Is the 18-hour newborn sleep myth a lie? Sleepless babies, night crying, day-night reversal, and how to get them to sleep
Share
[Newborn sleep] Is the 18-hour myth a lie?
Crying at night, day and night reversal
Breastfeeding mom's magical sleep technique
"My baby won't sleep at all... is it my fault?"
"Everyone says they sleep 18 hours a day, but my child doesn't..."
To moms who feel guilty about themselves.
In fact, much of this anxiety stems from misconceptions .
-Is it true that babies sleep 18 hours a day?
・Is it too much to spoil my baby if he only sleeps when I'm holding him?
-Is night crying due to poor quality breast milk?
Over the past 30 years, she has looked after over 3,000 babies.
I'll tell you the truth from a midwife.
In fact, babies who don't sleep are often healthy and normal .
By the time you finish reading this guide,
"Well, my child was normal!"
With a sense of relief,
You'll feel more affection for your baby.
What's most important is,
A special sleep pattern just for you and your baby
It's about finding it and cherishing it .
Is it true that newborns need 18 hours of sleep?
Is 12 hours a day enough for your baby? Signs of sleep deprivation and safety standards
"The parenting book says 18 hours, but my child only sleeps 12 hours..."
In fact, there are many mothers who are worried about this.
But there is something I want to say loud and clear here.
In fact, "18 hours of sleep" is neither an average nor an ideal value.
This is old research data from the 1950s in the United States.
We know that this is very different from the reality of modern babies.
According to the latest sleep research, newborns sleep for
There is a huge amount of individual variation, ranging from 8 to 20 hours a day .
So, a baby who only sleeps 12 hours
It's not "lack of sleep" at all.
Rather, for babies who sleep less,
I've found it to have some great features.
Babies who sleep for short periods of time:
- High interest in the surroundings and full of curiosity
Active brain development and high learning ability
Highly sensitive and expressive
- They tend to seek communication with their mothers
These are all signs of a healthy baby's development .
"But aren't you really sleep deprived?"
For moms who are worried about this.
Is your baby really sleep deprived?
Instead of relying on time, look for these signs:
[Signs that there is no need to worry]
-I'm in a good mood when I'm awake
・Breastfeeding and drinking milk
- Weight is steadily increasing
- Their eyes sparkle and they show interest in their surroundings
Signs to look out for
・They are fussy even when awake
I often fall asleep while breastfeeding
Weight gain has stagnated
- Vague eyes and slow reaction
In fact, there are times when a baby who sleeps well is a cause for concern.
If your newborn baby sleeps for excessively long periods of time,
There is a possibility of insufficient milk supply or poor health.
We recommend that you consult your pediatrician.
The key is to understand your baby's individuality.
Moms with babies who sleep for short periods of time
It may certainly be difficult.
But that's a baby
"Mom, I'm here!
Let's spend time together!"
Maybe that's what he's saying.
That adorable sign,
Please accept it with care.
Is my baby sick if he sleeps too much? Should I wake him up?
The truth about newborns sleeping 20 hours a day and how to determine when to breastfeed
"My child sleeps 20 hours a day. Is that okay?"
"Maybe I should wake her up and feed her..."
Concerns of mothers with babies who sleep well
It's as serious as a mom with a baby that won't sleep.
First of all, I want you to rest assured that
Long periods of sleep in newborn babies are often normal .
But why are there so many individual differences?
In fact, this is due to the way the baby spent time in its mother's womb.
It has a big impact.
Babies who spend their time in a quiet environment during their fetal development
Even after birth, they tend to be calm and sleep for long periods of time.
Meanwhile, the mother is active,
The baby grew up in a lively environment with older children,
They are sensitive to stimuli and tend to sleep for short periods of time.
Characteristics of "babies who sleep for a long time":
・Gentle personality
High concentration
Once you fall asleep, you sleep deeply
- Not easily affected by changes in the environment
These are all wonderful parts of your baby's personality .
However, you should be careful if:
[When breastfeeding is required]
- Sleeps for more than 4-5 hours within the first week of life
- Weight loss of 10% or more since birth
- Urinating less than 6 times a day
- No stool for more than 3 days
Yellowish skin color (jaundice)
Conversely, when it's okay not to wake them up :
- More than two weeks old
・Steady weight gain (25g or more per day)
- Urinating more than six times a day
When I wake up, I feel energized and in a good mood
Many mothers worry about
"Are there too many gaps between feedings?"
That's what I'm worried about.
Indeed, textbooks say to breastfeed every three hours.
However, this is a guideline based on milk-feeding .
It doesn't take into account breastfeeding or the individuality of each baby.
Actual feeding times are:
When your baby wakes up naturally
+ When you show signs of being hungry
This is the most natural and best for your baby.
To moms of babies who sleep well,
There is something in particular I would like to tell you.
"A child who sleeps well is easy to care for"
To the words of those around me,
There's absolutely no need to feel guilty.
Your baby
They trust their mother and sleep peacefully .
It's about you and your baby
Proof that you are in the safest and most loving place .
That time,
Taking care of yourself and resting is
It's by no means "cheating."
That my mom is healthy,
It's the best thing for the baby.
The real reason why babies only sleep when held
The scientific basis for the need for a mother's heartbeat and gentle steps to graduating
"He never sleeps unless I hold him..."
"The moment I put him on the bed he wakes up..."
"Is my hugging bad?"
Moms who have these concerns,
Thank you very much for your hard work.
First of all, I want to tell you,
This is not because you are "doing it wrong."
In fact, for babies who only sleep when held,
There is a deep love and a scientific reason for it .
For 10 months in your mother's womb,
What was the baby feeling?
- Mom's heartbeat (a steady rhythm of beating)
・Warm body temperature (feeling like you're being enveloped in a warmth of about 37 degrees)
- Gentle rocking (vibration when mom walks)
- Moderate pressure (feeling of security from being surrounded by amniotic fluid and the uterine wall)
All of this is good for the baby
It was the "safest and most secure environment in the world."
Mommy's embrace,
It recreates this ideal environment.
So when a baby wants to be held,
"Mom, make me feel safe"
It's a natural and healthy desire.
The latest research shows that
The more babies sleep in their arms,
Increased secretion of the love hormone oxytocin
We know that...
This hormone:
・Promotes brain development
・Improves immunity
・Strengthen stress resistance
・Deepen the bond between parent and child
In other words, babies who only sleep when held,
In fact, it's a wise choice .
But there is a limit to a mother's physical strength.
"How long will this last?"
I understand that concern too.
rest assured.
Cuddle sleep doesn't last forever.
Generally, from around 3-4 months of age
Once the baby's neck is strong,
You will naturally be able to sleep alone.
In the meantime,
Gradually graduate from holding your baby using the following methods
I can guide you:
[Gradual graduation from holding]
Step 1: Hold your baby to sleep and let him/her rest for 5 minutes
Once you're sure they're in a deep sleep, gently slip them into bed.
Step 2: Place it on the bed and then place your hands on your chest.
Let your baby feel the warmth of your mother while gradually letting go
Step 3: Gradually increase the distance by co-sleeping
First it's close contact, then it's holding hands, and finally it's just being close.
The important thing is to go at your baby's pace.
If you try to force it to hurry up,
This may actually make the baby more dependent on being held.
And there's something important I want to tell you, Mom.
The hug time at this moment,
It's a special time that will never come back.
When you're tired, you may want to go to bed alone.
It's very natural and obvious.
But after a few years
"I miss that warm, heavy feeling."
There are so many moms who think this way.
So, today is the day
Please take good care of your time.
A baby sleeping peacefully in your arms
It's proof that they trust their mother more than anything in the world .
How long will night crying last? At what age will it stop?
How to deal with night crying and provide emotional support to help moms get enough sleep
"I've had enough... I can't sleep at all because of the terrible crying at night."
"When will you sleep until morning?"
"Am I crying at night because I did something wrong?"
The sound of a baby crying in the middle of the night
To moms who are exhausted both mentally and physically.
First, let me tell you the most important thing.
Crying at night is not because you did something wrong.
In fact, night crying is essential for a baby's development.
I've come to understand that there is a deeper meaning.
Why do babies cry at night?
At night, adults produce a hormone called "melatonin."
The sleep hormone is released, making you feel naturally sleepy.
However, babies secrete less melatonin.
They are immature until about 3-4 months of age .
In other words, night crying
"The sleep system is still incomplete."
A message from the baby.
I never intend to cause trouble
It's not that I'm crying.
[Peak period for night crying]
・2-3 weeks after birth: The period known as the "terrible three weeks"
・1.5-3 months: The most intense period of night crying
・4-6 months: Often resolves suddenly
Why are the first 1.5-3 months the hardest?
During this time, the baby's brain
Learn the rhythm of day and night
There is important work being done.
For adults, it's natural to go to bed at night.
I am currently studying hard.
So, the night crying at this time
"Proof that your baby is growing hard"
Please think of it this way.
But lack of sleep for moms is a serious problem.
Here are some nighttime remedies that have actually worked:
[Fast-acting measures against night crying]
1. The "Five S's" Technique
・Swaddle (wrap in a swaddle)
・Side/Stomach (side/face down)
・Shush (a hissing sound)
・Swing (gentle rocking)
・Suck (thumb sucking/pacifier)
2. Use white noise
A constant sound similar to the sounds heard in the womb
(sounds of hair dryers, vacuum cleaners, rain, etc.)
3. Temperature adjustment
Keep the room temperature at 20-22 degrees.
Ideally, your baby's hands and feet should be slightly cold.
[Measures to protect moms' hearts]
The most important thing when dealing with night crying is
Mom, don't blame yourself .
"Is my breast milk bad?"
"Am I spending my daytime activities wrong?"
There are a lot of moms who think like this,
These are all assumptions.
Most babies who cry at night:
- Good mood during the day
・Make sure to drink plenty of milk
- Weight is steadily increasing
In other words, it is a sign of good health in both body and mind .
While the crying continues,
Please keep the following in mind:
Take a short nap during the day
- Keep housework to a minimum and prioritize rest
Ask your dad and family for help
- Tell yourself, "It's okay if I'm not perfect"
And don't forget.
The crying will definitely end.
By six months of age, most babies
You will be able to sleep through until morning.
I know it's really difficult right now,
During this time, the evenings I spend with my mom are
It provides a foundation of security for your baby .
You wake up in the middle of the night
By holding the baby,
"The world is a safe place"
That's what we're learning.
It is irreplaceable
It's a gift of love.
When will the reversed day and night cycle be corrected? Baby's biological clock
Regulating daily rhythms with light and sound and how to watch over them without rushing
"I sleep a lot during the day, but I'm full of energy at night..."
"When will life return to normal?"
The feelings of mothers who are troubled by their reversal of day and night
I really understand.
But first, there's something I want you to know.
It is actually normal for newborns to have a reversed day and night cycle.
Because in your mother's womb
There was no "day" or "night."
For babies,
The rhythm of day and night is something we learn for the first time at birth .
And interestingly,
Babies in the womb are more active at night .
Why is that?
When the mother is active during the day,
The vibrations and movement of the walk will help your baby sleep comfortably.
But when Mom lay down at night and was quiet,
The baby might think, "Huh? It's stopped moving? Shall I play?"
And so we started our activities.
In other words, reversing day and night is a habit that begins in the fetus .
Even if you are told to change suddenly,
Even babies have trouble.
[Approximate time for day-night reversal to be corrected]
・2-3 weeks after birth: Baby begins to distinguish slightly between day and night
6-8 weeks: Sleeping time at night increases slightly
・3-4 months: A clear day-night rhythm is formed
・6 months old: Almost the same rhythm as adults
"Oh, does it cost that much?"
You may think so.
But think about it.
Even adults can suffer from jet lag when traveling abroad.
It takes a few days to get back to normal, right?
For babies,
Being born itself is the ultimate jet lag .
But there are some things moms can do.
In the following way:
Gently support your child's day-night rhythm:
[Creating a daytime rhythm]
- Open the curtains between 7 and 8am
Natural light is the best tool for regulating your body clock
・Feed in a bright place during the day
Lights on, "It's daytime now" sign
・Spend the daytime with normal everyday sounds
No need to worry about vacuum cleaners, washing machines, TVs, etc.
・Get some fresh air in the morning
Even 5 minutes on the balcony is effective
[Creating a night rhythm]
・Dim the lights from around 6pm
Warm orange light is ideal
- Feed at night with minimal light
A light bulb or small light is enough
- Quiet and peaceful at night
Minimal talking, just gentle hugs
・Keep the room temperature a little lower (20-21 degrees)
A drop in body temperature makes you feel sleepy
However, there is something important.
These methods are not "magic."
It usually takes 2-3 weeks for the effects to be seen.
"I tried it yesterday but it didn't work"
Please don't give up.
And for moms who are worried about their day and night reversal
There is something I would like you to know.
Babies who wake up in the middle of the night
I actually want to spend some special time with my mom.
You may be thinking, ``Why?''
In the quiet of the night, it's just mom and baby.
It's certainly tiring, but
This time will also become a fond memory .
As a "special time only available now,"
I hope you enjoy it even a little.
And remember;
Reversal of day and night will definitely be cured.
One day, suddenly,
"Huh? I slept well last night."
The day will come.
Until that day,
Please don't blame yourself,
Find a new rhythm with your baby
Please keep making it.
Is breastfeeding bad? What about pacifiers? The truth about putting babies to sleep
Let go of guilt and choose a way to make your baby feel safe
"I was told that it's not good to put a baby to sleep while breastfeeding..."
"Is it better not to use pacifiers because they can become addictive?"
"What's the correct way to put a baby to sleep?"
Regarding putting your child to bed,
For moms who are troubled by a lot of "shoulds."
First off, let me be clear.
There is no "correct way to put a baby to sleep."
There is only one way that works for you and your baby.
Because every baby is different.
Every mother's physical condition and lifestyle is different.
So what is "right" for someone else may not be "right" for you .
So, let's take a look at some of the commonly discussed methods of putting children to sleep.
Let's look at it from both a scientific and emotional perspective.
[About breastfeeding]
"Breastfeeding while sleeping can become addictive" and "It can cause crooked teeth"
Have you ever heard a voice like this?
But in real-world studies:
- Reduces the risk of SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome)
・Promotes breast milk production
・Ensures mom's sleep time
・Deepen the bond between parent and child
I know that there are many more benefits .
"Effects on tooth alignment"
If your baby is under 6 months old, there is little to worry about.
Rather, it's more likely that mom will become dizzy from lack of sleep.
I'm very worried about the baby .
[About pacifiers]
"Pacifiers are a sign of dependence" and "They slow speech development"
I often hear people say this.
However, the latest research shows:
・Prevents SIDS
- Effective in reducing night crying
- If used appropriately, it has no effect on language development
・Stress reduction effect
The World Health Organization (WHO) also
Recommended if used appropriately .
"But how long can I use it?"
There is also the concern that...
In general:
Up to about 2 years old: No problems at all
・Ages 2-3: Consider gradual graduation
・Age 3 and over: Consult with a dentist
[About putting your baby to sleep while holding him/her]
The phrase "They get used to being held"
You hear it a lot, don't you?
But think about it.
"I want mommy to hold me"
It's the most natural and healthy desire .
It's called a "habit"
Don't you think that's a bit sad?
Babies who sleep in their arms:
High sense of security
- Low stress hormones
Strong parent-child bond
Emotions are stable
All of this lays the foundation for healthy growth in the future .
[How to choose a sleep method that is gentle on moms]
Answer the following questions and
Find the method that works for you:
Q1. How is your health?
Tired → Use breastfeeding or a pacifier
Energetic → Enjoys being held and rocked
Q2. How did the baby react?
Crying easily → Increase the number of comforting items
Relatively mild → Try various methods
Q3. How much support do you get from your family?
Collaborative → Various methods in shifts
Mom-centered → Prioritizing the easiest way for moms
And now I'll tell you the most important thing.
Whichever method you choose,
"Is this okay?"
There are days when I wonder.
That is, if you are serious about being a mom,
It's proof that we're facing each other .
There is no such thing as a perfect mom.
If things don't go well today,
Tomorrow I'll try a different approach.
What's important is,
You and your baby, even just a little
It's about being able to live peacefully.
Don't be swayed by other people's "common sense,"
Trust your intuition and love .
That's for your baby
It's the best way to get to sleep.
Is it okay for babies to laugh and flap their arms and legs while sleeping?
Deciphering the hidden signs of growth in adorable sleeping behaviors
"She was sleeping and suddenly laughed! She's like an angel."
"He was flailing his arms and legs, and I was so worried he'd wake up..."
"You sound like you're talking in your sleep, are you dreaming?"
The adorable behavior of a sleeping baby
Mom can't help but stare in awe.
But at the same time,
"Is this normal?"
This may also raise concerns.
Today, I would like to talk about this strange behavior during sleep.
In fact, all of these are signs that your baby is growing healthily.
I would like to tell you that this is the case.
[Smiling while sleeping: "Angel Smile"]
The moment when a sleeping baby suddenly smiles,
She's truly angelic and heart warming.
This phenomenon is actually the brain's reorganization process during REM sleep .
A baby's brain is sensitive to the experiences it has while awake.
We process a lot of stimuli while we sleep.
Mommy's face, her gentle voice, her warm embrace...
When I'm sorting through happy memories
That smile appears naturally on your face .
In other words, babies who laugh in their sleep
"I had a great time with my mom today"
This is evidence that your brain feels this way.
There's no better sign than this.
[The Moro reflex of flapping limbs and growth]
"I finally fell asleep, but my limbs started twitching and I woke up!"
This is called the Moro reflex
It is an important reflex that babies are born with .
Why does this reflex exist?
In fact, this is a survival instinct that has existed since prehistoric times .
When you sense danger, move your arms and legs instantly.
It's an instinctive reaction to protect yourself.
This is a reflex that is no longer necessary in modern times,
Evidence of normal nervous system development
This is an important sign that your pediatrician should check.
The Moro reflex is:
- Disappears naturally around 4-6 months of age
・If it happens too frequently, use a swaddling cloth
・Complete disappearance indicates maturation of the nervous system
So, the flapping of arms and legs
Not as a cause for concern, but as a sign of growth
Please watch over them warmly.
[Sleeping-like voices: "Sleeping vocalizations"]
Small sounds like "hmm" and "ahh."
This is actually a preparatory stage for language development .
While your baby is sleeping:
・Replay sounds heard during the day in your mind
・Practice vocal cord and mouth movements
-Preparing for future words
In particular, babies who hear their mother's voice a lot
It is known that vocalization during sleep is common.
This is "I love your mom's voice!
I want to hear more and imitate it!"
This may be a way for the baby to show affection.
Other adorable sleeping behaviors:
・Muttling your mouth
→ Recalling the memory of breastfeeding, showing satisfaction
・Wrinkles between the eyebrows
→ Evidence that your brain is active and concentrating during dreams
・Hold hands tightly
→ Normal expression of grasp reflex and primitive reflex
・Movement to turn over
→ Preparation for motor development, muscle growth
All of these gestures,
It's a sign that your baby is growing healthily .
[Sleep behaviors that require attention]
However, consult your pediatrician if:
Breathing is irregular and difficult
- Pale complexion (pale, purple)
Violent trembling movements
- No movement at all (no reflexes)
But in most cases, there's no need to worry.
When you see a sleeping baby
What kind of dreams is this child having right now?
Doesn't your imagination run wild?
Perhaps,
Maybe it's a dream of mom's smile.
It may be a memory of a warm embrace.
Maybe it's a gentle lullaby dream.
When I think about it,
Any movements during sleep
It feels so lovely and special .
Today too, I saw my baby's cute sleeping face.
With lots of love,
Please watch over them quietly.
When can babies start sleeping on their stomachs? Correct knowledge to prevent SIDS
How to deal with babies who don't want to lie on their backs and creating a safe environment
"If I put him on his back he'll cry..."
"He seems to sleep better on his stomach, but I'm worried about SIDS."
"When is it okay to let my baby sleep on his stomach?"
Baby's sleeping position
To moms who are anxious.
When you hear the term SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome),
It's inevitable that you'll be worried.
But with the right knowledge
That anxiety can be greatly alleviated.
First of all, I want you to rest assured that
SIDS is an extremely rare phenomenon .
Approximately 1 million babies are born in Japan each year.
There are approximately 100 cases of SIDS per year.
In other words, the probability is extremely low at 0.01% .
Furthermore, by taking appropriate precautions,
That risk can be significantly reduced.
Why is sleeping on your back recommended?
The "Back Sleeping Campaign" began around the world in the 1990s,
SIDS has decreased by 70-80% .
Why is sleeping on your back safe?
Easy to breathe
The airway is secured and oxygen supply is stable.
Easy to regulate body temperature
Prevents body heat from building up, maintaining a proper body temperature
Easy to wake up
It's easy to wake up when something happens
[When prone sleeping becomes possible]
So when is it safe to sleep on your stomach?
General guidelines:
- Risk significantly decreases from around 4-6 months of age
・It is an absolute requirement that the baby's neck is strong enough to support itself.
・Once your baby can turn over on his/her own, it is generally safe.
However, there are some important conditions:
"If you turn face down on your own,"
There is no need to force yourself back onto your back.
Being able to turn over on your own means
If it becomes difficult, you can change your position yourself.
That's because...
[How to deal with a baby who doesn't like to lie on his back]
"If I put him on his back he'll cry."
For such babies, try the following:
1. Swaddling
Suppresses the Moro reflex and recreates the sensation of being in the womb
2. Elevate your head a little
Lay a towel down to create a gentle slope
(However, to prevent suffocation, use only a thin towel.)
3. Slowly turn from side to back
Don't lie on your back right away, but gradually get used to it.
4. Wait about 30 minutes after feeding before putting your baby to sleep
Prevents reflux of stomach contents
[How to create a safe sleeping environment]
Apart from your sleeping position, there are other important points to consider:
Use a firm mattress
Something that doesn't sink and is moderately hard
Don't leave anything around the bed
Avoid pillows, stuffed toys, and thick blankets
・Maintain an appropriate room temperature (20-22 degrees)
An environment that is neither too hot nor too cold
・Ensuring a non-smoking environment
Passive smoking is the biggest risk factor for SIDS
・Breastfeeding is recommended
Breast milk has been shown to help prevent SIDS
[Mom's Mental Care]
Learning about SIDS
It's inevitable that you'll feel scared.
However, proper knowledge is not meant to "stoke anxiety";
It's for "reassurance of peace of mind."
If you know and practice the right preventative measures,
There's no need to worry too much.
What's more important is that
Moms can spend time with their babies in peace.
I can't sleep because of anxiety,
If you can't take your eyes off your baby,
It's putting the cart before the horse.
"I did what I could.
Now let's trust in the baby's vitality."
With that feeling,
I want you to live peacefully.
Babies are much stronger than moms think.
It is a strong being.
Once you have created the right environment,
The rest is the baby's own strength
Please believe in me and watch over me.
Creating a gentle sleep rhythm starting from the newborn stage
The importance of a relaxed lifestyle and following your baby's pace
When should I start establishing a regular routine?
"Is a strict schedule necessary from the newborn stage?"
"Which should take priority: the baby's pace or the parents' convenience?"
For moms who are worried about their daily routine.
First, there's something important I want to tell you.
Creating a "perfect daily rhythm" for newborns
You don't have to try to make it.
Because at this age, babies
Because I'm doing my best just to survive .
It breathes, it nourishes, and it grows.
That's all the baby is doing well.
But "building a foundation for the future"
You can start gently at this stage.
[Steps for creating rhythms by age]
0-1 month: "Baby pace period"
Observe your baby's natural rhythms
・Feeding and sleeping should be according to the baby's signs
・Mum's recovery is the top priority
・Just be aware of "bright in the morning, dark at night"
1-2 months: "Slow introduction"
- Habit of opening curtains between 7-8am
・Dim the lights from around 7-8pm
・ Decide on a time for your bath
・But if your baby doesn't like it, don't force it.
2-3 months: "Pattern formation period"
- Set a rough guide for wake-up and bedtime
Breastfeeding intervals become more consistent
- Go outside and take walks
- Fewer naps
The important thing is not to aim for perfection.
If things don't go well today,
Tomorrow is another new day.
[Tips for creating a rhythm without straining yourself]
1. Be prepared to accept "roughly"
Instead of "Wake up at 7am every day," try "Wake up around 7-8am."
"Go to bed around 8-9pm" instead of "Go to bed at 9pm"
A difference of about an hour is no problem.
2. Listen to your baby's signals first
If your child seems sleepy, let them sleep regardless of the time
Breastfeed whenever you're hungry, regardless of the time
Cherish the times when you're in a good mood
3. Take mom's health into consideration
It's OK to change plans if mom is tired
When you're not feeling well, rest takes priority over rhythm
You don't have to be a perfect mom
[Example of how to spend a day]
Around 7:00, I wake up with the morning light.
Open the curtains and say "Good morning"
Around 8:00 Breastfeeding and mom's breakfast
Relax in a well-lit place
Around 10:00 AM Morning activities
Talk to them, get some fresh air,
Around 12:00: Breastfeeding and nap
It's okay to take a nap in a bright room
Around 15:00 Afternoon activities
Mommy's time to refresh too
Around 18:00 Bath time
But it doesn't have to be the same time every day.
Around 7:00 PM: Breastfeeding and getting ready for the night
Dim the lights a little
Around 9:00 PM: Getting ready for bed
But if your baby isn't sleepy, don't force it.
[Important things to keep in mind when creating rhythm]
Most importantly,
"Rhythm is for babies"
That is what I mean.
Never for the convenience of adults
It's not something you should force your baby to fit into.
A good rhythm is:
・Baby will be in a good mood
・Moms can continue without difficulty
・The whole family can smile
Flexible and changeable
And don't forget.
Every baby is different.
Some babies are night owls and some are morning babies.
Some children sleep for short periods of time, while others sleep for long periods of time.
What's important is,
The right rhythm for your baby
It's about finding it together .
There's no need to compare your baby to other babies.
It's okay if things don't go exactly as the parenting books say.
Just you and your baby
Cherish the special rhythm.
That's the best rhythm of life.
Creating a room where your baby can sleep soundly
Creating a safe space with temperature, humidity, and lighting, and seasonal ideas
"Is the room temperature okay?"
"Every time I look at the hygrometer, I get worried..."
What kind of lighting is best for babies?
Baby's sleep environment
To the moms who strive for perfection.
First, I want to reassure you.
Babies are more agile than moms think
They can adapt to changes in the environment .
Even in your mother's womb,
It wasn't a perfectly controlled environment.
It sways when mom moves,
Eating something hot will raise your body temperature a little,
When you feel stressed, your heart rate changes.
In other words, "It's okay if it's not perfect."
So please keep that in mind first.
[Ideal room temperature setting]
Basic guideline: 20-22 degrees
But this is not an absolute number.
What's important is,
It's about seeing the baby .
Signs that it's too hot:
Sweating on the head and back
Your face is red
Your hands and feet are hot
Bad mood and often cries
Signs it's too cold:
Cold hands and feet
Blue lips and nails
- Curling up the body
・Having trouble falling asleep
than the numbers on the thermometer
Does the baby seem comfortable?
The most important thing is to keep an eye on them.
[Tips for temperature control by season]
Spring (March to May): Beware of temperature differences
- A little chilly in the mornings and evenings, but warm during the day
・Wear clothes that are easy to adjust by layering
・Be prepared to deal with sudden temperature changes
Summer (June-August): Heatstroke prevention is the top priority
・It is OK to use the air conditioner actively.
- Place it in a place where it is not exposed to direct wind.
・Frequent hydration (breast milk/formula)
Autumn (September to November): Don't forget to take measures against dryness
・Just like in spring, be careful of temperature differences
- Pay attention to the decrease in humidity
・Moderate warmth to prevent colds
Winter (December to February): Be careful of dryness and excessive heating
・Excessive use of the heater can cause the room temperature to rise too much.
・Humidity control with a humidifier
・Be careful not to dress too much
[Humidity control practices]
Ideal humidity: 50-60%
However, there is no need to get excited or depressed by looking at the humidity gauge.
A simple humidity check:
Is your throat dry when you wake up?
- Is your baby's nose stuffy?
・Is static electricity easily generated?
Check these out and
If there's no problem, it's fine.
Humidification tips:
Dry your laundry indoors
- Hang a wet towel on a hanger
・Put water in a cup
・Place ornamental plants
No need to buy an expensive humidifier
With some ingenuity, this can be easily addressed.
[Creating a natural rhythm by using different lighting]
Lighting helps regulate your baby's biological clock
It is one of the most effective tools.
Morning (6-9am): Bright natural light
・Open the curtains fully
If possible, expose yourself to the morning sun
・It's OK to turn on the lights brightly
Daytime (9am-5pm): Active brightness
- Keep the whole room bright
・Dim lighting is OK even during naps
It doesn't need to be completely dark
Evening (5pm-7pm): Gradually gets darker
・Switch to indirect lighting
・Warm orange light is ideal
- Reduce the brightness of your TV and smartphone
Nighttime (after 7pm): Minimal lighting
・Use a miniature light bulb or small light when breastfeeding
- Changing diapers in the dark
- Brightness that doesn't stimulate the baby
[How to create a good sound environment]
"Too quiet an environment"
It's actually unnatural for babies.
In the stomach,
Mom's heartbeat, blood flow, bowel sounds, etc.
There was a constant 60-70 decibel noise.
Moderate everyday noises can actually be a source of security .
Daytime: Normal everyday sounds are OK
・Vacuum cleaner, washing machine, television
Family conversations
・Telephone sounds
Nighttime: Quiet, but not silent
・The sound of a small clock
・Air conditioner noise
- The sound of a distant car
How to use white noise:
- The sound of a hair dryer (recorded)
・Rain sound app
・Ventilation fan noise
[The most important thing is mom's peace of mind]
I have mentioned a number of points so far,
I'll tell you the most important thing.
What's more important than the environment
It's for mom to relax .
Staring at the thermometer
If you feel stressed,
With the feeling that "it's all okay"
It's much better to spend it.
Babies sense their mother's feelings
I feel it very sensitively.
If mommy is safe,
Your baby will naturally sleep peacefully.
Rather than exhausting yourself trying to create the perfect environment,
"Everyone was in high spirits today. That's enough."
Please spend your time with this in mind.
Knowing the changes in sleep patterns at different times of the month gives you peace of mind
Natural growth from newborn to 3 months to 6 months and how to keep an eye on it
"How long will this difficulty continue?"
"Everyone says, 'It gets easier after three months,' but is that true?"
"My child seems to be growing slower than other children..."
Exhausted from lack of sleep every day,
For moms who are worried about the uncertain future.
Today we'll be looking at how your baby's sleep is changing.
I will give you a hopeful outlook .
First, I promise you.
The current difficulties will definitely end.
And the change is
It often comes sooner than you think.
[Newborn period (0-1 month): "getting used to it"]
Sleep Features:
・Total sleep time per day: 14-20 hours
・Sleep time per session: 30 minutes to 3 hours
・Day and night distinction: Almost none
Nighttime feeding: Every 2-4 hours
At this age, babies
I'm desperately trying to get used to the outside world .
It's a completely different environment than inside the womb.
Breathing, nutrition, temperature regulation,
You have to do everything yourself.
So it's natural that your sleep schedule is irregular.
"It's normal to be confused ."
Message to Mom:
"Both the baby and the mother are still getting used to it.
Don't strive for perfection, just take each day seriously."
[1-3 months: The period when rhythm begins to emerge]
Sleep Features:
Total sleep time per day: 14-17 hours
・Sleep time per session: 1-4 hours
・Distinguishing between day and night: Appears gradually
Nighttime feeding: every 3-4 hours
From this period,
A ray of hope begins to appear.
At around 6-8 weeks of age, many babies
"For the first time, I'm sleeping 4-5 hours straight through the night."
This is the experience you will have.
"Huh? Is it okay to sleep this much?"
Some moms worry,
This is a big step in growth .
However, it's still unstable:
I slept five hours today, but tomorrow I'll sleep every two hours.
I was doing well for a week, but then I went back to normal
This is something that happens all the time.
This is not a "failure" but a "practice."
Message to Mom:
"Let's find the small improvements and celebrate them together.
Even though there have been setbacks, overall we are making steady progress.”
[3-6 months: The "path to stability" period]
Sleep Features:
・Total sleep time per day: 12-16 hours
・Sleep time per session: 4-8 hours
・The distinction between day and night: becomes clearer
・Nighttime feeding: 1-2 times
Many moms
This is the time when you will feel that things have become easier .
Major changes during this period:
-Stable melatonin secretion
At night, hormones that naturally make you sleepy are activated.
Increased stomach capacity
Because your baby can drink a lot at once, the time between feedings can be extended
Your neck will become stronger
Stabilizes your sleeping posture and helps you sleep deeply
Increased daytime activity
Moderate fatigue leads to deeper sleep at night
Message to Mom:
"We've reached the end of a long tunnel and can see the light.
Your hard work is paying off."
[After 6 months: "The first step towards independence"]
Sleep Features:
・Total sleep time per day: 11-14 hours
・Continuous sleep at night: 6-10 hours
・Nap: 2-3 times (total 2-4 hours)
・Night feeding: 0-1 time
By this time,
Mom will also be able to get a good night's sleep for the first time in a while .
However, there are new challenges:
・Learn how to roll over
→ You may wake up if something moves while you are sleeping.
・Starting solid food
→ Digestion can cause temporary sleep disruption
・Becoming shy
→ There was a time when he wouldn't sleep with anyone other than his mother
But these are all
It's proof that we're growing .
[Understand individual differences and stay calm]
So far, I have given you some guidelines for each age group.
I'll tell you the most important thing.
These are just "guidelines"
It is not an "absolute standard."
in fact:
・Some babies sleep until morning at 2 months old
Some children still wake up in the middle of the night even after turning one year old
Some children don't take naps at all.
Some children need naps until they are three years old.
What's important is,
Find your child's pace
It's important to cherish that .
compared to other children
There's no need to worry about being "late."
Your baby
At your baby's pace
It is definitely growing.
[Get through this with hope]
Living every day without enough sleep is really tough.
"How long will this last?"
You may feel overwhelmed by anxiety about this.
But remember:
Certainly, steadily,
The baby is growing.
Even if you can't sleep tonight,
Maybe tomorrow will be a little better.
Next week may be easier than this week.
And when I look back someday,
"It was difficult at the time,
It was a lovely time."
The day will surely come when you will be able to think this way.
Until that day,
Please take care of yourself,
Please don't try too hard.
Sleeping methods that moms have actually found effective
A collection of experiences from experienced mothers and safe techniques approved by midwives
How did other moms get through it?
I want to know what methods actually work
"It's hard to worry about it alone..."
Senior moms who have overcome similar challenges
We will deliver real-life experiences.
Over the past 30 years, we have looked after over 3,000 mothers and babies.
I heard from the midwife,
Here's a method that really works .
[Testimonial 1: Ms. A (32 years old, first child)]
"The Gradual Lowering Method Frees Me from the Hell of Carrying My Baby"
"My son was two months old and would only sleep when I held him, so it was really difficult.
The moment I put him on the bed, his "back switch" was activated and he started crying...
The method my midwife taught me was a lifesaver.
1. After putting your baby to sleep in your arms, wait for 15 minutes.
② Sit on the bed and let the baby lie on your lap for 5 minutes
③ Move gradually from knees to waist, waist to stomach
④Finally, gently go to bed
At first it took 30 minutes,
10 minutes a week, 5 minutes in 2 weeks to achieve success!
Now he can sleep on his own."
[Story 2: B-san (28 years old, second child)]
"The magic of sound dramatically reduces nighttime crying"
"When I had my first child, I had a hard time because I didn't know anything.
With my second child, I used white noise from the beginning.
Specifically, the effects were:
- Record the sound of a hair dryer and play it repeatedly
- Play a rain sound app all night
- The sound of a ventilation fan (recorded instead of actually turning it on)
Especially when I say "shhh"
If you pat their back, they may fall asleep in just three minutes.
Maybe it's comforting because it sounds similar to the sounds inside your stomach?
It was definitely easier than with my first child."
[Story 3: Ms. C (35 years old, first child)]
"Side-breastfeeding became easier once I let go of the guilt"
"At first, I thought that breastfeeding was bad.
I had to get up every time to feed him.
However, when he was one month old, he became ill,
There are nights when I just can't get up...
I had no choice but to breastfeed her,
It was so easy for both baby and mom!
After consulting with a midwife,
"If you pay attention to safety, there's no problem," I was told.
The guilt disappeared instantly.
Tips for safe breastfeeding:
Use a firm mattress
・Be careful not to let pillows or blankets get in the way of your baby
Avoid taking it on days when you have drunk alcohol
Just by following this, nighttime feedings have become so much easier."
[Testimonial 4: Ms. D (30 years old, mother of twins)]
"The 'Simultaneous Sleeping Method' I Discovered While Raising Twins"
"They are twins, so I put them to bed one by one.
I'll collapse.
After some trial and error, I came up with this method:
- Use two nursing pillows to breastfeed simultaneously
・When one person starts sleeping, the other person is in the same environment
・I lie down with him using the "pretend to sleep" strategy.
What was surprising was,
It was about the twins feeling safe with each other .
Even if one person cries, there is another person
For some reason I calm down quickly.
Sometimes I feel like it's harder to be an only child."
[Midwife recommended: guaranteed effective techniques]
With 30 years of experience, here's what has worked for over 90% of moms :
1. Combination of the "Five S's"
・Swaddle : Suppresses the Moro reflex
・Side position : Reduces pressure on the stomach
Shush : Recreates the sounds inside the womb
・Swing (gentle swing) : Reproduces the walking motion of a mother
・Suck : sucking a pacifier or thumb
"You don't have to do it all at once.
See how the baby is doing that day
Find a combination that works for you."
2. "Body temperature transfer method"
"After I put him to sleep in my arms,
Instead of just putting it on the bed:
① Place a towel warmed by mom's body heat on the bed
② After placing the baby down, keep your hands on the baby's back for a few minutes.
③ Slowly release your hands
Sudden changes in temperature are one of the causes of the "back switch."
3. “Breathing synchronization method”
"While holding the baby,
Mommy take a slow, deep breath.
Babies naturally synchronize with the breathing rhythm of their mothers,
I'm going to relax.
This is a scientifically proven phenomenon
It's called "physiological entrainment."
[Finally: The courage to not strive for perfection]
I've introduced many methods,
I will tell you the most important thing.
No method is "absolute."
The method that worked for me today was
Tomorrow it may not work at all.
It's not a "failure"
It's proof that your baby is growing .
The important thing is:
Knowing various methods
- Be flexible and try things out
Don't blame yourself if things don't go well
Accepting your baby's individuality
Even the experienced moms weren't good at it from the start.
Through repeated trial and error,
I learned along with my baby.
You too will definitely
A special method just for you and your baby
You can find:
Until that day,
Please take care of yourself,
Please take it one step at a time.
You are not alone.
Many mothers have walked the same path,
I've overcome it.
I'm sure you can do it too.
Finally: We support your child-rearing
Thank you for reading this long article to the end.
Newborn baby sleep
A little less anxiety,
Did you discover something new or feel reassured?
Please remember:
18 hours of sleep is a myth, your baby is normal
・If your baby only sleeps when you hold him, it's proof of your love.
・Crying at night is an important part of the growth process
You don't have to be a perfect mom
What's most important is,
A special time just for you and your baby
It's about cherishing it .
Even though it's hard now,
This precious time will never come back.
Please don't blame yourself,
Grows with your baby
Have a wonderful journey!
I wholeheartedly support your child-rearing.