doing ____ now" - a scene from everyday life
→ Dad also sees growth
Evening Thanksgiving Time (8:00-9:00 PM)
"Thanks to you, I can rest in peace."
→ Recognize the value of your dad
Essential preparation checklist before returning
Improving living environment:
✅ Check the placement of cribs and nursing supplies
✅ Testing the room temperature control function
✅ Check pediatricians and pharmacies in case of emergency
Preparing daily necessities:
✅ A week's worth of milk and diapers
✅ Preparing supplies for starting solid food
✅ Mom's health management products
Building a support system:
✅ Build relationships with reliable mom friends in your neighborhood
✅ Register for housekeeping and delivery services
✅ System for contacting parents and in-laws in case of an emergency
The key to a successful return
Gradual return method:
One week before: Take a day trip to check out the atmosphere
3 days before: 2 days and 1 night rehearsal
Day of return: Traveling in the morning to conserve energy
New habits after returning:
・Weekly phone call to report to parents
・Going home once a month to see my grandchildren
・Feel free to ask for advice when you have a problem
Giving birth at your hometown is not the end, but the beginning of a new family life .
She cherishes her studies at home and her bond with her husband.
Build the best home for your beloved child .
How to record your beloved child's growth
The meaning of 30g/day of body weight and the observation points that emphasize individuality without comparison
"The baby next door can already do ____, but my child..."
"Maybe because I'm underweight, I'm not getting enough love?"
To moms who feel that anxiety.
There is no need to compare your child's progress with that of other children .
A midwife who has watched over the growth of thousands of babies over the past 30 years
We will teach you how to record your love for your child while cherishing their individuality .
The true meaning of 30g/day weight gain
Are you being fooled by the number "30g increase per day"?
This number is an average value, not an absolute value .
The actual weight gain of a healthy baby ranges from 20-50g/day.
The most important thing is to find your child's pace .
Individual weight gain patterns:
Steady work type (40%)
・Steady increase of 20-25g daily
・Few sudden changes but stable growth
・To develop a child with perseverance in the future
Standard type (30%)
・Increases at around 25-35g per day
- Progression almost in line with the growth curve
Balanced development
All at once (20%)
・No weight gain for 3 days → Sudden weight gain of 100g
・Growth fluctuates, but overall it is going well
・This tendency is common among children with high concentration
Slow type (10%)
-Increase of about 15-20g per day
Slow growth but healthy
・For children with a polite and careful personality
How to create a growth curve that is unique to your child
Rather than comparing with commercially available growth curves,
Create your own personal growth record .
Daily love data recording:
physical growth
-Weight (measured at the same time and under the same conditions)
・Height (about once a week)
・Head circumference (about once a month)
Development record
- Neck movement (range of tracking, etc.)
-Hand movements (grasping back, thumb sucking, etc.)
- Changes in facial expressions (smile, surprised face, etc.)
Daily rhythm
・Feeding time, amount, and interval
・Sleep time/wake time
・Time when you are in a good mood
Special Moments
・First time seeing something (smile, voice, etc.)
・Your favorite sounds, lights, and textures
How to stop crying and how to fall asleep
Tips for observing love without comparing
"Slower than other kids" "Smaller than other kids"
How to turn that comparison into loving observation :
❌ Comparative thinking:
"X-chan can already hold her head up, but my child..."
✅ Affection Observation:
"I kept my head up longer than usual today. My neck muscles are getting stronger."
❌ Comparative thinking:
"You're underweight. I wonder if you're not getting enough milk."
✅ Affection Observation:
"He's definitely heavier than last week. He's growing at a steady pace."
Points to discover your child's unique characteristics by age
0-2 weeks after birth: Personality during the adaptation period
-Depth of sleep (deep and long vs. shallow and short)
・Feeding technique (drinking quickly vs. drinking slowly)
・Reaction to the environment (sensitive vs. insensitive)
2-4 weeks: Expressive individuality
- Characteristics of crying (loud vs. soft)
Facial expression (active vs. calm)
- Physical activity (active vs. quiet)
1-2 months: Socialization begins
・Reactions to people (active vs. cautious)
・Direction of curiosity (visual vs. auditory)
・How to create rhythm (regular vs. free)
How to treasure your love records
It's not just a data record,
Tips for making it a love-filled coming-of-age story :
Photo and text collaboration
Not only the numbers, but also the expressions and situations at the time are recorded in photos.
Mom and Dad's comments
"You were in a great mood today, and I was happy too."
"I turned around when Daddy came home."
Letter to the Future
"To you, 1 year old. Today you are..."
"To you, 20 years old. It's the ○th day since you were born..."
Family Relationship Records
Grandpa and Grandma's Visit Record
Record of interactions with neighbors
Motivation to keep recording
"It's hard to keep a record every day..."
In times like these, don't seek perfection,
With the feeling that I was leaving evidence of my love .
・It's okay if you forget a day
Even a rough record is valuable
・Love is more important than continuity
This record will be
It will be "proof that my child was loved,"
It will make you feel proud of yourself for working hard.
A special story that only your beloved child can tell,
Please weave it with love.
Affectionate parenting for newborns, nurtured by dad and the whole family
20 ways dads can show affection other than breastfeeding and prevent postpartum crises
"Only mom can breastfeed, so I can't do anything..."
"I feel bad for always relying on my mother when my baby cries."
To the dad who feels that way.
In addition to breastfeeding, there are many other ways of showing affection that only a father can show .
From our experience of watching over 3,000 families,
We will tell you specific ways that a father's love can make his child and mother happy .
20 ways to show affection that only a dad can show
[Physical care]
1. Burp Master
Daddy's big hands and gentle pressure make the baby feel safe
Holding your baby upright and gently stroking their back fosters the first bond with your child.
2. Diaper changing professionals
Acquire the skill of being told, "Dad is better at changing diapers"
Efficiency reduces the burden on mothers
3. Bath Master
The sense of security that comes from having your baby wrapped in your big hands is something only a dad can give
Make daily bath time a special time for parents and children
4. Night care manager
Dad is in charge of changing diapers, burping, and soothing the baby in the middle of the night.
Ensuring mom's sleep helps keep the whole family smiling
5. Baby Cuddling Specialists
The sense of security of being wrapped in dad's pectoral muscles makes him an expert at stopping crying
"Daddy's embrace" is my child's special place of comfort
[Environmental Improvement]
6. Room temperature control experts
Always maintain the optimum temperature and humidity for your baby
Maintaining your health through seasonal adjustments
7. Builders of a safe environment
Check for dangerous spots in the house and assemble a baby bed
The role of "family shield" to protect the safety of our children
8. Maintainer of clean space
Boiling baby bottles for disinfection and maintaining the cleanliness of baby products
The unsung heroes who support the health of families behind the scenes
[Support for Moms]
9. Nutritional Management Supporter
Providing timely hydration and nutrition for breastfeeding mothers
"Shall I bring you something to drink?" shows consideration and shows affection
10. Complete housekeeping assistant
Takes the lead in doing laundry, cleaning, and cooking
Creating an environment where moms can focus on their babies
11. Who ensures rest time?
The trust of being entrusted with a baby with the words "Take two hours of rest"
Providing precious time for mothers to recover physically and mentally
[Communication]
12. Communicator of Gratitude
"Thank you for everything" "I feel safe thanks to you"
Warm words to support anxious mothers after giving birth
13. Growth Share Recorder
Discover and record your baby's changes together with mom
Empathy such as "You were able to do ____ today" deepens bonds
14. Liaison with the Outside World
Contacting relatives, friends, and coworkers
We handle all external correspondence so that mothers can concentrate on childcare.
[Study and Preparation]
15. A keen learner of childcare knowledge
Actively learn about newborn care through parenting books and videos
With an attitude of "I'm studying too," he becomes a reliable companion for his mother.
16. Emergency Response Manager
Understanding pediatric and emergency contact information, and acquiring knowledge of symptom observation
Family protection with calm judgment in emergencies
[Special Times Edition]
17. Narrative Time Creator
Talk to your baby about work and future dreams
Dad's unique deep voice promotes his child's language development
18. Music and Song Providers
Relax your baby with lullabies and classical music
Dad's singing voice becomes a special lullaby for my child
19. Photo and video recorder
Beautifully record the daily life of mom and baby
Capture precious family moments from an objective perspective
20. Someone to consult with about future plans
Discuss educational policy and future plans with mom
The couple seriously considers their child's life plan
Love techniques to prevent postpartum crisis
35% of couples divorce within two years of giving birth.
However, proper communication between husband and wife can deepen the bond .
Daily love habits to practice:
Five-minute morning meeting
・Sharing how the baby was doing last night
・Confirm today's role allocation
・Check each other's health
Three-line gratitude diary
・Find three things moms do well
・Say "thank you" specifically
・Cultivate the ability to notice even small changes
Once a week date time
・30 minutes while the baby is sleeping
・Conversation time just for the couple
・Talk about topics other than childcare as well
A love philosophy that doesn't seek perfection
"I can't do it well" "Mom is better at it"
You may feel that way sometimes.
However, seeing a father try his best is the greatest expression of love .
More than skill level, the most important thing is the desire to "do your best for your child."
Small everyday actions add up to
We will create the ``best dad in the world'' for our beloved child .
Strategies for balancing returning to work and childcare
Complete guide to childcare leave extension, nursery school application, and benefit procedures
"I'm worried about going back to work. I'll be away from my child..."
"Can I get my child into a nursery school? The process is complicated and I don't know what to do."
Returning to work is an important decision for the future of my beloved child .
With proper preparation, it is definitely possible to balance work and childcare.
From my experience supporting hundreds of working mothers,
We'll give you a complete strategy to help you return to work with peace of mind .
How to Choose Your Childcare Leave Period Wisely
1 year vs 1.5 years vs 2 years:
Returned after 1 year (Recommended: ★★★★★)
✅ Highest chance of enrolling in nursery school
✅ Smooth return to work
✅ Maximize your childcare leave benefits
❌ Loneliness from separation from mother and child
Returned after 1.5 years (Recommended: ★★★★☆)
✅ My child's physical strength and immune system are more stable
✅ Complete weaning makes daycare life easier
❌ Competition for admission to nursery schools is intensifying
❌ Increased anxiety about returning to work
Returned after 2 years (Recommendation: ★★☆☆☆)
✅ Maximize time with your child
✅ Complete parenting skills acquisition
❌ Most difficult to get into nursery school
❌ Increased difficulty in returning to work
A surefire way to apply for nursery school
Application schedule (for April enrollment):
6 months old (October)
・Get a list of nursery schools in your city, ward, town, or village
・Start of tour of Kiboen
・Preparing nursery school application documents
8 months old (December)
・Complete tour of first to third choice
・Submit application documents
・Consider non-licensed daycare centers at the same time
10 months old (February)
・Confirm job offer notification
・Purchase supplies to prepare for kindergarten
・Adjusting the childcare schedule
The criteria for choosing a nursery school
Priority checkpoints:
Safety management system
・Entrance door locking system
- Emergency response training status of staff
・Specific examples of accident prevention measures
・Details about allergy-related options
Compatibility with childcare policies
・Relaxed vs. discipline-focused
・Prioritize outdoor play vs. indoor activities
・Compatibility with my child's personality
The reality of attending kindergarten
・Distance and time from home
・Access from the nearest station
・How to get to school when it rains
Collaboration with the workplace
・Extended childcare hours and fees
・Meeting arrangements in case of sudden fever
・Ensuring understanding in the workplace
How to make the most of your childcare leave benefits
Benefit amount calculation formula:
67% of monthly salary (for 6 months) → 50% (for 6 months to 1 year)
Example: Monthly salary of 250,000 yen
1-6 months: 168,000 yen per month
7-12 months: 125,000 yen per month
Annual total: Approximately 1.76 million yen
Tips to maximize your benefits:
Applications can be made up to one month before the planned return date.
・Application for extension if admission to nursery school is not decided
・Combined use with father's parental leave
Step-by-step preparation for a successful return to work
3 months before returning: Environmental preparation period
・Start of nursery school adjustment period
・Adjusting return schedule with the workplace
・Consideration of housekeeping services
・Establishing a support system for emergencies
One month before returning: rehearsal period
・Confirm your commute route and time
・Morning preparation timetable creation
・Relieve anxiety about gaps in the workplace
・Adjusting my child's daily rhythm
First week back: Adaptation period
・Utilizing short-time work
・Explain the situation to colleagues and ask for their cooperation
・Checking my child's readiness for nursery school
・Final adjustments to the division of roles between husband and wife
How to deal with guilt
"Am I a bad mother if I leave my child in someone else's care and go to work?"
Over 95% of moms feel guilty about this.
But working moms leave incredible assets for their children :
Gift for my child:
・Expanding future options through economic stability
・Educational effect of showing the example of a mother who shines in society
・Fostering social skills through group living at the nursery school
・Interpersonal skills through interactions with diverse adults
Mindfulness techniques:
・Have the belief that it is for the sake of your child
・Work closely with nursery teachers
・Children should spend quality time together after returning home.
- Family time is the top priority on weekends
The most important point for successful work-life balance
The most important thing about balancing work and childcare is
"Don't strive for perfection."
・You can convey your love even if you don't cook for yourself every day.
・My family is happy even if the house is a little messy
・Don't expect 100% at work, be satisfied with 80%
・Prioritize quality over quantity when it comes to time with your child
Have a clear reason for working and support each other as a family .
That is the best environment for our beloved children.
Essential Newborn Items & How to Invest in Your Love
100 moms' honest opinions on "good purchases"
What newborn supplies should I buy?
"I don't want to make unnecessary purchases, but I want to provide the things I need."
I want to buy anything for my beloved child ,
It's natural to be concerned about a realistic budget.
Based on the honest opinions of 100 experienced mothers and 30 years of experience as a midwife,
We will clearly tell you what you really need and what you should invest your love into .
Absolute Must-Have Ranking (How much you'd be in trouble if you didn't buy it ★★★)
No. 1: Disposable diapers (newborn size)
Investment amount: 8,000-12,000 yen per month
Mom's voice: "I wanted to try cloth diapers, but it was just not realistic."
Love point: Choose high-quality products that are gentle on the skin and prioritize your child's comfort.
No. 2: Baby bottle and nipple (160ml x 3 bottles)
Investment amount: 4,000-8,000 yen
Moms say: "Even if you plan to breastfeed, this is a must-have."
Key points to love: A shape that is easy to sterilize by boiling and a nipple that is easy for your child to suck on.
3rd place: Baby bath
Investment amount: 1,500-5,000 yen
Mom's comment: "Adult bathtubs are too big and dangerous. A private bath is essential."
Love point: The right size creates a safe bathing environment for your child
4th place: Baby bedding set
Investment amount: 8,000-25,000 yen
Mom's opinion: "Adult futons are dangerous. Babies' futons are the safest."
Love Points: Breathability and safety are top priorities, an investment that will protect your child's life
5th place: Underwear and clothing (6-8 pieces each)
Investment amount: 8,000-15,000 yen
Mom's comment: "I sometimes have to change my baby's clothes 3-4 times a day because he vomits and poops."
Love point: Protect your child's sensitive skin with organic cotton
Ranking of products that I'm glad I bought (Satisfaction ★★★)
No. 1: Electric breast pump
Investment amount: 15,000-30,000 yen
Mom's comment: "Manual is tiring. I'm so glad I got the electric one."
Affection effect: Reducing the burden on mothers allows them to give more love to their children
No. 2: Bouncer
Investment amount: 8,000-20,000 yen
Mom's comment: "A divine tool to stop crying. Peace of mind while doing housework."
Affection effect: Your child will be in a better mood and smile more.
3rd place: Baby monitor
Investment amount: 5,000-15,000 yen
Mom's comment: "I feel safe even when my child is in a separate room. I feel much less anxious at night."
Affection effect: The sense of security that comes from knowing you are always watching over your child
No. 4: Baby formula pot
Investment amount: 3,000-8,000 yen
What moms say: "Making milk in the middle of the night has become so much easier."
The affection effect: Prepare milk at the right temperature immediately, so your child doesn't have to wait
No. 5: Baby wipe warmer
Investment amount: 2,000-4,000 yen
Mom's comment: "It's especially useful in the winter. My baby no longer cries."
The Love Effect: Warm wipes for your child's comfort
Rankings that were actually unnecessary (Regret level: ★★★)
No. 1: Many toys for newborns
Waste amount: 5,000-15,000 yen
Mom's comment: "He shows very little interest in the first two months."
Alternative: Buy a little at a time starting from 2-3 months of age
No. 2: Luxury stroller
Waste amount: 30,000-80,000 yen
Mom's comment: "We don't go out for the first month after birth. Type A babies go out surprisingly rarely."
Alternative: Use a baby carrier as your primary carrier and purchase more later if needed.
No. 3: Complete set of cloth diaper supplies
Waste amount: 10,000-20,000 yen
Mom's voice: "The gap between my ideal and reality was too big"
Alternative: Get used to disposable diapers, then try them when you have the time.
Prioritizing love investment
Here's how to provide the best environment for your child on a budget:
[Top priority] Safety and health-related (40% of the budget)
・High-quality diapers and underwear
・Safe baby bed and futon
・Reliable baby bottles and milk
[Priority] Reducing the burden on mothers (30% of the budget)
・Electric breast pump
・Baby formula pot
Bouncer
[Consideration] Improving comfort (20% of the budget)
・Baby wipe warmer
・Baby monitor
・Humidifier
[If you can afford it] Long-term investment (10% of your budget)
・Luxury strollers
・Educational toys
・Memorabilia
Smart buying timing
Purchased during pregnancy:
・Diapers, underwear, baby bottles (essential items)
・Baby bed and futon (safe environment)
Judging at 1 week of age:
・Breast pump (check the milk flow)
・Milk supplies (check the breastfeeding situation)
Addition at 1 month of age:
・Bouncer (after checking my child's preferences)
・Outdoor items (before going out)
The most important investment of love
More than any expensive baby product,
The most valuable thing is the time that mom and dad spend with their children .
Daily conversations
Gentle physical contact
・A warm gaze looking at my child
・Feelings of gratitude, "Thank you for being born"
These are the best investments of love that money can't buy .
Heart over things, love over price.
Your love is the best gift you can give your child .
A special month with my beloved child,
For the best memories
This guide will help you and your beloved child
I hope this helps you get off to a great start.
Cherish each and every day and fill it with love.
This little life brought into your life
Please enjoy this irreplaceable time to the fullest.