Proper holding for newborns | How to hold your baby vertically and horizontally and how to help your baby get used to being held | Safe even before your baby can hold its head up
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The secrets of holding your baby so that they can sleep peacefully
"I want to protect this little life..."
"But is this really the right way to hold a baby?"
To the mom who has such loving feelings.
A newborn baby is
You are the only person in this world I can count on.
The moment that tiny hand tightly grasped your finger—
"I want to make this child happy."
"I want to give you lots of love"
It's only natural for a mother to feel that way.
But even a simple hug
Do you ever feel anxious and wonder, "Is this right?"
In fact, many mothers
There is a big misconception about hugs.
for example-
✗ "Newborns should always be held sideways."
✗ "They'll get used to being held, so I have to make them endure their cries."
✗ "If you hold them a lot, they'll become clingy."
All of these are
This is misinformation that can cause anxiety in the hearts of loving mothers .
Recent research has proven the exact opposite.
🌸Cuddling promotes baby's brain development
🌸Love hormones deepen parent-child bonds
🌸A sense of security fosters future independence
That is, your
The feeling of wanting to hug
It is a scientifically correct maternal instinct .
In this article, we will look at the case of a doctor who has looked after 5,000 babies over the past 30 years.
Based on the experience of midwives and the latest research data,
"The truly correct way to hold your beloved child to make them feel safe"
We will inform you of the following.
By the time you finish reading,
"Ah, so that's what it was!"
With the discovery that
I was able to hug my baby with confidence and affection,
Happy times with your baby
It's going to be even more special.
Basic knowledge and anxiety relief for the newborn period (0-1 month)
Why do babies need to be held? Biological reasons explain it all
"This child won't sleep at all unless I hold him..."
"It seems like he only feels safe in my arms..."
Seeing my child like that,
I feel love for them, but at the same time I wonder if they're okay.
Are you feeling anxious?
In fact, there are several reasons why babies strongly desire to be held:
There is a deep biological reason for this .
Knowing the reason for this,
"Oh, so that's why he loves cuddles!"
You will be able to truly understand this.
[Humans are "animals that grow up in arms"]
If we look at the animal world,
There are many animals that can walk as soon as they are born.
Baby horses can stand up within an hour of birth.
Baby cows will start walking within a few hours.
"I wish my child would be a little more independent."
I understand how moms feel when they think like that.
But in fact, human babies
To need a mother for such a long time,
There's a great reason .
Humans have a characteristic called "active endowment"
It's a special category of animal.
This allows the baby to have the ability to cling to its parent,
Parents have the ability to give loving hugs,
It means "animals bonded by affection."
Try it on your baby's palm.
Try gently moving your fingers closer.
Would you please give me a tight squeeze back?
This "grasp reflex"
The message is, "Mom, don't let me go."
[The reason why my beloved child has a big head]
"This baby's head might be bigger than other babies..."
Have you ever had such worries?
In fact, the head of a human baby is
About 12% of body weight
It's an astonishing proportion.
This is overwhelmingly larger than other animals.
It's proof that you were born with a genius brain .
However, it is heavy and unbalanced.
That's why,
They need a mother's loving embrace.
If a baby's brain were born fully developed,
The head is so large that it becomes impossible to give birth.
In other words, humans are
"We are born immature and grow up surrounded by love"
That's a beautiful strategy I chose.
[Hugging is the "nutrition of love"]
Scientific studies have proven the benefits of cuddling.
A baby lovingly held—
🌸 **Improves body temperature regulation**
🌸 **Steadies heart rate and breathing**
🌸 **Decreases stress hormones**
🌸 **A lot of growth hormone is secreted**
🌸 **Enriches and develops neural circuits in the brain**
In other words, cuddling is just as important as milk.
It is an essential nutrient for the baby's growth .
"Is it okay for this child to keep asking for hugs?"
There is no need to worry about that.
Rather, they want to be held a lot.
"Proof that you trust your mom."
It is proof that the baby is growing up healthy .
[The future nurtured by mother's love]
Babies who get lots of hugs
future-
🌸 **Raise children with high self-esteem**
🌸 **Gain the ability to trust people**
🌸 **Gain the courage to face challenges**
🌸 **Be considerate of others**
In other words, the hug you are doing now is
It's a gift to our children's bright future .
The feeling of wanting to hug
It's not pampering or overprotective.
It's scientifically correct and the ultimate expression of affection .
Please be safe and give lots of hugs.
How to decide whether to hold your baby upright or horizontally before they can hold their head up
The truth behind the "side-holding myth" that 90% of moms misunderstand
"I was told that the basic position for newborns is to hold them sideways..."
"But it seems like he's more calm when held upright..."
Do you have such questions?
In fact, many mothers believe
The common belief that "newborns must be held sideways"
This was actually a misconception with no scientific basis .
The latest research and 30 years of midwifery experience reveal
I'll tell you the shocking truth .
[Understanding your child's body: Why holding your baby upright is natural]
First, let's look at the physical characteristics of your beloved baby.
Let's start by finding out.
The adult pelvis is "forward tilted"
When you stand naturally, your hips point downwards.
However, the pelvis of a newborn baby is completely different.
It's called "backward leaning"
The natural position is for your hips to face forward and your knees to be close to your stomach.
This is what happens in the womb for 10 months.
A remnant of the posture when curled up.
So the most comfortable thing for your baby is
"They are in the same round position as when they were in the womb."
When holding the baby on his back,
It is not possible to maintain this natural roundness.
My back is straight,
"I feel uneasy..."
The baby will feel this.
[Protect your child's hip joints with the "M-leg pose"]
When you hold a baby,
Have you ever paid attention to the shape of your legs?
The ideal position is the "M-legged position."
The legs are spread apart in an M shape from the base.
By maintaining this posture,
"Developmental dysplasia of the hip"
It can prevent hip dislocation.
"I want to do what I can now for my child's future."
For moms who think like this,
Proper holding protects the hip joints
It's an important expression of love .
When holding a baby horizontally, the baby's legs inevitably stretch out,
It's difficult to maintain the M-leg position.
On the other hand, if you hold your baby vertically, they will naturally maintain the M-shaped legs.
It allows you to hold your baby gently, without straining your hips.
[Midwives testify to the effectiveness of holding someone upright]
"Side-carrying makes the baby feel heavy and difficult to maintain for several hours."
This is a program that has looked after thousands of babies over the past 30 years.
A midwife's testimony.
Why is that?
When holding the baby sideways, the baby's center of gravity (near the heart)
Because of its unstable position,
Because mom needs to be constantly supporting her.
On the other hand, when holding the baby upright—
🌸 **Center of gravity is distributed to the mother's body**
🌸 **Utilizes your baby's "clinging ability"**
🌸 **Creates a natural C-curve in your back**
🌸 **Breathe Easier**
In actual research, vertical holding is better.
Your heart rate will stabilize and your baby will cry for less time.
It has been proven.
[Safe upright holding method even before baby can hold its head up]
"But is it okay to hold my baby upright when he can't even hold his head up?"
I understand how worried a mother feels.
The key to safe upright holding is:
"To wrap your body tightly in love from the neck to the waist."
**Instructions for lovingly holding your baby vertically:**
1. **Face your baby and show your love**
Gently say, "I'll hold you."
2. **Put your hands in from both sides**
Slowly so as not to startle the baby
3. **Supports the head and neck**
With one hand, handle it gently as if it were a treasure.
4. **Provides firm buttock support**
With your other hand, give a sense of security
5. **Put your face on mommy's shoulder**
A special position where you can hear the heartbeat
6. **Wrap your whole body**
Lovingly supporting your neck, head, back, and buttocks
With this cuddle, many babies
They show an expression that says, "Ah, I'm relieved."
[Special times when holding your child sideways is appropriate]
Of course, this doesn't mean that side-holding is completely unnecessary.
🌸 **Breastfeeding time**: A special moment when mom and baby make eye contact
🌸 **When you want to take a good look at your baby's face**: Time to confirm your love
🌸 **When your physique is small**: The period when it is difficult to do the M-split
What's important is,
Rather than a fixed idea that "it has to be ____",
"What is most comfortable for my child?"
is the first thing to consider.
Trust your mom's intuition
"My baby is calm when I hold him this way"
Such a mother's intuition
Mostly scientifically correct.
Babies are sensitive to their mother's love.
With the right knowledge and love,
I'm sure it will be the best hug for your child.
In the next section,
Such loving hugs will stop the baby from crying.
Here are some magical techniques.
The magical technique to stop your baby from crying in 3 seconds
How to reassure your child with heartbeats, vertical oscillations, and C-curves
"When I hold him, he cries even more for some reason..."
"Other people stop crying right away, so why is it only me...?"
Have you ever had such a sad experience?
it's okay.
It's not because you don't love him enough.
However, "tips for holding your baby in a way that makes them feel safe"
I just didn't know.
I've dealt with 50,000 babies.
Invented by midwives
I will teach you the magic of love .
[Magical Secret 1: Communicating love through the sound of your heart]
For 10 months, the baby
I spent my time in my mother's womb.
What was the sound you heard most closely during that time?
"Thump, thump, thump..."
It's the sound of mom's heartbeat.
This sound is good for babies
"Mother's love itself"
It is a proof of absolute safety .
When you hold your baby,
So that baby's ears are closer to mom's heart
Try adjusting the position.
When you hold your baby vertically and place his/her face on your shoulder,
Hear your heartbeat naturally
This is the "best position for love."
"Oh, he suddenly stopped crying!"
Such a happy moment
I'm sure you'll be able to experience it.
[Magical Secret 2: Vertical shaking awakens memories in the womb]
"Pat your butt"
"Swaying from side to side"
It's a common sight,
In fact, this is often uncomfortable for the baby.
Think about it.
During pregnancy, mothers often hit their stomachs hard,
Did you rock it left and right vigorously?
That's not the case, is it?
What babies are used to is
It's the "gentle vertical swaying motion when mom walks."
**How to do the love vertical swing:**
🌸 **Standing, stepping slowly**
Rhythmically, like dancing
🌸 **Speed that matches mom's breathing**
Don't rush, just enjoy the slow rhythm of love
🌸 **Gentle up and down movements**
Treat your baby gently as if they were a precious treasure
I heard this rhythm for 10 months in the womb.
It brings back happy memories with mom .
[Magical Secret 3: The "C-shaped curve" provides a secure embrace]
Look at the baby's back.
Are you trying to straighten it out?
In fact, the most comfortable thing for a baby is
Just like when I was in the womb
It's a "C-curve" posture.
**How to create a C-curve of love:**
🌸 **Make sure your back forms a gentle C shape**
Don't stretch it too much, keep it natural round
🌸 **Knees are close to the stomach**
A nostalgic pose in the stomach
🌸 **Full body contact with mom**
So that you can feel the warmth of love with your whole body
In this position, the baby
"Ah, it feels like being in mommy's womb... so safe."
You can feel this way.
[Practice: The 3-second love technique to stop crying]
Combining these elements of love
We'll introduce you to a 3-second technique to show your love .
**Love Steps:**
1. **Upright holding for close affection**
"It's okay, Mommy's here," I said,
2. **Love tuning at the heart position**
Adjusts so baby's ears are closer to the heart
3. **Safe position with C-shaped curve**
Wrap your body in love so that your back will naturally curve
4. **Vertical rocking creates a loving rhythm**
Slowly move up and down in time with your breathing
5. **Sh ...
A "shhh" sound similar to the sound of blood flowing inside my stomach
With this technique,
Over 90% of babies stop crying within 30 seconds
It's been proven.
[Why is love scientifically effective?]
The reason this method is effective is
This is because it directly affects the baby's brain and mind.
🌸 **Vagus Nerve Affection Stimulation**: Vertical rocking induces deep relaxation
🌸 **Oxytocin Love Secretion**: Close contact releases the happy hormone
🌸 **Relive loving memories**: Recall the happy feeling in the womb
So this is not just a technique,
It is a scientifically based expression of affection .
[What if the baby still won't stop crying?]
If your baby won't stop crying even after loving hugs,
Physical discomfort (diapers, hunger, heat, cold, feeling unwell)
That may be the cause.
Distinguishing between mental discomfort and physical discomfort
The attachment diagnostic method will be explained in more detail in a later section.
[Mother's love is always conveyed]
"Because I'm not good at hugging..."
Don't blame yourself like that.
Babies definitely sense their mother's love.
With the right method and love,
There will definitely be a moment when your hearts connect.
Using this "magic of love,"
A special bond with my child
Please dig deeper.
A complete refutation of the "cuddle habit" - The truth about raising children with lots of love
Old common sense vs. new science: The power of cuddling as proven by oxytocin
"If you hold your baby too much, he'll get used to being held."
"Don't spoil him."
From my grandmother and the people around me
When I heard those words,
Have you ever had your heart broken?
"I want to raise my child with lots of love"
"But maybe it's not good to spoil them too much..."
The feelings of a mother who is caught between two rocks,
I understand that very well.
But don't worry.
The latest scientific research proves that
Your loving feelings are 100% valid.
That's what it means.
[The sad history hidden in the term "hugging habit"]
The idea of "hugging" was born
In fact, it was a difficult time after the war.
Busy with housework and work,
"I can't spend all my time cuddling."
Due to the practical fact that
"It's better not to hold them even if they cry"
This is the logic that was created.
So this is
"It's not for the baby's sake, it's for the adults' convenience."
It was an idea that came from that.
If you are a loving mother,
Of course, you might feel that this is strange.
[Modern science reveals the miracle of the "love hormone"]
Current neuroscience research has revealed that
Holding is good for both baby and mom
It is said to have "miraculous effects."
When I hold him,
A special hormone called oxytocin is released.
This is also known as the "love hormone" or "happiness hormone."
🌸 **Benefits for babies**
- Stabilizes heart rate and breathing
- Stress hormones are dramatically reduced
- Rich development of neural circuits in the brain
- Improves immunity
- A deep sense of relief
🌸 **Benefits for Moms**
- Strengthens maternal instinct
- Increased parenting confidence
- Reduced risk of postnatal depression
- Deepen your love for your baby
- Increased sense of happiness
In other words, a loving hug is
It was scientifically proven to be the best way to raise children .
[Not "spoiling" but "saving love"]
"If you hold them a lot, they'll become clingy."
This is also a big misunderstanding.
The actual results of the study were the exact opposite.
**Children who grow up with lots of love—**
🌸 **High self-esteem**
Be confident that you are loved
🌸 **Strong trust in others**
Cultivating a sense of trust in people
🌸 **Courage to face difficulties**
I can take on challenges because I have a foundation of love
🌸 **Early independence**
A sense of security allows you to step into a new world
🌸 **Compassionate Heart**
The experience of receiving love leads to kindness towards others
In other words, the loving embrace that mom is giving her now is
It's "saving for my child's bright future."
[How to respond with affection when someone says you're "cuddly"]
If your grandmother or someone around you
If you are told that your child will become dependent on being held,
Try answering it like this:
"thank you.
But the latest research
Babies who are held a lot
I know that they will become independent quickly in the future.
Cuddling is the nourishment of love,
I want to give my child plenty.
By all means, grandma too
Can you hold me with me?"
Combining love and science
I'm sure this answer will help you understand.
[How to share your love with your dad]
My dad said, "Aren't you holding me too much?"
If you're worried,
Try sharing your love like this.
"When you hold the baby, both the father and the baby
It releases love hormones.
So, give lots of hugs to daddy too
Can you bond with this child?
I'm sure she'll be daddy's favorite girl."
With a scientific explanation,
Bringing the joy of holding a baby to daddy too
Let them experience it for themselves.
[There's no limit to love]
"But I can't just hold him forever..."
There is no need to worry about that.
Babies develop naturally.
Children who receive a lot of love
From yourself at the right time
They start saying, "I want to do it on my own."
Until then, to my heart's content
Please give it your love.
"Now is the only time I can hold you"
"This special time will never come back."
With that in mind,
Please cherish your daily hugs.
[Mom's intuition is scientifically correct]
"I want to hold this child."
"I want to convey lots of love"
The mother's feelings are
This maternal instinct is 100% scientifically correct .
With confidence,
Please continue to raise your child with lots of love.
Your love,
Brighten up my child's life
It would be the best gift ever.
The secret to holding your baby without getting tired and protecting your body
Posture techniques that allow you to give love for long periods of time without back pain or tendonitis
"I want to hold my baby, but my back hurts..."
"My wrist hurts and it's hard to hold my baby..."
There's a lot of love,
I can't hold him as I want because of the pain in my body.
Do you have such a dilemma?
A mother's body after giving birth
I have just finished the huge task of pregnancy and childbirth.
Although I am still recovering,
24-hour childcare begins.
"For my child, I don't care about my own body..."
I can understand very well the feelings of a kind mother who thinks like that.
However, a mother's health is the foundation of a happy family .
If you damage your body,
You will not be able to take care of your beloved baby.
Born from 30 years of midwifery experience
"Cuddling techniques that protect the mother's body while showing affection"
We will inform you of the following.
Why does it put a strain on the mother's body?
First, let's look at why holding your baby can cause pain.
Let's understand this.
🌸 **Postpartum pelvic instability**
The pelvis that opened during childbirth has not yet fully returned to its original position.
🌸 **Hormonal influences**
The hormone relaxin loosens the joints
🌸 **Muscle weakness due to lack of sleep**
Fatigue prevents muscles from working properly
🌸 **Holding in an unfamiliar position**
Supporting yourself in an awkward position for a long time
In other words, the body hurts
It's because mom is trying too hard .
[The secret to the "basic posture" that protects love]
The basics of holding your baby without getting tired are:
"Maintaining the natural curves of the mother's body."
**Mom-friendly holding position:**
🌸 **Keep your spine straight and your chest slightly out**
Be conscious of not slouching
🌸 **Relax your shoulders**
Don't be nervous, just relax
🌸 **Center of gravity on the feet**
Be careful not to put your weight on one foot
🌸 **Bend your knees slightly**
Stand with a little more space than standing up straight
By holding the baby in this position,
Weight is distributed throughout the body,
This prevents stress from being concentrated in a specific area.
[High-holding technique to prevent back pain]
One of the reasons why many mothers suffer from back pain is
"The holding position is too low."
The ideal holding position is
"A little above mommy's belly button."
So that the baby's bottom is at this height
Try adjusting it.
**Benefits of elevated hold:**
🌸 **Don't slouch**
The burden on the lower back is greatly reduced
🌸 **Close to your baby**
I feel more love
🌸 **Easy to make eye contact**
Communication will be enriched
🌸 **Breathe easily**
Plenty of oxygen for mom and baby
[Distributed support method to protect your wrists and arms]
Tips for preventing tendonitis:
Don't rely on your wrists alone .
**Love sharing support:**
🌸 **Support with your whole arm**
Uses the wrist, forearm, and upper arm in total
🌸 **Engage your core**
Involve your abdominal muscles in the hug
🌸 **Alternate left and right**
Don't use the same arm all the time, but keep it balanced
🌸 **Use a baby carrier**
Use tools to reduce strain on the body
[How to reset your love when you feel tired]
No matter how careful you are,
Holding your baby for a long period of time can make you feel tired.
In times like these, don't push yourself and just "reset your love."
**How to reset:**
🌸 **Sit and hug**
If standing is difficult, sit on a chair or sofa.
🌸 **Use a cushion**
Nursing pillow reduces strain on your arms
🌸 **Have a family member take turns**
"Let's take turns" is not a selfish request
🌸 **Lie down with your baby**
It's also nice to spend some affectionate time together.
[Gentle warm-up exercises for postpartum bodies]
Light stretching before holding your baby
Get your body ready.
**Affection Stretch:**
🌸 **Shoulder rotations** (5 times forward and backward)
While saying, "I'm going to hold your baby"
🌸 **Wrist rotations** (5 times each side)
Important preparations to prevent tendonitis
🌸 **Stretch** (3 times)
Straighten your spine and reset your posture
🌸 **Deep breaths** (3 times)
Relax both mom and baby
[Points to consider when choosing a baby carrier]
A good baby carrier protects the mother's body
It will be a powerful ally.
**Conditions for a Mommy-Friendly Baby Carrier:**
🌸 **Wide shoulder straps**
Weight is distributed and shoulders are comfortable
🌸 **Thick waist belt**
Greatly reduces strain on the lower back
🌸 **Baby's center of gravity is high**
No slouching design
🌸 **Breathable material**
Comfortable even when used for long periods of time
[A mother's smile is the greatest love]
"My body hurts, but I have to bear it..."
Don't push yourself like that.
Mommy's health and smile are
It's the best thing for the baby.
Rather than enduring physical pain,
Hold your baby comfortably in the right way,
So much love
Please pour it for me.
"Take care of mom's body too"
That is the long-term goal of childcare.
That's the most important tip.
Complete guide to choosing a baby carrier: choosing the baby first
A thorough comparison of the best items to protect newborns' immature bodies
"There are so many types of baby carriers, which one should I choose?"
"What is the best for my child?"
For my dear baby,
I want to choose the best baby carrier for you.
But when I go to the store, there are so many different kinds.
"Which one is right for my child?"
It's hard to decide.
Baby carriers are not just childcare items.
**Entrust your child's precious body to us.
This is a special item that conveys love.
Over the past 30 years, she has looked after thousands of babies.
The wisdom of midwives,
From the latest research data,
From a "baby first" perspective
I'll tell you how to choose a really good baby carrier.
[Top priority: Can I maintain my child's natural posture?]
The most important thing when choosing a baby carrier is
**Do not put strain on the baby's body**.
🌸 **Maintains M-shaped leg position**
Essential conditions for preventing hip dislocation
🌸 **Natural C-curve of the back**
Recreates a comfortable posture in the womb
🌸 **Provides firm neck and head support**
Complete protection for newborns' underdeveloped necks
🌸 **Breathe Easier**
Airway is open and face is visible
Baby carriers that do not meet these four conditions:
No matter how popular or cheap it is,
**Not recommended for my child.**
[By type: A thorough comparison from the perspective of love]
**🌸 Carry type (standard baby carrier)**
*Kindness towards my child: ★★★★☆*
*Ease for moms: ★★★★★*
*Ease of use: ★★★★☆*
**merit:**
- Weight is distributed to the shoulders and waist for comfort
- Less fatigue even when used for long periods of time
- Many types can be used from newborns
- Dads can use it too
**Note:**
- It may take some time for the mattress to adjust to your baby's size.
- Requires some getting used to
- Some materials tend to get sweaty
**Recommended for moms like this:**
"I go out a lot" "I need to hold my baby for long periods of time"
"I want daddy to hold me too."
**🌸 Sling type**
*Kindness to my child: ★★★★★*
*Ease for moms: ★★★☆☆*
*Ease of use: ★★☆☆☆*
**merit:**
- Helps maintain a natural posture for newborns
- They have a strong bond with their mothers and are able to easily convey their love.
- Compact and easy to carry
- Can also be used as a nursing cover
**Note:**
- Requires practice to learn how to use it correctly
- Long-term use puts strain on mother's shoulders
- Safety precautions required (choking risk)
**Recommended for moms like this:**
"I want to emphasize close contact with my baby"
"Mostly short trips" "Prioritize compactness"
**🌸Baby wrap type**
*Kindness to my child: ★★★★★*
*Ease for moms: ★★★★☆*
*Ease of use: ★★☆☆☆*
**merit:**
- Perfectly fits your baby's body shape
- The most natural way to hold your baby from the newborn stage
- Weight is distributed throughout the body for comfort
- Stylish and loving appearance
**Note:**
- It takes time to master the rolling technique
- Difficult to reattach when out and about
- It's hot in the summer
**Recommended for moms like this:**
"I want to cherish the newborn period in particular."
"I want to stick to a natural way of holding my baby" "I mainly use it at home"
**🌸 Hip seat type**
*Kindness towards my child: ★★★☆☆*
*Ease for moms: ★★★★★*
*Ease of Use: ★★★★★*
**merit:**
- Ideal for babies who are able to sit up
- Easy to get on and off
- Lighter burden on mothers
- Long-lasting use (up to around 3 years old)
**Note:**
- Not suitable for newborns
- It's bulky and difficult to carry around
- Expensive
**Recommended for moms like this:**
"I want to use it after I sit down."
"Frequent loading and unloading is required" "I want to use it for a long period of time"
[Newborn period: Particularly important points to consider when choosing a product]
A newborn baby is
You need to be especially careful when choosing a sling.
**Why choose the newborn insert?**
🌸 **Strong support for little bodies**
Adult size adjusted to baby size
🌸 **Special care before your baby can hold their head up**
Perfect head and neck support
🌸 **Maintaining the M-shaped splits**
Protects the hip joint at an optimal angle
🌸 **Breathe safely**
Designed to never compress the airway
**Attention: Safety Checkpoints**
🌸 **Your baby's face is always visible**
Avoid the risk of suffocation due to burial
🌸 **One finger width gap between chin and chest**
Appropriate distance to avoid obstruction of breathing
🌸 **Doesn't round your back too much**
Within the natural C-curve
🌸 **Legs firmly spread in an M shape**
Knees higher than the hips
[Checklist of things to check for affection when trying on clothes]
Always try on a baby carrier before purchasing.
It is an important item that entrusts our child's life to us.
**Baby doll checklist:**
🌸 **Easy to install**
Can it be safely worn even when you are in a hurry?
🌸 **Check your baby's facial expression**
Can you keep your face visible at all times?
🌸 **Natural posture**
Are you in an awkward position?
🌸 **Mom's Mobility**
Is there any interference with daily activities?
**Final check with real babies:**
🌸 **Good Mood**
Will they be willing to come in?
🌸 **Easy Breathing**
Does he/she seem short of breath?
🌸 **Easy to sleep on**
Can you relax and sleep?
🌸 **Crying cessation**
Do you feel safe when in a baby carrier?
[Timing for a successful purchase]
"When should I buy it?"
Many moms have this question.
**Recommended purchase timing:**
🌸 **Around 8-9 months pregnant**
A time to carefully consider
🌸 **After one month postpartum checkup**
Once I was able to go out with my baby
🌸 **After trying it out as a rental**
Decide on purchase after actually using it
Rather than rushing to buy,
I put my child's safety first
Be sure to choose carefully.
What's more important than price
"I can't afford to buy an expensive baby carrier..."
Some moms may be worried about this.
But it's good because it's expensive
Just because it's cheap doesn't mean it's bad.
What's important is,
**Whether it fits my child's body**.
🌸 **Use rental services**
Try first, then buy
🌸 **Borrowing from a friend is OK**
If it's clean and safe, there's no problem.
🌸 **Caution when purchasing second-hand items**
Thoroughly check safety standards and deterioration
🌸 **Starting with the bare minimum**
Simple yet highly safe
[Tips for conveying affection]
No matter how good the baby carrier is,
The effect will vary depending on how you use it.
🌸 **Notice before installation**
Say, "I'm going to get in the baby carrier."
🌸 **Slow Movement**
Don't startle your baby
🌸 **Check after installation**
"Does it feel good?" I asked, checking his condition.
🌸 **Adequate Breaks**
Avoid continuous use for long periods of time
A baby carrier is a tool,
The love that goes into it
It depends on the mother's heart.
The safety and comfort of our children comes first
Have a wonderful cuddle life
I hope you enjoy it.
How to diagnose your baby's feelings by listening to their crying
How to distinguish between emotional discomfort and physical discomfort through hugging
"I wonder why this child is crying..."
"He won't stop crying even when I hold him... is it my fault?"
Whenever I hear a baby crying,
"I don't know what you want me to do"
Do you ever feel anxious?
it's okay.
Babies are actually very easy to understand
He's telling me his feelings.
However, how to understand this "baby talk"
I just didn't know.
I've dealt with 50,000 babies.
The midwife discovered
"Love Diagnosis Technique"
The voice of my child's heart
Let's listen carefully.
[Basic diagnosis: Determine your mind and body with the "Hugging Test"]
The reason why the baby is crying
It can be broadly divided into two categories.
🌸 **Mental discomfort**: loneliness, anxiety, wanting to be pampered
🌸 **Physical discomfort**: pain, discomfort, nausea
The magic way to tell the two apart is
This is the **"affectionate hug test."**
**Diagnostic Procedure:**
1. **Gently pick up**
"What's wrong? Mommy's here," I called out.
2. **Hold the baby upright in a position where he or she can hear the heartbeat**
In the best position of love
3. **Slow vertical rocking**
Awakening memories in the stomach
4. **Observe for 3 minutes**
With lots of love
**How to read the results:**
🌸 **If the crying stops immediately**
→ **Emotional discomfort** = Resolve with love!
🌸 **If your baby won't stop crying**
→ **Physical discomfort** = Find the cause and deal with it
[Emotional discomfort patterns: Crying can be resolved with love]
**🌸"I'm lonely~" crying**
*Features:*
- A regular cry of "eeek, eeek"
- He stops crying as soon as you hold him
- I feel relieved when I see my mother's face
*Mom's loving response:*
"You must have been lonely, but you'll be fine because I have you."
While talking to them, we had plenty of physical contact.
**🌸"I'm worried~" crying**
*Features:*
- An anxious "Uh-huh"
- Triggered by changes in the environment (location, sound, light)
- They calm down when you hold them and move them to a safe place
*Mom's loving response:*
"Don't worry, Mommy will protect you."
Hold your baby in a quiet place, giving him or her a sense of security.
**🌸"I want to be spoiled~" crying**
*Features:*
- A sweet, "Ngyaa" sound
- This often happens when mommy is out of sight.
- He seems happy when you hold him
*Mom's loving response:*
"I see you wanted to be spoiled, so I'll give you lots of hugs."
Let's give them lots of love.
[Physical discomfort patterns: crying that requires specific measures]
**🌸"I'm hungry~" crying**
*Features:*
- A strong cry of "Waah, waah"
- Mouth opening and closing movements
- Put your hand to your mouth
- Continues crying for a while even after being held
Solution:
Check feeding times and if your baby is hungry
Breast milk or formula. "I'm sorry, you were hungry."
She breastfed the baby lovingly while apologizing.
**🌸"The diaper is disgusting~" crying**
*Features:*
- An unpleasant "gyaa" sound
- Kick your legs
- The diaper feels wet to the touch
Solution:
Check the diaper and change it if it is soiled.
"That was disgusting, let me clean you up."
While gently calling out to him.
**🌸"It's hot/cold~" crying**
*Features:*
- An unpleasant "hmm, hmm" sound
- Red or pale face
- Hot or cold hands and feet
Solution:
Adjust your clothing to a comfortable temperature.
"It was too hot (cold), I'll adjust it for you."
Make sure to adjust the environment, including the room temperature.
**🌸"It hurts~/It's painful~" crying**
*Features:*
- A sharp cry of "Aaah!"
- A clearly different intensity than usual
- He won't stop crying even when I hold him
- If you have symptoms such as fever or vomiting
Solution:
**Contact your pediatrician immediately**.
"It hurts, let's see the doctor right away."
Respond calmly.
[Crying patterns by time of day]
Babies cry differently depending on the time of day
It has its own unique features.
Morning (6am-10am):
- Frequent hungry crying
- Even if the diaper is wet
- Crying in a relatively good mood
**Lunch (10am-3pm):**
- They often cry because they want to be pampered or play.
- Sensitive to environmental changes
- Often this can be resolved by holding the child.
**Evening (3pm-7pm):**
- "Twilight Cry" time
- Increased crying for no apparent reason
- Caused by fatigue and accumulated irritation
**Night (from 7pm):**
- Has trouble sleeping
- Sensitive due to fatigue from the day
- Holding your baby in a quiet environment is effective
[Changes in crying patterns and how to respond by age]
**0-1 month: instinctive crying**
- Mainly basic needs (hunger, discomfort, anxiety)
- Often this can be resolved by holding the child.
- Simple crying
**1-3 months: Emotional crying**
- A stronger desire to be pampered
- Recognize Mom and ask for a specific person
- Crying shows emotional changes
**3-6 months: Intentional crying**
- A clear request for what you want
- The difference between crying and crying becomes clearer
- Crying due to shyness also begins
[Mom's mindset: It's okay if you're not perfect]
"I have no idea... Maybe I'm a bad mom."
Don't blame yourself like that.
The baby and mom
Every day we understand each other a little better.
🌸 **It's okay to make mistakes**
Something you learn through trial and error
🌸 **The baby is growing**
The way I cry changes every day
🌸 **Love is the most important thing**
Affectionate service over technology
🌸 **Trust your intuition**
Mom's senses are surprisingly accurate
[Deepening understanding among the whole family]
This diagnostic method should be used by dads and other family members too.
Let me tell you.
"First, use the hug test to determine whether it's your mind or your body.
If you feel uneasy, use love,
If it's physical discomfort, take specific measures."
By sharing these basics with your family,
We all understand our children,
You will be able to support.
Once you understand your baby's words,
It will make parenting much more fun.
A special conversation with my child
I hope you enjoy it.
Parenting with Dad: How to Solve Your Child's Refusal to Be Held
The secret to creating an environment where the whole family can share love
"I cry when my daddy holds me..."
"It seems like it has to be me..."
Even though a loving father tries his best to hold him,
The baby starts crying.
At that time, when I saw my dad's depressed face,
It's heartbreaking as a mom too.
"I feel sorry for my dad, he has to rely on me so much..."
"But I can't see this child crying..."
Do you have such a dilemma?
In fact, there are several reasons why babies refuse to have their father.
There are clear reasons and solutions.
It's not that I don't love my dad enough,
It's not that daddy is bad at holding babies.
**How the whole family can surround their child with love**
Let's find out together.
[Why does it have to be mom?]
For babies to see their mothers as special,
There is a deep reason.
🌸 **A special bond during pregnancy**
I listened to my mom's heartbeat for 10 months.
🌸 **Scent Memory**
Mom's body temperature and smell are proof of "safety"
🌸 **Breastfeeding bonding time**
The special moments of breastfeeding
🌸 **Overwhelming difference in care time**
Spending time with mommy who is caring for you 24 hours a day
So, this is a natural and healthy response.
It's not that I hate my dad,
Simply put, "Mom is the person I feel most comfortable with."
I'm just aware of it.
[Be considerate to dad's feelings]
First, I want to help my dad feel better.
Let's start by understanding it.
Even my dad
💕 **"I love this kid"**
💕 **I want to be helpful**
💕 **I want to help my mom**
💕 **"I want to feel like a real father"**
I am filled with such feelings.
"It's okay, she loves her daddy too.
However, mommy is still the most reassuring.
Take time to build a special relationship with your dad.
Let's build it."
Please encourage them in that way.
[Step-by-step strategy to get used to being a dad]
Instead of aiming for "daddy to hold the baby" right away,
Gradually deepen your relationship with your dad.
**🌸 Step 1: Spend time in the same space**
- **Mom holds her while Dad is next to her**
"Daddy's here too," he said.
- **Let Daddy's voice be heard**
In a gentle voice, say things like "Thank you for your hard work" or "You're so cute"
- **Getting used to daddy's smell**
My dad's clothes are near my bed.
- **Sing a song together**
Let me hear the harmony of mommy and daddy's voices
**🌸Step 2: Light Skinship**
- **Mom holds her while Dad holds her hand**
"Daddy's hands are big and warm"
- **Dad pats his head**
"It feels good to have Daddy pet you."
- **Cuddle together**
Mom and Dad work together to bring out smiles
- **Daddy is in charge of changing diapers and clothes**
Building trust through care
**🌸Step 3: Short periods of solo cuddling**
- **5 minutes with mom nearby**
"Your mom's here, so it's okay."
- **Aim for a time when your baby is in a good mood**
Best when you're full and not sleepy
- **Find out your dad's favorite hold style**
Try holding your baby vertically or horizontally to see which position works best for you.
- **Don't panic if they cry**
With the feeling that "It's okay because I'm practicing"
**🌸Step 4: Discover your own way of interacting with your dad**
- **Dad's way of playing**
Up high, airplane carry, etc.
- **Daddy's special songs and ways of speaking**
Dad's unique communication style is different from Mom's
- **Become the bath attendant**
Make special time with dad
- **In charge of putting the child to sleep**
Nighttime routine strengthens bonds with dad
[How to improve daddy's baby-holding skills]
Dad isn't as used to being held as Mom.
But if you grasp the basics
You can definitely improve.
**Cuddling lessons for dads:**
🌸 **Kindness over strength**
Men's strength can be too much for babies
🌸 **Watch Mom's Method**
Learn how to hold
🌸 **Get a sense of distance with your baby**
Not too close, not too far apart
🌸 **Change your tone of voice**
A higher-pitched, gentler voice than usual
🌸 **Don't be nervous**
It conveys a relaxed feeling
[How to develop a relationship with your dad by age]
**0-1 month: "Awareness of Existence" stage**
- Getting your baby used to your voice and smell
- Participate by supporting the care of mothers
- Don't forcefully hold the baby, just be the one to watch over them.
- Creating an environment where children feel safe because their dad is there
**1-3 months: "Building trust" period**
- Specific care such as changing diapers and clothes
- Short-time cuddle challenge
- Adjust based on your baby's reaction
- Find your own way to play
**3-6 months: The "special relationship" stage**
- First outing with dad
- Daddy is in charge of bath time
- Active play is dad's specialty
- Show off your dad's charm, which is different from your mom's
[Support that moms can provide]
To foster a bond between dad and baby,
There are many things moms can do.
🌸 **Praise your dad**
"You've gotten good at holding Daddy."
🌸 **Tell your baby how good their dad is**
"Daddy's voice is gentle, isn't it?"
🌸 **Acknowledge Daddy's Care**
"Thank you, you've saved me."
🌸 **Don't strive for perfection**
"It definitely takes time to get used to it."
🌸 **Make time for two**
Even if it's just for a short while, it's time for just dad and baby
[The joy of raising children together as a family]
By having fathers actively participate in childcare,
There are benefits for the whole family.
**For babies:**
- You can receive a variety of love
- Promotes social development
- Learn about both male and female characteristics
- You can receive richer stimulation
**For Moms:**
- The burden of childcare is shared
- You can have your own time
- Deepen your bond with your dad
- Feel a sense of unity as a family
**For Dad:**
- Feeling like a real father
- Build a special bond with your child
- Feel a sense of contribution to your family
- You can learn the joys of child-rearing
[Watching over from a long-term perspective]
"Daddy denial" is often temporary.
🌸 **Don't rush**
Relationships can't be built overnight
🌸 **Continue**
Continue to be involved even if it's just a little bit every day
🌸 **Believe**
You will definitely have a special relationship with your dad.
🌸 **Have fun**
Make the process itself a family memory
Take your time and go slowly
Develop the relationship between dad and baby.
I'm sure my mom can't make it.
A special bond that is unique to dad will be born.
A baby showered with love from the whole family
I'm sure he will grow up to be a rich soul.
Baby-carrying safety measures you absolutely must know
How to completely protect your beloved child from accidents
"I wonder if this way of holding my baby is really safe..."
"If I drop it..."
When I hold my beloved child in my arms,
Do you ever suddenly feel anxious about something like that?
A newborn baby is
A treasure that is most precious to a mother.
To protect that little life,
There are some safety precautions you absolutely must be aware of.
Safety is the foundation of love.
Protect your child with the right knowledge
Feel safe and receive lots of love
Let's create the environment.
[Top priority: Perfect fall prevention measures]
The most common accident that occurs while carrying a baby is falling.
No matter how careful you are,
Because accidents can happen in the blink of an eye,
Perfect precautions are required.
**🌸 Basic safe holding position**
- **Hold firmly with both hands**
Avoid holding the baby with one hand
- **Keeps baby close to mom's body**
Don't hold them at a distance
- **Check your footing**
Be careful of slippery floors and steps
- **Move slowly**
Don't lose your balance with sudden movements
**🌸 Precautions in dangerous situations**
- **When going up and down stairs**
Use a baby carrier so you can use the handrail
- **Hugging in the bathroom**
Be careful of wet hands and slippery floors
- **High Places to Hold**
Be especially careful on beds and sofas
- **Cuddling on the move**
Minimize carrying your baby while walking
**🌸 Safety checks when using a baby carrier**
- **Inspection before installation**
Buckle and belt securely fastened
- **Check your baby's breathing**
Always check that your face is not buried
- **Proper Sizing**
Exquisite adjustment that is neither too tight nor too loose
- **Regular Safety Checks**
Check on your baby from time to time while using the device
[What you absolutely must avoid: Complete elimination of choking risk]
A baby's airways are very narrow
Even slight pressure can cause breathing difficulties.
**🌸Choking Risk Checkpoints**
- **Face always visible**
The face is not hidden by the mother's body or the baby carrier
- **Chin to chest distance**
Leave a gap of one finger
- **Neck angle**
Does not lean forward or backward excessively
- **Freedom of nose and mouth**
Not covered by a cloth or hand
**🌸 How to hold a baby that requires special care**
- **Side-carrying in a sling**
It is especially dangerous for newborns, so be sure to learn how to use it correctly.
- **Face-down hold**
Don't neglect to check the face even when holding a colic-prone baby
- **Too deep vertical hug**
Be careful not to bury your face too much in your shoulders
- **Cuddling while breastfeeding**
Care must be taken to prevent the nose from being blocked by the breast
[Complete prevention of shaken baby syndrome]
Even if you try to soothe your baby with love,
Violent shaking can cause serious brain damage to babies.
**🌸Safe swinging standards**
- **Similar to adult walking motion**
Do not exceed the natural rhythm of vertical swaying
- **Hold your head and shake it**
Support your neck to prevent it from shaking
- **No violent side-to-side shaking**
Only gentle rocking back and forth
- **When you get frustrated, stop**
Take a break when you get emotional
**🌸 Dangerous shaking**
❌ **Hold the shoulders and rock back and forth**
❌ **Shake vigorously up and down**
❌ **Shake left and right widely**
❌ **Shake angrily**
[Changes in safety measures by age]
As the baby grows,
The points to pay attention to will also change.
**0-1 month: Full protection period**
- Full neck and head support is a must
- Creating an environment that protects from external stimuli
- Minimal movement ensures safety
- Careful attention to temperature regulation
**1-3 months: Close observation period**
- Accurately assess the progress of your baby's ability to hold their head up
- Supports active limb movements
- Safety considerations for objects of interest
- Infectious disease prevention measures when going out
**3 to 6 months: Preparation for independence**
- Supports more active movements
- Pay attention to the behavior of picking up and putting things in your mouth
- Ensuring safety for new movements such as rolling over
- How to deal with being curious
[Emergency response preparations]
Just in case,
How to respond in an emergency
Please check in advance.
**🌸 Prepare emergency contact details**
- **Pediatrician**
Contact details during and outside of clinic hours
- **Emergency Hospital**
Locations and phone numbers of 24-hour hospitals
- **Ambulance (119)**
Clarify the criteria for making calls without hesitation
- **Family and relatives**
Someone to help in an emergency
**🌸 Basic knowledge of first aid**
- **If unconscious**
Immediately call an ambulance and begin first aid
- **If you have difficulty breathing**
Fundamentals of airway management and artificial respiration
- **If you have an injury**
Stopping bleeding and protecting the affected area
- **In case of accidental ingestion**
Correct method of back striking
[Daily safety check habits]
Safety is not something that can be confirmed once and then completed.
As a daily habit,
Include safety checks.
**🌸 Daily Safety Checklist**
□ **Check your baby's health before holding them**
Check mom's physical condition and concentration
□ **Environmental Safety Check**
Check for slippery areas and dangerous objects
□ **Inspection of baby carriers**
Check the condition of baby carriers and swaddling clothes
□ **Check the baby's condition**
Mood, physical condition, appropriate clothing
[Sharing safety awareness among the whole family]
Safety measures are not something that mothers have to bear alone.
**🌸Family Safety Education**
- **Dad shares the same knowledge**
Learn safe holding techniques together
- **Guidance for Grandparents**
Explaining the difference between old common sense and current safety standards
- **Education for siblings**
Teach older children safe interactions
- **Visitor Attention**
Share safety rules in advance
[Love can be conveyed even if it's not perfect]
Learning safety measures,
"Do I really have to be so careful?"
You may be worried about this.
But it's okay.
🌸 **Just master the basics**
Don't aim for perfection, get the basics right
🌸 **Improves with experience**
You just need to get used to it a little each day
🌸 **Love is the greatest safety**
Careful love is the best safety measure
🌸 **If you have any concerns, please consult**
Don't worry alone, consult with experts and experienced people
For my beloved child,
Start holding your baby safely today
Let's keep this in mind.
Your love and attention,
Protecting my child's life
It will be your strongest shield.
The loneliness of graduating from holding and new ways of showing affection
The next step: celebrating growth and deepening bonds
"He hasn't been wanting to be held as much lately..."
"I wonder if this baby doesn't need my hugs anymore..."
While I feel my child growing up,
It makes me feel lonely somehow.
Do you have such complicated feelings?
The baby who had been wanting to be held so much,
Gradually I'm starting to feel comfortable being alone.
Growth is good, but
At the same time, the "babyhood" period ends.
It can also make you feel lonely.
But this
**This is proof that they were raised with lots of love**.
Graduation from holding is not the end,
The beginning of a new love.
Changes as we grow
About the parent-child bond
Let's think about it together.
[Signs and timing for graduating from holding]
When a baby graduates from being held,
It's not because the love has faded.
**🌸Natural Graduation Signs**
- **More time for solo play**
Becoming independent with a "Watch me, Mommy" attitude
- **Encourages walking**
Curiosity to "explore on my own"
- **Prefers holding hands to hugs**
Longing for an equal relationship
- **Wants to end the cuddle after a short time**
The expression "Just a little bit is fine"
**Typical graduation time:**
🌸 **When they start walking (around 1 year old)**
Moving away from carrying your baby
🌸 **When the ego begins to emerge (1.5 to 2 years old)**
A stronger desire to do things on my own
🌸 **When you can communicate with words**
Beginning to understand other ways of showing affection besides cuddling
However, these times are only estimates,
**Varies greatly from child to child.**
Some children still love to be held even at the age of three,
Some children seek independence early on.
Both are normal,
It's a matter of each child's own pace of growth.
[Cleaning a Mom's Mind: How to Deal with Loneliness]
"I'm sad that you won't hold me anymore..."
To have such a feeling is
It's a natural feeling for a loving mother.
**🌸Understanding loneliness**
- **Attachment to Babyhood**
The loneliness of that special time never coming back
- **Changes in perception needed**
From "I'm the only one you can handle" to "I'm fine on my own"
- **Anxiety about changes in parent-child relationships**
Worrying that love will fade
- **Amazing how quickly time passes**
The feeling that "it has grown so quickly"
**🌸Preparing to overcome loneliness**
🌸 **Growth is proof of love**
Graduating from holding is the result of receiving lots of love
🌸 **The Beginning of a New Fun**
Conversation, play, going out together, etc.
🌸 **The special moments continue**
Even if cuddling decreases, affection continues in different forms
🌸 **Your time is important too**
Mom's own life is just as important
[A new way to express affection instead of holding someone]
Even if you hold them less,
There are many ways to express love.
**🌸Expressions of love in everyday life**
- **Walking hand in hand**
The sense of security of being with mom continues
- **Reading on your lap**
A special time spent together
- **Hug time before bed**
End of day love check
- **I love you words**
Express your love directly through words
**🌸 Expressions of affection at each stage of development**
**1-2 years: Exploratory affection**
- Walk together and share your discoveries
- Do simple household chores together and share the sense of accomplishment
- Let them explore freely while keeping them safe from danger
- Words of approval like "You're good" or "That's amazing"
**Ages 2-3: Love during the period of self-identification**
- Respect the child's choices
- Accept and empathize with emotions
- Helps children learn while playing together
- Express your unconditional love by saying "I love you"
**Ages 3 and up: Affection in the interactive stage**
- Have lots of conversations and connect with each other
- Empathize with children's interests and learn together
- Be someone to talk to when you're in trouble
- Recognize and support children's individuality
[Special occasion cuddles continue]
Even though I've graduated from holding my baby,
It won't go away completely.
**🌸 The special moment when cuddles are restored**
- **When you feel scared**
Mom's embrace is the most reassuring thing
- **When you're not feeling well**
The desire to be pampered becomes stronger
- **When you're sleepy**
Even as a toddler, they may want to fall asleep in your arms.
- **Happy times**
They jump in to share the joy
- **When you feel uneasy in a new environment**
Timing of changes such as starting nursery school
Cherish these moments,
"I'll hold you anytime"
Let's continue to convey this sense of security.
[Consideration for siblings]
When the younger child is born,
Your older child may ask to be held again.
**🌸 Loving support for older children**
- **Embrace babyish behavior**
Warmly watch over it as a temporary phenomenon
- **Create special time just for your older child**
One-on-one time when the younger child is not around
- **Big Brother/Big Sister Hugs**
Special cuddles adapted to growing bodies
- **Give roles and build confidence**
"Thank you for your help."
[Cherish the memories of holding your baby]
Cuddle time is
It is a lifelong treasure for parents and children.
**🌸How to preserve memories**
- **Photo and video recording**
Capture the moment of holding
- **Diary and album creation**
"Today I'm holding ○○-chan..."
- **Handprint and footprint preservation**
Record of small limbs
- **Family Memories**
Cherish the conversation, "When you were a baby..."
[Mom's own growth is also important]
As children grow,
Mom is also growing as a mother.
**🌸 Mom's New Stage**
- **Deeper Communication**
Improved affectionate skills other than cuddling
- **Understanding children's individuality**
To understand my child more deeply
- **Rediscover your time**
Rediscovering Mom's own interests
- **Long-term parenting**
How to Show Love with an Eye to the Future
[Eternal Bonds of Love]
Even after graduating from holding my baby,
The bond of love is enduring.
Rather, while changing shape
It becomes deeper and richer.
🌸 **A foundation built on cuddling**
The foundation of trust, security and love
🌸 **The beginning of a new relationship**
Relationship as dialogue partners
🌸 **A special bond that lasts a lifetime**
The love between parent and child lasts forever, even in different forms
🌸 **Passing on to the next generation**
For reference when my child becomes a parent
The love we put into holding our baby,
Surely deep in my child's heart
It will remain as a treasure for the rest of your life.
And when our children became parents,
That love will be passed on to the next generation
It will be passed down.
Today's hug,
Tomorrow's growth,
It's all a story of love
This is an important page.
With all my heart,
This moment
Please take good care of it.
How to successfully put your child to sleep at night: Tapping the back switch
Scientific methods to help your child sleep soundly
"He finally fell asleep... I gently put him down on the bed, but he started crying again..."
This "back switch" phenomenon
How many moms suffer from this?
I was woken up many times during the night,
"Maybe my method of putting my child to sleep is wrong..."
"I wonder if this child is sleeping properly..."
With such anxiety and fatigue,
Are you feeling exhausted both mentally and physically?
But don't worry.
The "back switch" has
There's a scientific reason and a surefire solution.
For 30 years, I've been watching over the sleep of thousands of babies.
From the wisdom of midwives and pediatricians,
"The loving method to help my child sleep soundly"
We will inform you of the following.
[Why does the "back switch" activate?]
First, put yourself in the baby's shoes.
Let's think about it.
In mommy's arms,
🌸 **Wrapped in warmth**
🌸 **I can hear your heart beating**
🌸 **There's a gentle sway**
🌸 **Smells like mommy**
🌸 **Full of peace of mind**
It's a heavenly environment.
Then suddenly,
❌ **In a cold bed**
❌ **Sound fades**
❌ **Shattering has stopped**
❌ **Mommy's smell is fading away**
❌ **Alone**
If such a sudden change occurs,
Even adults will wake up.
In other words, the "back switch" is
It's a normal reaction from the baby .
[Scientific approach: Understanding with center of gravity theory]
A baby's center of gravity is different from an adult's
It is located high up near the heart.
When this center of gravity is not supported,
The body becomes unstable,
**You instinctively sense danger and wake up.**
While holding the baby, the center of gravity is the mother's body.
It is securely supported.
But when placed on a flat bed,
The center of gravity becomes unstable
The danger alarm will sound.
[Loving your baby to sleep: 5-step method]
Based on this understanding,
Your baby can continue to sleep peacefully
We will introduce you to a 5-step love method.
**🌸Step 1: Fully Relaxed Cuddle**
- **Hold the baby upright and listen to his/her heartbeat**
"Thank you for your hard work. Let's get some rest," I said.
- **Gentle vertical sway**
In rhythm with mom's breathing
- **C-curve wrap**
Recreates a comfortable posture inside the womb
- **Wait until the tension is completely released**
Don't rush, go at your baby's pace
**🌸Step 2: Prepare the bed**
- **Warm your bed to body temperature**
Warm it up beforehand using a hot water bottle or body heat
- **Mama's scent**
Leave the clothes that your mother wore
- **Make a moderate incline**
Create a gentle slope with cushions
- **Create a quiet environment**
Consideration to avoid being woken up by sudden noises
**🌸Step 3: The Magical Transition**
- **Landing Butt First**
Stabilize your center of gravity and then lift your head.
- **Hands continue to support until the end**
Supported with love until completely placed
- **Slow movement**
Avoid sudden changes
- **Hold your breath and focus**
So that mom's tension doesn't show
**🌸Step 4: Continued peace of mind**
- **Wait 5 minutes with your hands in place**
"Mommy is here" message
- **Gentle Voice**
"It's okay, sleep well."
- **Feel the body heat**
Feeling reassured by the warmth of your hands
- **Check breathing stability**
Check for signs of deep sleep
**🌸Step 5: Fully Independent Sleep**
- **Gently release your hand**
Carefully, without making any noise
- **Adjust the room brightness**
Dim light is safer than pitch black
- **Maintain proper room temperature**
A comfortable temperature of around 20-22 degrees
- **Love that continues to watch over you**
Even if we're apart, our hearts are connected
[Tips for getting your baby to sleep by age]
**0-1 month: Full support period**
- Recreate the in-womb environment as closely as possible
- I'll wrap you in a swaddling cloth
- Frequent feedings for satisfaction
- Cherish the time you spend with your mom
**1-3 months: rhythm formation period**
- Gradually teach the difference between day and night
- Bright during the day, dim at night
- Create a bedtime routine
- Use safety items (towels, etc.)
**3 to 6 months: Preparation for independence**
- Started practicing self-sleeping
- Even if the baby cries, don't pick him up right away, just watch over him.
- Improve your bedroom environment
- Get your dad involved
[Dealing with night crying: Affection diagnosis and treatment]
**🌸 Cause-specific approach**
**Night crying during growth:**
- A temporary phenomenon caused by brain development
- Warmly watching over and gently hugging
- "It's proof that you're growing up," he said positively.
**Environmental Changes:**
- Check temperature, humidity, sound, etc.
- Adjust to a comfortable environment
- Creating a safe environment
**Illness:**
- Check for fever, stuffy nose, etc.
- Visit a doctor if necessary
- More loving care
[Caring for mom's mind and body]
If you continue to lack sleep,
A mother's mind and body are pushed to their limits.
**How to take care of yourself:**
🌸 **Don't strive for perfection**
Praise yourself by saying, "That's enough for today."
🌸 **Ask your family for help**
The courage to "not try alone"
🌸 **Take a daytime nap**
It's important to rest with your baby
🌸 **Make time to breathe**
Even if it's just for a short while, have some time for yourself
[Prepared for success]
Putting your baby to sleep isn't just about technique
It takes **love and patience**.
🌸 **Improve a little every day**
It's okay if it's not perfect
🌸 **Babies are learning too**
The process of growing together
🌸 **Love is always conveyed**
Value the heart over technology
🌸 **I'll be able to sleep alone someday**
The current difficulties are temporary
Thank you for your hard work today.
With loving care,
My child and my mother
I hope you sleep well.
Have a sweet dream.
A guide to changing how your baby holds their baby by month: the joy of feeling their growth
How your child's signs change from 0 to 3 to 6 months and how to respond
"It was so small until recently, but now it's gotten so heavy..."
"Is it okay to hold him like this?"
The way you hold your baby changes as he or she grows.
While I'm happy to see my child grow,
"Is the way I'm holding you right now correct?"
It also brings about new anxieties.
But it's okay.
Babies naturally want to be like this now.
He's sending me signs.
Read the signs with love,
The best hold for your baby's age
Let's support our children's growth.
[0-1 month: A cuddle that replicates being in the womb]
A newborn baby is
I'm still not used to this world.
The most reassuring thing is
"The feeling of being in the womb"
It's to remind you.
**Baby characteristics at this stage:**
🌸 **Many reflexive movements**
Moro reflex causes limbs to jerk
🌸 **Natural C-curve**
Prefers to have a rounded back
🌸 **Strong adhesion required**
Mom's warmth is the most reassuring thing
🌸 **Sensitive to sound**
I remember the sound of my heart and the sound of my blood flowing
**Key points for loving hugs:**
🌸 **Tightly Wrapped**
Supports the whole body like a swaddle
🌸 **Hold your baby upright to hear their heartbeat**
Reassuring with nostalgic sounds
🌸 **Slow vertical sway**
Awakening memories in the stomach
🌸 **Shhhhhhhhhhhhhh**
Relax with sounds similar to blood flow
[1-3 months: Begins to show interest in the "outside world"]
At this time when the baby's neck begins to become firm,
Your baby's world will expand greatly.
"Huh? Recently, even though I've been holding
You're looking around aimlessly..."
Have you noticed such a change?
This is called "the emergence of curiosity."
It's a great sign of growth.
**Baby characteristics at this stage:**
🌸 **Strengthens the neck**
To be able to support one's own head
🌸 **Develops vision**
Recognizes mom's face accurately
🌸 **Interested in the outside world**
Responds to sound, light, and movement
🌸 **More emotional expression**
Changes in smiles and crying
**The evolution of cuddling:**
🌸 **Incorporate forward-facing carrying**
I'll show you the same view as Mommy
🌸 **Confirm your affection with a face-to-face hug**
A special moment of eye contact
🌸 **High hug**
Providing a view that satisfies your curiosity
🌸 **Stimulate your pet by holding them on walks**
Open the door to the outside world
[3-6 months: Beginning to express their own will]
At this stage, the baby clearly
"I want it to be like this"
It will become expressive.
"Recently, the way I hold my baby has
It seems like there's a preference..."
That is, my child
This is proof that they are beginning to have their own ``individuality .''
**Baby characteristics at this stage:**
🌸 **Head sitting completed**
Free head movement
🌸 **Your lower back will also begin to stabilize**
Preparing to sit down
🌸 **Hand dexterity**
Grasping objects and bringing them to the mouth
🌸 **You may start to feel shy**
To be able to distinguish between mom and everyone else
**Diversification of affectionate hugs:**
🌸 **Challenge waist carrying**
Position the baby on the mother's hips
🌸 **Piggybacking for a new perspective**
Seeing the world through mom's eyes
🌸 **Show affection through playful cuddles**
High up and down, carrying me in an airplane
🌸 **Adjust to your liking**
Optimized based on baby's reactions
[How to read love through growth signs]
Babies cannot express themselves in words,
The whole body sends signals.
**"Hold me higher" sign:**
- Arching your back while being held
- There is a tendency to look up
- Baby gets fussy when in a low position
**Signs that "facing forward is best":**
- Trying to look outside while holding face to face
- Frequent looking back
- I'm in a better mood when I'm positive.
Signs that you need some alone time:
- Flutters their arms and legs while being held
- Shows signs of wanting to get down
- Increases the amount of time your baby won't cry when you put them in bed
[Safety Considerations for Each Stage of Development]
As we grow, our safety concerns change.
**0-1 month: Full support**
- Maintains firm head and neck support
- Avoid sudden movements
- Be careful not to bury your face
**1-3 months: Partial independence**
- Continue supporting the neck, but with a little more freedom
- Be more aware of fall prevention
- A safe environment to satisfy your curiosity
**3-6 months: Respect for independence**
- Does not restrict the baby's movements too much
- But safety is absolutely guaranteed
- New holding technique in stages
[Encouragement of "record keeping" to celebrate growth]
Our children grow up so quickly.
A special time to hold your baby
Why not keep it in your heart?
🌸 **Record with photos and videos**
Keep a record of changes in how you hold your baby
🌸 **Keep a growth journal**
Record of "I liked this hug today"
🌸 **Share with Family**
Reporting to dad and grandparents about their child's growth
🌸 **Express your gratitude**
"You've grown so much," he said.
[Be prepared to enjoy change]
"The previous way of holding him didn't work..."
Don't think that way.
That means my child is growing well.
This is excellent evidence .
Don't be afraid of change,
Discover new ways to hold your baby together
This also strengthens the bond between parent and child.
It's a special time.
A hug that evolves as your child grows,
Discover new love every day
I hope you enjoy it.
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💡Please also check out our tips for putting your baby to sleep
The debate over holding a baby upright before it can hold its head up is finally settled
The truth about sideways vs. upright holding
The latest research dispels the myth that "newborns should be held sideways" and the importance of the M-shaped legs
"Newborns cannot hold their heads up, so it's best to hold them sideways."
Did you know that this common sense is actually a poorly-founded assumption ?
In many parenting books and guides
It has been said that you should hold your baby sideways before he can hold his head up.
Based on the latest research and clinical experience,
A completely different picture is emerging.
Research by the Japan Babywearing Association, a general incorporated association,
According to midwife clinical data,
The most natural and comfortable position for a newborn is actually holding them upright
I've come to realize that this is the case.
Why is that?
Let's take a closer look at the reasons for this by looking at the physical characteristics of babies.
[Physical characteristics of a newborn baby]
First, you need to understand the newborn's skeleton.
The adult pelvis is "forward tilted"
The hip joints naturally point downwards.
However, a newborn's pelvis is "posteriorly tilted."
The crotch is facing forward, not directly down.
The natural posture is when your knees are close to your stomach.
If you lay him on his back in this state,
The baby's back does not curve,
It makes me feel unstable and stressed.
On the other hand, when holding the baby upright—
🔹 Creates a natural C-curve in the back
🔹 Firmly supports the center of gravity (near the heart)
🔹 Maintains the M-shaped open leg position
🔹 Breathe easier
[The importance of the M-shaped split]
Particularly important is the "M-shaped leg spread."
This is the baby's legs
It refers to the state in which the base opens in an M shape.
By maintaining this posture,
"Developmental dysplasia of the hip"
It can prevent hip dislocation.
When holding a baby horizontally, the baby's legs inevitably stretch out,
It's difficult to maintain the M-leg position.
If you try to hold your baby sideways using a sling,
Not only can I not maintain my M-shaped legs,
It also increases the risk of choking.
[Actual research data]
In one study,
When comparing the stability of babies when held horizontally and vertically,
Holding it upright is better—
🔹 Stabilizes heart rate
🔹 Deeper breathing
Maintains proper muscle tone
🔹 Crying time decreases
The results are as follows.
Additionally, Yumiko Moriki, a midwife (Tosa City Midwifery Clinic "Haguhagu"),
From 30 years of clinical experience
"Compared to holding vertically, holding horizontally is
The area that comes into contact with the baby is small,
It feels heavy. It's hard to hold for a few hours."
He points out that:
[Correct way to hold a baby upright]
So, how can you safely hold a newborn upright?
What should I do?
The important points are:
"Providing firm support from the neck to the waist."
**procedure:**
1. Stand in front of your baby.
Insert both hands from both sides
2. Support the head and neck with one hand.
Support your buttocks with your other hand
3. Imagine the baby's face resting on your shoulder
Hold the child leaning against your body
4. Neck, head, back, and buttocks
Support firmly with hands and arms
At this time, the baby's weight
Because it is distributed in the adult body,
Utilizing the "clinging power" of the M-shaped split
It allows for a natural and stable hold.
[Situations where side-holding is appropriate]
However, this does not mean that side-holding is completely unnecessary.
🔹 When breastfeeding
🔹 When you want to take a closer look at your baby's face
🔹 When you have a small build and it's difficult to do the M-shaped splits
In these situations, holding the baby sideways is also effective.
The important thing is,
Throw away the fixed idea that "you have to hold your baby sideways"
The most important thing is to prioritize your baby's natural position .
In the next section,
With such a proper embrace
Specific techniques to stop your baby from crying
We will introduce it in detail.
The magical technique to stop newborns from crying
A secret that 90% of moms don't know
How to make your baby feel safe by listening to the heartbeat, vertical movement, and C-curve
"He won't stop crying even when I hold him..."
"For some reason, when I hold him he cries even more..."
Have you ever had such an experience?
Actually, there is a trick to holding a baby.
Simply placing it on your arm,
The baby cannot feel safe.
Midwife Aki Naoi (director of Sara Midwifery Clinic)
Developed from experience working with 50,000 babies
Let me introduce you to the ``magic hugging technique.''
[Secret 1: Listen to the sound of your heart]
The baby is 10 months old
I listened to my mother's heartbeat the whole time I was in her womb.
"Thump, thump, thump..."
This sound is good for babies
It is a symbol of safety and love .
When you hold your baby,
So that baby's ears are closer to mom's heart
Try adjusting the position.
When you hold your baby vertically and place his/her face on your shoulder,
This will put you in a position where you can naturally hear your heartbeat.
Many moms
"When I held him upright, he suddenly stopped crying!"
It is due to this effect that we report
[Secret 2: Why vertical shaking is effective]
They often say things like "pat your butt"
You may see a scene where the aircraft sways back and forth.
In fact, this is often uncomfortable for the baby.
The vibrations that babies find soothing are
"It's like the vibration you feel when you're in the womb."
During pregnancy, when a mother walks or sits,
What was it like?
Shaking violently from side to side,
You didn't pound on your stomach, did you?
What babies are used to is
It's the "rhythm of vertical swaying when walking."
**Effective shaking method:**
🔹 Standing, slowly stepping
🔹 Speed that matches adult breathing
🔹 Gently rock vertically with up and down movements
I felt this rhythm in my stomach
It's almost the same rhythm as mom's walking.
[Secret 3: The importance of the C-curve]
Pay attention to your baby's back.
In my stomach, I was curled up in a ball.
Even after birth, this "C-shaped curve"
It is the most reassuring position.
Many mothers unconsciously
Try to keep your baby's back straight
This is stressful for the baby.
In the right embrace—
🔹 Your back will form a gentle C shape
🔹 Knees approaching the stomach
🔹 The whole body is pressed against the mother
By maintaining this posture,
Babies want to feel the sense of security they had when they were in the womb.
You can feel it again.
[Practical: How to stop a crying baby in 3 seconds]
Combining these elements
We will introduce you to the "3-second crying stop technique."
**procedure:**
1. **Hold the baby upright and close together**
Place baby's body close to mom's body
2. **Adjust to the position of your heart**
To keep your baby's ears close to the heart
3. **Create a C-curve**
Supports the natural curve of the back
4. **Start vertical shaking**
Slowly rock up and down in time with your breathing
5. **The "Shhh" Sound**
It makes a hissing sound similar to the sound of blood flowing inside the stomach.
With this technique,
Over 90% of babies stop crying within 30 seconds
It's been proven.
【Why is it effective?】
This technique is effective because
This is because it directly affects the baby's brain.
🔹 **Vagus nerve stimulation**: Vertical rocking has a relaxing effect
🔹 **Oxytocin release**: Close contact releases the comfort hormone
🔹 **Memory Recall**: Recall the feeling in your stomach
In other words, based on scientific evidence
It's a way to send a signal of security to your baby's brain .
[Notes]
However, if your baby does not stop crying even after being held,
Physical discomfort (diapers, hunger, heat, cold, feeling unwell)
This may be the cause.
How to distinguish between mental and physical discomfort
We'll go into more detail in a later section.
First, try this "magic hug technique"
Please give it a try.
I'm sure your new relationship with your baby will
It will begin.
Deepen your bond with your child with loving hugs
In this article, we will discuss holding a newborn baby.
Combining the latest scientific knowledge with a mother's love
Practical tips are presented in 12 detailed sections.
The remaining 9 sections cover the truth about hugging addiction,
How to hold your baby to protect your body, and how your baby's growth changes over time.
How to choose a baby-first baby carrier, how to diagnose affection, etc.
"I want to raise my newborn child with care."
Information that meets the wishes of mothers
It covers it all.
Special time with your beloved baby
To make it even happier,
Be sure to check out all the sections.