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A complete guide to naming your baby
Register your birth within 14 days! Naming your baby without regrets
To the tiny life moving inside my belly,
"What name should I give it...?"
The moment I think about it,
It's one of the happiest times during pregnancy.
But at the same time,
"Is this really the right name?"
"Is this a name that won't cause problems for this child in the future?"
Perhaps such anxiety lies deep within our hearts.
The name is from mom and dad to their child.
The first and greatest gift of my life .
For the child's entire life,
An important name that has been called, written, and called tens of thousands of times.
That's why,
"Maybe there was a better name..."
You definitely want to avoid regretting something like that.
With experience of naming 3,000 babies over 30 years,
What is a really good name?
We will give you the answer, while embracing the love of a mother.
By the time you finish reading this guide,
"I'm really glad I chose this name."
You will be able to choose a name that you can be truly confident in.
For my dear child to be born,
Let's find a great name together.
Complete naming schedule starting from the 7th month of pregnancy
Don't panic just before giving birth! A timeline of what you should decide by when
"I'm only seven months pregnant, so I don't need to think about a name yet..."
Moms who think so, it's actually very dangerous.
This is because just before the birth, the couple had a falling out over the name.
It would ruin the best moment of my child's birth.
Because I've seen a lot of cases.
"It wasn't supposed to be like this..."
To avoid such regrets,
There is a "golden schedule" for naming.
Born from 30 years of naming experience,
The most stress-free and affectionate name
I'll let you know the timetable to get there.
[7th to early 8th month of pregnancy] Time to lovingly gather candidates
During this time, focus on "collecting with love."
Thinking about the baby in my belly,
Make a list of 10-15 names that interest you.
The important thing at this stage is to respect your "mom's intuition."
"It makes me feel kind of warm."
"This sound is wonderful."
"I think this child will be able to proudly call himself that in the future."
Trust your intuition as a mother.
Why is this time important?
In fact, during the later stages of pregnancy
Changes in your physical condition can make it difficult to concentrate,
Your emotions may become more intense.
This is also a time when anxiety about childbirth increases .
Within 7-8 months, when the body and mind are relatively stable,
By completing the "Collecting Materials for Love"
This will make the subsequent review go more smoothly.
[Late 8th to early 9th month of pregnancy] The time when couples squeeze their bodies together with love
Finally, narrow down the candidates you have collected to 3-5.
The key points at this time are:
Think about it based on your love for this child .
How does it feel when you call this name?
"What do you want your child to be when he grows up?"
What do you want to convey in this name?
As the couple had these conversations,
Please narrow it down lovingly .
A common problem during this time is
"The couple disagrees."
But actually, this is a very beautiful thing .
Because that's how much mom and dad
It's proof that you care deeply about your child.
When we disagree,
This is your chance to discover the depth of your love for each other .
[Late 9th month of pregnancy - before birth] The time to make final decisions with love
Now it's time to make the final decision.
The secret to this period is
Don't look for a "perfect name."
because,
A name that is 80 points and filled with parental love is
Because it's definitely a perfect score for that child .
"With this name, I can love this child for the rest of my life."
If that's the name you truly feel,
That is the best choice.
By deciding by this time,
Giving birth is the greatest experience of life
You will be able to concentrate without any worries.
Many experienced mothers look back with a smile on their faces.
"It's really good that we decided on a name early on.
Thanks to this, I was able to concentrate on giving birth.
From the moment he was born, I was filled with love and called his name."
That is what it means.
In the hectic days after giving birth
I don't have the mental space to think of a name.
Honestly, no.
With loving and planned naming,
A peaceful maternity life
I hope you get both great names.
Parents' opinions are split!
Techniques for discussions that don't involve fighting over names
"I like this name" "I have another name"
Five solutions to bridge the gap
"My dad calls me 'Shinichi', but I think 'Souta' is better..."
The couple had different opinions about the name,
Have you ever had an experience where the atmosphere became tense?
In fact, this is the path that over 90% of couples take .
Why is a name so divisive?
That is the feeling that goes into the name.
Because men and women are fundamentally different.
In many cases,
Women place importance on "beauty of sound" and "ease of pronunciation,"
Men tend to place importance on "depth of meaning" and "future potential."
Both are correct points of view.
That's why it's not a conflict
It is important to think of it as a complementary relationship .
[Solution 1: Listen to each other's thoughts and background]
"Why do you think that's a good name?"
Start with this question.
"Actually, I wanted to use one letter from my late father's name..."
"I wanted a name that would be accepted overseas..."
When asked the reason,
"So that's what you were thinking."
There are many things we can understand.
Solution 2: Prioritize your conditions
The couple discussed,
Let's rank the requirements for a name.
1. Ease of calling
2. Meaning of Kanji
3. Number of strokes
4. Rarity
5. Internationality
When organized like this,
Which name meets the most criteria?
It can be judged objectively.
Solution 3: Create a trial period
A name you're interested in, one per week
Try using it as a temporary name.
Towards the baby in the womb
"Good morning, ○○-chan"
"○○-kun, how are you today?"
Try calling out, ``Thank you.''
When you actually use it,
"It feels right" "Something's not right"
This feeling is naturally understandable.
Solution 4: Get a third party opinion
A trusted senior mom
It may also be helpful to talk to your parents.
However, there are some points to note.
The final decision rests with the couple .
Listen as a reference,
Ultimately, it's important that you both make the decision together.
Solution 5: Try the "combined strategy"
Combining our desires,
How to create a new name.
Dad's wish: I want to use the kanji character "Yui" (courage).
Mom's wish: I want it to sound like "XX and"
↓
New Idea: "Yuto"
In this way,
You may even find a name that respects both of your feelings.
When we fight over names,
Think about it this way.
"Diverging opinions means
That's proof that I'm taking it seriously."
Whatever name you end up deciding on,
The bond between husband and wife that was deepened in the process
I'm sure this will also be useful in raising children.
Is name recognition really necessary?
The truth behind the belief in stroke counts and how to use them in modern times
Superstition vs scientific basis |
How to deal with name fortune-telling as chosen by wise parents
"This name is no good because it has a bad number of strokes."
That's what my grandma told me,
Have you ever had a difficult experience?
Regarding name judgment,
There are questions that many people have.
"Does the number of strokes really determine your life?"
"Is there any scientific basis for this?"
"Can I just ignore you completely?"
With 30 years of naming experience,
We'll answer this complex question.
[Scientific fact: There is no causal relationship between the number of strokes and fortune]
First, let me be clear.
In modern science,
There is no clear causal relationship between the number of strokes in a name and success in life .
Not everyone with the same number of strokes will have the same fate.
It is not necessarily the case that people with names with "bad" numbers of strokes will be unhappy.
So why is there so much faith in name divination?
[Psychological effect: The power of the placebo effect]
In fact, the true power of name divination is
It's about "psychological security."
By thinking, "I gave my child a name with a good number of strokes,"
Parents feel at ease and confident in raising their children.
This "parental confidence"
Indirectly contributes to children's development
It's entirely possible that it will have a positive impact.
[How to deal with modern name fortune-telling]
So, how should we approach name analysis?
Our recommendation is to use it only as a reference .
Specifically, here's how to use it:
Step 1: Choose a name you like
Sound, meaning, origin, etc.
Simply choose a name that you like.
Step 2: Then check the number of strokes
Check the number of strokes in the name you have chosen.
Step 3: Don't get too excited or upset about the results
If the result is good, just consider it lucky.
Even if the results are bad, just treat it as a coincidence.
[Three points more important than the number of strokes]
I was too distracted by the number of strokes,
Let's not lose sight of what's really important.
1. Is it a name your child can be proud of?
In the future, that child will have his own name.
Whether you can proudly state your name.
This is the most important thing.
2. Is it a name that the whole family can love?
Because it's a name I call many times every day,
It's important to love your family with all your heart.
3. Is it practical?
Easy to read, easy to write,
It's easy to remember.
Practicality is also an important factor.
[How to deal with the grandparent generation]
When someone says, "The number of strokes is bad,"
Try explaining it like this.
"Compared to my mother-in-law's time,
Nowadays, people's attitudes towards fortune-telling based on names are changing.
However, I feel that Mr./Ms. XX (my grandparents) are worried about me.
I'm very happy.
In our own way,
The best name for this child
I will think about it carefully."
In this way,
Showing gratitude,
But the final decision is up to us
It is important to convey this.
A name is something that lasts a lifetime.
Not limited to the number of strokes,
A marriage that couples can truly understand,
Choose a name that is full of love.
How easy it sounds to pronounce determines a child's future
Names that even a 3-year-old can say vs. complicated-sounding ones |
Impact on communication skills
"I wonder if my child's name is difficult to pronounce..."
Other children at the nursery
Seeing my child struggling to call his name,
Have you ever felt that kind of anxiety?
In fact, the "sound" and "ease of pronunciation" of a name are
Your child's future communication skills
It has a bigger impact than you might imagine .
Over the past 30 years, I have watched 3,000 children grow up.
Here's a surprising fact I learned.
A child with a name that even a three-year-old can call naturally is
They tend to have many friends and develop a positive personality.
That is what it means.
Why does this happen?
[The relationship between 3-year-olds' pronunciation ability and their names]
Sounds that are easy for a 3-year-old to pronounce include:
There is a clear pattern.
Easy to pronounce sounds :
・A, I, U, E, O (vowels)
・Ka, Ki, Ku, Ke, Ko (Ka row)
・Sa, Shi, Su, Se, So (Sa row)
・Ta, Chi, Tsu, Te, To (Ta row)
・Na, ni, nu, ne, no (Na row)
・Ma, Mi, Mu, Me, Mo (Ma row)
Difficult sounds to pronounce :
・Ra, ri, ru, re, ro (Ra row)
・Za, Ji, Zu, Ze, Zo (Za row)
・Long vowels (ryu, sho, etc.)
・Sounds with a short consonant (っ)
For example, names like "Yuuto," "Mio," and "Akari"
Even a 3-year-old can easily pronounce it.
"Ryunosuke," "Juria," "Reijiro," etc.
It's difficult for small children.
[The impact of "ease of being called" on personality development]
Psychological research has shown that
"The more often a child's name is called,
It increases self-esteem."
Think about it.
In nurseries and kindergartens,
A friend said, "Hey, ○○, let's play together!"
With children who are happy to talk to you,
It's hard to say the name
A child who is often referred to as "that kid" or "that kid."
Which one will develop a more positive and cheerful personality?
[The scientific influence of sound on personality]
Even more surprising,
The sound of the name itself is
It influences the development of a child's personality
This has been revealed through psychoacoustic research.
Bright and lively sound :
・"A" sound: open, bright
・"i" sound: sharp, intelligent
・"Ka" sound: Powerful, leadership qualities
・The "ta" sound: stability, reliability
A gentle and calming sound :
・The "o" sound: tolerance, warmth
・The "na" sound: familiarity
・"Ma" sound: healing, kindness
・"Yu" sound: relaxed, calm
In fact, there are many names such as "Akira," "Takeshi," and "Kazuki."
Children with names that contain strong sounds
Often demonstrates leadership
"Mao," "Nana," "Yui"
Children with names that contain soft sounds
They tend to develop a caring personality.
[Impact on future communication skills]
From an early age, I learned my name
Children who grow up in an environment where nature calls them
・Become good at self-introductions
- Actively trying to interact with people
・Be able to express your opinion clearly
・Good teamwork
It will have the following characteristics:
On the other hand, it's hard to call their names.
Children who often misread
When introducing yourself
"They won't remember it anyway"
"I'll be mistaken again."
I tend to have negative feelings.
[Practical ways to create an easy-to-pronounce name]
So what is the ideal name?
1. Names of two or three sounds
"Yui," "Sou," "An," "Ren," etc.
A short, easy-to-remember name
2. Avoid repetitive sounds
"Nanako," "Ruruka," "Sasaki," etc.
Repeating the same sounds can easily cause tongue tangles
3. Be creative with your endings
Boys: Names ending with "to", "ki", or "ma"
Girls: Names ending with "ko", "ka", or "mi"
is easy to call
4. Be aware of your accent
Rather than a flat accent,
Names with varying pitch accents are better
Easy to remember
[How to test the sound of your name]
If you have a name idea that interests you,
Please try this test.
1. Try calling it three times in a row
"○○-chan, ○○-chan, ○○-chan"
Make sure your tongue doesn't get tangled
2. Call them when you're angry
"○○! That's not okay!"
Can you say it with a clear voice?
3. Call from afar
In a loud voice, like calling in the park
Make sure it's easy to hear
4. Call them affectionately
"○○, I love you"
Can you feel the warmth?
The name will remain with the child for the rest of their life.
I've been called tens of thousands of times, and I've said it myself tens of thousands of times.
It's a special sound.
That's why,
"A sound that makes you want to call out affectionately"
"The sounds that people around you naturally call out to you"
To choose
For your child's bright future
It will be the first gift.
Choosing a name that is suitable for international and global audiences
A complete guide to pronunciation, spelling, and cultural considerations for when you're abroad
"This child may become successful overseas in the future..."
In today's world of increasing globalization,
The number of mothers who feel this way is rapidly increasing.
In fact, by the time today's children become adults,
Contact with overseas countries will become more commonplace than ever .
However, when you actually try to think of an "international name,"
What kind of name is accepted overseas?
"I want to cherish the Japanese feel, but..."
Are there any names that are easy to pronounce?
Questions like these come to mind one after another.
In my 30 years of naming experience,
Hearing from people who are actually active overseas
Based on "Stories of benefits from names" and "Stories of troubles,"
Truly international, yet retaining a Japanese flair
Here are some tips for choosing a name.
[The reality of "name problems" that actually occur overseas]
First, let's know the reality.
Hearing from Japanese people living overseas
"Real experiences of having trouble with names"
Here's something like this:
Pronunciation difficulties :
・"Ryuunosuke" → "Runosuke?"
・"Shuhei" → "Shupei?"
・"Hiroyuki" → "Hiroyuki?"
Spelling confusion :
・"Yuuki" → "Yuki? Yuuki? Yuhki?"
・"Keisuke" → "Keisuke? Kaisuke?"
Cultural misunderstanding :
・"Sakura" → "Sakura = too Japanese and hard to remember"
・"Taro" → "An old-fashioned and unfriendly impression"
But on the other hand,
"My name has enriched my life."
There are many stories like this.
[Three conditions for a name that is loved internationally]
Loved and enjoyed all over the world
When analyzing Japanese names,
Three commonalities emerge.
Condition 1: Pronunciation is universal
A name that uses sounds that can be pronounced almost the same all over the world.
Excellent examples :
・"An": Common in Asia, Europe, and America
・"Ken": A familiar name in English-speaking countries
・"Mio": means "my" in Italian
・"Rio": Spanish for "river," a friendly word
・"Ema": Also found as a European name
Condition 2: Intuitive spelling
When written in Roman letters,
Spelling that foreigners can see and pronounce immediately.
A clear example :
・"Mai": "My"
・"Kai": "Sea"
・"Yui": "Yui"
・"Ren": "Ren"
・"Jun": "Jun"
Condition 3: Cultural beauty
While retaining the beauty of Japan,
Meanings and impressions that are easy for people from other cultures to understand.
Great example :
・"Hikari": "Light" = Universal beauty
・"Sora": "Sky" = A universal aspiration
・"Aoi": "Blue" = peaceful impression
・"Haru": "Spring" = Symbol of hope
[International No-No Patterns to Avoid]
On the other hand, there is a high possibility of encountering difficulties overseas.
Be aware of naming patterns too.
Difficulty in pronunciation patterns :
・Names that contain "tsu" (such as "Tsubasa" or "Natsuki")
- Names with many long vowels (such as "Ryunosuke" or "Shotaro")
・The "fu" sound ("Fumika", "Fuuta", etc.)
Cultural insensitivity patterns :
・Names that evoke a specific religion
・Names that have inappropriate meanings in other languages
・A name that is too Japanese and creates a sense of distance
[Regional and international name strategies]
Depending on where your child will be active in the future,
Naming strategies will also change.
If you are focusing on English-speaking countries :
・"Ren," "Ken," "Jun" (short and strong)
・"Mai," "Yui," "Rei" (feminine and beautiful)
For a European focus :
・"Anna," "Emma," "Mia" (these are similar to local names but are easy to remember)
・"Leo," "Kai," and "Rio" (international and stylish)
If you are focusing on Asia :
・"Akira," "Yuki," and "Saki" (naturally Asian)
・"Hana," "Kana," "Sara" (easy to remember and beautiful)
[Practical techniques for international moms]
When actually considering an international name
Here are some checkpoints.
1. Multilingual Pronunciation Test
・Try speaking in an English way
・Try speaking in a French way
・Try speaking in a Chinese way
Make sure it sounds natural in any language
2. Spell Check
・Check the meaning of each language using Google Translate
・Ask an English-speaking friend to pronounce it for you
・Check if it is easy to write in Roman letters
3. Nickname support
・Is it okay to be called by a shortened form?
・Is it easy to use as a nickname?
・Can you come up with a local nickname?
[International while cherishing the Japanese spirit]
However, you should not forget
"Identity as a Japanese person."
If you give it a completely Western name,
Your child is the future
"I'm Japanese, so why do I have this name?"
You may be wondering, "Why is this important?"
The ideal situation is
While having a beautiful meaning in Japanese,
It's a name that sounds familiar to people all over the world.
for example:
・"Akari": Light, brightness
・"Mirai": Future
・"Sota": Refreshing, sunny
・"Yuna": Elegant, Nara
These names are
Proud to be Japanese,
But loved all over the world
It has the best balance.
In this era of increasing globalization,
Having a name that is loved all over the world
It will be a great asset for your child .
But what's even more important is,
Filled with parental love,
It's a name that I can be truly proud of.
Is it necessary to have consistent names for siblings? Naming rules for siblings
Is the "○○" series old?
The Golden Rules of Modern Sibling Naming
"The older brother is called 'Taro', so the younger brother is called 'Jiro'?"
When thinking of names for your second or subsequent children,
Many parents worry about
"Do siblings need consistent names?"
This is the problem.
The old-fashioned "Taro, Jiro, Saburo"
Like "Hanako, Sakurako, Umeko"
Is there a need for clear consistency?
Or maybe each one has a unique name?
Is it modern and good?
With 30 years of experience in naming many siblings,
"Modern and Beautiful Sibling Name Rules"
We will inform you of the following.
In fact, my siblings' names include
It has a deeper meaning and impact than you might think.
[The psychological impact of siblings' names on children]
First of all, you should know that:
The relationship between the names of siblings
The psychological impact on children.
The benefits of consistency :
-Feel a sense of unity as a family
・People around me say, "You have such wonderful siblings."
・Feel the fairness of your parents' love
・Family ties can be expressed through names
Advantages of lack of consistency :
・Respect each individuality
- Choose the best name for each person
・Adaptable to the changing times
Emphasis on the child's own identity
Because there are benefits to both
Many parents worry about this.
[Five modern patterns of sibling unity]
It's not like the old "Taro and Jiro" style.
There is a way to create a sense of unity that is appropriate for the modern era.
Pattern 1: Theme-based
How to choose names from the same theme.
It creates a subtle sense of unity.
Nature Theme :
・Sora (sky), Umi (sea), Yama (mountain)
・Sakura (cherry blossom), ・Kaede (maple), ・Suzuka (cool breeze)
Seasonal Themes :
・Haru (Spring) ・Natsu (Summer) ・Aki (Autumn)
・Haruka (Haruka), Natsuki (Natsuki), Akito (Akito)
Light Theme :
・Hikari (light) ・Akari (bright) ・Hikaru (brightness)
・Teru (shine) ・Tera (good light) ・Hikata (positive side)
Pattern 2: Phonological unification
A method for unifying resonance and sound characteristics.
It is easy to pronounce and remember.
Consistency of endings :
・Yuto ・Keito ・Father-in-law
・Yuna ・Kana ・Anna
Unified number of characters :
・An・Ren・Ken (2 letters)
・Yuuki・Naoki・Hiroki (3 letters)
Uniform sound :
・Mao ・Rio ・Mio (○Otone)
・Kai・rai・sora (bright sound)
Pattern 3: Kanji unification
A method of creating a sense of unity by using the same kanji and radicals.
This is the most obvious sense of unity.
Common kanji used :
・Aimi (Aimi), Aiko (Aiko), Aika (Aika)
・Daiki ・Daito ・Daichi
Radical unity :
・Tree (itsuki), maple (kaede), cherry blossom (sakura) [with the wood radical]
・Kaito, Ryota, and Seika (Water radical)
Pattern 4: Semantic unification
How to unify the meaning and wishes of a name.
It can express deep affection.
Hope/Future :
・Mirai (future) ・Nozomi (hope) ・Yume (dream)
・Asuka ・Miraito (people from the future) ・Kibo (hope)
Kindness and compassion :
・Kindness ・Heart ・Love
・Yuto (Yuto), Airi (Airi), Koharu (Kokoharu)
Pattern 5: Free combination type
Without being particular about uniformity,
How to choose the best name for each child.
・First child: A modern name that suits the times
・Second child: A traditional and beautiful name
・Third person: International and global name
In today's world where individuality is valued,
This pattern is also increasing.
[Five mistakes to avoid when naming siblings]
It has become clear from many years of experience that
We will also tell you about patterns of things you will regret doing.
Failure Pattern 1: Names that convey inequality
・First person: "Mio" (simple)
・Second person: "Sakurako" (formal)
The child himself said, "My older sister is more special."
You may feel it.
Failure Pattern 2: Differences in reading difficulty
・First person: "Takeshi" (anyone can read it)
・Second person: "Airu" (cannot read)
Only younger brothers and sisters will have trouble with names.
Failure Pattern 3: Out of sync with the times
・First person: "Yuuto" (modern)
・Second person: "You" (Showa-era)
Changes in parents' values
It's a pattern that's reflected in the name.
Failure Pattern 4: Gender-Based Treatment
・Boys: A cool and powerful name
・Girls: Just a cute name
In today's world, gender inequality
Care must be taken to ensure this is not felt.
Failure Pattern 5: The Perfectionism Trap
If the first one has a perfect name,
The hurdles are too high for the second child and beyond
I can't decide.
[Modern Golden Rules for Sibling Naming]
Based on past experience,
Suitable for the modern age
Here are the golden rules for naming siblings.
Rule 1: Maintain equality of affection
Every child's name is given with the same love and
So that you can see that a lot of thought has gone into it.
Rule 2: Balance individuality and harmony
While being conscious of a sense of unity,
Respect each individual's individuality.
Rule 3: Consider the future
When all the children become adults,
A name you can be proud of.
Rule 4: Uniform pronunciation
It's easy for parents to call out on a daily basis,
To be called affectionately.
Rule 5: Adapt to changing times
Even if there is a gap of several years,
So that it doesn't feel too out of touch with the times.
My siblings' names are
It is an important element that expresses family ties.
But I was too tied to uniformity.
Names that aren't the best for each child
If you do put it on, it will defeat the purpose.
While cherishing the "unity of love as a family,"
Prioritizing the individuality and happiness of each individual
Thinking is the most important thing.
How to avoid name battles with your grandparents
Dodge the "I can't read names these days" attack
Amicable resolution techniques
"No one can read that name!"
My mother-in-law said those words to me.
Have you ever had a hurt experience?
The name that was thought up with love
"Parents these days..." "Flashy names..."
When criticized,
Your heart will be filled with sadness and anger .
But in fact, there are differences in the perception of names between these generations.
There is a deep reason,
There are solutions that can be understood.
Countless times over the past 30 years
"Grandparents vs. Couple Name Battle"
From my experience in arbitration,
No one gets hurt and everyone is satisfied
We will teach you techniques for a smooth resolution.
【Why are our grandparents so picky about names?】
First, you need to understand
This is the feeling towards names of my grandparents' generation .
What they oppose is
It's never out of spite.
Background of the grandparents' generation's view of names :
・The heavy responsibility of having a name that lasts a lifetime
I'm genuinely worried about my grandchildren's future.
・Experience the difficulty of dealing with names you can't read
I've actually seen people who have trouble with difficult-to-read names.
・The value of "cherishing tradition"
A desire to pass on family lineage and culture
・The affection of "thinking about my grandchildren"
He truly expressed his wish for his grandchild's happiness.
In other words, at the root of it all is love for one's grandchildren .
Without this understanding,
It becomes an emotional conflict.
[Common patterns of grandparents' opposition and how to deal with them]
The opposite pattern that is actually common is
We will introduce effective solutions for each.
Pattern 1: "Unreadable names are no good" attack
Examples of what grandparents say :
"Was it written as 'Kokoa' and pronounced 'Kokoa'?
No one can read a name like that!"
Effective measures :
❌ **Bad Response**:
"Times are different!"
"These names are common now!"
⭕ **Good Service**:
"I understand your concerns, Grandma.
Actually, we had the same concerns at first.
But when I looked into it,
This combination of kanji means "love in the heart"
It has a very beautiful meaning,
Recently, even in nursery schools, teachers
They read it carefully.
It's an easy sound to remember once you hear it,
A name that this child can be proud of
I think it will be."
point :
Start with empathy
・Provide specific evidence
・Explain the realistic situation
Emphasizes love for grandchildren
Pattern 2: "Bad number of strokes" attack
Examples of what grandparents say :
"This number of strokes is extremely unlucky!
What if my grandchildren become unhappy?!"
Effective measures :
⭕ **Good Service**:
"Grandpa's happiness for his grandson
The feeling of concern,
I am truly grateful.
We also consider name judgment.
I did some research.
Of course, interpretations vary depending on the school,
The most important thing is parental love
A specialist teacher also said the same thing.
This name includes:
I want my child to grow up to be healthy and kind.
It is our heartfelt wish.
That feeling will surely make this child
I believe it will lead you to happiness."
point :
・Express gratitude
・Providing specialized information
- Emphasize the importance of love
Express your beliefs gently
Pattern 3: "Use an old-fashioned name" attack
Examples of what grandparents say :
"Names with 'ko' in them are more elegant.
"Miki" or "Kazuko"..."
Effective measures :
⭕ **Good Service**:
"In my grandmother's time
The beautiful name is also really lovely.
The elegance of names with "ko" in them,
I admire that too.
The name we chose this time was
Truly a classic beauty
It's a modern twist.
When this child grows up,
Timeless
I hope that people will think of it as a classy name.
I thought about it.
Grandma's sense of beauty
I will use this as a reference,
Thank you so much."
point :
- Recognize the other person's values
Explain the reasons for their choices
・Aware of bridging the gap between tradition and modernity
Acknowledge the influence of others
[Five golden techniques for resolving disputes amicably]
Developed from years of experience,
This is a sure way to avoid damaging your relationship.
Technique 1: "Pre-consultation" strategy
Before deciding on a name,
Talk to your grandparents for advice.
"What's your father-in-law's name?
Do you think it's nice?
I'd like to use it as a reference..."
By doing this,
The feeling of being respected
You can have it.
Technique 2: "Progressive Disclosure" Strategy
Rather than immediately conveying the finished product,
Disclose information in stages.
Step 1: Communicate only the sound
"I'm thinking of the sound of 'Yui'"
Step 2: Discuss kanji candidates
"I'm torn between 'Yui', 'Yui', and 'Yui'"
Step 3: Explain your reasons for your choice
"'Yui' means connections with people..."
Technique 3: Utilizing "Expert Opinions"
Citing third-party expert opinions.
"I consulted with a naming specialist,
This name means ____
He said it was very good."
Grandparents' generation had authoritative opinions
There is a tendency to place importance on
Technique 4: Expressing gratitude and respect
Always express gratitude and respect.
"I always think about this child
Thank you for your concern.
Thank you so much."
"Grandma's opinion
I’m always learning.”
Technique 5: Sharing your love for your grandchildren
eventually,
That they are united in their love for their grandchildren
Check with each other.
"Let's all make this child happy
What we wish for is the same."
"I hope this child will grow up loved.
It’s the most important thing.”
[Last resort: Time is your ally]
But still, no matter what
If you don't understand,
Make time your ally .
The baby is born,
When I see him actually being called by that name,
Many grandparents
"It's a cute name after all."
They will say, ``I'm sorry.''
Once it becomes "the name of your beloved grandchild,"
Any name can feel special.
[Choosing a name that deepens family ties]
The differences of opinion regarding the name
In fact, it's also an opportunity to strengthen family bonds .
Understanding each other's values,
Confirming love for grandchildren
Think of it as a valuable opportunity.
Ultimately, what matters is
"The whole family loves this child."
That is the fact.
Even if there are differences of opinion about the name,
The love that lies at the heart of it
Because we're all the same.
Should you avoid trendy names? The boundaries of individuality
Avoid the tragedy of having three students with the same name in a class
How to Choose Wisely
"There are three Yutos in my nursery class..."
Hearing that story,
"Is my child's name okay?"
Have you ever felt anxious about this?
on the other hand,
"I want to avoid trendy names,
I'm also worried that it's too unique..."
I think that's how you feel too.
The security of a popular name
The special feeling of a unique name .
This exquisite balance
How should I take it?
What I learned from 30 years of naming experience
Regarding the "golden balance between trend and individuality,"
I will give you more details.
[The Light and Dark Side of Popular Names]
First, about trendy names
Let's understand it correctly.
The benefits of a popular name :
Easy to read and remember
- Beautiful sound that matches the times
Easy to be accepted by those around you
- It will not become outdated in the future
・It's easy to feel close to friends of the same generation
Disadvantages of popular names :
There may be a child with the same name in the same class .
Loss of specialness and individuality
・It may give the impression of being "commonplace."
・It will be called "the name of that generation" in the future.
It may be difficult to identify individuals
Both have their advantages and disadvantages.
What's important is,
How much "popularity" is acceptable?
Think about it.
[How serious is the "name-same problem" actually?]
Regarding the "same name problem" that many parents are concerned about,
I'll give you some real data.
Probability of having a child with the same name :
・**Most popular name**:
Approximately 2-3 people in a class of 30
・**Top 10 most popular names**:
Approximately 1-2 people in a class of 30
・**Top 50 most popular names**:
Approximately 0-1 person in a class of 30
・**Names ranked below 100th in popularity**:
There is almost no one with the same name
In other words, if you choose a ranking below 50th place,
The problem of identical names can be largely avoided .
[Actual experiences of children with the same name]
So, what if there is actually a child with the same name?
What impact does this have?
Positive Experience :
- A sense of camaraderie is born
"We have the same name!"
In many cases, people become friends quickly
・Calling people differently creates individuality
Instead of "Yuuto A" and "Yuuto B",
"Tall Yuuto" "Little Yuuto" etc.
They are called by their distinctive features, and their individuality stands out.
・Pride in having a "popular name"
"Our name is popular, isn't it?"
Positive attitude
Negative Experience :
・The stress of calling the wrong person
Teachers sometimes call me by the wrong name
・Feeling of "buried individuality"
It's hard to feel special and unique.
・Difficulty in "distinguishing by name"
Confusion at parent-teacher meetings
Overall,
The reality is that the majority of experiences are positive .
[The risks of having a name that is too unique]
On the other hand, avoiding trends too much
There is also the risk of becoming too personal.
Disadvantages of hard-to-read names :
- Explanation required every time
Explain how to read it every time you introduce yourself
- Mistakes in the documents
Possibility of errors in official documents
・Difficult to remember
It takes time for people to remember you when you meet them for the first time
・Impact on job hunting
"I don't know how to read it" on my resume
Possibility of weaker impression
[The ideal balance of trend and individuality]
So what's the ideal balance?
We recommend names that are ranked 20th-80th in popularity .
The name of this range is:
-Moderately modern and beautiful sound
・There are only 1-2 children with the same name.
Easy to read and remember
- Maintains individuality to a certain extent
・Safe for the future
Specific examples :
**boy**:
・Kaito, Riku, Souma, Takumi
・Ren, Aoto, Ryouta, Kouki
**girl**:
・Akari, Nanami, Momoka, Rin
・Ann, Mio, Sakura, Kanon
These names are
Modern yet
It's an excellent choice that also maintains a moderate amount of individuality.
[Techniques for unearthing "hidden names"]
Although it is not on the rankings,
There are ways to find a unique and lovely name.
Technique 1: Reviving popular names from the past
Names that were popular 20-30 years ago were:
It's fresh and unique for today's kids.
・Mai, Ai, Rika (girls)
・Daiki, Yuuki, Takuya (boys)
Technique 2: Utilizing popular local names
It's popular in Kansai but rare in Kanto.
Utilizing regional characteristics such as:
Technique 3: "Kanji Arrangement"
To the sound of popularity,
How to guess unique kanji characters.
・"Yui" → "Yui", "Yui", "Yui"
・"Rin" → "Rin", "Rin", "Suzu"
Technique 4: "Classical Revival"
Classic and beautiful,
Choose a name that is unusual in today's world.
・Iroha, Kotone, Kaguya (girls)
・Akira, Isamu, Tsutomu (boys)
[The secret to choosing a name that won't be influenced by trends]
Ultimately, what matters is
It's about having a core that isn't influenced by trends .
Axis 1: Family values
Is it a name that sounds like our family?
Axis 2: Children's future
Is it a name that will be a part of the child's life?
Axis 3: Parental Intuition
Is it a name you can truly love?
Axis 4: Practicality
Is it easy to use in everyday life?
Axis 5: Persistence
Will it still be beautiful in 10 or 20 years?
If these axes are solid,
Without being swayed by trends,
The best name for the child
You can choose.
Whether it's a popular name or a unique name,
If you have parental love,
It will be the best name in the world for your child .
Make a difference with your kanji choices! Ease of writing × Meaning × Beauty
It's important to know these kanji characters because they will be written throughout your life.
Selection criteria
"Kokoa is written as 'Kokoa'... it's lovely, but
I wonder if this child will be able to write every day when he becomes an elementary school student?"
The sound of the name was decided,
When you try to choose a kanji
New problems will arise.
Kanji with beautiful meanings
Kanji that are easy for children to write ,
And it looks beautiful .
Balancing these three
It's really difficult.
But actually,
"Ease of writing," "meaning," and "beauty"
To select kanji that satisfy all three of the above criteria,
There is a clear rule.
From my experience of seeing thousands of combinations of kanji characters over the past 30 years,
We will tell you the secret to choosing the best kanji that will support your child throughout their life .
[Ease of writing from an elementary school student's perspective]
The first thing to think about is,
Put yourself in your child's position as if you were actually writing .
For first grade elementary school students,
Writing your own name
This is the first big challenge .
While my classmates were writing their names smoothly,
It just takes me time...
To prevent such an experience,
There are some points you should know.
[Ease of writing on a 5-point scale]
Objectively assessing the ease of writing kanji
Here is a five-point rating system.
★★★★★ Very easy to write (4-8 strokes)
・Big, small, mountain, river, rice field, fire, wood, heart
・Child, person, middle, top, bottom, left, right
★★★★☆ Easy to write (9-12 strokes)
・Beauty, sea, sky, flowers, sound, truth, love, spring
・Fat, Bright, Blue, Time, Home, Study
★★★☆☆ Normal (13-16 pictures)
・Thoughts, love, dreams, righteousness, sincerity, newness, warmth
・Sama, Uta, Midori, Shizuka, Makoto
★★☆☆☆ Somewhat difficult (17-20 strokes)
・Yu, Kaoru, Rei, Yutaka, Hibiki, Tsubasa
・Indigo, medicine, discussion, dark
★☆☆☆☆ Difficult (21 strokes or more)
・Hibiki, Rei, Kan, Mamoru, Mi
・Ki, Surprise, Mamoru, Tsuyu
When I think about the early years of elementary school,
★★★☆☆ or higher (16 strokes or less) is ideal.
[Kanji ranking based on depth of meaning]
Next, the meaning you want to include in the name
Let's choose a kanji.
Kanji that represents "strength and toughness" :
・Brave (brave, courageous) ★★★★☆
・**Strong** (strong, tough) ★★★☆☆
・**Large** (big, great) ★★★★★
・**Go** (Strong, Hard) ★★★☆☆
・**Strength** (power, ability) ★★★★☆
Kanji that represents "beauty and elegance" :
・Beautiful (beautiful, pretty) ★★★★☆
・**Flower** (flower, beautiful) ★★★★☆
・**Miyabi** (elegant, refined) ★★★☆☆
・**麗** (beautiful, pretty) ★★☆☆☆
・**Aya** (beautiful pattern) ★★★☆☆
Kanji that represents "kindness and consideration" :
・**Love** (Love, Cherish) ★★★★☆
・**Heart** (heart, sincerity) ★★★★★
・**Excellent** (easy, excellent) ★★☆☆☆
・**Japanese** (gentleness, comfort) ★★★★☆
・**Warm** (warm, gentle) ★★★☆☆
Kanji that represents "intelligence/cleverness" :
・**Wisdom** (Chie, Satoi) ★★★☆☆
・**Ken** (intelligent, wise) ★★☆☆☆
・**Learning** (learning, learning) ★★★★☆
・**Knowledge** (know, wisdom) ★★★★☆
・**Bright** (bright, clear) ★★★★☆
[Beautiful appearance "Balance theory"]
The combination of kanji characters is
Determine the aesthetic appeal
There is a "golden ratio ."
The golden balance for a two-character name :
Pattern 1: "Simple x Complex"
・Daiki (4 strokes + 15 strokes)
・Sayuri (3 strokes + 6 strokes + 6 strokes)
・Kokoroai (4 strokes + 13 strokes)
Pattern 2: "Medium number of strokes x medium number of strokes"
・Misaki (9 strokes + 9 strokes)
・Kenta (11 strokes + 4 strokes)
・Ayaka (11 strokes + 7 strokes)
Pattern 3: "Vertical x Horizontal"
・Takeda (6 strokes + 5 strokes)
・Kawashima (3 strokes + 10 strokes)
The balance to avoid :
・Complex x Complex (Hibiki x Uruha, etc.)
・Vertical x vertical (e.g. river x river)
・Horizontal x horizontal (one x one, etc.)
[The "Trinity Checklist" for choosing kanji]
If you find a kanji that interests you,
Check out all three of these criteria.
✅ Ease of writing check
□ Can a third grade elementary school student write this without difficulty?
□ Is the number of strokes 16 or less?
□ Are there any radicals that are too complicated?
□ Can you write in a balanced way?
✅ Meaning check
□ Does it match the wish you want to convey?
□ Does it have any negative meanings?
□ Does it look strange when combined with other kanji?
□ Is it something you can be proud of in the future?
✅ Beauty Check
□ Does it balance well with your surname?
□ What is the balance of the number of strokes with other kanji?
□ Does it look good both vertically and horizontally?
□ Is there overall harmony?
All kanji characters have ✅ in them.
It's the ideal choice .
[Practice! Kanji Selection Simulation]
Here is an example of how to write kanji for the sound "Yui":
Let's simulate how to actually choose.
Candidate 1: "Yui"
・Ease of writing: ★★★☆☆ (12 strokes + 6 strokes)
Meaning: Connection with people, wrapping like clothing
Beauty: Well-balanced
**Overall rating: ★★★★☆**
Candidate 2: “Yui”
・Ease of writing: ★★★☆☆ (11 strokes)
・Meaning: One and only, special
・Beauty: Refreshing in one character
**Overall rating: ★★★★☆**
Candidate 3: "Yui"
・Ease of writing: ★★★★☆ (5 strokes + 8 strokes)
Meaning: To rely on someone for a reason
Beauty: Well-balanced
**Overall rating: ★★★★★**
In this case, "Yui"
A good balance of all three elements
It will be the best choice.
[Final advice on choosing kanji that you will love forever]
The most important thing when choosing kanji is
"Don't strive for perfection."
The kanji that meets all the conditions 100% is
does not exist.
Even with a kanji score of 80 points,
If you have parental love,
It will be a perfect score for that child .
What's important is,
"Why did you choose that kanji?"
That is the idea and story behind it .
In the future, your children
"Why did you choose this kanji?"
When I heard that,
The reason why I'm proud and overflowing with love
The kanji that can be conveyed are
It's the best choice .
Dangerous initials and nickname patterns
"AV" and "YB" are teasing combinations
Workaround
"No way, my child's initials..."
After deciding on a name,
I checked the initials
It ended up having an unexpected meaning.
Many parents have had shocking experiences.
I also thought it was a nice name,
When you actually start using it
I ended up with a nickname that made people laugh at me.
There are also cases where you may regret it.
"What if my child gets bullied because of his name?"
The feelings of a mother who has such anxiety,
I understand that very well.
Encountered in 30 years of naming experience
"Caution Pattern"
We'll show you all the ways to avoid it.
[Avoid these dangerous initials!]
First, the most important thing to note
Here are some initial combinations.
[Very Dangerous Level ★★★★★]
・AV (AV)
Abbreviation for adult video
Example: Aoi Yui → Aoi Yui → AY (this is fine)
Example: Akiko Victoria → Akiko Victoria → AV (dangerous)
・SM
sexually suggestive
Example: Sakura Mizuki → Sakura Mizuki → SM (dangerous)
・H. (H)
Be careful if the first letter of the name is "H"
Example: Hiroshi → Hiroshi → H. (Possibility of being teased)
[Warning level ★★★☆☆]
・BB (BB)
Reminiscent of "Bebe bullets"
・KY (Keiwai)
Abbreviation for "Kuki yomenai" (unable to read the atmosphere)
・NG (NG)
The meaning of "No Good"
・WC (W.C.)
Toilet
[Nickname patterns that are likely to lead to teasing]
In addition to the initials,
It comes from the name itself
There are some nicknames to watch out for.
[Patterns with dangerous sound reverberations]
・Names that tend to end in "○○chin"
Example: Masahiro → Masachin
Example: Yusuke → Yuchin
(Especially for boys, caution is needed.)
- Sounds similar to the name of an animal
Example: Saru → Saru-chan (monkey)
Example: Buta → Buta-chan (pig)
Example: Ushi → Ushikun (cow)
・Sounds similar to the name of a food
Example: Momo → Momo-chan (peach/butt)
Example: Eggplant → Nasu-chan (eggplant)
Example: Daikon → Daichan (radish)
[Dangerous patterns associated with kanji]
・Kanji that are associated with "death"
Example: Shiro (associated with death)
Example: Bitter beauty (associated with bitterness)
・Kanji that are associated with "illness"
Example: A name that includes the character "病" (illness)
Example: A name that includes the character "ita" (pain)
・Kanji with negative meanings
Examples: "evil," "poison," "demon," "demonic," etc.
[Patterns of bullying that actually occur in school life]
These are actually happening in schools.
It's based on what happened.
Pattern 1: Sound change in name
・"Takuma" → "Takuman (meat bun)"
・"Rio" → "Rio (diarrhea)"
・"Mika" → "Mika (mandarin orange)"
Pattern 2: Combination with family name
・"Masao Tanaka" → "In the middle of the rice field"
・"Yamada Hanako" → "Hanako of the Mountain"
Pattern 3: Abbreviations and abbreviations
・"Hiroyuki" → "Hiroyuki (Mr. Hiroyuki)"
・"Kenichi" → "Ken-chan"
[Complete Check! 10-Step Check Method for Avoiding Danger]
Once you have decided on a name candidate,
Be sure to check these 10 items.
✅ Check 1: Check initials
Write your full name and initials in English.
Check if it's a strange abbreviation
✅ Check 2: Check the abbreviation
Check how your name sounds when shortened
(Taro → Taro, Hanako → Hana)
✅ Check 3: Testing the use of "chan" and "kun"
When you call someone "○○-chan" or "○○-kun"
Make sure it doesn't sound strange
✅ Check 4: Reverse reading test
Wouldn't reading the name backwards make it sound weird?
(Example: Takashi → Shikata)
✅ Check 5: English pronunciation test
Is there any problem if I pronounce it in an English-like way?
(Example: Yuki → You key)
✅ Check 6: Combination test with surname
Doesn't the full name have any strange meaning?
✅ Check 7: Check the meaning of the kanji
Are there any hidden negative meanings in the kanji you use?
✅ Check 8: Sound quality check
Does it sound like the name of an animal or food?
✅ Check 9: Popular phrases check
Is it similar to a recent buzzword or slang?
✅ Check 10: Third-party opinion check
Ask a trusted friend for their honest opinion
[If you're still worried, consider insurance]
It is difficult to completely avoid danger,
There are some things you can prepare as "insurance."
Countermeasure 1: Create a good nickname first
Before you get a bad nickname,
My family and close friends have lovely nicknames
Start calling.
Example: "Hiroyuki" → "Hiro-kun" or "Yu-kun"
Countermeasure 2: Be able to explain the origin of the name
When I was teased,
The beautiful origin and meaning of the name
Make sure you can explain it openly.
Countermeasure 3: Creating an environment where people can say their names with confidence
I can be proud of my name at home
Make lots of episodes.
What to do if you are bullied
Even if people make fun of me because of my name,
There is an appropriate solution.
Immediate solutions :
1. **Have a confident attitude**
"Yeah, it's a nice name, isn't it?"
2. **Proudly talk about the origin of your name**
"This name means ____"
3. **Talk to your teacher or parents**
Talk to an adult before it develops into serious bullying
4. **Make more friends**
Make friends who think your name is nice
[The most important thing: How parents convey their love]
No matter how careful you are,
There is no such thing as a 100% perfect name.
The most important thing is,
"The love of parents that is contained in this name"
It's something kids understand.
"Your name is
Mom and Dad with lots of love
It's a special name I thought of."
By repeating this phrase over and over,
The child will have his own name
You will gain pride and confidence .
Even if I get teased,
If you are sure that you are loved ,
You can overcome it.
A name can change a child's life.
A precious treasure that continues to support us.
It is important to avoid danger,
More than that
The most important thing is to put love into it .
How to prepare a name before the gender is revealed
A gender-neutral name that can be used by both men and women
Advantages and disadvantages
"There are still two months until we find out the gender..."
Even in the middle of pregnancy
The gender is not readily apparent,
I can't choose a name
Are you feeling frustrated?
Also,
"I want a name that can be used for both boys and girls."
"I want to raise my child without being bound by gender."
More and more modern parents are thinking this way.
But on the other hand,
"Will a gender-neutral name cause problems in the future?"
"I think it's better to have a boyish or girlish name..."
You may also be wondering, ``What should I do?''
Choosing a name before the gender is revealed
Regarding gender-neutral names:
Gained from 30 years of experience
We will tell you the truth about the advantages and disadvantages .
[Name preparation strategies depending on when the gender is revealed]
First, depending on the timing of gender discovery
Here's an efficient way to prepare your name.
[4th to 5th month of pregnancy: preparation period]
At this stage, the gender is still unknown,
Focus on building the foundation .
・Organize the thoughts you want to put into the name
Discuss the couple's values
・Make a list of sounds that interest you
・Learn the basics of fortune-telling by name
-Gather information from naming books and websites
[6th to 7th month of pregnancy: candidate selection period]
Even if the gender is not known,
This is the time to start thinking about specific candidates.
Strategy A: Separate preparation for men and women
・Five name options for boys
・Five name options for girls
- Multiple kanji patterns are available for each
Strategy B: Focus on gender-neutral names
・10 names that can be used by both men and women
-Adjust gender identity by using different kanji characters
[8th to 9th month of pregnancy: narrowing down period]
The gender is often revealed at this stage.
Once you've identified it, start narrowing it down.
Narrow down the candidates to three
・Final selection of kanji
・Check the number of strokes
・Final confirmation of sound quality
The Complete Guide to Gender-Neutral Names
Regarding "names that can be used by both men and women"
Let's analyze it in more detail.
[Popular gender-neutral name rankings]
2-character type :
1. **An** (An, An, An)
2. **Ren** (Lotus, Ren, Love)
3. **Rin** (Rin, Rin, Suzu)
4. **Kai** (comfortable, sea, meeting)
5. **Sora** (sky, universe, heaven)
3-character type :
1. **Hinata** (Hinata, Hinata, Yota)
2. **Aoi** (Aoi, Ao, Ao)
3. Mizuki (Mizuki, Mizuki, Mizuki)
4. **Naoki** (Naoki, Naoki, Naoki)
5. **Yuuki** (Yuki, Yuki, Yuuki)
4-character type :
1. **Akari** (Akari, Shuri, Akari)
2. **Hikari** (Light, Brightness, Shine)
3. **Mirai** (Mirai, Miku, Nozomi)
[5 benefits of gender-neutral names]
Advantage 1: Preparation can be done before the gender is revealed
You can start thinking about names from the early stages of pregnancy,
You can take your time and think it through carefully.
"If it was a boy... if it was a girl..."
There is no need to worry about that.
Advantage 2: Modern and sophisticated impression
Gender-neutral names are
It gives a modern and stylish impression.
Even in today's increasingly globalized world
It's a name that's easy to adapt to.
Benefit 3: Children have more options
In the future, your child will live their own life
When selecting,
The name is not a constraint.
Not bound by gender roles
You can develop free thinking.
Advantage 4: It's easier to balance things out between siblings
If you have siblings:
Uniformity regardless of gender
You can name it.
Benefit 5: Less likely to be a reason for bullying
Extremely "boyish" or "girlish" names
Sometimes it doesn't suit the child's personality.
You may be the subject of teasing.
A gender-neutral name avoids this risk.
[Three disadvantages of gender-neutral names]
On the other hand, there are also some disadvantages to be aware of.
Disadvantage 1: Risk of gender confusion
Documents and people you meet for the first time
You may be mistaken for the gender.
especially,
・Nursery school and school directories
・Hospital reception
・Application for lessons
etc., may cause confusion.
Disadvantage 2: Lack of understanding from the grandparents' generation
For the elderly
"A boy with a girl's name"
"A girl with a boy's name"
You may be told, ``You're not a good person.''
Disadvantage 3: Impact on the individual's identity
As I reached puberty,
"I wish I had a more masculine name."
"I wish I had a more feminine name."
You may think so.
[5 tips for choosing a gender-neutral name]
Minimize the disadvantages
Here are some tips to maximize your benefits.
Tip 1: Adjust the gender with kanji
Even if they sound the same, the choice of kanji can
It can create a feminine look.
Example: "Aoi"
・For boys: "Ao" and "Ao" (strong impression)
・For girls: "Aoi" and "Ao-goromo" (beautiful impression)
Example: "Hikari"
・For boys: "Hikari" (light) and "Kagayaki" (simple and powerful)
・For girls: "Hikari" and "Yokari" (soft impression)
Tip 2: Vary the way you call them
Even if the official name is gender-neutral,
You can express your individuality by how you call people on a daily basis.
Example: "Hinata"
・Boys: "Hina-kun" and "Hina-chan"
・Girls: "Hina-chan" and "Hina-tan"
Tip 3: Be sure to explain the origin
Why did you choose a gender-neutral name?
Make sure you can explain it to your child.
"Boys and girls,
I want you to grow up strong and kind."
"Regardless of gender,
Because I want you to live your life the way you want to."
Tip 4: Research the names of your same-sex friends
Not to the point of floating too much
It's important to stay neutral.
Tip 5: Plan for future changes
If the person really doesn't like it,
Nicknames and name changes are also options
I'll think about it.
[Mental preparation in case the gender is revealed late]
If you are still not sure about the gender of your baby in the later stages of pregnancy,
The following mindset is important.
Don't rush :
In some cases, it is not known until just before birth.
It's not at all uncommon.
Prepare for both :
Prepare names for both men and women
Decided at the moment of birth
It will be a wonderful memory.
Embrace your intuition :
Actually seeing the baby's face
You may also recognize the name.
It happens often.
[What's ultimately important]
Rather than choosing a gender-neutral name,
There are more important things.
it is,
"The love of parents put into that name"
"The desire for children's happiness."
Even if it's a boyish name,
Even if it's a girly name,
Even a gender-neutral name
If there is love,
That will be the best name for the child .
There is no right answer when it comes to choosing a name.
There is,
It's just a loving choice that reflects the family .
Seven conditions for a name that will be loved forever
An expert who has seen 3,000 people over 30 years reveals
The truth about names parents and children can be proud of
"So what's the best name?"
Read a lot of information
I've been thinking about names from various angles,
In the end, you come to this question.
Sound, kanji, number of strokes, trends, internationality...
There are so many factors to consider,
Does the perfect name exist?
Some of you may be confused and wondering, "What is the best place to live?"
But don't worry.
Over the past 30 years, she has been involved in naming 3,000 babies.
From my experience of watching the growth that followed,
I can tell you this with confidence.
"Names that will be loved for a lifetime" include:
There are seven clear conditions:
And the children with names that meet these conditions,
Without exception, they are proud of their names,
I am living a happy life.
[Condition 1: It is filled with the heartfelt love of the parents]
This is the most important condition.
No matter how good the number of strokes is,
No matter how beautiful the sound,
A name that doesn't convey parental love
It doesn't resonate with children.
On the other hand, even if the number of strokes is not perfect,
The name chosen by parents with love and devotion
It will be the most beautiful name in the world for your child .
Characteristics of this affectionate name :
・Parents' eyes light up when they talk about the origin of their child's name
・I truly feel that I am glad I chose this name.
・You can be proud when explaining the origin to your children
・A lovely sound that you will never get tired of calling.
The whole family loves the name
[Condition 2: It has meaning that children can be proud of for the rest of their lives]
The meaning of the name is
It will become a guide for life .
When you encounter difficulties,
When doubts arise,
Remembering the meaning of your name
A name that gives you strength is ideal.
Examples of what it means to be proud :
・**Hope**: Always have hope
・**Love**: To love others and be loved by them
・**Light**: Become a presence that brightens up those around you
・**Truth**: Become an honest person who values the truth
・**Wa**: To become a person who values peace and harmony
The important thing is,
The child himself understands the meaning
It's whether it's acceptable or not .
[Condition 3: Easy to pronounce and remember]
My name is called dozens of times every day,
To countless people
It's something to be remembered.
Children with easy-to-pronounce names
Increasing connections between people and nature
Your communication skills will also improve.
Check points for ease of calling :
・Even a 3-year-old can pronounce it
Once you hear it, you'll remember it
- Accurate information can be conveyed over the phone
・I can speak clearly even when I'm angry
・A sound that makes you want to call it with affection
[Condition 4: It has universal appeal that will be loved throughout the ages]
Fashions change, but
A truly great name stands the test of time.
Even when your child turns 50 or 60,
It's important to have a name that you're proud of and not ashamed of.
Characteristics of a universal name :
There is a classic beauty
But it's not too old-fashioned.
Modern but not too eccentric
Acceptable to all generations
・Understanding beyond countries and cultures
[Condition 5: Easy to write, easy to read, and practical]
Beautiful meaning and sound are important,
Don't ignore practicality.
Because I write my name every day,
Children don't feel burdened
It needs to be easy to write.
Practicality checkpoints :
・A third grade elementary school student can write it easily
・80% of people can read it even at first sight
・It's beautiful even when written abbreviated
- Can be converted on a computer
- Quickly write by hand
[Condition 6: Harmony with family values]
The name conveys that family identity.
It is also something to express.
Family values and cultural background
By being in harmony,
Children have a stable identity
You can cultivate this.
Examples of family harmony :
・Families who value tradition: Classic and elegant names
・International family: a name that is recognized globally
・Nature-loving families: names related to nature
・A family that values academics: A name that conveys intelligence
・Artistic families: Names with beautiful sounds and characters
[Condition 7: It has a unique and special feel]
The last condition is,
"A special name just for that child"
That is what I mean.
Whether it's a popular name or an unusual name,
What's important is
"This name is mine alone"
This is what children can feel.
Elements that make it special :
A special episode from when the child was born
・A unique wish embedded in the name
・Origin known only to the family
- Loving comments from grandparents and relatives
・A special memory of being called by that name
[Practical method for choosing a name that meets seven conditions]
To choose a name that meets these seven criteria,
I will show you the specific method.
Step 1: Put your feelings into words
First, your wishes for your child
Try to put it in concrete terms.
"Be healthy," "be kind," and "be strong"
From abstract words such as
"Kindness to help those in need"
"The strength to stick to your beliefs"
"A warm heart that loves family"
Specific wishes such as
Please drop it in.
Step 2: Check the candidate names against seven criteria
If you find a name that interests you,
Check all seven conditions.
There is no perfect name,
If the name meets six or more conditions
You can choose with confidence.
Step 3: Imagine it from a child's perspective
The life of a child with that name
Just imagine.
・Being called at kindergarten
・Introducing yourself at elementary school
・Her name being called at the Coming of Age Ceremony
・How you appear at the wedding
・Explaining the origin to his child
In all situations
A proud and happy look
If you can imagine,
That's the best name.
[Finally: The most important thing when choosing a name]
I've looked after 3,000 children over the past 30 years.
There is something I am sure of.
Rather than a child with a "perfect name,"
Children with "beloved names" tend to
You will definitely be happy.
The time I spent agonizing over choosing a name,
Even though he was hesitant, he still had feelings of love.
All of this is a testament to the love we have for our child .
Whatever name you choose,
As long as that love exists,
I'm sure it will be a great name .
A name you can truly love.
A name you never get tired of calling.
A name that makes you wish for the child's happiness from the bottom of your heart.
That is,
It's the best name in the world .
With confidence,
A name full of love
Please choose.
My dear child is born,
With that name
May you live a happy life
I sincerely hope so.
Thank you for your loving journey in choosing a name.
We hope this guide has helped you choose your precious name.
There is nothing more satisfying than this.
My dear child is born,
With the beautiful name you chose
May you live a happy life
I sincerely pray for you.
I hope you find a great name.