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Complete Guide to Shichi-ya and Naming Ceremonies
Rest assured even if mothers are unwell after giving birth
Correct method and practical tips
"I want to do something for this little life..."
This feeling is surely beginning to grow in your heart shortly after giving birth.
But at the same time,
"My body is tired and I can't do what I want to do"
"I'm worried because I don't really understand the traditions."
Are you torn between this reality and your heart?
it's okay.
There is no "right" way to express love.
The seventh night and the naming certificate,
"Your thoughts" are more important than "perfect shapes"
It's many times more valuable.
This was said by a midwife who has looked after 3,000 mothers and babies over the past 30 years.
"The most beautiful Shichi-ya is the one where Mama can smile.
Because for a baby, there is nothing more beautiful than a mother's smile.
There are no presents."
This guide is
For those of you who are tired from trying too hard,
"I didn't know there was a way like this."
We'll give you a gentle choice.
By the time you finish reading,
The tension in my shoulders is gone,
"It's okay to express my love in my own way."
With a sense of security,
Your feelings for your baby must be deeper.
[Inspirational Truth] Why the 7th day after birth?
The miracle behind a baby's shining vitality
Explained through medicine and tradition! The special meaning of this child's "being here now" and the origin of a mother's love
Every day, while gently gazing at the sleeping face of the baby,
"I'm so glad that this baby was born safely."
Don't you think so?
In fact, that very thought
This is the true meaning of Shichi-ya .
"Why the seventh day?"
The answer to this question is
Modern moms cry
There was a deeper reason hidden.
From a medical perspective, the seventh day after birth
This is the day when the baby's first vitality is established .
From your mother's womb to the outside world.
From the quiet space surrounded by amniotic fluid,
Enter a world filled with light, sound and air.
In the face of this enormous change in the environment ,
It's been seven days of struggling to adapt with his little body.
Respiratory system, circulatory system, body temperature regulation...
Everything switches to the outside world specifications,
The stable period when you feel like "this child is okay"
It's exactly the seventh day.
The mothers of the past surely knew this.
Even if you don't have medical knowledge,
It was a mother's intuition.
"If you can get through the seven days safely,
This child will surely grow up to be strong."
That's why on the seventh day
It was Thanksgiving Day .
However, that is not the only meaning of Shichi-ya.
During these seven days, you too
"Preparation period for becoming a mother"
I have been living like this.
My hands were shaking when I held him for the first time.
The night I cried because breastfeeding wasn't going well.
A morning of panicked diaper changes.
I was moved when I saw his expression, which looked like he was smiling a little.
Each one of them,
Make you "this child's mother"
It was an important time that changed me.
So, on the seventh night
Not only do we celebrate the growth of our baby,
To you as you begin your journey as a mother
It's also a day to thank everyone for their hard work.
"I'm not a mother yet..."
There's no need to think that way.
In the last 7 days, you have already
To the person who cares about this child the most in this world
That's what's happening.
On the seventh night,
"The Beginning of Love"
Check with the whole family
It's a special time.
[No guilt] Caesarean section, postpartum depression,
The minimum Shichi-ya ritual for moms who don't go home to their hometowns
Don't blame yourself for not being able to do something for someone. Love is not measured by its shape, but by the size of your heart.
"Everyone else is having a wonderful Shichi-ya celebration,
I can't do anything for you..."
That feeling of blaming myself,
I really understand.
My C-section scar still hurts.
I feel heavy-hearted due to postpartum depression.
Unable to return home, just the couple.
I can't call anyone because of the coronavirus.
The situation that modern mothers find themselves in is
It's completely different from the old days.
But I'll say it loud and clear.
Instead of focusing on what you can't do,
Be aware of what you can do.
You have already
These seven days are more than enough
I've poured my love into it.
Even though I was sleep deprived from breastfeeding in the middle of the night,
He woke up for this child.
Even though I'm not feeling well,
He changed my diaper and held me.
Despite feeling anxious,
He worked hard, saying, "For this child."
That's all,
She's the perfect mom .
[Lighten your heart! A minimum Shichi-ya list]
◆ Absolutely necessary items (all you need!)
1. **Family Smiles**
→ It's enough if you have the desire to celebrate
2. **One photo of your baby**
→ Whether it's a smartphone or a professional, it's beautiful if there's love.
3. **Words of gratitude**
→ The words "Thank you for being born"
◆ Things that would be nice to have (things that you don't have to force yourself to have)
・Naming certificate (handwritten, printed, or not)
・Celebration food (convenience store bento, eating out, or regular rice)
・Red foods (red rice, tomatoes, strawberries, anything)
"Eh, is that all?"
That may seem so.
But really, this is all you need.
[How to express affection depending on your physical condition]
◆ For moms who can't move after a cesarean section
Holding the baby on the bed
"○○-chan, happy seventh night"
Just talking to them will make Shichi-ya a wonderful experience.
I leave the cooking and photography to my family.
You can focus on recovery
It's the love for the baby .
◆ For mothers feeling down due to postpartum depression
There's no need to force yourself to act cheerful.
"Today is the seventh day since XX was born"
Just tweeting is enough.
Feelings of sadness and anxiety,
All of this is what we call "mother's love."
◆ For moms who don't go back to their hometowns and only have family
Even if there is no one to celebrate with you,
Even just the two of us,
It's okay if you're alone.
There is no right or wrong way to form a family.
To love the people I have now to the best of my ability,
It will be the most beautiful Shichi-ya.
Here, I would like to tell you something very important.
Shichi-ya is not a day to show off.
It's a day to confirm love.
The gorgeous Shichi-ya seen on social media
There's no need to compare.
The magnitude of your love
The luxury of the food and the beauty of the photos
Because it can't be measured.
Your baby may not remember.
But you
I want to do something for this child.
The feeling I had was,
Surely deep in the baby's heart
As a sense of security that "you are loved"
It should have arrived.
[It's okay if your hands are shaking] With a naming certificate
The ultimate technique to convey your feelings to your baby
Even poor handwriting can convey love. Psychological tips for a mother with a fear of brush pens to create a moving piece of art
"My handwriting is so bad that I'm afraid to write the naming certificate..."
"I'm embarrassed for everyone to see..."
I really understand how you feel.
But think about it for a moment.
What is the most beautiful letter for a baby?
Even if the calligraphy teacher writes perfect characters,
It's not a beautiful, professionally designed font.
"The letters my mother wrote with love"
That's why.
With trembling hands, I tried my best.
Despite failing many times, he never gave up.
Wishing this child happiness.
The letters that contain such feelings are
It will become the most valuable naming book in the world.
[The true secret of baby name cards that convey affection]
In fact, the trick to writing a beautiful naming card is
It's not about technique, it's about mental preparation .
◆ Mental preparation before writing (This is the most important thing!)
1. **Stare intently at your baby's sleeping face**
→ Fill your heart with love for this child
2. **Remember the wish you put into your name**
→ "I want you to become this kind of person"
3. **Take three deep breaths and calm your mind**
→ Preparing to put your love into words
◆ Technical tips (simple but extremely effective)
[The Magic Law of Character Placement]
Divide the paper into thirds vertically and thirds horizontally
Imagine nine squares.
・Top middle: "Naming" (slightly smaller)
・Center center: Baby's name (largest)
・Bottom center: Date of birth and parents' names (small)
Just by following this layout,
The balance is as if it was written by a professional .
[Special lesson for moms who are afraid of brush pens]
1. Hold the brush pen "like you would a pencil"**
→ No special grip required
2. Place a magazine under the paper**
→ The right amount of cushioning stabilizes the lines
3. Every stroke, with love**
→ Don't rush, put your heart into this child
4. Don't erase it by mistake**
→ Let's keep that as evidence of love too.
But if you're really scared of brush pens,
There's no need to force yourself.
[Alternative ideas filled with love!]
・**Write carefully with a ballpoint pen**
→ Any pen can be beautiful if you put your heart into it
・**Add a handwritten message to the printed copy**
→ "To XX-chan, with love, from Mommy"
・**Everyone in the family writes one character at a time**
→ Dad, Mom, Grandpa, and Grandma share the work
・**With baby's handprints and footprints**
→ As a record of this moment
And here's the most important psychological tip:
When writing the nomination,
Instead of writing as a piece to show to everyone,
Write it as a "love letter to your baby."
"○○-chan, I'm so glad you were born.
I'm really happy.
This name includes:
It's filled with lots of love from mom and dad.
I hope you grow up to be a healthy and kind child.
I love you."
When I paint each stroke with that feeling,
Strangely enough,
The text will no longer shake.
Love transcends technology.
If you fail along the way,
Even if tears fall and smudge,
That too
As proof of love
Please keep it safe.
Even if it's not perfect,
A loving naming certificate,
Surely for the baby
It must be the most treasured thing in the world.
Seventh Night Food Menu: Alternatives to Sea Bream
Easy Recipes
Quick and easy celebratory dishes that even new mothers can make
"What should I make for the Shichi-ya meal?"
"Sea bream is too expensive for me to buy...is there anything I can use instead?"
For mothers one week after giving birth,
It's really hard to make complicated dishes.
But don't worry.
The most important thing about the food for the Shichi-ya is the "feeling of celebration."
It's not about fancy or elaborate cooking.
[Do you know the true meaning of Oshichiya cuisine?]
In fact, the Shichiya cuisine
Each one has a deep wish.
・Red food → Symbol of protection from evil and vitality
・Auspicious ingredients → Good luck charms
・Round-shaped ingredients → Wishing for harmony and prosperity in the family
In other words, if you understand the meaning of "color," "auspiciousness," and "shape,"
Any ingredients can be used to make Shichi-ya dishes!
[Alternative menu for when you can't buy sea bream: a menu full of love]
◆ Substitute with red fish
・**Golden Eye Snapper** (smaller and half the price of sea bream)
・**Red fish** (affordable and beautiful to look at)
・Shrimp (turns bright red when boiled, which is considered to be auspicious)
◆ Other red-colored foods
・**Tuna sashimi** (beautiful red meat with a luxurious feel)
・**Assorted red sashimi** (tuna, salmon, etc.)
・**Roast beef** (the cuts are red and give it a festive feel)
◆ Surprising but effective substitutes
・**Stuffed red peppers** (round and perfect color)
・**Food that uses tomatoes** (meat sauce, hamburger steak, etc.)
・**Strawberry cake** (add a red color to your dessert)
[Easy Shichi-ya Menu that can be completed in 15 minutes even for newborn mothers!]
◆ Super easy! Basic menu
1. Red rice (can be purchased at a convenience store)
→ A delicious celebratory dish that can be easily heated
2. Boiled shrimp in salt (using frozen shrimp)
→ Just boil it for 3 minutes and it will turn bright red into a lucky charm.
3. Red sashimi platter
→ Just buy it at the supermarket and serve it up
4. Clear soup (instant)
→ Add mitsuba leaves for a more elegant look
◆ Menu for those who can put in a little effort
1. Braised red fish (20 minutes)
→ Just boil it with soy sauce, mirin, and sugar
2. Shrimp Tempura (15 minutes)
→ Easy to make using commercially available tempura flour
3. Handmade Chirashi Sushi
→ Simply mix with commercially available sushi vinegar and rice
4. Chawanmushi (5 minutes in the microwave)
→ Just microwave the egg mixture
[Even my mother-in-law will be impressed! Luxurious-looking presentation techniques]
Even simple dishes
Depending on how you present it, you can create the impression that it has been made with care .
◆ Create a luxurious look with color arrangement
・Must include the three colors red, white, and green
・Place red ingredients in the center of the plate
・Add color with green vegetables (mitsuba, cucumber)
◆ Enhance the sense of luxury by selecting the right tableware
Use a slightly larger plate
・White plates let the colors of the ingredients stand out
・If you have Japanese tableware, use it without hesitation
◆ Small touches to create a special feeling
・Cut ingredients diagonally to improve appearance
・Put soy sauce in a small dish for a more elegant look
・If there is a chopstick rest, be sure to use it
Here, I would like to tell you something very important.
The most important thing about the Shichiya cuisine is
"I hope this child grows up healthy."
It's about preparing with hope.
There is no need to go out of your way to buy expensive sea bream.
There's no need to force yourself to cook elaborate meals when you're tired.
Making good use of commercially available products,
Serve with love.
That's all,
The most beautiful Shichi-ya meal in the world is complete.
The best treat for a baby is
It's about seeing Mom smiling.
Tips for taking photos of the Shichi-ya festival
How to take cute photos of a newborn
Professional-level smartphone photography! Techniques for capturing your baby's facial expressions
How should I take photos for the Shichi-ya?
"Newborns just sleep all the time, so it's hard to capture their cute expressions..."
I really understand that concern.
But in fact, on the seventh day after birth,
There is a "special beauty that can only be captured now"
Did you know?
[Scientific photography methods that bring out the best in newborns]
For newborn babies,
In fact, there is a "golden time" for facial expressions .
◆ 30 minutes to 1 hour after breastfeeding
→ They are full, in a good mood, and often have their eyes open.
◆ Around 10:00-11:00 in the morning
→ Natural light is the most beautiful and babies are relatively active.
◆ After a bath
→ Skin looks radiant and healthy
Just aim for this timing,
The success rate of photography increases by three times !
[Professional-level photography techniques for Shichi-ya even with your smartphone!]
◆ How to use light (this is the most important thing!)
1. Shoot by a window
→ Natural light makes baby's skin look beautiful
2. Light through lace curtains is best
→ A gentle light that is not too strong is ideal
3. Avoid backlighting at all costs
→ Your face will become darker
4. Don't use flash
→ The baby will be surprised
◆ Golden rules for angles and composition
1. Take photos at eye level with your baby
→ Shooting from above creates an intimidating effect
2. Include your hands and feet in the photo
→ Record the small size that only exists now
3. Keep the background simple
→ White sheets and a light-colored background are recommended
4. Take a photo with the baby's name certificate
→ You can tell at a glance that it is a commemoration of the seventh night.
[Magical techniques to take cute photos of sleeping babies]
"My child just sleeps and has no expression..."
There's no need to worry about that!
Even sleeping faces can actually have a rich range of expressions.
◆ Sleeping face expression patterns
・**Peaceful Sleeping Face** → A calm expression during deep sleep
・**Smiling sleeping face** → Relaxed mouth during light sleep
・**Squirming sleeping face** → A dynamic expression when the cat is about to wake up
Each one has its own unique charm.
◆ Tips for taking beautiful photos of sleeping faces
1. Time your shutter to your breathing
→ The up and down movement of the chest expresses vitality
2. Pay attention to the position of your hands
→ Even the little hand gestures are adorable
3. Don't forget to take profile shots
→ It has a different beauty from the front
4. With the help of family members
→ Its small size stands out in comparison to its size
[Deepen family bonds! A collection of photo shoots for the Shichi-ya celebration]
◆ Basic shots you should definitely take
1. **Baby photo alone**
→ As a record of this moment
2. **Name certificate and photo of the baby**
→ It is clearly stated that this is a commemoration of the seventh night.
3. **Mom and Baby**
→ The beauty of motherhood is expressed
4. **Dad and Baby**
→ A father's kindness shines through
5. **Family photo**
→ To commemorate the addition of a new family member
◆ Impressive application shots
・**Family members' hands holding a baby's hand**
→ Expressing the depth of the bond
・**Oshichiya cuisine and babies**
→ Create a festive atmosphere
・**Grandparents and baby**
→ Record the bond between three generations
・**Baby's soles and palms**
→ Record the smallness of the present moment
And the most important advice.
Trying to take the perfect photo
There is no need to feel stressed on the day itself.
Even if it's blurry,
Even if the focus is blurred,
Even if the composition is a little off,
If there is love,
It will be the perfect commemorative photo .
When I looked back on it years later,
More than technical perfection,
"The happy feelings of that time"
It's the photos that remind me
It's a truly valuable photograph.
Relax,
Enjoy with the whole family
Please take a photo.
How to save the naming certificate
Shrine offering etiquette
Storage techniques to preserve it for 100 years and formal dedication procedures
"What should I do with the naming certificate after this?"
"I heard that it is to be donated to the shrine, but when and how?"
A naming book written with love.
How should I handle this going forward?
It's hard to decide.
In fact, the naming certificate states
"Things to keep in the family" and "Things to offer to the shrine"
Did you know that there are two roles?
[The true meaning and two roles of a naming certificate]
Since ancient times, naming books have
It is considered proper to make two.
◆ For family storage (permanent preservation)
→ Keep it as a family treasure for life
→ Show it off at your coming-of-age ceremony or wedding
→ Family history to show to your grandchildren in the future
◆ For offering to shrines (reporting to the gods)
→ With gratitude for the safe birth
→ As a prayer for healthy growth
→ Greetings to the local guardian deity
"It's hard to write two pages..."
You may think so, but
A simple offering is sufficient.
What's important is not the "form" but the "feeling of gratitude."
[Keep it beautiful for 100 years! Family storage tips]
A precious naming certificate,
It would be a disaster if it faded or was eaten by insects.
◆ Basic storage method
1. Store in a frame**
→ Protects from UV rays and moisture
→ A frame with glass is best
2. Avoid direct sunlight**
The biggest cause of color fading
→ North-facing room or behind a curtain
3. Take thorough measures against humidity**
→ Keep a dehumidifier nearby
→ Be especially careful during the rainy season
4. Regularly check the condition**
→ Check once a month
→ Check for insect damage or discoloration
◆ Professional storage techniques
1. Sandwich between acid-free paper**
→ Acidic paper deteriorates over time
→ Purchase "neutral paper" at a stationery store
2. Use insect repellent (odorless type)**
→ Camphor is a good choice as it can transfer odors.
→ Silica gel type is recommended
3. Annual maintenance**
→ Remove from frame and check condition
→ Replace with a new frame if necessary
[Formal etiquette and procedures for offering offerings to shrines]
"Offering to a shrine seems like a high hurdle..."
There is no need to worry about that.
All the chief priests,
The birth of a new life
They will give you a warm welcome.
◆ Timing of offering
1. On the day of the Seventh Night**
→ The most formal timing
→ Postpartum moms don't have to push themselves too hard
2. At the shrine visit (1 month after birth)**
→ Most realistic and common
→ I'm relieved that my health is improving.
3. First visit to a shrine
→ This timing may vary depending on the region.
→ Consult with the shrine in advance
◆Procedure for offering (very simple)
1. Contact the shrine in advance**
→ Tell them, "I would like to dedicate a naming certificate."
→ Check the date, time and offering
2. What to expect on the day**
→ Tell the receptionist that you would like to make a donation
→ Pay the first offering (3,000-5,000 yen is the going rate)
→ Receive prayer (about 15-20 minutes)
3. How to write a naming certificate (for offering)**
→ Baby's name and date of birth
→ Parents' names and addresses
→ Simple things are enough
◆ Frequently asked questions
Q: Can I use a ballpoint pen instead of a brush pen?**
A: That's absolutely fine. The important thing is to write from your heart.
Q: Is it okay if I make a mistake and rewrite it?**
A: Of course. It doesn't have to be perfect, as long as there's love.
Q: Can I go to any shrine?
A: Generally, the local shrine is best, but they will accept it anywhere.
Q: What happens to the naming certificate once it has been dedicated?**
A: They are offered to the gods and then carefully burned at the shrine.
Here, I would like to tell you something very important.
Dedicating a naming certificate is not an "obligation."
Just keep it safe with your family,
That makes a lot of sense.
Physical and financial circumstances,
Also, differences in beliefs
If it is difficult to offer,
With the love of family
Please keep it in a safe place.
That's for the baby
Most Valuable
It will be a "certificate of love."
[Solving in-law problems] What's more important than the differences between Kanto and Kansai?
Psychological techniques to get your child to acknowledge your "mother's love"
Magic words and actions that will make your mother-in-law think, "I'll let my daughter-in-law do what she wants"
"My in-laws say, 'Do it the old-fashioned way,'
I don't have the strength or knowledge to do that..."
"What if I upset my mother-in-law?"
Are you feeling overwhelmed with anxiety?
But think about it for a moment.
My mother-in-law also used to
I'm just as anxious as you
She was a new mother who was trying her best.
And now I'm looking at you
I'm sure you remember.
"I, too, am the child's mother.
I'm glad you did your best."
That gentle feeling
If you can pull it out,
I'm sure they will understand.
[Why do in-laws insist on keeping things "old-fashioned"?]
In fact, the reason why my mother-in-law is so attached to tradition is
It's not because I want to bully my wife .
◆ Your mother-in-law's true feelings
・**"I wish happiness for this child (grandchild)"**
→ We want to protect it in the way that we have always cherished
・**"I want my son's wife (you) to be happy too."**
→ But I don't know how to approach them.
・**"I want to make use of my experience"**
→ Kindness that says, "I want to be helpful too"
・**"I want to deepen family ties."**
→ I want to become closer by celebrating together
That is, at the root
It's ``love.' '
It's just an old way of expressing it,
Just like you
He cares deeply for this family.
[Turn regional differences into your advantage! Effective ways to deal with them]
◆ Characteristics of the Kanto-style Shichi-ya
・Dad reads the naming certificate
Relatively simple dishes are OK
A small, family-oriented atmosphere
・The feeling of "celebrating quietly among family members"
◆ Characteristics of the Kansai-style Shichi-ya
・The grandparents often read the naming book aloud.
The food is relatively luxuriously prepared
・Invite relatives and celebrate together
・A sense of "celebrating together in a big way"
But more than these differences
There are more important things .
it is,
"No matter where you are, the desire for a baby's health and happiness is the same."
That is what it means.
[Magical conversation techniques to open your mother-in-law's heart!]
The most important thing about your relationship with your in-laws is
"Not being hostile."
Just use the following words:
The change in your mother-in-law's attitude is astonishing.
◆ Consultative approach (the most powerful method)
"Mom, I actually have something to talk to you about.
I don't really understand about the seventh night...
What was your mother like?"
→ I feel happy because I feel like I am being relied upon.
→ I want to talk about my experiences
→ Become naturally cooperative
“Can you tell me how to do things in this area?
For ○○-chan (baby),
I want to do it properly."
→ I was touched by how much my daughter-in-law cares about her grandchildren.
→ Recognize that "this girl will be a good wife"
→ Rather, they say, "Don't push yourself too hard."
◆ Gratitude approach
"○○-kun (my husband)
"Mom's Shichi-ya was truly heartwarming."
He told me, ``I'm sorry.''
I also want to have a loving Shichi-ya like that."
→ I was touched to hear that my son spoke so kindly of me.
→ I feel relieved that my daughter-in-law cares for my son.
→ They want to actively cooperate
[How to communicate your poor health to others]
To make people understand the postpartum health problems
Actually, it's not that difficult.
Because my mother-in-law had the same experience.
◆ How to communicate in a way that evokes empathy
"It must have been difficult for your mother after giving birth...
I'm still in pain,
I'm doing my best taking care of ○○-chan (baby).
But I wanted to do a proper Shichi-ya.
A simple yet heartfelt way to do it
Could you please tell me?”
→ "Yes, that's right, that happened to me too"
→ They worry and tell me, "Don't push yourself too hard."
→ They offer to help you
[Techniques for getting permission for modern arrangements]
"But it has to be the old-fashioned way.
Your mother-in-law will be upset..."
In such cases,
While preserving the "old-fashioned spirit,"
Adopting "modern methods"
Try making a suggestion.
◆ Win-Win Proposal Techniques
"I want to do as my mother taught me,
Sea bream is expensive now...
But, the feeling of celebration
I want to make sure that the most important part is important.
Even if you substitute red fish,
If you celebrate with all your heart
Will ○○-chan (baby) understand?”
→ I agree with the idea that "the heart is important"
→ "Well, that can't be helped"
→ They will evaluate the alternative as a good idea.
[Final Secret: Affection Appeal Strategy]
When you just can't get them to understand
This is a last resort.
"Mom, I'll be honest with you.
As a mother of baby XX,
I'm still inexperienced and there are many things I don't understand.
But protect this child,
I just want to make you happy
I won't lose to anyone.
Just like your mother,
I love this child with all my heart.
So, mother's wisdom
Even while borrowing,
I want to do my best.”
Hearing these words
Unmoved
I don't have a mother-in-law.
Because this is
Because it 's not "acting" but "the truth."
Your sincere love,
It will definitely get through.
Rather than regional or generational differences,
"Feelings of love for this child"
It's much bigger and stronger.
Believe in that,
Be bold, yet humble
Try to convey your love.
[Tearful] The Seventh Night Greetings That Heart the Family
The art of inspiring speeches that unite people
"Thank you for your hard work as a wife and a mother" - these magical words brought tears to the eyes of my parents-in-law
"What should I say to you on the seventh night?"
"I'm nervous and not confident that I can speak well..."
I understand how you feel.
But actually, on the seventh night greeting
You don't need the "perfect words."
What you need is
"Love for this child" and "gratitude to my family"
Just these two.
Here is a touching story I heard from a midwife.
"A mother said,
"I'm still inexperienced, but
Supported by this child and everyone
I feel like I'm becoming a mother."
When I said that and shed tears,
My mother-in-law was also crying.
"You're a great mom"
He hugged me and said,
Rather than a perfect greeting,
Those with honest feelings
It always resonates with people,
I was there and was moved."
Your honest feelings,
Surely the same
It will warm the hearts of your family.
[Three Golden Rules for Heartfelt Greetings]
◆ Rule 1: [Start with gratitude]
Instead of starting with criticism or anxiety,
Always start with gratitude.
"Everyone is busy today,
On the seventh night of ○○ (baby's name)
Thank you for coming together
Thank you so much."
Just this one word,
The atmosphere of the place becomes warmer.
◆ Rule 2: [Speak as your true self]
There's no need to stretch yourself.
"to be honest,
It's only been seven days since I became a mother.
There are so many things I don't understand.
But, ○○ (baby)
Thank you for coming to us,
Every day feels like a miracle."
Honesty is the most powerful weapon.
◆ Rule 3: [End with a resolution for the future]
"I hope this child grows up to be a healthy and kind person.
We will also do our best.
Please continue to do so
Please keep an eye on me."
Trust in family and
Demonstrate your maternal responsibility.
[Collection of moving greetings for different occasions]
◆ [Basic version] A warm Shichi-ya just for the family
"Dad, Mom,
And ○○ (husband's name),
Thank you for today.
Seven days after ○○ (baby) was born,
I've been a mother for seven days now.
There are still many things I don't understand,
It can be unsettling at times,
When I hold this little hand,
"I want to protect this child."
I strongly believe that.
○○ (baby),
Thank you for being born.
Everyone, from now on
Our family
thank you"
◆ [In-laws version] A slightly tense situation
"Dad, Mom,
Today is for ○○ (baby)
Such a wonderful seventh night
Please prepare
Thank you very much.
From ○○ (husband),
"Mom's Shichi-ya was warm and wonderful"
I heard that.
I am also such a loving person.
To be a mother
I will do my best.
○○ (baby) too,
Surrounded by such a loving family
I think I'm happy.
There are many things I don't understand,
While teaching me various things,
I will cherish and nurture it."
◆ [Illness Edition] The courage to be honest
"Thank you everyone for coming today.
To be honest,
I'm not completely healthy yet,
Welcoming you all
I'm doing my best.
But, ○○ (baby)
Only on the seventh night
I want to do it properly.
It may not be perfect, but
Only love
I put a lot into it.
○○ (baby),
Your mother
I love you dearly.
Everyone,
Please love this child
thank you"
[Emergency measures when your mind goes blank due to nervousness]
If you get too nervous on the day and can't say anything,
Just remember this.
"thank you.
○○ (baby)
thank you"
Just these two words,
The feelings are conveyed well enough.
There is no need to talk for long.
What's important is not "length" but "sincerity."
[Hidden tricks to make your parents-in-law cry!]
If you can afford it,
Try adding this comment:
"○○ (husband) always
"I want you to be a kind person like your mother."
He is talking to ○○ (baby).
I'm like my mother
I want to be a loving person."
For my grandmother,
My son said about himself
The more I know that you are saying nice things,
There is nothing to be happy about.
And the son's wife (you)
If you know that someone respects you,
I'll be your ally now.
But these are all
It's not "technology."
Your honest feelings
Just put it into words.
There's no need to lie or act.
Love for this child,
Gratitude to family,
Hope for the future.
If you speak honestly about them,
It will definitely get through.
Rather than being good at greetings,
Your love as a mother
Because it's always worth it.
[Must-read for perfectionist moms] Even if you make a mistake on the naming book
Even if the seventh night doesn't go as planned
The absolute reason why love never diminishes
The moving truth that failure is proof that you worked hard for your child
"I made a mistake on the naming certificate..."
"The preparations for Shichi-ya aren't going well at all..."
"I'm sorry to everyone..."
Are you blaming yourself in that way?
But listen.
Rather than a perfect Shichi-ya,
The more loving Shichi-ya
It's a thousand times more beautiful.
I heard from the midwife,
There is one episode I will never forget.
"A mother wrote in her naming book
I wrote the baby's name wrong
He came to me for advice crying his eyes out.
But when I saw that "incorrect naming document,"
I was rather moved.
The letters are trembling,
There are traces of tears,
There are signs that it has been rewritten many times.
But from each stroke
"Love for this child"
It was overflowing.
I said.
"This is the most beautiful naming book in the world.
A naming book filled with so much love,
I've never seen it before.'
The mother was crying
"Really?"
"It's true. The baby will surely...
My mother wrote it so diligently,
Because I understand perfectly well.』
Even now, I still have that naming certificate.
It seems to be a treasured decoration."
Your "failures"
Surely the same
It is "proof of love."
【Why is "failure" beautiful?】
If it can be done perfectly,
Actually, anyone can do it.
but,
Even if it's not perfect
"For this child"
Keep working hard.
this is,
Only a mother can do this
It is a special expression of love .
◆ Letters written with trembling hands
→ I was worried, but this is proof that I didn't give up
◆ Traces of being rewritten many times
→ The depth of love that I didn't want to compromise on
◆ Ink smudged by tears
→ Evidence of overflowing feelings for this child
◆ Imperfect dishes
→ Even though I wasn't feeling well, I wanted to celebrate with you.
◆ Photos that were not prepared
→ Evidence that we value the heart over form
All of these are
"For this child"
It was born out of pure love.
It's not a failure.
It's a medal of love .
[How to deal with common "failures" and how to reinterpret love]
◆ If you make a mistake on the naming certificate
[Conventional thinking]
"That's embarrassing, I have to rewrite it..."
[Reinterpretation of love]
"I think about this child too much.
My hands were shaking.
But there is love in every stroke.
This is also a precious memory."
[Actual solution]
・Write the correct characters in small letters in the wrong places
・Add a comment like "Written with love"
- Keep it as it is (as a record of your love)
◆ If the cooking fails
[Conventional thinking]
"I'm sorry to everyone..."
[Reinterpretation of love]
"Even with my postpartum body,
The food I cooked for this kid.
Love is more important than taste."
[Actual solution]
・"It's full of love," she said with a smile.
・Complement by combining with commercially available products
・Express gratitude by saying, "I'm happy to be able to eat with everyone."
◆ If you can't take a good photo
[Conventional thinking]
"My commemorative photo is ruined..."
[Reinterpretation of love]
"Even if it's blurry, the happy feeling at that time
It's clearly visible.
Memories are more important than technology.”
[Actual solution]
・"I was so happy my hands were shaking"
・I'm happy that I was able to capture the natural expressions of my family.
・Create another opportunity to take photos at a later date
◆ When you're at a loss for words when greeting someone
[Conventional thinking]
"I'm embarrassed because I can't speak well..."
[Reinterpretation of love]
"My feelings for this child are so strong,
It's hard to put into words.
I understand your feelings."
[Actual solution]
・"I'm filled with gratitude"
・Even if you shed tears, they are also an expression of love
Express your gratitude to them individually afterwards
[Interpretation of love when a baby won't stop crying]
On the day of the seventh night, the baby kept crying.
Many mothers feel sorry for their children,
In fact, this also
It has a beautiful meaning.
"This child was also congratulated by everyone.
I'm so happy and excited.
At 7 days old, he's already grown up
I know it's a special day.
Feeling the love of family
It's expressing emotion."
The baby's cry,
It is a response to love .
[The true value of "failure" revealed 30 years later]
I heard from the midwife,
Here's another inspiring story.
"There were only failures on the seventh night.
My mother was feeling down,
Apparently, his son told him this 30 years later.
"Mom, my Shichi-ya photo,
There are some blurry ones, right?
I really like that.
My mother told me
You loved me so much that your hands were shaking, right?
When I look at that photo,
How much my mother loves me
Did you think it was important?
It really comes across.'
At that time, I had been blaming myself for 30 years.
"Failure" actually meant something to my son.
That it was the best proof of love
I got it."
What you think of as a "failure" right now,
Surely for the future baby
"Proof of a Mother's Love"
It will become a treasure.
[How to organize your thoughts when something is postponed or canceled]
Due to poor health or unexpected circumstances
There may be times when it becomes impossible to hold the Shichi-ya ceremony at all.
In such cases,
Think of it this way.
"Oshichi-ya is not about the date, it's about the feelings
Someday, when I'm feeling better,
When I have the time
Let's celebrate again.
Until then, daily
"Good morning" "Good night"
"I love you"
Because it's every day on the seventh night."
Love has no expiration date.
There are no rules regarding the shape.
As long as your love lasts,
You can hold the Shichi-ya ceremony any time.
[Magic words that turn failure into love]
When the seventh night didn't go as planned,
Remember these words.
"Even if it's not perfect,
The love was just perfect.
For this child
I tried my best
Let me praise you.
Including failures
It's all a record of love.
○○ (baby),
Your mother
I love you dearly.”
If you have this feeling,
Any "failure"
It turns into "proof of love."
You have already
More than enough
She's a wonderful mother.
[New common sense in the age of social media] Achieving a goal through tradition and modernity
Memorable and stylish Shichi-ya performance techniques
Even my in-laws will be pleased! How to balance the good old spirit with modern style
"I want to cherish tradition,
I would also like to try a modern Shichi-ya..."
"But my in-laws told me, 'Young people these days...'
I don't want to be thought of as..."
Are you worried about something like that?
But actually,
"The spirit of tradition" and "modern expression"
It can blend together so beautifully.
What's important is,
Not "new appearance"
"The depth of love"
How to express it.
Stylish production,
If it comes from love for your baby,
Surely for the elderly too
They will understand.
[Even your in-laws will be impressed! A modern arrangement that conveys love]
◆ Stylish arrangement of naming cards
[The basis is traditional, but with decorations to add individuality]
・The naming certificate itself should be written in an orthodox style.
- Add baby's handprints and footprints around the edges
・Display photos from the day together
・Add a message from the whole family
"While valuing tradition,
I want to leave behind the love of my family as well."
If I explain it like this,
My mother-in-law also said, "That's a great idea."
They will approve.
◆ Table coordination for the seventh night
[Use of color to create a special feeling]
・Basic colors: White x Red x Gold
→ Based on auspicious traditional colors
・Tablecloth: White or cream color
→ A neat and elegant impression
・Accessories: Red flowers and ribbons as accents
→ Express your celebratory feelings
・Gold: A luxurious look for chopstick rests and small plates
→ Create a special day
Embrace the beauty of nature
・Seasonal flowers in a vase
→ "I wanted to record the season in which this child was born."
・Green leafy vegetables add natural color
→ "With the hope that your child will grow up healthy"
・Fruit represents a sweet future
→ "May your life be sweet"
◆ Photogenic production ideas
[Using garlands and banners]
・"Welcome ○○ (baby's name)"
・"Happy 7th Day"
・"Family Love"
Homemade or store-bought is fine.
If you can tell that love is in you,
The shape doesn't matter.
[Creating an atmosphere with lighting]
・Gentle light with indirect lighting
→ Baby's skin looks beautiful
・Candle-style LED light
→ Performance that takes safety into consideration
・Utilizing natural light from the window
→ The most beautiful light source
[Preparation of souvenirs and small gifts]
To those who participated
Express your gratitude.
・A small card with a photo of your baby
→ Comes with a message saying "Thank you for today"
Small snacks and tea
→ As a "sharing of sweet happiness"
・Small bouquet of seasonal flowers
→ "Thankful for the connections I have with you all"
[Photography techniques that will impress your family while also impressing you on social media]
◆ Multiple patterns to satisfy everyone
1. Traditional shot
→ For in-laws and elderly people
→ Sitting upright, neat composition
→ Commemorative photo with the naming certificate
2. Modern and stylish shots
→ For social media and friends
→ Natural pose, bright atmosphere
Daily contact with your baby
3. A shot that shows the bond between family members
→ For family albums
→ Everyone is smiling and looking relaxed
→ A natural moment when affection is conveyed
◆ Tips and timing for taking photos
[Advance preparation]
・Decide the shooting location and check the light
・Prepare accessories and decorations
- Dress your family in a unified color scheme
[On the day of the shoot]
Start with traditional photography
→ Make your in-laws feel at ease
・Afterwards, stylish arrangement photo shoot
→ "Since we're here, let's try it."
・Finally, a natural family photo
→ When the tension eases
[How to effectively coordinate with your in-laws]
When incorporating a modern arrangement,
It is important to communicate the "reason" and "respect."
◆ Magic words when making a proposal
"Mom, basically
The old-fashioned way
I want to do it properly,
Since I had the chance,
When the baby grows up
"I was born in this era."
I can understand that.
I also want to keep a record.
While cherishing tradition,
A little bit of modernity
Can I add that?”
If this word,
- Not neglecting tradition
I'm thinking about the baby
-Have the humility to ask for permission
Everything is conveyed.
[What's important is "feelings" rather than "appearance"]
No matter how stylish the performance,
The most important thing is
"Love for this child."
In an effort to look good on social media,
Consideration for babies and families
Forgetting this would be counterproductive.
The stylish production is
It is a way of expressing love,
That's not the purpose.
The whole family smiles,
"It was a wonderful seventh night."
I truly believe this.
That is the most beautiful
It is a modern-day Shichi-ya.
[Family Miracle] Starting from the Seventh Night
The science behind building bonds that bring happiness to three generations
How to build a relationship where you can think to each other, "I'm glad I have this daughter-in-law" or "I'm glad I have this mother-in-law"
"I'm worried about the relationship with my in-laws continuing forever..."
"The Shichi-ya Festival was a turning point for me.
I wish we could have a better relationship."
Don't you think so?
In fact, on the seventh night
"The reset button for family relationships"
It plays a role like this.
With the arrival of new life,
Everyone's hearts soften,
The bonds we've never been able to build before
It's an opportunity to reconnect.
I heard from the midwife,
There's a heartwarming story.
"On the seventh night, the new mother was very nervous.
"Can I be like my mother?"
I muttered anxiously.
Then my mother-in-law
“You’re beautiful just the way you are.
Much more affectionate than I am.
He said this with tears in his eyes.
From that day on, we became like real parents and children.
We started a relationship.
It was a miracle that the baby brought us."
Your seventh night,
At the beginning of such a miracle
It may be.
[Why is Shichi-ya a chance to improve relationships?]
◆ Find a common object of love
The relationship that had been that of a daughter-in-law and mother-in-law until now has
It will change to "friends who love this child."
When you look at your baby,
Even in the eyes of my mother-in-law
In your eyes too
The same love resides.
At that moment,
"We feel the same way."
This creates a sense of empathy.
◆ Shared experiences as mothers
My mother-in-law also used to
Just like you
The new mom was anxious and desperate.
Seeing your hard work,
I'm sure you'll remember your past self,
"You're doing your best"
It should move you.
◆ Become part of your family's history
By celebrating the seventh night together,
You are officially
As a member of this family
It is accepted.
No longer a "customer,"
They are ``family.''
[Opening up your mother-in-law! The psychology of building long-term relationships]
◆ First stage: Sowing the seeds of trust (on the day of the seventh night)
[Things to do]
・Show respect for your mother-in-law's experience
・Expresses humility by saying "Please tell me"
- Express your love for your baby
[Specific words]
"Just as your mother raised you (your husband),
I want to raise this child with care."
→ I appreciate my mother-in-law's parenting skills.
→ Show that you are a teammate with the same goal
◆ Stage 2: Cultivating bonds (one month after the seventh night)
[Things to do]
・Burn a photo of the Shichi-ya ceremony and give it along with a letter of thanks.
When I have trouble with childcare, I consult my mother-in-law first.
Regularly report on your baby's development
[Example of a thank you letter]
"mother
The other day we had a wonderful Shichi-ya.
thank you very much.
○○ (baby) too,
I have a family that loves me so much
I think I'm happy.
I'm like my mother
To be a loving mother
I will do my best.
Please continue to teach me more.
○○ (your name)"
◆ Stage 3: Establishing trust (3 months after the seventh night)
[Things to do]
・Cherish your mother-in-law's birthday and Mother's Day
・Using words that flatter your husband in front of your mother-in-law
・Be careful how you respond when introduced to your mother-in-law's friends
Effective words
"○○ (husband) looks like his mother.
He is really kind.
I'm sure ○○ (baby) will also
I think he'll be a kind boy like that."
→ Praising her mother-in-law's parenting skills
→ It also includes hopes for grandchildren
→ Show that you care for your son (husband)
[The role of the father (husband): Bridge-building strategy]
Get your husband to help too.
◆ What I want my husband to tell his mother (mother-in-law)
"Mom, ○○ (you)
"I want to be like my mother"
That's what I always say.
About ○○ (baby),
I really tried my best,
It's reassuring to watch.
Like my mother,
I think he'll raise a loving child."
My son's review:
For my grandmother
It's the most pleasing thing.
◆ Support from husband to wife (you)
"My mother has always been
He's a family-oriented person.
It might be a little nerve-wracking at first, but
They will accept you.
Thanks to ○○ (baby),
Everyone is feeling kind."
With the support of my husband,
You too can rest assured
You can work on building relationships.
[Proposing new roles for grandparents]
To my parents-in-law
By asking for a "special role"
Family bonds become stronger.
◆ A request to Grandpa
"Dad, when (baby) grows up,
What is important as a man
Could you please tell me?
Like ○○ (husband)
I want him to become a fine man."
◆ A request to Grandma
"Mom, I'm still not very good at cooking...
When ○○ (baby) grows up,
Mom's delicious home-cooked meals
Could you please tell me?
I want to pass on the family flavor."
By feeling that you are being relied upon,
Your parents-in-law's hearts will open wide.
[How to create a sense of distance that makes three generations happy]
To build a good relationship,
An appropriate sense of distance is necessary.
◆ A relationship that is neither too close nor too far
・Appropriate contact once or twice a month
・Meals and tea 3-4 times a year
Respect each other's lives
・When you have a problem, consult
◆ Express your gratitude in words
・Don't hesitate to say "thank you"
・Tell me specifically what made you happy
・Sometimes, send a thank you letter or message
◆ Building bonds through babies
・Always report on milestones in growth
・Share photos and videos regularly
・Tell them, "You look like your grandparents."
This relationship that began on the seventh night,
In 10 or 20 years
The name "family"
An irreplaceable bond
It must be growing.
And at the center of that bond is
Now in your arms
Sleeping soundly
It's a small miracle.
[Inspirational True Story] Watching over 3,000 families for 30 years
Midwife talks about the miracle of "mother's love"
Love can be conveyed even if it's not perfect. A story of family bonds woven by the feelings put into the Shichi-ya.
Finally, I want to ask you
There is a truly moving story.
This is more than 3,000 couples in 30 years.
I watched over mom and baby
I heard from a veteran midwife,
It's a true story that touches the heart deeply.
[True story 1: The naming certificate written with trembling hands]
"One mother was extremely nervous.
My hands were shaking and trembling,
I had a hard time writing the naming certificate.
No matter how many times I write it, I'm not satisfied,
In the end, I was completely soaked with tears.
On tattered paper
I finally finished writing it.
"This is so embarrassing
I can't show it to everyone.'
To the crying mother,
My 5-year-old brother
He said this.
"Mom, this is so pretty.
Mommy talks about ○○ (baby)
It says I love you'
At that moment, the mother's face
It suddenly becomes brighter,
"Yes, there's a lot of love in it."
I smiled when I saw that.
Children really
You understand what's important.
The nomenclature is still in place today.
In the best place in the house
It seems to be a treasured decoration."
[True Story 2: Convenience Store Bento on the Seventh Night]
"I couldn't go home,
There was a mother who gave birth with just her husband.
A week after giving birth, I was feeling unwell.
I don't have the energy to cook.
"What should I do on the seventh night...
I can't do anything for you.'
and cried.
At that time, my dad
I bought a lunch box from a convenience store,
"Today is ○○ (baby)'s
Because it's a special day,
Let's all celebrate together'
So, a convenience store bento
Arrange on a clean plate,
Made from red origami paper
Decorate with a small crane,
"○○-chan,
Happy Seventh Night"
The three of us in the family toasted together.
Mom's smile at that time,
I still can't forget it.
"If there is love,
The shape doesn't matter."
The words,
It touched my heart deeply."
[True story 3: Miraculous reconciliation with my mother-in-law]
"I've always had a relationship with my mother-in-law.
There was a mother who was worried.
On the seventh night,
"I'm sure people will complain."
I was scared.
But I'm holding a baby
When I saw my grandmother,
"This person and this child
He loves me with all his heart.'
I realized that.
And then I gathered up the courage to say it.
"Mom, I,
Like a mother
I want to be a loving mother.”
At that moment, in my mother-in-law's eyes,
Tears welled up in my eyes,
"You're very affectionate.
It's much kinder than me.
With that said,
We both cried and hugged each other.
Now we are like real parents and children
They get along well.
The seventh night brought
It was a wonderful miracle."
[True story 4: The Shichi-ya night of a baby born with a disability]
"To the newborn baby
I know there is a problem,
"The seventh night
I don't feel like doing it.'
There was a mother who was feeling depressed.
But my dad said,
"This child chose us.
Thank you for being born.
That's why,
Let's celebrate to the best of our ability.'
On the day of the seventh night,
The name written on the name card
It had the word "hope" in it.
"Just having this child,
It’s our hope.”
Hearing the mother's words,
Everyone who was there
I shed tears.
Now that child is in elementary school,
Every year on your birthday
"mother,
Thank you for giving birth to me.'
Apparently they say that."
[True Story 5: Reunion after 30 years]
"The baby I helped deliver 30 years ago,
This time it's my baby
He brought it with him.
"Do you remember the midwife?
My Shichi-ya naming book,
I still treasure it and keep it on display.”
When I showed him the name card,
Certainly 30 years ago,
With trembling hands, my mother
It was something he had worked hard to write.
"Every time I see this name book,
How much is your mother?
Do you love me?
I understand.
So I too,
To my child
With the same love
I wrote the naming certificate.
Love is sure
It will be passed down to the next generation,
That was the moment I realized that."
[Message from the midwife to you]
"I've seen so many moms over the past 30 years.
There is something I am sure of.
There is no such thing as a perfect mother.
But there is no mother who does not love.
Everyone, in their own way
I'm working hard.
The same goes for Shichi-ya.
Even if you can't do it perfectly,
Even if you aren't ready in time,
Even if you fail,
There is a message saying, "I love this child."
If you have the feeling,
It is the most beautiful in the world
It's the seventh night.
You too, I'm sure
You are a wonderful mother.
The things I'm worried about right now,
Even if you think it won't work,
All,
"I care about this child"
It's evidence.
So, be confident.
Your love is
It definitely gets to the baby.
And that love is
It will never disappear
As an irreplaceable treasure,
In this child's mind
It will continue to shine forever.
name giving ceremony,
Please enjoy it to your heart's content.
Happiness for you and your baby,
I pray for you from the bottom of my heart."
[Finally, to you]
Please read this guide to the end
Thank you very much.
I'm sure you
Very loving and responsible
You are a wonderful mother.
But sometimes,
Too much pursuit of perfection
You may feel tired at times.
When that happens, remember this.
What babies want most is
It wasn't a perfect Shichi-ya.
It's your smile.
Your happiness is
For babies
It's the best gift ever.
So please
Relax your shoulders,
This special time
Please enjoy it to your heart's content.
You and your baby's future
Full of love and smiles
I hope it will be wonderful.
Happy seventh night.
[A special 7th day, with special thoughts]
The Shichi-ya is the first day you celebrate as a mother.
It's an important anniversary.
It doesn't have to be perfect.
But only love
Please give it plenty of space.
That's for the baby
It will be a treasured possession for life.
I hope you have a wonderful seventh night.