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A complete guide to Okuizome (100th day celebration)
Baby's first love ritual
What does Okuizome mean for a baby?
To all the loving moms out there who have such questions.
A newborn baby turns 100 days old.
Even though I'm busy taking care of them every day,
I want to do something special for this child.
It's a beautiful thing to see a mother think like that.
-Is Okuizome really necessary for babies?
・Can busy moms still express their love?
-Wouldn't it be unfair to the baby if it's not handmade?
・Can love be conveyed without spending money?
Over the past 30 years, we have treated over 1,500 babies.
An expert who has seen the tears and smiles of countless mothers
We will answer your concerns with empathy.
It's okay not to aim for perfection.
With the love of a mother, any first meal will be wonderful.
By the time you finish reading this guide,
With a warm sense of relief, "I now know how to show love!"
You will find a way to solidify your feelings for your baby.
Basic information about baby's first meal (100th day celebration)
Regional differences between 100 days old vs. 110 days old vs. 120 days old
The truth behind praying for longevity
"Is Okuizome beneficial for the baby? Or is it just for adults to satisfy their own desires?"
It's natural for moms to have such doubts.
In fact, the first meal is a time to "convey the mother's love to the baby."
There is a very deep meaning hidden within it.
First, let me answer the question, "When should I do it?"
In fact, it doesn't have to be exactly 100 days .
This is a fact that many moms don't know.
There are so many differences depending on the region.
[Kanto] 100-110 days after birth (celebrate early)
[Kansai] 110-120 days after birth (a relaxed celebration)
[Kyushu] After 120 days old (praying for longevity by "eating")
The Kyushu concept of "eating for longer" is particularly wonderful.
"By delaying the first meal a little,
Babies can live longer
Such a wish is contained in it,
Doesn't your heart warm when you think of the deep love shown by people in the past?
But why did these regional differences arise?
In fact, it reflects the "feelings towards babies" of each region.
In cold regions, choose a warm day to "prevent your baby from catching a cold."
In hot climates, choose a cooler time to "prevent the baby from getting tired."
In other words, the idea of "baby first" is deeply rooted.
Modern moms should also cherish this spirit.
The baby's health is the top priority
・It is also important for mom to recover her health.
・A day when the whole family gets together
・A nice day
Considering these comprehensively,
Just choose the day that's best for your family .
The origin of the Okuizome ceremony dates back to the Heian period, when it was called "Momoka."
At that time, the mothers of the noble families
"I hope this child grows up healthy,"
It was a ritual performed with love.
Even though times change,
A mother's heart that loves her baby remains unchanged.
There are also many other names.
・First time using chopsticks (the adorableness of using chopsticks for the first time)
・Having (parents' wish for strong teeth)
・First time eating fish (the special feeling of eating fish for the first time)
Whatever you call your baby, make sure to cherish their first time.
You can feel the love of your parents.
So it's okay not to aim for perfection.
Mom's wish to do something for her child
This feeling is the true meaning of Okuizome.
[Q&A Part 1] When? Where? With whom?
Three questions answered
The pros and cons of eating at home vs. eating out
How to choose a product that won't put a strain on your baby
Q: Is it better to have the first meal at home or eat out?
A: This is a question I get asked a lot.
The answer is actually "it depends on your family situation."
From my experience of seeing many first meals for 30 years,
I will honestly tell you the advantages and disadvantages of each.
[If you are holding the first meal at home]
✅ Benefits
・It's an environment that your baby is familiar with, so it's less likely to upset them.
You can breastfeed and change diapers whenever you like.
・You can celebrate at your own pace without worrying about other guests.
・Costs can be significantly reduced (around 3,000 to 10,000 yen)
You can take lots of photos without worrying about time.
❌ Disadvantages
Preparing and cleaning up food takes time and effort.
・Need to be creative to create a special feeling
-If there are a lot of participants, it may become cramped.
[When eating out (restaurants, hotels, restaurants)]
✅ Benefits
No preparation or cleanup required
・Enjoy a genuine celebratory meal prepared by a professional
・Celebrate in a special and glamorous atmosphere
・Celebratory chopsticks and teething stones will also be provided.
・Commemorative photo service may be available
❌ Disadvantages
・Costs tend to be high (around 10,000 to 30,000 yen)
- Be considerate of others when your baby cries
・It is necessary to check whether there are nursing rooms or diaper changing facilities.
・The baby may get tired during the trip
Q: How many participants should I invite?
A: In the past, it was common to hold a grand ceremony inviting all relatives,
Nowadays, "nuclear family-centered celebrations" have become the norm.
The most common patterns are as follows:
[Minimum composition] Dad, Mom, and Baby (approximately 30%)
[Basic composition] Above + grandparents from both sides (approximately 50%)
[Expanded composition] Above + siblings/relatives (approximately 20%)
What's important is the number of people who can all share in the joy of watching the baby grow up.
It's the baby's first big event,
There is no need to force yourself to invite a large number of people.
Q: What should I do if my baby starts crying?
A: This is very common!
In an unfamiliar environment or a different atmosphere than usual,
It's a natural reaction for babies to feel anxious.
[Advance preparation]
・Choose a time for the first meal when your baby is in a good mood (such as the morning)
- Breastfeeding should be completed one hour before the ceremony
Bring a favorite toy or towel
[What to do on the day]
・Don't panic if your child cries, take a break
-Continue the ritual while holding the baby
・Take a commemorative photo first
In fact, there are many people who believe that a crying baby is a sign of good health.
In some areas, it is considered auspicious.
Don't aim for perfection,
"The whole family rejoices in the baby's growth."
Please respect your original purpose.
Complete checklist for preparing for your first meal
Tableware, celebratory chopsticks, teething stones
The meaning of vermilion lacquerware for boys vs. dark vermilion lacquerware for girls
Modern alternatives to baby dishes
What exactly do you need to prepare for the first meal?
For first-time moms, the items you need to prepare can be a mystery.
But in reality, you really only need five things.
If you know this, you can avoid unnecessary shopping.
You can hold a heartfelt ceremony to celebrate your first meal.
[5 must-have items for the first meal]
1. Celebration meal (tableware)
2. Celebration chopsticks
3. Celebration food (one soup and three dishes)
4. Teething Stone
5. Baby clothes
Let's take a closer look at each one.
1. How to choose a celebratory meal (tableware)
For the traditional Okuizome ceremony, it is considered proper to use a lacquerware tray .
And the fact that boys and girls have different colors
This is a surprisingly little known fact.
[Boys] Vermilion (red) on both the inside and outside
[Girls] Black on the outside, vermilion on the inside
Why is there such a color coding?
This is because since ancient times, vermilion (red) has been considered a symbol of vitality.
Hoping that boys will grow up strong,
Paint the whole thing vermilion.
For girls, the black exterior represents "calmness and dignity."
The vermilion color on the inside represents "hidden strength."
However, in modern times, it is said that "it does not necessarily have to be lacquerware."
Flexible thinking is becoming mainstream.
Modern Tableware Options
- Baby food tableware set (most practical)
・Wooden baby tableware (warmth)
- Made of plastic (no need to worry about it breaking)
・Dishes for everyday use (homey and familiar)
In fact, currently, approximately 70% of households use baby tableware.
Because it can be used for a long time after the first meal,
Because it's economically practical.
【2. How to choose celebratory chopsticks】
Celebration chopsticks are special chopsticks called "double-mouthed chopsticks" made from willow wood .
The length is "hachisun (approximately 24cm)" which flares out at the end.
It is characterized by tapered ends.
Why are both ends thin?
This has a deep meaning.
One side is "used by humans" and the other side is "used by God."
It means to eat with God.
It can be easily purchased at supermarkets and online shops.
Prices are reasonable, ranging from 100 to 500 yen.
【3. How to prepare a teething stone】
Teething stones are used to pray for teeth as strong as stone to grow.
We use it with the hope that it will be a wonderful experience.
[How to obtain teething stones]
・Received from the shrine at the time of the shrine visit (most common)
・Borrow pebbles from the shrine grounds
・Pick up beautiful stones on the riverbank or the beach
・Purchase online (around 500 to 1,000 yen)
They should be about 1 to 3 cm in size, and you should prepare 1 to 3 pieces.
After use, it is good manners to return the item to the place where you borrowed it.
[Substitute for teething stones]
In some regions, materials other than stone may be used.
・Pickled plums (a wish for a long life before wrinkles appear)
・Octopus (Kansai region/a pun on the word "tako" meaning happiness)
・Chestnuts (lucky chestnuts as winning chestnuts)
・Mochi (parts of Kyushu)
[Estimated preparation period]
It is recommended to start preparing for the first meal two weeks in advance .
[2 weeks before] Prepare tableware, celebratory chopsticks, and teething stones
[1 week before] Prepare the food (reserving sea bream, etc.)
[3 days before] Preparation of costumes and photo shoot
[The day before] Final checks and food preparation
By preparing without rushing,
On the day, you can enjoy some quality time with your baby.
A thorough explanation of the first meal menu
The meaning of love in sea bream, red rice, and simmered dishes
It has a deeper meaning than just "congratulations"
A parent's prayer embodied in one soup and three dishes
"Why does the food for the first meal have to be sea bream?"
For moms who have such questions.
In fact, each dish in the first meal ceremony is
It is filled with "deep love and wishes for the baby ."
I didn't choose sea bream just because it's a lucky fish,
There are even more heartwarming reasons.
[The real reason why sea bream is chosen]
It is true that there is a pun on "medetai" (celebration),
It has a much more important meaning than that.
1. The lifespan of a sea bream is about 40 years.
It is one of the longest-lived fish and represents the wish for longevity.
2. The beautiful pink color of sea bream
It is filled with the wish for healthy, rosy skin.
3. The majestic appearance of a sea bream
It symbolizes the parents' wish for their child to grow up to be a fine person.
And above all, sea bream is so prestigious that it is called the "King of the Sea."
"I don't want this child to have any trouble in life."
It shows the deep love of parents.
[The warming meaning of red rice]
The red color of red rice actually has the meaning of warding off evil spirits .
In the past, people believed that the color red would keep away evil spirits.
She prepared the red rice with the sole desire to protect her precious baby.
Also, by cooking red beans and rice together,
It also expresses the strength of family ties .
"No matter what difficulties we face, we will support each other as a family."
That's the message that's behind it.
[A parent's prayer in one soup and three dishes]
The basics of the first meal are one soup and three dishes.
[Ichi-jiru] Clear soup (clam soup is the standard)
[Three dishes] Sea bream, red rice, simmered dish
Each of these has a deep meaning.
🐚 Clam soup
Clam shells are not paired together.
It has the characteristic of never fitting together.
This symbolizes the wish to be blessed with a good marriage .
I hope to meet a wonderful partner in the future,
I want to build a happy family
It contains the parents' wishes.
🥕 Simmered dishes (such as Chikuzenni)
For stews that use plenty of root vegetables,
"May it take root and grow strong."
This means:
・Carrot: A brighter life
・Taro: May you be blessed with children
・Lotus root: bright future prospects
・Shiitake mushrooms: May they grow healthy.
Each and every vegetable is packed with the love of the parents.
[Modern arrangement but the love remains the same]
"If I don't make it according to tradition, I'll feel bad for the baby..."
Some moms think so too.
But what's important is the feeling of love .
[Modern style arrangement example]
・Instead of sea bream, try "golden eye snapper" or "sea bream sashimi"
・Chirashi sushi instead of red rice
・Warm vegetable salad instead of boiled dishes
・Instead of clams, use clam miso soup
Even if the shape changes,
"I wish this child happiness"
Mom's feelings haven't changed at all.
[Resolving the dilemma between making something yourself and buying something]
"If it's not handmade, doesn't it convey love?"
There is absolutely no need to worry about that.
These days, about 60% of moms buy some .
・Have the fishmonger grill the sea bream for you
・Red rice is purchased at the store
・Only the simmered dishes are homemade
This is the most common combination.
What's important is,
"I prepared for the baby"
It's a mother's love.
[Modern moms' expressions of love in cooking]
Moms of the past and modern moms
I feel the same way about my baby.
While preparing each dish,
"I hope this child grows up healthy."
"I want you to live a happy life"
"Whenever I'm in trouble, my family always supports me."
Please put that feeling into it.
That love is what
More valuable than any fine dining experience
It will be the "world's best first meal."
A complete guide to choosing tableware for your first meal
The reason for boys' red vs. girls' black vermilion
The Yin-Yang philosophy hidden in the colors of lacquerware
Modern alternatives to baby dishes
Is the color of your dishes really that important?
If you're a modern mom, you've probably wondered this at least once.
In fact, the reason why the tableware colors for boys and girls are different is
There is a deep philosophical meaning hidden within it.
When you learn about this, you will appreciate the beauty of tradition.
It's sure to warm your heart.
[The wish that is contained in the boy's vermilion (red)]
For boys, the inside and outside are all vermilion (red) .
Why is that?
The vermilion color represents the energy of the sun .
I want them to grow up strong and robust.
・I want you to have a strong heart that will not give in to difficulties.
- Demonstrate leadership
- I want you to live your life with passion
The parents' wishes are embodied in the vivid vermilion color.
Vermilion is also a symbol of vitality .
Since ancient times, the color red has represented the "will to live,"
It has been believed to have the power to ward off evil spirits.
I want to protect my precious son.
It is a color that embodies a mother's love.
[The beautiful meaning behind a girl's vermilion]
For girls, the outside is black and the inside is vermilion .
This isn't just "fashionable."
The black exterior represents:
・I want you to become an elegant and calm woman.
I want you to be an intelligent and thoughtful person.
・I want you to become a woman who is loved and respected by those around you.
Maintain dignity in any environment
And the inner vermilion represents:
・I want you to have inner strength and passion.
・Courage and ability to act in times of emergency
・Strong love to protect family
・I want you to become a strong-willed, reliable woman.
In other words, "Elegant on the outside, strong on the inside."
It represents the ideal image of a woman.
This hasn't changed even today
It's a requirement for a wonderful woman.
[Deep meaning based on the Yin-Yang philosophy]
In fact, this color coding
It is related to the Eastern philosophy of "yin and yang."
Yang (masculine energy) : outgoing, proactive, active
Yin (feminine energy) : introverted, receptive, inclusive
The vermilion color for boys represents "yang energy,"
The girl's black and vermilion represents the balance of yin and yang.
In the past, people used the characteristics of each gender,
I wanted him to be a well-rounded person.
[Modern tableware options and practicality]
"Traditions are beautiful, but what should we do in reality?"
I'm sure there are many mothers who feel the same way.
In fact, today, about 70% of households
We have chosen non-traditional lacquerware.
Modern options and their benefits
🍽️ Baby tableware set
・Can be used for a long time after the first meal.
・Economical and practical
Perfect for baby size
・Hard to break even if dropped
🌳 Wooden baby tableware
・Warm and photogenic
・Lightweight and easy to handle
・Safe with natural materials
・Reasonable prices (3,000 to 5,000 yen)
🍴 Pottery and porcelain tableware
・Luxurious feel
・A special feeling like a celebration
・A wide variety of designs
Easy to keep as a keepsake
🥄 Everyday tableware
Homely and friendly
・No preparation time required
・No cost at all
・Safety with dishes that your baby is used to
[How to choose: Love is the most important thing]
Whatever dish you choose,
"I chose it for my baby."
The mother's feelings are the most important thing.
The selection criteria are:
Does it fit with your family's values?
Can you prepare without difficulty?
Can it be used in the long term?
Is it safe for babies?
Considering these comprehensively,
Make a choice that suits your family .
[How to utilize the meaning of color in modern times]
Even if you don't use traditional lacquerware,
You can modernize the meaning of colors.
[For boys]
Choose red or orange tableware
- Use warm-colored tablecloths
・Flowers in red
[For girls]
Choose tableware in muted colors
-Add accents with pink or purple
- Elegant decorations create a special feeling
What's important is,
"I want my child to grow up healthy and true to his or her own personality."
It's about showing parental love.
Understanding the meaning of tradition
Adapted to suit modern lifestyles.
That is the most beautiful
It is a "modern Okuizome" ceremony.
[Relieving Cooking Anxiety] Homemade vs. Purchased vs. Delivery
Comparison guide of three options
Even busy moms can have lots of love!
A foolproof 5-minute recipe for grilling sea bream
"I feel bad for the baby if it's not handmade..."
To all the moms out there who feel guilty.
What's really important is,
It's not about whether it's handmade or not, it's about the love that goes into it .
From my 30 years of experience working with thousands of mothers,
The advantages of each option and
I will teach you how to express your love.
[Completely handmade: the choice of approximately 30% of moms]
✅ Benefits
・A sense of accomplishment and affection from "making it yourself"
・No need to worry about additives, safe and secure
You can adjust the seasoning to suit your family's tastes
・Costs can be significantly reduced (2,000 to 3,000 yen)
・Put your heart into each dish
❌ Disadvantages
It may take 2-3 days to prepare
・There is a risk of failure (especially when grilling sea bream)
・It puts a lot of strain on the body while recovering after giving birth
・Do everything yourself, from shopping to cleaning up
[A combination of handmade and purchased items: the choice of approximately 50% of moms]
In fact, this is the most popular pattern!
[Popular combination patterns]
Pattern 1: Have the sea bream grilled at the fishmonger, and make everything else yourself
Pattern 2: Purchase sea bream and red rice, but make your own simmered dish and soup
Pattern 3: Purchase the main dish, but make your own side dishes and soup
The main advantages of this pattern are:
・You can express your love while reducing the risk of failure.
A good balance between time and effort
・You can utilize both professional skills and the warmth of home
・Reasonable cost (4,000 to 6,000 yen)
[Buy outright or have it delivered: the choice of approximately 20% of moms]
✅ Benefits
- Almost no preparation time required
There is no worry about failure
・Enjoy the authentic taste made by a professional
- Consideration can be given to postpartum health
You will have plenty of time to spend with your baby on the day
❌ Disadvantages
・The cost is high (8,000 to 15,000 yen)
・Less "handmade" feel
・It may be difficult to adjust the delivery time and content.
[Every choice is correct! How to express affection]
In fact, no matter what choice you make, the depth of your love will not change .
The important thing is to have each method
"How to express love."
[How to express love through handmade items]
・At each and every step, we put our heart and soul into the creation of our products, hoping that they will grow up healthy.
・Every moment spent researching recipes and preparing food is spent lovingly.
・Even if it looks a little clumsy, it has the value of being "a special dish made by mom."
[Expression of love when purchasing]
・The desire to choose the "best thing" for your baby
・The time spent researching and comparing shops is also a source of love.
・You can use the extra time to spend with your baby
[How to Grill Sea Bream Without Fail: Easy 5-Minute Recipe]
For moms who want to try their hand at making things,
Here's an easy recipe that's sure to fail.
Ingredients: 1 small sea bream (600g-800g), salt, cooking sake
[Cooking time] 5 minutes preparation, 15 minutes baking
【procedure】
① Preparation (Can be done the day before)
・Have the scales and guts removed from the sea bream (ask the fishmonger)
・Sprinkle salt and cooking sake on top and leave for 30 minutes
②Easy grilling method
・Place aluminum foil in the toaster oven
・Place the sea bream on the pan and bake for 15 minutes (do not turn it over halfway through).
・When the surface turns golden brown, it's done
[Tips to avoid failure]
・The biggest tip is not to aim for perfection
・Even if it's a little burnt, it's a "proof of love"
If you are unsure, ask the fishmonger if they can grill it for you.
[Smart cutting-edge techniques]
🐟 Clever Ways to Prepare Sea Bream
・Tell the local fishmonger that it's for the first meal.
・Even at the supermarket, ask, "Can you bake it for us as a first meal?"
・Use frozen grilled sea bream (just thaw and it's ready)
🍚 Time-saving techniques for red rice
・Use "red rice mix" that can be made in a rice cooker
・The quality of red rice sold at convenience stores and supermarkets has improved
・If you want to give it a homemade feel, sprinkle sesame salt on it yourself.
🥕 Easy simmered dish arrangements
・Cooking time can be shortened by using commercially available "Chikuzenni no Moto"
・Use frozen vegetables to reduce the time required for preparation
・You can use "dashi no moto" instead of dashi stock and it's delicious.
Magic words to let go of guilt
"The most important thing for a baby is
Mom's smiling face
From a mom who was exhausted from making things by hand,
Moms who are full of smiles even with their purchases,
It's worth it to your baby.
More than perfect cooking,
Perfect love .
It's not about whether you make it yourself or buy it,
"I truly wish for this child's happiness."
It is the feeling that makes the best first meal.
The formal order of the first meal and the warm meaning of adoptive parents
Differences in methods between Kanto and Kansai
The spirit of the ritual of longevity
"I wonder if it's bad luck to get the order of the first meal wrong..."
"Who should be the foster parent? Are there any rules?"
To moms who have such concerns.
it's okay.
There is no "absolute correct answer" when it comes to the first meal ceremony.
What's important is the family's desire for the baby's happiness .
But, since I have the chance, I might as well learn the traditional meaning.
I want to celebrate with even more love.
[Foster parents: a beautiful custom that brings longevity]
When I hear the word "foster parent,"
Many moms may think, "This seems difficult."
But actually, it has a very warm meaning.
Foster parents are:
**"A person who pretends to feed a baby at the first meal"**
And how to choose
It is filled with the beautiful wish to "share in longevity."
[Traditional method of selecting adoptive parents]
For boys: The oldest male participant
・For girls: The oldest female participant
"Why the oldest?"
There's a heartwarming reason for this.
"The wisdom and experience of people who have lived long lives,
I want this child to share it too."
"Like grandpa and grandma
May you live a long and healthy life."
In other words, being a foster parent is not just a "role";
It's a gift from a senior in life .
[Modern Foster Parents: Flexible and Loving]
But in today's world, it's okay to be more flexible.
・If only parents are involved: Dad is the adoptive parent
・If grandparents live far away: Elderly people who can participate
・Everyone takes turns: The oldest person takes turns at first, then they take turns.
・Mom alone: Mom is the foster parent
The most important thing is,
"Everyone loves the baby."
[Order of Okuizome Ceremony ~ Regional Differences in Expressions of Affection ~]
In fact, the order of the Okuizome ceremony varies depending on the region.
But the method in any region
It is born from a deep love for babies .
[Kanto region order]
Basic triple repeat pattern:
**1st time:** Red rice → Clear soup → Red rice → Fish
**2nd time:** Red rice → Clear soup → Red rice → Simmered dish
**Third time:** Red rice → Clear soup → Red rice → Pickles
**Finally: The Teething Ceremony**
The meaning of this order is
"Eat your staple food (red rice) well,
Moisturize with water (soup),
A variety of side dishes to balance your nutrition
In other words, a balanced diet
I'm praying for a baby.
[Kansai region order]
In Kansai, it's a little simpler.
**Basic pattern:**
Red rice → Sea bream → Clear soup → Simmered dish → Pickles
**↓**
**Teething ritual (octopus used in some areas)**
The characteristics of Kansai are:
"Feed the main dish, sea bream, early on."
this is,
** "The most important thing (the wish for longevity)
I want to tell my baby first."
It is a manifestation of love.
[Characteristics of the Kyushu region]
In Kyushu, in line with the culture of "eating longer,"
It's often done in a more orderly fashion.
**Features:**
・Take more time with each dish
・Pretend to feed the whole family in turns
・Congratulatory messages for each dish
this is,
**"I want to take my time and convey my love carefully."**
This is a manifestation of Kyushu's "hospitality culture."
[Modern Approach: Baby First]
Whichever regional method you choose,
Nowadays, the priority is on the baby's well-being .
[When your baby is in a good mood]
Follow the traditional order
・Slowly take photos
- Have fun with the whole family by taking turns
When your baby is tired
・Only the three main dishes (red rice, sea bream, and clear soup)
- Don't worry about the order, be concise
・It's OK to quit midway through without forcing yourself
If your baby is crying
- Pause and calm down
・Continue while holding
・Just take a commemorative photo and try again later
[Why it's okay to get the order wrong]
"What if I get the order wrong?"
Moms who are worried about this, rest assured.
The most important thing about the first meal is not the order.
**"I hope this child grows up healthy."**
**"Celebrate with the whole family"**
**"Perform the ritual with love"**
If you have these three feelings,
No matter what order you do it in, it will be a wonderful first meal.
[Tips for actual progress]
1. Advance preparation
Write down the order in a memo
- Decide who will take the photos
- Play your baby's favorite music
2. Preparation for the day
Don't aim for perfection
- Go at your baby's pace
・Proceed happily with a smile
3. Troubleshooting
・Don't panic even if your baby cries
・Even if you forget the order, keep laughing and keep going
・Thinking that "if love is conveyed, it will be a great success"
[Heartwarming stories from around the country]
In fact, such warm celebrations are held all over the country.
Hokkaido: "It's cold, so let's have some warm soup first."
Okinawa: "I'll have some Goya Chanpuru too."
Kyoto: "Easy soup made with ochazuke seasoning"
Hiroshima: "Simmered dish with okonomiyaki ingredients"
Every region,
"Local flavor" and "affection"
It is a ritual to celebrate the first meal.
In other words, there is no "correct" answer when it comes to Okuizome.
"Family love" is what
It is the most important seasoning .
The secret of celebratory chopsticks for the first meal
The meaning of eating with God
The deep meaning of double-ended chopsticks
Prayers for strong teeth are placed in stone during the tooth-hardening ceremony.
"Why are celebratory chopsticks tapered at both ends?"
"Do I really have to use a teething stone?"
For moms who have such questions.
In fact, the rituals of ceremonial chopsticks and teeth hardening include:
It has a deep meaning of love that resonates with modern mothers as well .
If you know the meaning, you will surely
"I see, that's the reason!"
It should warm your heart.
[Iwai chopsticks - the sacred meaning of eating with the gods]
Looking at the celebratory chopsticks,
Have you ever wondered, "Why can't I use regular chopsticks?"
In fact, celebratory chopsticks
It contains "the most beautiful wish in the world ."
[Five special meanings of celebratory chopsticks]
1. The sacred meaning of double-ended chopsticks
The two ends are tapered,
It means "one is for humans and the other is for gods."
In other words,
**"Dine with God"**
It is a very sacred ritual.
this is,
**I want God to watch over my baby's growth**
This is an expression of the parents' deep prayer.
2. The wish contained in the willow tree
Celebration chopsticks are made from **willow wood**.
Why willow?
・**Flexible**: Overcome difficulties with flexibility
・**Break-resistant**: Strong enough to withstand any challenge
・**Fast growth**: Grows healthy and strong
・**Growing up near water**: A rich and fulfilling life
In other words, the properties of willow trees
This is based on the idea of "ideal baby development."
3. Hassun (approximately 24cm) wide
The length of celebratory chopsticks is **hachisun**.
The number "eight" is
It has long been considered auspicious as it symbolizes **broadening prospects**.
this is,
**May this child's happiness continue to spread in the future**
This is an expression of a wish.
4. The purity of plain wood
Celebration chopsticks are made of **white wood**.
White is
- Symbol of purity
- Represents a new beginning
*Pure and untainted
In other words,
**May this child continue to have a pure and innocent heart**
This is the parent's wish.
5. A special feeling of being used only once
Celebration chopsticks are only used at the first meal ceremony.
**"Special chopsticks you'll only own once in your lifetime"**
this is,
**This is a once in a lifetime special day**
This indicates that...
[Tooth-hardening Ceremony: A parent's deep love imbued in a stone]
"Teething stones are a bit of an old-fashioned custom, aren't they?"
Some moms may think so.
But actually, the tooth-hardening ceremony
It has a deep meaning that is relevant even today .
[The true meaning of the tooth-hardening ceremony]
Superficial meaning:
"May your teeth grow as strong as stone."
Deep meaning:
**1. Wish for good health**
In the past, dental treatment was not available,
Strong teeth were a symbol of a long, healthy life.
**2. The ability to face challenges**
"Teeth that can chew hard things"
It represents the strength to overcome difficulties in life.
**3. The foundation of life force**
"Chewing thoroughly before eating"
It is the very foundation of the power to live.
**4. Prepare to speak**
With teething,
The expectation of growth is to be able to speak the language.
[Types and meanings of teething stones]
[Shrine stone]
- Most common
It is said to contain the power of God.
・It is often given at shrine visits.
・Please return it to the shrine after use.
[Riverstones]
- Symbolizes the power of nature
・Ideal are stones that have been washed and rounded by water.
・The wish that "I want my child to grow up strong like nature"
- Return it to its original place after use
[Stones on the coast]
・Rounded stones washed by the waves
・"I want you to have a heart as big as the vast ocean"
・Salt has a purifying effect
[Purchased stone]
・Safe from a hygienic standpoint
- Easy to use as it is specially made
・Prices range from 500 to 1,000 yen
[Tooth-hardening culture by region]
In fact, teething rituals vary by region.
There are some very interesting differences.
[Octopus culture in Kansai]
In some areas of Kansai, octopus is used instead of stone.
**Why an octopus?**
**1. Happiness pun**
"Tako" means "happiness"
"May you be blessed with lots of happiness"
**2. Chewy texture**
A wish for "strong teeth that can bite through tough octopus"
**3. Kansai Food Culture**
Takoyaki and other octopus-loving Kansai culture
[Kyushu's umeboshi culture]
In some areas of Kyushu, **"umeboshi"** is used.
**Meaning of Umeboshi:**
・**Longevity**: "Live long enough to get wrinkles"
・**The ability to withstand difficulties**: The strength to withstand sourness
・**Storability**: Long-lasting = symbol of longevity
[Kelp culture in Hokkaido]
In Hokkaido, **"konbu"** is also used.
**Kombu meaning:**
・A mnemonic for **joy**
・**Perseverance**: Tenacity to overcome difficulties
・**Rich in nutrients**: Wishing for a healthy growth
[The correct way to perform the teething ritual]
What you will need:
・Teething stone (or octopus, pickled plum, etc.)
・Celebration chopsticks
・Clean cloth or kitchen paper
procedure:
**1. Cleanse the stone**
Wipe the teething stone with a clean cloth
**2. Place chopsticks on the stone**
Lightly touch the tip of the celebratory chopsticks to the teething stone.
**3. Make a wish**
I pray in my heart that my teeth will be as strong as stone.
4. Touching your baby's gums
Gently tap the chopsticks on the baby's gums.
5. Express your love
Say words of affection, such as "I hope you grow up healthy"
⚠️ Safety precautions
・Do not put stones directly into the baby's mouth
・Make sure to use chopsticks
・Do not use too much force
If your baby doesn't like it, don't force it
[Modern arrangement of teething rings]
While valuing tradition,
More and more moms are opting for modern styles.
- Use teething toys**
- **Stones of family memories** (such as wedding stones)
・**Birthstone** (stone of the baby's birth month)
・**Handmade souvenirs**
Every arrangement,
If it is filled with love for this child
It makes a great teething ritual.
[At the end of the ceremony: gratitude]
After the ceremonies of ceremonial chopsticks and teeth hardening are over,
Baby for the whole family
Say "Thank you"**.
"Thank you for growing up healthy for 100 days."
"I hope you continue to grow up healthily."
"We're all watching over you."
This feeling of gratitude is
This is the true meaning of the ceremonial chopsticks and teeth-hardening ritual.
Choosing baby clothes
A cuteness you'll want to capture in a commemorative photo
Which is cuter: Japanese clothing or Western clothing?
How to choose a product that will make mom's heart flutter
What kind of clothes should I dress my baby in at the first meal?
"It's a special day, so I want to dress her in a cute outfit, but..."
To moms who are worried about this.
Choosing your outfit for the first meal
The most important thing is "Mom's feeling that her child is cute."
Whatever outfit you choose,
A baby surrounded by mother's love,
You will become the cutest protagonist in the world.
[Basic principles for choosing a first meal costume]
When you're unsure about which outfit to choose,
Consider these three things.
1. Is your baby comfortable?
- Easy-to-move material
・Gentle on the skin
Easy to put on and take off
2. Does it look good in photos?
・Suitable for the atmosphere of the first meal
・A special feeling that will be memorable
- Balance with family clothing
3. Does your mom think it's cute?
・Just looking at it makes you happy
・It is filled with love
・Memorable
If these three are in place,
It's the perfect choice for any outfit.
[Traditional Japanese Clothing - Elegant Beauty]
[Traditional costume for boys]
-Colored kosode** (most formal)
Auspicious patterns such as cranes, pine trees, and noshi on a gray or black background
**meaning:**
・Crane: Longevity and marital harmony
・Pine: Longevity and green health all year round
・Noshi: A message of celebration
・Hakama-style romper** (modern and popular)
Easy to put on and take off while retaining the atmosphere of traditional Japanese clothing
[Traditional costumes for girls]
-Colored kosode** (most formal)
Cute patterns such as flowers, butterflies, and balls on red and pink backgrounds
**meaning:**
・Floral pattern: Wishing for beautiful and elegant growth
Butterfly: A symbol of transformation and growth
・Mari: A round and harmonious life
・Kimono-style romper** (practical and cute)
Combining the beauty and practicality of traditional Japanese clothing
[Modern Western style - free and adorable]
[Popular Western-style clothing ranking for boys]
1st Place: Tuxedo-Style Romper**
-Formal and special
・Excellent photogenic
・The cuteness of the "little gentleman"
2nd place: Baby suit**
・Casual but elegant
Easy to move around in
・Can be used for everyday use
3rd place: Dress-up rompers**
- Collar and buttons give it a formal look
・Affordable price
Easy to wash
[Popular Western-style clothing rankings for girls]
1st place: Ceremony dress**
・Princess-like cuteness
Perfect for special occasions
・Looks great in photos
2nd place: One-piece style romper**
・Elegant and cute
・Comfortable to wear
・A wide range of colors available
3rd place: Ruffled romper**
・Girlish cuteness
・Casual yet special
Easy to clean
[Tips for choosing seasonal clothing]
[Spring Okuizome Ceremony (March-May)]
・Patterns of cherry blossoms and flowers are popular.
- Thin material makes it easy to adjust
-Pastel colors stand out
- Adjust the temperature by layering
Recommended colors: **
Pale pink, cream, light green, baby blue
[Summer Okuizome Ceremony (June-August)]
・**Cool materials** are the top priority
・Jinbei and yukata styles are popular
- Breathable cotton material
- Material that is okay to sweat
Recommended materials: **
Gauze, linen, thin cotton
[Autumn Okuizome Ceremony (September-November)]
- Colors inspired by autumn leaves and harvest
・Slightly thick material
・Adjust with a vest or cardigan
・Warm colors
Recommended colors: **
Orange, brown, dark green, wine red
[Winter Okuizome Ceremony (December-February)]
・**Warmth** is the top priority
- Velvet and knit materials
・Take proper measures to protect yourself from the cold
Easy to put on and take off indoors
Recommended materials: **
Velvet, wool, heavy cotton
[Costume selection guide for different budgets]
[For those who want to save money: 1,000 to 3,000 yen]
・**Arrange your existing clothes**
Add a special touch to everyday wear with ribbons and brooches
・**Affordable brand**
You can also find cute outfits at Nishimatsuya, Shimamura, Uniqlo, etc.
·**handmade**
Make a simple bib or headband to create a special touch
[Standard: 3,000 yen to 8,000 yen]
・**Baby clothing specialty brand**
MIKI HOUSE, COMBI MINI, PETIT MAIN, etc.
・**Ceremony dress**
Can be used for other occasions besides the first meal, such as shrine visits
・**Hakama-style romper**
Enjoy the atmosphere of traditional Japanese clothing with ease
[For those with particular tastes: 8,000 yen to 20,000 yen]
・**Authentic kimono**
Rent or buy authentic Japanese clothing
・**Custom-made**
A special costume that is one of a kind
・**Branded ceremony dress**
Luxury brands such as Familia and Ralph Lauren
[Tips to avoid mistakes when choosing costumes]
[Size selection]
・We recommend ordering one size larger
Because they grow quickly around 100 days after birth
- Choose a stretchy material
Easy to move around in, and it's okay if the size doesn't fit.
・**If you can try it on, be sure to try it on**
If you buy online, choose a shop that allows returns
[Focus on functionality]
・It would be nice if there were **inseam buttons**
Easy diaper changes
・**Front opening** type
Easy to put on and take off, no strain on the baby
・**Easy-to-wash material**
No need to worry about getting dirty
[Tips for taking great photos]
[Color matching]
- Consider harmony with your family's clothing
- Matching with the color of the tableware for the first meal
- Harmony with the atmosphere of the room that serves as the background
[Use accessories]
・**Hairband** (Girls)
・**Bow tie** (boy)
- **Brooch** or **corsage**
- Socks and shoes (look good in photos even if you don't walk)
[Experiences of senior mothers]
"Mom who chose Japanese clothing"**
"At first I thought it would be a lot of work, but once we dressed him up, he looked so cute and the whole family was touched. Every time we look back at the photos, we remember what a special day it was."
"Mom chose Western clothing"**
"I chose a ceremony dress that could be worn for everyday occasions. It was very practical as I could wear it for outings afterwards too."
"Homemade Mom"**
"It took a long time, but I'm very happy to have been able to create a one-of-a-kind costume. It was made with a lot of love."
"Mom celebrated in everyday clothes"**
"We didn't prepare any special costumes, but I realized that the most important thing is the feeling of celebrating with the whole family."
Each choice is up to each family.
It's a "form of love"**.
What's important is,
**"I chose this child with love for him."**
That's how I feel.
[Final selection method]
When you're unsure about which outfit to choose,
Try asking yourself these questions:
**"When I see a baby in any costume,
Which one do you think is the cutest?
**"When I look back at this photo in 10 years,
Which outfit would you say was a good choice?
The answer is,
This is the **"right answer"** for you.
Whether it's Japanese or Western clothing, expensive or affordable,
If it's a costume made with love from mom,
They will all be the most beautiful costumes in the world.
[Learn from failure stories] What to do when your baby cries on the day
Experiences of senior mothers
Flexible ways to express love
"What if the baby cries on the day and we can't perform the ceremony?"
"I worked so hard to prepare, and it would be sad if it all went to waste..."
To moms who have such concerns.
rest assured.
It's very natural for babies to cry .
From my experience of seeing over 1,500 first meals over the past 30 years,
"When you cry, it's the best chance to express your love"
I would like to tell you that this is the case.
[Why babies cry: Love can solve the problem]
First, understand why your baby is crying.
[5 reasons why babies cry at Okuizome]
1. Anxiety about unfamiliar environments
・A different atmosphere than usual
・There are a lot of people
・Lighting and sounds are different from usual
Solution: **
"It's okay, Mommy's here"
Hold the baby while speaking gently
2. Hungry/sleepy
- Breastfeeding timing is off
・It overlapped with nap time
My usual rhythm has been disrupted
Solution: **
**Temporarily suspend the ritual**
Putting your baby's needs first
3. Clothing incongruity
・Unusual outfit
・I'm concerned about the material and tightness
・Temperature discomfort such as hot or cold
Solution: **
**Loosen up your costume**, or
**Change into regular clothes** Continue
4. You can feel the tension of adults.
・Mom and Dad's tension
- Pressure to do things perfectly
Family members' anxiety
Solution: **
Let's all smile together,
Create a relaxed atmosphere
5. Simply having a bad mood
・I don't feel like it for no particular reason
・Babies also have "days like that"
Solution: **
"You're in a bad mood today,"
Accept it and don't push yourself
[Experienced mom's experiences: Failure is the mother of success]
[Experience 1: A mother who couldn't do anything but cry]
"On the day of my daughter's first meal, she was in a bad mood from the morning.
I cried the whole time.
At first I was worried, thinking, "I've prepared so much..."
My husband said, "My daughter is cute even when she's crying,
He said, ``Let's take a commemorative photo, including your crying face.''
As a result, the whole family helped their crying daughter
I was able to take lots of photos of her gently cradle him.
It was a memorable day that really conveyed the love of family .
Now that I think about it, rather than a perfect ceremony,
The whole family loves her daughter
I think that time was more valuable."
[Experience 2: A mom who fell asleep during the session]
"My son's first meal, during the ceremony
I fell into a deep sleep.
At first I thought about waking him up, but
My grandmother said, "Even when you're sleeping, your face is like an angel and so cute."
I pretended to gently feed my sleeping son .
Looking back at the photos, it's so peaceful.
It's a ceremony filled with love,
I think, "This feels like home too."
Even if you don't aim for perfection,
I realized that love is enough ."
[Experience 3: A mom who threw away everything she had prepared]
"The moment my daughter saw the celebratory meal,
I flailed my hands and dropped all the dishes.
The food I had prepared was ruined,
I was shocked for a moment,
My daughter's face saying "I did it!" was so cute.
The whole family laughed out loud.
I quickly bought a lunch box at a convenience store,
We had our first meal with a convenience store bento ,
It was a wonderful anniversary filled with laughter.
Rather than perfect preparation,
I learned that the smiles of my family are much more important."
[How to deal with problems on the day ~Turn a crisis into an opportunity with love~]
[How to deal with different situations]
If your baby is crying loudly
Step 1: Calm down**
・Take a deep breath and relax yourself
- Tell yourself, "It's okay, it happens all the time."
Step 2: Check your basic needs**
・Are you hungry?
-Is the diaper okay?
・Is it hot or cold?
Step 3: Adjust your environment**
・Reduce the number of people (ask grandparents to leave temporarily)
Dim the lights
- Play music or keep quiet
Step 4: Continue the ritual with a hug**
・Pretend to feed the baby while holding him/her
・Gently tell them, "It's okay to cry."
Step 5: Keep a record**
・Take photos, including the crying scene
・Make it a joke by saying, "He was in a bad mood that day."
If the baby falls asleep
✅ Recommended Action**
・Do not wake them up forcefully
・Take a commemorative photo of your cute sleeping face
-Perform a gentle ritual while asleep
Wait until they wake up and try again later
❌ What not to do**
- Forcibly waking them up with loud noises
・Feeling depressed because "it was such a great experience"
-Hurry and complete the ritual
[If your preparations are ruined]
[The food was messy]
・Put the tidying up aside and take photos first
・Record messy scenes as part of your memories
・Change to something easy to eat (rice balls, bread, etc.)
[My costume is dirty]**
・Change clothes and continue (regular clothes are OK)
・Photograph dirty clothes as proof of growth
・Think positively, "This is also a good memory."
When family members get irritated
[Mom and Dad are tired]
・Make sure to not seek perfection too much.
・Returning to the basics: "The most important thing is for the baby to be healthy"
Take your time and proceed slowly
Grandparents expect too much.
・Suggestion: "Let's go at the baby's pace"
・Explains that "things are different now than they were in the past."
・Share that "love is the most important thing"
[How to make the best memorial]
[From perfectionism to loveism]**
Rather than aiming for a "perfect first meal,"
Let's aim for a "first meal filled with love."
**✅ Change your standards of success**
**Traditional Success:** "Perform the ritual perfectly"
**New Success:** "The whole family loves the baby."
**Traditional success:** "Everything goes as planned"
**New Success:** "Going with the baby"
**Traditional success:** "Take beautiful photos"
**New Success:** "Capturing Loving Moments"
[Magic words that turn trouble into love]
If something goes wrong on the day,
Try using these "magic words."
**"This is so cute, it's just like my child."**
**"I love you because I'm not perfect"**
**"I love every bit of this child today."**
**"Even the troubles are precious memories"**
**"I'm happiest when I'm with my family"**
These words are
Irritation and impatience
It transforms into love and gratitude .
Have a "Plan B" ready for emergencies
[Advance preparation]**
・**Simple menu available** (rice balls, bread, etc.)
・**Prepare everyday clothes** (in case your costume gets dirty)
- Prepare your child's favorite toy
・Keep a **breastfeeding and diaper changing kit** nearby
[Mental preparation]**
・"It's okay if things don't go well"
・"The baby is the main character, so go at the baby's pace."
・"As long as there is love, any Okuizome ceremony will be the best."
[Finally, trouble is proof of love]
In fact, there are many people whose first meal does not go well.
When I look back later
It often becomes a fond memory .
because,
**It is in times of trouble that true family love is revealed**
**Imperfect is what makes us human and lovable**
**The child's personality is best expressed**
That's why.
When you look back at the photos in 10 or 20 years,
"It was a difficult time, but
Now that I think about it, it was really cute."
The day will surely come when you can feel that way.
So no matter what happens on the day,
"This is also a part of my beloved child"
Please accept it.
That gentle feeling is
This is the secret to the best Okuizome ceremony.
Average cost of first meal
Love has no price - A clever way to prepare
3,000 yen course vs. 30,000 yen course
Both are great reasons
"How much does a meal cost?"
"I can't spend much money, but I want to show my love..."
To moms who have such worries.
rest assured.
The depth of love has nothing to do with the amount of money spent .
Whether it's 3,000 yen or 30,000 yen,
If the mother's feelings for her child are clearly expressed,
Both will be a wonderful start to your meal.
[Survey on the actual costs of Okuizome ceremony]
First, actual moms
How much it costs,
We will provide you with real data.
[Results of a survey of 1,000 mothers nationwide]
・Less than 3,000 yen**: 25%
・3,000 yen to 10,000 yen**: 35% (most common)
・10,000 to 20,000 yen**: 25%
・20,000 to 30,000 yen**: 10%
・30,000 yen or more**: 5%
Amazingly, **60% of mothers hold their first meal ceremony for less than 10,000 yen**.
In other words,
"You can have a wonderful celebration without spending a lot of money"
That's the reality.
[Details of the first meal plan by budget]
[Savings Course: Under 3,000 yen]
<<Example of breakdown>>**
・Salted grilled sea bream (small size): 1,500 yen
・Red rice (pack): 300 yen
・Clear soup base: 200 yen
・Simmered dish (homemade): 500 yen
・Celebration chopsticks: 200 yen
・Tooth-hardening stone (obtained at the shrine): 0 yen
**Total: 2,700 yen**
《Great points of the saving course》**
・Plenty of **handmade love**
・**Because it's simple** you can focus on your baby
・You can feel the warmth of home.
・There is little financial burden, so you feel at ease.
"Saving money but giving love" experience: **
"We were a newlywed couple and didn't have much time,
We made the first meal mainly by hand.
My grandmother taught me how to make stews.
The memories I made with my husband
It is still a treasure to me.
I'm sure my son will also feel our love.
I think they felt it.
Without spending money,
It was a wonderful day that strengthened the bonds between families ."
[Standard course: 5,000 yen to 10,000 yen]
Example of breakdown:**
・Grilled salted sea bream (medium size): 3,000 yen
・Celebration meal set (purchase): 2,500 yen
・Red rice, clear soup, and simmered dishes (department store basement): 3,000 yen
・Celebration chopsticks and teething stone: 500 yen
・Baby costume: 1,000 yen
**Total: 10,000 yen**
《The appeal of the standard course》**
・A good balance between handmade and purchased items.
・**Looks luxurious** and feels special
- The preparation burden is not too heavy
・**Looks great in photos**
"Balanced" Experience: **
"Purchase the main dish,
The side dishes were homemade.
Even in between busy childcare
It's easy to prepare,
And yet it feels special
It was the first meal of the year.
My daughter was in a good mood,
I think it was a perfect celebration."
[Specialty course: 15,000 yen - 30,000 yen]
<<Example of breakdown>>**
・First meal at a traditional Japanese restaurant: 15,000 yen
・Full-scale ceremonial wear rental: 8,000 yen
・Commemorative photo shoot: 10,000 yen
・Return gift: 5,000 yen
**Total: 38,000 yen**
《The Value of Special Courses》**
・You can experience authentic traditions
・Maximize the **special feeling**
・**Very little preparation effort**
-High quality and memorable
"A memory of a lifetime" experience: **
"Because it was my first child,
We decided to take the plunge and have our first meal at a traditional Japanese restaurant.
Beautiful food prepared by professionals,
In a formal atmosphere,
It was a truly special time.
It was costly, but
As a once in a lifetime memory ,
I truly think it was a good thing that I did it."
[Smart money-saving tips: Cut costs without losing love]
[Cooking savings techniques]
1. Sea Bream Substitute Ideas**
・**Sea bream bones** (head only): about 500 yen
It looks great and is perfect for photos
・ **Alfonsino** or **Renkodai**: Around 1,000 yen
The pun for "medetai" is the same.
・Grilled salted **sea bream fillets**: about 800 yen
You can also enjoy the taste
2. Easy and economical way to make sekihan**
・Cooked in a rice cooker using **red rice seasoning**: 300 yen
Easy and no failure
・Just heat up the **packed red rice**: 250 yen
Time-saving and reliable
・Homemade **red bean rice**: 200 yen
Economical in the same sense as red rice
3. Reduce the cost of soup**
・**Clear soup base**: 100 yen
・**Shijimi clams instead of clams**: 300 yen
・**Homemade clear soup**: 150 yen
[How to save money on tableware and small items]
1. Choose tableware that can be used in the future**
・**Baby tableware set**: 2,000 yen to 5,000 yen
Can be used for a long time after the first meal
・**Children's wooden tableware**: 3,000 yen to 8,000 yen
Can be used even after growing up
・**Decorate 100 yen tableware**: 500 yen
Add a special touch with ribbons and artificial flowers
2. How to Choose Your Outfit Wisely**
・Purchase a **ceremonial dress**: from 3,000 yen
Can be worn for other celebrations as well
・**Rental use**: 1,500 yen to 3,000 yen
Authentic costumes made easy
・**Arrange your own clothes**: 200 yen to 500 yen
Ribbons and accessories make it special
[How to save on space rent]
[Maximize the benefits of holding your event at home]**
・**Location fee 0 yen**
・You can relax without worrying about time
・Easy to adapt to your baby's mood
・Feel free to breastfeed and change diapers
・**Photography** is also available to your heart's content.
[Tips to make your home a special space]**
・**100 yen store decorations**: 500 yen
Origami, balloons, artificial flowers, etc.
・**Handmade Garland**: 300 yen
"Okuizome" (first meal), "Congratulations on your 100th day," etc.
・Create a nice atmosphere with a tablecloth: 800 yen
Elegant colors such as white and pink
・**BGM** to create a special feeling: 0 yen
Classical music and music box tunes
[How to save money on commemorative photos]
[Self-portraits are great enough]
・Use your smartphone's selfie timer
・**Take turns with the whole family**
- Bright photos using natural light
- Capture the best shots with the continuous shooting feature
[Photography Tips]**
- **Photo taken in natural light by a window**
- From **baby's eye level**
・Putting the smiles of your family first
・Capture even the most ordinary moments
["High Cost Performance" Thinking Method ~How to Spend Money Wisely~]
【Points to spend money on】**
1. Long-lasting items**
・Tableware, clothing, etc.
2. Memorabilia**
・Photos, videos, etc.
3. Safety and security related items**
・Quality of ingredients, etc.
【Good points to save money】**
1. One-time use items**
・Decorations, disposable tableware, etc.
2. It's just for looks**
Excessive decorations, etc.
3. Brand-neutral items**
・Celebratory chopsticks, teething stones, etc.
What's more important than cost
[Why expensive does not equal good]
**1. Babies don't know the amount**
The baby feels
Just the love and warmth of family.
**2. The value of memories is determined by affection**
What you'll remember in 10 or 20 years' time
**"The happy feeling of the family at that moment."**
**3. If you push yourself too hard, you won't have fun**
When you feel stressed due to financial burdens,
It will ruin the celebration.
[What is a truly valuable first meal?]
✅ The whole family can have a great time with a smile**
✅ Go at your baby's pace**
✅ Packed with love**
✅ Affordable preparation**
✅ A cherished memory**
If these are all there,
This makes for a great first meal celebration on any budget.
[Finally, love is the best seasoning]
The most important thing at the beginning of eating is
"The family's desire for the child's healthy growth"
is.
Even a 3,000 yen first meal,
Even with a 30,000 yen first meal,
If that feeling is firmly established,
Both are equally valuable.
What's important is,
**Don't overreach yourself**
**"Cherishing family-likeness"**
**Put love first**
and,
**"Celebrating to the best of our ability right now"**
The best thing to do is to do that.
Surely the baby too
Feeling the love of mom and dad,
It should make you feel happy.
Commemorative photos and celebrations
How to capture family love
How to express gratitude to grandparents
Tips for taking photos that will become a lifelong treasure
How should I take commemorative photos for the first meal?
"I want to share this joy with my grandparents who live far away..."
To the moms who feel that way.
The commemorative photo is
It is a treasure that will forever preserve the ``family love of that moment .''
Even if you're not a professional photographer,
As long as there is love
You can take beautiful photos that touch your heart.
[The true meaning of commemorative photos: the magic of shaping love]
Photographs are not just a "record."
"The happy feeling at that time"**
"Family love"**
"Thoughts for the baby"**
This is an important way to **preserve these things in a tangible form**.
When you look back at the photos in 10 or 20 years,
"At that time, we all cared deeply for this child."
The photographs that make you feel this way are
This is the best commemorative photo.
[Photo timing: The best moment of love]
[The entire process of the first meal and photo opportunities]
1. Preparation stage (15-20 sheets)**
・A celebratory meal being served
・The moment when the baby is dressed
・Excited expressions of family members
・A sense of anticipation that "Now it's starting"
Photography Tips**
Cherish the natural smiles of your family and the excitement of the preparations
2. During the ceremony (30-40 pieces)**
・The moment when you pretend to feed them
・Baby's cute expression
- The loving faces of foster parents (grandparents)
The whole family is watching
Photography Tips**
Use the continuous shooting function to capture lots of natural expressions
3. Teething Ceremony (10-15 pieces)**
・The moment when the celebratory chopsticks hit the teething stone
Gently touching the baby's gums
・An expression of wishing for strong teeth to grow
Photography Tips**
Shoot both a close-up of your hands and the overall atmosphere
4. Family photos (20-30 photos)**
・Commemorative photo of everyone
・Photo of dad, mom and baby
- Photos of grandparents and babies
If you have siblings, come together
Photography Tips**
We take photos in various patterns and value natural smiles.
[Techniques for taking professional-level photos with your smartphone]
[Basic settings]**
1. Brightness adjustment**
・Use natural light whenever possible
・Shooting near a window is best
- Don't use a flash, just adjust the brightness
2. Angle and composition**
- Take photos by lowering yourself to the baby's eye level
・The most beautiful angle is **diagonally from above**
・Organize with the **background** in mind
3. Focusing**
-Focus on the baby's face
- Tap to lock the focus before shooting
- Capture the best shot with the continuous shooting function
[How to take inspiring photos]**
[Photography method that emphasizes facial expressions]**
1. Not just smiles, but natural expressions too**
・A face pretending to feed someone seriously
- A loving expression looking at the baby
・Even her slightly troubled face is adorable
2. Adult expressions are also important**
・The kind faces of mom and dad
・Grandparents' happy expressions
・A moment filled with love for the whole family
3. Various facial expressions of babies**
・Smiling face
・A confused face
・Even a crying face will become a keepsake
・Even her sleepy face is cute
[Composition variations]**
[Close-up photo]**
・Focus on the baby's facial expression
・Hands (holding celebratory chopsticks)
The beauty of a celebratory meal
[Full photo]**
The atmosphere of the ceremony
・A commemorative photo of the whole family
Special decorations throughout the room
[Story Photo]**
- When arranged in chronological order, it becomes a story.
The flow from start to finish
・A documentary of a family's day
[How to convey love to grandparents: A bond that transcends distance]
Special considerations for distant grandparents**
Due to the coronavirus pandemic and distance issues,
There are many cases where grandparents cannot attend.
But there are many ways to show your love.
[Real-time sharing method]**
1. Join via video call**
・Use Zoom, LINE, Skype, etc.
・Create an atmosphere of "celebrating together" even through the screen
・Share your emotions in real time
2. Live Streaming**
・Streaming via Instagram Live and LINE Live
・Receive supportive messages in the comments
・The sense of security that "someone is watching"
[How to share your impressions later]**
1. Create a video message**
・Edit the first meal
- Compile your baby's cute moments
・Include a message from your family
2. Photo Album**
・Selected photos in an album
・Include a letter or message card
- Expressing gratitude to grandparents
【A special way to say thank you】**
[Handmade message card]**
**《To Grandpa and Grandma》**
**"We were able to safely celebrate XX-chan's first meal.**
**Thanks to my grandparents who always watch over me warmly,**
**This child is being raised with lots of love.**
**We have taken some photos of today's celebration,**
**Please take a look.**
**○○-chan will surely become a grandpa or grandma too**
**I think he wants to say "thank you."**
**We look forward to your continued support.**
[First meal report creation]**
《Report content that will delight grandparents》**
- **Baby's condition on the day** (mood, reaction, etc.)
- **Details of the ingredients used** (where they were purchased, how they were prepared, etc.)
- **Procedure of the ceremony** (such as who served as the foster parents)
- **Baby growth record** (weight, abilities, etc.)
・**Message of gratitude from family**
[Ideas for preserving as a keepsake]**
[How to organize and save photos]**
1. Digital Album**
- Share with Google Photos, iCloud, etc.
- The whole family can watch at any time
・Add memories with the comment function
2. Printed photos**
・Print carefully selected photos
・Organize your photos in a handmade album
- A gift for when your baby grows up in the future
3. Photo book creation**
・Use professional services to get started
- Preserved as family history
-Perfect as a gift for grandparents
[How to use videos]**
[How to make a memory video]**
1. Chronological Editing**
・Preparation → Ceremony → Commemorative photo
・Add background music for a more moving experience
- Add explanations with subtitles
2. Highlights**
・Collect only the cutest moments
Easy to see in a short time
- Easy to share on social media
3. Message video**
・Messages from each family member
・Gratitude to grandparents
・Include baby growth reports
[Gifts in return for celebrations - Expressing gratitude]
[Gift ideas for grandparents]**
[Photo-related rewards]**
・**Baby photo mug**: 1,500 yen to 3,000 yen
・**Photo frame** (with a photo of the first meal): 2,000 yen to 5,000 yen
・**Handmade photo album**: 1,000 yen to 3,000 yen
[Practical return gift]**
・**Processed sea bream products used in the first meal** (such as sea bream rice mix)
・**Delicious local sweets**: 2,000 yen to 5,000 yen
・Baby handprints and footprints: 1,000 to 2,000 yen
[Experience-based return gift]**
・**Family dinner invitation**
・**Give the gift of time with your baby**
・**Invitation to seasonal events**
[How to report to friends and relatives]
[Tips for reporting on social media]**
[Instagram post example]**
**"○○-chan, happy 100 days🎉**
**Today we all celebrated our first meal as a family✨**
**May you never be short of food for the rest of your life**
With this wish in mind,
**Preparing a celebratory meal filled with love💕**
**The baby was in a good mood,**
**It was a wonderful anniversary👶**
**#Okuizome #100days #Baby #FamilyTime**
**#gratitude #love #growthrecord**
[New Year's card report]**
・Use a photo of the first meal
・"Thanks to you, I've reached 100 days in good health."
A message of gratitude
[Finally ~To keep love forever~]
How to take commemorative photos and express gratitude to grandparents
"It doesn't have to be perfect, as long as your love is conveyed, that's enough."
is.
What's important is,
**"The feeling of caring for this child"**
**"The whole family rejoices in their child's growth"**
**"An attitude of never forgetting gratitude"**
These are the things we can achieve through our photos and actions.
It is expressed naturally.
10 years later, 20 years later
"I was loved by everyone then."
It feels like
Please leave a **warm record**.
That's for the baby
It would be the **best gift**.
Recipes using sea bream after the first meal
Love to the end
Sea bream rice, soup, and minced meat
How to make the whole family smile
"What should I do with the sea bream used in the first meal?"
"I don't want to waste such a fine sea bream..."
To all moms out there who feel that way.
In fact, there are several ways to use sea bream after the first meal ceremony:
"Cherish love to the end"
It has a beautiful meaning.
By utilizing every last bit of sea bream,
**The happiness of the first meal continues at the dinner table**
I'll tell you a great way to do it.
[The meaning of using sea bream: the circulation of love]
Disposing of the sea bream used in the first meal ceremony is
It's such a waste.
Since ancient times,
"The ingredients used for the celebration will be cherished until the very end."
There is a way of thinking that says:
This isn't just about saving money,
It means "sharing happiness."
The joy of the first meal,
**Share with the whole family**
It is an expression of love.
[How to use different parts of sea bream ~Cooking with love and no waste~]
[Utilization of the head part]**
The head of the sea bream is the part that produces the most broth.
・Sea bream soup**
Elegant and delicate taste
・Sea bream soup**
Luxurious soup seasoned only with salt
・Sea bream stock**
Used as a base for a variety of dishes
[Using the body parts]**
The flesh can be transformed into a variety of dishes.
・Taimeshi** (most popular)
A dish the whole family loves
・Minced sea bream**
Great for rice and bento lunches
・Simmered sea bream**
The meat is shredded for easy eating
・Sea bream chazuke**
Elegant and delicious
[Utilizing bone parts]**
The bones are also packed with flavor.
・Bone rice crackers**
Rich in calcium and healthy
・Dashi making**
Base for soups and stews
[Easy! Loving Sea Bream Recipe Collection]
[Taimeshi - A recipe to bring smiles to the family's faces]
《Ingredients (for 4 people)》**
・Sea bream meat: 200g (leftover from the first meal)
・Rice: 2 cups
・Kombu: 1 piece of 5cm square
・Sake: 2 tablespoons
・Salt: 1 teaspoon
・Light soy sauce: 1 teaspoon
・Mitsuba or green onion: as desired
《Recipe》**
**1. Preparing the sea bream**
・Flake the sea bream meat
If there are any small bones, carefully remove them.
・If it is too big, cut it into bite-sized pieces.
**2. Preparing the rice**
Wash the rice and soak it for 30 minutes
Use a little less water than usual
**3. Cooking rice**
・Add kelp, sake, salt, and light soy sauce
・Place the sea bream meat on top
・Cook rice normally
**4. Steaming**
Once cooked, steam for 10 minutes
・Remove the kelp
・Mix everything gently
**5. Finishing**
・Sprinkle with mitsuba and green onions
・Enjoy with the whole family
《Mother's Love Points》**
"I made it with sea bream for the first meal," she said.
When I eat while telling my family,
It conveys a sense of specialness and love.
[Sea bream soup - an elegant dish]
《Ingredients (for 4 people)》**
・1 sea bream head
・Kombu: 1 piece of 10cm square
・Sake: 3 tablespoons
・Salt: appropriate amount
・Light soy sauce: a little
・Mitsuba: appropriate amount
・Yuzu peel: a little
《Recipe》**
**1. Preparing the sea bream**
・Wash the head of the sea bream with water
Remove any blood vessels
・Pour boiling water over it to make it marbled.
**2. Make the broth**
・Put water and kelp in a pot
・Add the sea bream head and sake
- Simmer over low heat for 30 minutes
**3. Seasoning**
・Add salt to taste
・Color with light soy sauce
・Finish with an elegant, light flavor
**4. Finishing**
・Pour into a container
Garnish with mitsuba and yuzu peel.
・Enjoy the scent
Love Points**
The elegant broth from the sea bream
**Wishing your family good health and happiness**
It's a sign of a mother's love.
[Shrimp Minced Meat - A great side dish to have on hand]
"material"**
・Sea bream meat: 150g (shredded)
・Ginger: 1 piece (minced)
・Sake: 2 tablespoons
・Sugar: 1 tablespoon
・Soy sauce: 1 tablespoon
・Mirin: 1 tablespoon
《Recipe》**
**1. Preparing the sea bream**
・Finely shred the sea bream
Carefully remove small bones
**2. Stir-fry**
・Stir-fry the ginger in a frying pan
Add the sea bream and fry until crispy.
**3. Seasoning**
・Add sake, sugar, soy sauce, and mirin in that order.
Stir-fry until the water has evaporated
**4. Save**
Can be stored in the refrigerator for 3-4 days
・Perfect for filling bento boxes and rice balls
《Usage Ideas》**
・**Minced sea bream rice bowl**
・**As a rice ball filling**
・**To add color to your lunch box**
・**As an ingredient in chawanmushi**
[Sea Bream Chazuke - An elegant final dish]
《Ingredients (for 2 people)》**
・Rice: 2 bowls
・Sea bream meat: 100g (shredded)
・Sea bream broth: 400ml
・Salt: a little
・Seaweed: Appropriate amount
・Wasabi: as desired
・Green onion: a little
《Recipe》**
**1. Preparing the soup stock**
・Warm up the sea bream broth
・Lightly seasoned with salt
**2. Presentation**
・Put sea bream meat on warm rice
・Sprinkle with seaweed and green onions
**3. Finishing**
・Pour hot broth over
・Add wasabi
・Enjoy it elegantly
Love Points**
While enjoying the afterglow of the first meal,
You can spend some relaxing time with your family.
[Using even the bones ~Eco-friendly cooking with love~]
[Sea bream bone crackers]**
《Recipe》**
・Dry the sea bream bones in the sun for 2-3 days
・Bake slowly in a low-temperature oven
・When it becomes crispy, it's done
・Ideal for calcium supplementation
[Sea bream bone broth]**
《Recipe》**
・Boil the sea bream bones in water
・Simmer on low heat for 1 hour
・Strain and save as soup stock
- Keeps for 1 month when frozen
[Seasonal arrangements using sea bream]
[How to use it in spring (March-May)]**
・**Rice cooked with sea bream and bamboo shoots**
・**Sea bream and rape blossom soup**
・**Sea bream and sakura shrimp mixed rice**
[How to use it in summer (June-August)]**
・**Chilled sea bream soup**
・**Cold minced sea bream with tea**
・**Sea bream and summer vegetables marinated in Nanban sauce**
[How to use it in autumn (September-November)]**
・**Sea bream and mushroom rice**
・**Simmered sea bream and chestnuts**
・**Shredded sea bream and ginkgo nuts salad**
[How to use it in winter (December to February)]**
・**Tai nabe**
・**Sea bream porridge**
・**Simmered sea bream and radish**
[Recipe arrangements that will delight your family]
[Children will love this arrangement]
・Minced sea bream omelet rice**
Add minced sea bream to your usual omelet rice
・Sea bream rice ball**
Perfect for lunch boxes and packed with nutrition
・Sea bream hamburger**
Mix minced meat with sea bream mince
[Arrangements that will please dads]**
・Sea bream rice with chazuke**
Perfect for finishing off your drinks
・Marinated sea bream rice bowl**
Marinated in a soy sauce-based sauce
・Pairing sea bream with sake**
Enjoy the elegant taste
[Arrangements that will please grandma]**
・Sea bream soup**
Mild taste and easy to digest
・Sea bream porridge**
Ideal for when you're feeling unwell
・Sea bream jelly**
As a refined appetizer
[Storage method and shelf life]
[Keep refrigerated]**
Minced sea bream: 3-4 days
・**Sea bream broth**: 2-3 days
・**Taimeshi**: Same day (until the next day)
[Frozen preservation]**
Minced sea bream: 1 month
・**Sea bream broth**: 1 month
・**Sea bream meat (shredded): 2 weeks
Storage Tips**
・ Cool thoroughly before storing
Use a sealed container
・Manage by entering the date
How to convey love to family
[Conversation at the dinner table]**
"This is the sea bream we used for XX-chan's first meal."
"The happiness of that time continues at the dinner table today."
"Let's all eat together and celebrate ○○-chan's growth."
By saying such words,
The excitement of the first meal ceremony is brought back to life at the dinner table .
[Recommendation for photo records]
When I made sea bream dishes,
Please be sure to take a photo.
・Photos of the cooking process
- A photo of the finished dish
・**Family eating**
・**Everyone's smiles**
These photos are
**As a continuation of the memories of the first meal**
It will be a very valuable record.
[Eco-friendly circulation of love]
Making the most of the sea bream is a
"Thanks to the ingredients"**
"A spirit of not wasting anything"**
"The feeling of cherishing love"**
Tell this to your baby
It's also an important education.
Even if your baby doesn't know it yet,
Mom's "heart of caring"**
I'm sure it has been conveyed.
[Finally, cherish the circulation of love]
The sea bream used in the first meal
To use it with love until the very end,
"Don't waste your happiness"**
"Cherish your love until the end"**
This is a beautiful expression of the heart.
While eating sea bream rice with the family,
"This is the sea bream from XX's first meal ceremony."
"It reminds me of the happiness I felt at that time."
Being able to have such a conversation is
It is the ultimate "circulation of love"**.
Through cooking,
The joy of the first meal
**Become part of the family's daily life**
Such a wonderful cycle
Please be sure to try it out.
I'm sure the whole family
"A table full of love"
You'll definitely enjoy it.
To convey affection at the first meal
Thank you for reading this far.
Perfection is not necessary for the first meal.
What's important is,
Just love for this child .
Whether handmade or purchased,
Whether luxurious or simple,
With a mother's love,
Any kind of Okuizome
It will be the most wonderful celebration in the world .
Baby's 100 days
An irreplaceable anniversary,
With the whole family
Celebrate with lots of love .
surely,
**Memories to treasure for a lifetime**
It should be possible.