10-11 month old baby | Care for mothers after giving birth who won't stand up or eat baby food
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10-11 month old baby
Does not stand up or eat
Follow-up and solving intense problems
"Just when I thought he'd managed to stand up, he started chasing after me so much..."
"My baby won't eat his baby food. I wonder if he's getting enough nutrition?"
From a mother raising a 10-11 month old baby,
I hear these kinds of concerns often.
At the same time, the mother herself, who has been pregnant for 10 months,
"I don't feel well" "I tend to feel depressed"
There are a lot of people who are feeling the change.
"My baby is growing well, but I feel like I'm being left behind..."
"My baby is just a little bit away from turning one, but for some reason I'm suddenly feeling anxious."
This is a feeling that many moms experience.
It is a very natural and important movement of the heart .
According to a midwife who has worked with over 2,000 parent-child pairs over the past 15 years,
"At 10-11 months and 10 months after birth,
For both babies and moms
It's a special time in your life when the biggest changes happen ."
This guide will help you to make the most of this precious time.
While giving love to the baby,
Knowledge to help moms stay happy
We provide practical advice based on real-life experience.
By the time you finish reading,
"Oh, so that's the reason!" I thought with relief,
The confidence that "I can do it at my own pace"
You will be able to feel it.
A 10-month-old baby who can't stand up
Developmental disorder?
The truth about the 6-month individual difference and reliable criteria for judgment
"My child next to me is already standing up, but my child still can't..."
In a casual conversation at the support center,
Have you ever felt uneasy?
In fact, during the time when children start to stand up,
There is surprisingly large individual variation .
According to data from the Society for Child Development:
Even within the normal range, the age range is 7 to 13 months .
That's a range of as much as six months.
So why is there such individual variation?
The biggest reason is the difference in body type and muscle development.
Chubby babies have difficulty stabilizing their center of gravity,
It takes time to build muscle strength.
On the other hand, slender babies tend to go through pregnancy earlier.
However, both are at the optimal pace for each child .
The second reason is the difference in personality.
Adventurous children continue to try even if they fall,
Cautious children will only act once they are sure it is absolutely safe.
This is also a consideration for the safety of the baby.
So when do you really need to worry?
There are three things your pediatrician will look for:
・Even after 15 months, there is no sign of him standing up.
- Other developmental stages (sitting, crawling) are generally slow
- Obvious abnormalities in muscle tone
Even if your child is slow to stand up,
If everything else is fine then there's nothing to worry about.
On the contrary, if you force them to practice,
Recognize your baby's natural desire to try
There is a risk of it being scraped off.
The important thing is to trust your baby and watch over him.
And a comfortable environment
It's about casually tidying it up.
Adjust the height of the sofa
Provide a safe handrail.
Be proactive in providing support but avoid coercion.
This is the baby's growth
It's the warmest way to show support.
Mom's poor health 10 months after giving birth
It's not spoiled
Hidden signs of postpartum depression and hormonal imbalance and how to deal with them
"I've been feeling unmotivated lately...I wonder if I'm just being lazy?"
"Raising children, which used to be fun, suddenly feels like a burden."
10 months after giving birth. Have you ever felt like this?
In fact, this is not a sign of indulgence or laziness.
It is medically recognized,
This is a normal reaction during the special period of 10 months after giving birth .
Why does this change in physical condition occur during this time?
The biggest reason is that it's a "major turning point" for hormones.
The lactation hormones that had been present since birth began to decrease,
Your hormones will return to their pre-pregnancy state.
At this time, major hormonal construction work is taking place in the body.
It is carried out on a 24-hour basis.
The effects of this construction will include:
Tears come out for no reason
I get irritated by small things
・My mind is too clear at night and I can't sleep
It's very hard to get up in the morning
Loss of appetite or unusual cravings
All of these are signs that your body is desperately trying to adjust.
It's not because I'm a bad mom.
The second reason is the accumulated fatigue over the past 10 months.
Late-night feedings, cuddling, putting the baby to sleep...
Each one is a small burden,
By continuing every day for 10 months
My body is more tired than I imagined.
The most serious problem is the decline in sleep quality.
Even if your baby starts sleeping through the night,
Mom's brain thinks, "It could happen at any moment."
The alert mode continues.
The third reason is anxiety about changes in the environment.
As the end of maternity leave approaches and the baby grows,
New problems arise.
The anxiety of "Is this okay?"
It's a burden on the mind.
So, what should you do about this?
**The first thing to do is to acknowledge the symptoms**
If the above symptoms persist for more than two weeks,
It's not just fatigue.
**What you can do right now:**
1. When your baby is sleeping, rest instead of doing housework.
2. Consciously take in iron and B vitamins
3. Don't keep it to yourself, talk to someone
That you are well,
It's the best thing for a baby.
Let's start by taking care of ourselves.
When your baby refuses to eat solid food or plays with food
solution
How to prevent finger-feeding and nutritional deficiencies in mothers
"He was eating it yesterday, but today he doesn't even look at it..."
"I thought you were eating it with your hands, but you're just throwing it?"
For irregular eating habits of baby food,
There are so many moms who are worried.
But in fact, this "eating irregularity"
It has important implications for the development of your baby's brain.
First, let's understand why irregular eating occurs.
The main reason is that your sense of taste becomes suddenly more sensitive.
From about 10 months of age, babies' sense of taste develops
They are about three times more sensitive than adults .
The same menu as yesterday,
"It's a little salty today" or "The temperature is different"
You sense the subtle changes.
The second reason is the emergence of ego.
"I want to choose for myself" and "I want to decide for myself"
A time when desires suddenly become stronger.
In fact, uneven eating habits
"I don't feel like it today"
It's the baby's way of expressing his will.
The third thing is that they are learning about the relationship between exercise and appetite.
On the day when I moved my body by standing up or crawling,
You will begin to understand intuitively what it means to be hungry.
It's natural to have a low appetite on a quiet day.
So, what is the difference between "eating with your hands" and "play eating"?
Is there a way to tell the difference?
**Signs of eating with hands:**
Trying to bring food to mouth
-Adjusting grip strength
Concentrating on looking at food
・Looks satisfied after eating
**Signs of playful eating:**
- Enjoys throwing and dropping
・I'm crazy about crushing things
・Act while watching mom's reaction
-Times when you're not hungry
But in fact, playing and eating is also an important learning experience.
By checking the texture and temperature of the food,
Determining whether food is safe
It develops human instincts .
How mothers can prevent nutritional deficiencies:
1. Prepare the environment
-Keep meal times consistent
Put away the TV and toys
・Mom eats with us too
2. Vary your ingredients.
・Cook the same vegetables in different ways
- Mix ingredients you dislike with ingredients you like
- Make it easy to grab with your hand
3. Think long-term.
・Look at nutrition on a weekly basis instead of a daily basis
・Even if you don't eat it today, it's OK if you ate it yesterday.
・With a feeling of "it's mostly okay"
What you absolutely want to avoid is forcing your child to eat.
This can lead to future eating problems.
If your baby is healthy and growing,
Irregular eating habits are a sign of healthy development .
Don't rush, trust your baby's pace
Let's watch over them warmly.
Forgotten vaccinations before age 1?
Prevention method
Recovery methods for missed vaccinations for MR, chickenpox, and mumps
"Oh! I completely forgot about my appointment for the MR vaccine..."
"My child's first birthday has passed, but is it still okay to start now?"
Every day I'm busy raising my children.
Managing vaccination schedules can be a real challenge.
But don't worry.
"Forgetting by mistake" is something that many mothers experience,
If you recover properly, there's no problem.
First, let's review the vaccinations that are particularly important for children around the age of one.
[Vaccination available from the first birthday]
・MR (measles-rubella combined) vaccine
・Chickenpox vaccine
・Mumps vaccine (optional)
These are called "live vaccines"
Once the baby's immune system has matured
Vaccinations are required, so they start at the age of one.
Reasons why it's easy to forget:
**1. A sense of freedom from the rush of vaccinations at age 0**
The frequent vaccinations that had been given since he was two months old have now come to an end.
It's easy to feel like, "It's finally over!"
**2. Changes in childcare around the age of one**
With progress in standing up and solid food
This is the time when the busyness of raising children reaches a whole new level.
**3. Memory fades due to the gap between vaccinations**
From 1-2 month intervals at the age of 0,
It's easy to forget because suddenly a few months pass.
A simple system to prevent forgetting things:
**1. Use smartphone reminders**
- Set an alarm one week before your child's first birthday
・Record as "MR appointment date"
2. Appointments with your doctor
・Make an appointment for the next vaccination at the time of the last vaccination at age 0.
・Ask the receptionist to contact you when your child turns one year old.
**3. Use of the maternal and child health handbook**
・Stick sticky notes on the 1-year-old page
- Look at the vaccination sticker and ask "What's next?"
Recovery techniques when timing is off:
**[If it's delayed by 1-2 weeks]**
No problem at all. Make an appointment and get vaccinated right away.
**[If it's 1-2 months late]**
There is no impact on efficacy. Please take your time and plan your vaccination accordingly.
**[If more than 3 months late]**
Consult with your pediatrician to find the best schedule.
Multiple vaccine priorities:
If you forget multiple things at the same time:
**1st place: MR vaccine** (measles is prone to becoming serious)
**2nd place: Chickenpox vaccine** (especially important before entering nursery school)
**3rd place: Mumps vaccine** (optional but recommended)
The important thing is not to strive for perfection.
Vaccinations are meant to protect babies from disease.
Even if you are a little late, it is far better than not getting vaccinated at all .
Don't blame yourself, just say, "I'm glad I realized this now!"
Think ahead and book early.
At your pediatrician's office,
We are also used to providing support to mothers who forget.
If you don't hesitate to consult,
We will work together to create the best schedule for you.
When you can't even go to the toilet because of the chase
countermeasure
How long will my 11 month old's separation anxiety last?
"Just standing up in the toilet makes me cry..."
"It's hard to even get to the kitchen."
"When he couldn't see me, he cried like the world had ended."
The intensity of the chase is draining both the mother's physical and mental strength.
Do you feel like you're reaching your limits?
First of all, I want you to know:
The aggressive chasing is proof that you are loved.
For a baby, a mother
The most important and reassuring person in the world.
That's why I miss my mom
This makes me so anxious.
Why does chasing become more intense at 10-11 months of age?
Reason 1: Rapid memory development
The memory of "Mom was there"
The difference in reality when "Mom's not here right now"
Because I can clearly see it now.
**Reason 2: Improved mobility**
Crawling and standing up
Because I realized I could chase after my mom.
**Reason 3: Deepening attachment relationships**
The stronger the bond with your mother,
The fear of separation also increases.
The answer to "How long will this last?":
The peak age for following is between 10 and 12 months .
This continues until around the age of 18 months,
The intensity will gradually subside.
It disappears completely around age 2-3,
That's because the baby is saying, "Mommy will definitely come back."
Because you will be able to believe it wholeheartedly.
What you can do right now:
**[Toilet emergency measures]**
-Leave the door slightly open and keep calling out
・Sing the song "Mommy is here"
・If the baby really cries, hold him and go into the bath together
**[Kitchen work]**
Create a safe play area where your baby can see it
・Frequently say "Mommy is here"
・Please provide simple assistance (such as handing over a safe container)
**[Preparation for going out]**
・Tell them the time by saying, "I'll be back in XX minutes"
・Use your favorite stuffed animal as a "mother substitute"
・Get your pet used to going out for short periods of time
Mom's mental health care:
When it's hard to keep up,
"I'm a bad mom, so I spoiled him too much."
Are you blaming yourself for this?
That's a big misunderstanding.
The more aggressive a child is at following others,
In fact, it is said that children will grow up to be independent in the future.
There are research results.
Because, mom as a "safe base"
Because it's proof that I trust you wholeheartedly .
This relationship of trust will
This will become the foundation for a "mindset that allows you to adventure with peace of mind."
How to get some alone time:
・Ask your family to go out for 30 minutes
・Do what you like while your baby is sleeping
Chat with friends online
It's certainly hard to follow up, but
The ultimate expression of love from your baby.
Thinking that this is a special time,
Please accept it as much as you can.
It's okay if it's not perfect.
The most important thing is for mom to smile.
Marital relationships cool 10 months after childbirth
reason
Conversational skills to overcome the second postpartum crisis
"I've been finding it hard to talk to my husband lately..."
"He helps me with childcare, but I still feel irritated."
"I hate myself for feeling this way, and it makes me feel even more depressed."
10 months after giving birth,
Moms who feel uncomfortable in their marital relationship,
You're not alone.
In fact, 10 months after giving birth
This is the time when a "second postpartum crisis" is likely to occur .
The postpartum crisis immediately after giving birth is well known,
The crisis during this period is often overlooked.
However, it is a natural phenomenon that many couples experience .
Why do marital relationships cool down during this time?
Reason 1: Hormonal changes in mothers
During the 10 months after giving birth, lactation hormones decrease,
A turning point when female hormones are restored.
This change improves emotional control
It will be harder than ever.
Reason 2: Dissatisfaction with the division of childcare responsibilities
When my husband said, "I'll help you,"
"It's my first time too, so why am I the main person in charge?"
This is the time when questions begin to arise.
Reason 3: Increased anxiety about the future
Returning to work, daycare, education costs...
As I have more time to think about practical issues,
I began to see differences in values between me and my husband.
Let's understand the husband's mindset:
"I'm trying my best, why am I getting scolded?"
・"I don't know what to do."
"I feel like my wife has changed."
Although they love each other, they miss each other
It's a frustrating situation.
Practical conversation techniques for repairing relationships:
**[×Wrong Way to Communicate]**
"Why don't you understand?"
"I'm the only one having a hard time!"
"The husband of the XX family is..."
**[○Good way to communicate]**
"It would be helpful if you could do this."
"Can you think about it with me?"
"Thanks, but next time..."
**Specific steps:**
**Step 1: Start with gratitude**
"Thank you for your hard work as always."
First, acknowledge the other person's existence.
**Step 2: Present the facts**
"I'm in a difficult situation right now."
Look at the situation objectively, not based on emotions.
**Step 3: Make a Specific Proposal**
"Could I please do XX only during XX time?"
Not abstract, but concrete.
**Step 4: Come up with a solution together**
"Is there a better way?"
Ask for cooperation, not orders.
Tips for getting your husband to cooperate:
・Calling your child "Daddy" will increase their sense of fatherhood
- Praise small successes lavishly
・Relying on someone by saying, "I feel reassured that you're here"
Mom's own mental health care:
If you rush to improve your relationship,
It may actually increase stress.
I decided to accept that "this is a special time"
It's also important not to expect a perfect relationship.
**Make sure you have some alone time,**
**Don't forget to sort out your emotions.**
A marriage relationship is something that needs to be nurtured for the long term.
The difficulties of this period
If you can overcome it together, it will definitely deepen your bond.
Don't rush, but don't give up.
Let's start with small steps.
For babies who hate brushing their teeth
Miracle
Creating fun habits to protect your four teeth from cavities
"Just seeing a toothbrush makes me cry..."
"Keep your mouth tight and never open it"
"I'm exhausted from the daily battle of brushing my teeth."
The four cute teeth that have just started to grow
I want to protect my teeth from decay,
It's really annoying when your child hates brushing their teeth.
But it's okay!
It's natural for babies to dislike having their teeth brushed.
First, let's look at why babies hate brushing their teeth.
Let's try to understand.
Reasons for dislike:
**1. Because the inside of your mouth is the most sensitive place**
For babies, the inside of their mouths is
An important place for babies to drink breast milk or formula.
To prevent foreign objects (toothbrushes) from entering
There is an instinctive sense of caution.
2. You're too sensitive
The feel of the toothbrush, the taste of the toothpaste,
Everything was a first-time experience and I was surprised.
**3. Anxiety about not knowing what will happen**
"Maybe something painful will happen?"
There is a vague sense of fear.
Magical Technique 1: Gradual Break-in Strategy
Suddenly, instead of a toothbrush,
Take it step by step and get used to it.
Week 1: Massage your gums with clean fingers
Week 2: Wipe your teeth with wet gauze
Week 3: Let your child play with a toothbrush
**Week 4**: Try lightly polishing
Magical Trick 2: Creating a Fun Atmosphere
・Singing the "Toothbrushing Song"
・Show them the mirror and say, "Your teeth are shiny!"
・Encourage them to "get rid of tooth decay germs!"
・Mom brushes her teeth first
Magical Trick 3: Time and Place
**Best Timing**
・When you're not hungry
・When you're not sleepy
When you're in a good mood
**[Location Ideas]**
・In a bright place
・In your baby's favorite place
- In a position where the toy can be seen
Magical Technique 4: Tips for Choosing Tools
・Soft bristles for babies
・Small head
Easy-to-grip handle
・Fluoride gel (small amount)
Tips for when you really don't want to:
**1. Teeth brushing strategy**
Brushing the teeth of a stuffed animal
"Shall we join in, ○○-chan?"
**2. Brushing teeth while breastfeeding**
While you're relaxing while breastfeeding
Gently place the toothbrush
**3. Brushing your teeth in the bath**
When you're relaxing in the bath
As an extension of play
The Truth About Preventing Tooth Decay:
In fact, more than perfect tooth brushing,
"Habituation" is more important .
By continuing even a little every day,
Babies think that brushing their teeth is normal
You will become more accepting.
Mom's mindset:
Don't strive for perfection
・Short time is OK
If they don't like it, stop
・Resign yourself to "this is enough for today"
Brushing your teeth is a long-term battle .
Even if you don't like it now,
If you keep doing it, you'll definitely get used to it.
Don't rush, go at your baby's pace
Let's make brushing your teeth fun.
Four cute teeth,
So that it will always be shiny,
Please protect her with your mother's love.
Dangerous accidents caused by swallowing while children are still learning to hold on to something
Prevention techniques
Unexpected pitfalls in the home and emergency judgment criteria
"Oh! You've got something in your mouth..."
When your baby starts to stand up,
Your baby's range of movement will expand dramatically.
Even things that were previously out of reach
I was able to touch it,
This is the time when the risk of accidental ingestion increases dramatically .
According to data from the Fire and Disaster Management Agency,
The most common accidents are those involving swallowing around the age of one .
Many of these cases are due to "standing up with support."
This is because your reach has changed.
Surprisingly dangerous pitfalls in the home:
**[Living Room Edition]**
・Coins that fell into the gap in the sofa
・Medicine on the table
・Leaves of ornamental plants
・Remote control batteries
Pet food
**[Kitchen Edition]**
Refrigerator magnets
・Condiment caps
A fallen grain of rice
Detergent refill pack
**[Washroom/Bathroom Edition]**
・Toothpaste
・Shampoo refill
・Razor
・Bath additives
Particularly high risk:
**[Go to hospital immediately]**
- Button batteries (leaking batteries can cause serious burns)
- Magnets (risk of sticking to the intestinal tract)
・Detergents (chemical burns)
・Medicine (poisoning symptoms)
**[We'll see how it goes]**
・Paper (small amounts are fine)
- Lint (discharged naturally)
Small pieces of food
Creating an environment to prevent accidental ingestion:
**1. Check it out from a baby's perspective**
Actually crawling around the room
Reassess what's within reach
2. The "Toilet Paper Roll" Test
Anything large enough to pass through the core is dangerous
Be careful with diameters of less than 4cm
**3. Safety up to 1 meter height**
Thoroughly check the area that can be reached by holding on to something
Criteria for emergency visits:
**[Call an ambulance immediately]**
・Unconscious or lethargic
・Difficulty breathing, pale face
-Severe vomiting
-Having convulsions
**[Rush to the hospital]**
- Swallowed a button battery or magnet
・Drinking detergent or medicine
・Drinking something sharp
**[Follow-up observation]**
・Safe items such as paper and lint
Small pieces of food
I'm healthy and living normally
First Aid Basics:
**【Things you should not do】**
- Force vomiting
Drink water or milk
- Stirring the inside of the mouth with your fingers
**[Correct response]**
First, check what you drank.
- Observe symptoms
・Consult poison hotline (#8000)
Contact your doctor
Preventive measures:
It is impossible to prevent accidents 100%.
The important thing is to assume that it is possible
The key is to be prepared.
- Keep emergency contact information in a visible place
・Register the poisoning emergency number
・Learn first aid methods
A baby's curiosity is evidence of their growth.
While ensuring safety,
I want to let them explore freely.
Rather than "perfect safety"
Taking realistic measures,
Let's watch over your baby's adventurous spirit with warmth.
Children who don't point will be slow to develop speech.
TRUE?
How to identify and resolve developmental anxiety in an 11-month-old
"I still haven't pointed at him at all..."
"I'm worried because I heard it could affect language development."
"Other kids are already doing it, but my child is the only one..."
At about 11 months of age,
Look at my child who doesn't point
There are so many moms who are worried.
First, the conclusion:
There are large individual differences in the timing of pointing.
Not doing so does not mean that speech will be delayed.
In child development research,
Pointing appears between 9 and 18 months of age
That's a whopping nine months.
Why is there said to be a relationship between pointing and language?
Pointing is the "gateway to communication"
Because it is thought.
**[Meaning of pointing]**
"Look at that!" (seeking empathy)
・"I want that" (expressing a request)
・"What's that?" (asking a question)
These are certainly the precursors to language,
There are other behaviors besides pointing that serve the same function.
Other ways to communicate besides pointing:
**[Children who use their eyes]**
Stare at what you want to see,
Look at Mom's face
**[Children pointing with their whole hands]**
Not just one finger, but the whole palm
Showing direction
**[Children who express themselves with their whole body]**
Towards what you want
Turn your body and reach out
**[Child who complains loudly]**
Using sounds like "ah" or "uh"
Attention-grabbing
All of this is excellent communication!
Don't get hung up on the "form" of pointing,
Accept your baby's way of communicating.
Reasons for delayed pointing:
**1. Individual differences in finger development**
The action of raising only the index finger is
It actually requires advanced finger control.
2. Personality Differences
A careful child will not learn until he has perfected it.
Sometimes I don't try
3. Differences in environment
The child who is always being held
They don't feel the need to point fingers.
What really matters in language development:
More important than pointing the finger
Is there a "two-way interaction"?
**【Good Sign】**
-Turns around when you call its name
・Reacts to mom's facial expressions
・Imitate things like "bye-bye"
- Willingness to communicate something
**[Signs to be concerned about]**
・No response when called
・Doesn't make eye contact
No interest in communication
How to encourage pointing:
Rather than forcing them to practice,
Create an environment that naturally draws interest.
・Look at picture books together and say, "This is ____."
・On a walk, you might say, "Oh, there's Woof Woof!"
・Mom points and shows first
Place things of interest a little distance away
Message to Mom:
Even though there is a "sequence" of development,
There is no "deadline."
Now you don't need to point fingers,
The baby is growing steadily.
What's important is,
Accept your baby's "now"
Communication in each child's own way
Just watch over them with warmth.
Pointing is "lucky if you can do it"
With that kind of feeling,
Don't rush, don't compare,
Let's trust in our children's growth and wait for them to grow.
That love is what
It is the best support for your baby's development.
Anxiety before the end of parental leave
Mentally tough
The secret to a mother's successful return to work 10 months after giving birth
"I'm worried about whether I'll be able to go back to work..."
"I can't sleep at night because I'm worried about leaving my child at daycare."
"I'm already feeling sick to my stomach, wondering if I can do both."
Around 10 months after giving birth, just before the end of my maternity leave,
This is how I feel
This is a natural reaction from a loving mother .
In fact, at this time before the end of my maternity leave,
More than 80% of mothers experience mental instability.
Even if you're not particularly weak,
It's not that we're not prepared.
Why is anxiety so high during this time?
Reason 1: Conflict with maternal instinct
The instinct to "protect the baby"
He is caught between the reality that he must return to society.
This is a natural conflict that any mom feels .
Reason 2: Fear of change
During my 10 months of childcare,
Anxiety about forgetting what it feels like to be in "work mode."
Reason 3: The Perfectionism Trap
"I have to do both my work and childcare perfectly"
Unconscious pressure.
Start by identifying your anxiety:
**[Anxiety about work]**
・Have your skills declined?
・Can you keep up with the new environment?
・Will it cause inconvenience to others?
**[Anxiety about childcare]**
・Is your child crying at nursery school?
・Does your child feel lonely without their mother?
What to do when you are sick
**[Anxiety about oneself]**
・Are you physically fit?
Can you manage your time?
・When housework becomes too much
Keys to successful reintegration:
**Tip 1: Throw away perfection**
I felt like I would pass with 80 points.
Work, childcare, housework,
You don't have to get 100 points for everything.
Today is the day to work hard,
Tomorrow is the day to cherish time with family.
**Tip 2: Build a support system**
・Decide the specific division of roles with your husband
・Collaborate with your parents and in-laws
・Register for sick child care and family support
Find someone at work who understands you
Tip 3: Suggest a gradual return
・Start with short-time work
・Combine working from home
-Return time should avoid busy periods
How to interact with the nursery:
- Build a trusting relationship with your teacher
・When picking up your child, ask them how they are today.
・Express gratitude
・Understand and cooperate with the nursery school's policies
Time management tips for working moms:
**Morning Preparations**
- Complete preparations for the next day the night before
・ Breakfast is simple but nutritionally balanced
・Wake up 15 minutes earlier to relax
**【How to spend the evening】**
・After picking up your baby, prioritize time with your baby.
- Keep housework to a minimum
・Make meals in advance or order food delivery for dinner
How to deal with guilt:
The feeling of "it's a shame to leave them in care"
I understand.
But the nursery school
It is also a place where babies can expand their new world .
Relationships with friends of the same age
・Inspiration from professional childcare workers
・Play that you can't experience at home
These are for babies
It's a great opportunity for growth .
Message of encouragement for moms:
By working, you
Become a more attractive mom .
Social connections, a sense of accomplishment, financial stability...
These things will give mom confidence,
Ultimately , it has a positive effect on the baby .
It's okay if it's not perfect.
Your smile,
It's more important to the family.
When you feel anxious,
"I'm the best mommy for my baby"
Please tell yourself this.
For moms starting a new life,
I'm rooting for you from the bottom of my heart!
My 10-month-old baby started crying again at night
Solution
Reasons why night crying returns after once stopping and solutions
"He finally started sleeping through the night..."
"He's started crying again and I'm not getting enough sleep every night."
"It got better once, so why?"
At about 10 months old, the crying at night returned.
There are so many disappointed moms.
But don't worry.
This is called the "second wave of night crying."
This is a common phenomenon.
In pediatric sleep studies,
Approximately 60% of babies reach 9-12 months of age
It has been known that children may experience recurrence of night crying .
Why does night crying return?
Reason 1: Brain development changes sleep patterns
During this period, the baby's brain develops rapidly.
The quality of sleep approaches that of an adult.
The transition between deep and light sleep
As it becomes clearer,
It makes it easier to wake up .
**Reason 2: Development of motor skills**
Once your child is able to stand up and walk,
The desire to move was so strong
It may wake you up in the middle of the night.
Reason 3: Increased separation anxiety
As your attachment to your mother deepens,
Anxiety about being alone at night
It's also a time to become stronger.
**Reason 4: Teething**
My gums are itchy,
There are also cases where you wake up in the middle of the night.
How to deal with the return of night crying:
**[Basic response]**
・First, observe the situation for 5 minutes
Often falls back asleep naturally
・Don't pick up your baby right away, start by talking to him/her.
**[Environmental Adjustments]**
・Keep the room temperature between 20 and 22 degrees
- Moderate darkness (not too dark)
・Not too quiet, just enough to hear some everyday sounds
**【How to spend the day】**
-Wake up at a set time in the morning
Get plenty of movement during the day
・Reduce stimulation after the evening
・Baths are allowed up to one hour before bedtime
If teething is the cause:
Massage your gums with clean fingers
Cool your gums with cold gauze
-Provide a teething toy
・Consult with a pediatrician (use of antipyretics and analgesics)
If separation anxiety is the cause:
- Providing a stuffed toy that they can feel safe with
・Putting out towels that smell like mom
Gently pat your child's back
- Say "Mommy is here"
Mom's tips for getting enough sleep:
When night crying returns,
Lack of sleep for mothers can also be serious.
**[Division of labor between husband and wife]**
- Mom on weekdays, Dad on weekends
・The first time in the middle of the night is with mom, and the second time is with dad.
-Dad watches in the morning and mom sleeps
**[Using short sleep periods]**
- Take a nap according to your baby's nap time
・Make time to lie down, even if it's just for 15 minutes
- Prioritize rest over housework
How long will this last?
The second wave of night crying
It usually subsides within 1 to 2 months.
At most, about three months
You will return to a stable sleep pattern.
When you feel like you're about to break down:
"We're back to square one again..."
You may feel hopeless.
But this is a sign that your baby is growing.
As the brain and body develop
It is a temporary phenomenon .
Don't seek a perfect solution,
Accept that "these are difficult times" and
Let's overcome it as much as we can.
The end will surely come.
You and your baby,
The day will come when we can enjoy peaceful nights again.
Developmental checks before age 1
Checklist
Pediatricians teach you how to tell if your baby is growing properly
"Is my child's development okay?"
"How much should I have accomplished by the 1-year-old checkup?"
Before the big milestone of one year old,
I'm concerned about my child's growth
It's a natural feeling of a loving mother .
However, there are large individual differences in development.
What's important is not the number of things you can do,
The question is whether you can see the direction of growth .
Developmental checkpoints before age 1:
**[Motor Development]**
✓ Sitting is stable
✓ Able to crawl or move in some way
✓ Able to stand up (or trying to stand up)
✓ Able to pinch with hands
**[Language and Communication]**
✓ Turns around when called by name
✓ Make meaningful sounds like "mamma" and "daddy"
✓ Communicate your requests using gestures
✓ Trying to imitate adults
**[Social/Cognitive]**
✓ Shy
✓ Enjoys playing peek-a-boo
✓ Learn how to use toys
✓ Understand simple instructions
It's okay if there are things you can't do!
At the above checkpoint
Even if there are things you can't do,
There's no need to worry right away.
**The three most important points are:**
1. **Do you feel like you've grown more than before?**
2. **Do they show interest?**
3. **Are you healthy and in a good mood?**
Signs to really look out for:
If you have more than one of the following symptoms:
Talk to your pediatrician about:
・Unable to make eye contact or difficulty making eye contact
- Doesn't respond at all when you call his name
Rarely shows a smile
Extremely little body movement
- Far off the growth curve
Daily interactions that promote development:
**[For motor development]**
Freedom of movement in a safe environment
- Playing on stairs, sofas, or other areas with different heights
・Playing with balls and chasing
**[For language development]**
Talk a lot
・Reading picture books aloud
・Sing a song to the children
- Imitate the baby's vocalizations
**[For sociality]**
・Make sure to make eye contact
・Opportunities to interact with a variety of people
Create a routine to give a sense of security
What to prepare for the 1-year-old checkup:
The 1-year-old health check is not a place to decide whether a child passes or fails.
It's a place to support future growth .
Please feel free to consult us about any concerns you may have.
Get expert advice.
If you need early help,
With the right support, you can make a big difference .
A final message to my mom:
Thank you very much for your hard work this past year.
A small newborn baby
That's how much I've grown
Because of your loving care .
What's more important than "fast or slow" development is
Making your baby feel loved.
The love you've poured out
It will surely become the foundation of your baby's mind,
This will be a driving force behind future growth .
It's okay not to be a perfect mom.
You are to my child,
She's the best mom in the world.
Until the first birthday,
And beyond that,
Walk with confidence with your baby.
The first 10 to 11 months of life and the first 10 months after birth are special times
Both you and your baby are in the midst of great change and growth.
Rather than focusing on what you can't do,
Cherish the things you have learned to do.
Rather than aiming for "perfect child-rearing,"
Strive for "childcare filled with love."
At your and your baby's pace
Please walk slowly.
Hopefully this article will ease your worries a little.
I hope this will help you feel more confident in your child-rearing from tomorrow.
I hope you have a wonderful 1st birthday!