Ranking of worries for new moms one month after giving birth: baby, breastfeeding, lack of sleep, weight
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Ranking of worries faced by new mothers one month after giving birth
Breastfeeding, lack of sleep, weight
"Why is this so painful for my beloved child?"
"I never knew it would be this difficult... Maybe I'm just not cut out to be a mother..."
One month after giving birth.
Even though the long-awaited life with the baby has begun,
The reality was far from the happy days I had imagined.
Many new moms feel deep confusion and self-loathing.
"Babies are cute, but every day is so hard.
If I think like this, I'm sure I'm a failure as a mother..."
To those of you who blame yourself like that,
First of all, there's something I want to tell you.
The pain you feel,
It is a "very natural reaction" that 77.2% of mothers experience.
In a survey of 7,023 experienced mothers conducted by Tamahiyo,
The most common answer was, "The newborn period was the most difficult."
This means that what you are feeling right now is not abnormal.
Rather, it can be said to be "proof of a loving mother."
Because I was worried about the baby
Because we try so hard to provide perfect care,
Fatigue and anxiety build up.
A midwife who has worked with over 3,000 postpartum mothers over the past 30 years,
Postpartum care experts agree:
"There is no such thing as a perfect mom.
What's important is the love for your baby,
It's about moms being healthy both physically and mentally."
This guide will help you understand how you feel right now.
Carefully unraveling each problem,
Science-based solutions and
We bring you heartwarming stories from experienced mothers .
By the time you finish reading,
A deep sense of relief that "I wasn't the only one"
A concrete hope that "this method will help me overcome this"
I'm sure you'll be able to feel it.
You are not alone.
And you're a great mom who's doing a great job.
[No. 1] Breastfeeding problems experienced by 77.2% of mothers
The Truth Behind the Every 3 Hours Myth
Is it normal for a newborn to be fed frequently, every hour?
How to determine if you have insufficient breast milk and the correct criteria for mixed feeding
"Just when I thought I was done breastfeeding, it's already time for the next one..."
A survey by MIKI HOUSE revealed that a whopping 77.2% of mothers have experienced breastfeeding problems .
Among these, what confuses many mothers is
I have a question about the common sense that you should breastfeed every three hours .
In fact, there is a reason for this three-hour figure.
There's an important truth hidden that many moms don't know.
"Feeding every three hours" is a guideline based on formula feeding,
This does not apply to breastfeeding .
Because breast milk is easier to digest than formula,
This is because it leaves the baby's stomach within 1-2 hours.
In other words, breastfeeding every hour is not abnormal at all.
In fact, it is a normal phenomenon in breastfeeding .
According to midwives' experiences,
Frequent breastfeeding during the newborn period is actually very important.
By having your baby suckle frequently,
A signal is sent to the mother's brain to "produce more breast milk,"
It promotes breast milk production .
This mechanism is called the "law of supply and demand."
The first 1-2 months of life is a critical period for establishing breast milk production.
However, the fatigue caused by frequent breastfeeding can definitely wear down mothers.
"Every time my baby cries, does that mean I don't have enough breast milk?"
This also tends to increase anxiety.
The criteria for determining whether your baby is producing enough breast milk are:
✓ Urinating more than six times a day
✓ Regular bowel movements (varies by individual)
✓ Weight gain of 25-30g per day
✓ Baby seems content for a while after feeding
If these conditions are met,
Frequent breastfeeding can also be considered to be sufficient breast milk.
Guidelines for considering mixed feeding:
If the above conditions are not met.
Especially if your weight gain is less than 150g per week .
We recommend consulting your pediatrician or midwife.
Important points to remember when starting mixed feeding:
The key is to let go of the belief that ``exclusive breastfeeding is necessary.''
Adding milk helps mom get more sleep,
As a result, breast milk production often stabilizes.
Midwife advice:
"Breastfeeding is not the goal of child-rearing, it's the starting line.
A mother's smile is the most important nourishment for a baby."
[2nd place] Pushing past limits with 24-hour childcare fatigue
From postpartum high to depression
How to survive a 2-hour sleep deprivation life
Postpartum support tips that husbands should know
"I'm sleepy but I can't sleep...I feel like I'm going to collapse."
The second most common postpartum worry is
"Extreme fatigue from 24-hour childcare."
In a survey of 7,023 mothers,
The most common answer was, "The newborn period was the most difficult."
Particularly serious is the sudden shift from "postpartum high" to "postpartum depression."
Immediately after giving birth, adrenaline and endorphins are released in large quantities,
You will find yourself in a state where you feel strangely excited even though you are tired .
This is a phenomenon known as the "postpartum high."
The sense of accomplishment of giving birth and the love for the baby
Many moms move around more than necessary.
However, this high doesn't last long.
On the third to fifth day after giving birth,
Hormonal balance changes drastically
Suddenly, you are hit by deep fatigue and depression .
Here are some actual testimonials from experienced moms:
"She was fed every two hours, giving her a total of two hours of sleep.
I was on the verge of going crazy. I was in a daze and had no one to rely on.
I was running around aimlessly on my own." (Mom in her 30s)
To explain this situation scientifically,
Postpartum mothers are exposed to a complex range of stresses, including:
[Physiological stress]
-Sudden decrease in estrogen and progesterone
-Large secretion of prolactin due to breastfeeding
Complete disruption of the sleep cycle
[Psychological stress]
・The pressure to be a good mother
・Confusion over the unexpected difficulties of child-rearing
Feeling isolated from society
[Physical stress]
・Recovery period for physical damage caused by childbirth
・Stiff shoulders and back pain due to frequent breastfeeding
- Nutritional deficiency and hydration
Such compound stresses
This increases the risk of developing postnatal depression .
Postpartum depression affects 10-15% of mothers.
It is by no means a rare disease.
Practical tips for surviving a two-hour sleep deprivation:
[Immediate solution]
1. Make sure you "sleep with your baby"
Put off housework and lie down with your baby the moment he falls asleep.
2. Don't underestimate a 15-minute nap
Lying down for even a short time reduces mental fatigue
3. Establish a system for sharing nighttime breastfeeding duties
By adding milk, my husband can take charge of one nighttime feeding.
[Postpartum support tips that husbands should know]
Many husbands feel they don't know how to help.
However, the most important support for postpartum mothers is
"Specific and continuous division of household chores and childcare responsibilities."
Effective support methods:
✓ Instead of "Is there anything I can help you with?"
Take concrete action, such as "I'll fold the laundry" or "I'll make dinner."
✓ Responsible for burping and changing diapers after nighttime feedings
✓ Never wake mommy up while she's taking a nap
✓ Don't forget to say, "That's tough, you're doing a great job"
According to postpartum care experts,
"How you spend the first month of the postpartum period will determine the foundation for your child-rearing thereafter."
Don't try too hard and do your best,
Actively accepting support from those around you
This leads to long-term parenting success.
[3rd place] The scientific reasons why weight doesn't come back and body shape gets out of whack
The first six months after giving birth are crucial
Dietary tips for moms who lost 5kg before pregnancy
Pelvic floor muscle training complete edition
"I can't fit into any of my pre-pregnancy clothes..."
"My belly fat doesn't seem to be going back..."
The third most common postpartum worry is:
This is a serious concern regarding "not being able to regain weight and changes in body shape."
A common misconception among many mothers is that
The misconception is that you will naturally return to your original weight after giving birth .
In reality, changes in weight and body shape after childbirth include:
Complex physiological mechanisms are involved.
First, let's understand the science behind why post-pregnancy weight loss is so hard to come off:
[Hormonal factors]
Relaxin is a hormone secreted during pregnancy
It has the effect of relaxing joints and ligaments.
The influence of this hormone
The muscles around the pelvis are greatly relaxed,
Your basal metabolic rate will decrease by 15-20% compared to before pregnancy .
Furthermore, prolactin, which is secreted during breastfeeding,
It helps to store fat ,
This is to ensure the energy for breast milk production.
It has a biologically important function.
[Structural factors]
During pregnancy, the uterus expands by about six times, and in order for it to return to its original size,
A minimum of 6 weeks is required .
Also, the rectus abdominis muscles (abdominal muscles) that open to the left and right during pregnancy
This results in a condition called "diastasis recti"
Without proper care, it may not recover .
But there is some encouraging data.
Approximately 70% of mothers who received appropriate care within six months after giving birth
Research has shown that women return to their pre-pregnancy weight within ±2kg .
Experiences of moms who actually lost 5kg before pregnancy:
"I started pelvic floor muscle training two months after giving birth.
We thoroughly implement dietary management that can be practiced even during breastfeeding,
Six months after giving birth, I lost 5kg from my pre-pregnancy weight.
The point is not to go on an unreasonable diet,
My goal was to lower my body fat percentage while maintaining my muscle mass." (28-year-old mother)
[Dietary management methods that can be practiced even during breastfeeding]
Breastfeeding mothers need about 500 calories more than normal.
However, it is a big misconception that "it's okay to eat anything because I'm breastfeeding."
Key points for effective dietary management:
✓ Increase protein intake (body weight x 1.2g/day)
Essential for maintaining muscle mass and improving breast milk quality
✓ Avoid refined sugars and choose complex carbohydrates
Prevents sudden rises in blood sugar levels and suppresses fat accumulation
✓ Drink at least 2.5L of water per day
Important for breast milk production and metabolism
✓ Choose high-protein, low-sugar snacks
(nuts, yogurt, cheese, etc.)
[Complete Pelvic Floor Muscle Training]
The most important thing to do to get back in shape after giving birth is
Restoring the pelvic floor muscles .
This muscle group is the most damaged during pregnancy and childbirth.
Proper training will ensure recovery.
Basic pelvic floor exercises:
1. Basic tightening
Lie on your back and bend your knees slightly
・Pull your anus and vagina up and hold for 10 seconds
・Relax for 10 seconds
- Do this 10 times x 3 sets, 3 times a day
2. Combining with breathing exercises
Inhale through your nose for 4 seconds and relax your pelvic floor muscles
Exhale through your mouth for 6 seconds while tightening your pelvic floor muscles
Repeat this breathing 10 times
3. Raising awareness in everyday life
-Tighten your pelvic floor muscles before lifting heavy objects
-Tighten your pelvic floor muscles before sneezing or coughing
- Be aware of your pelvic floor muscles when climbing stairs
Physiotherapist advice:
"Getting back in shape after giving birth is a marathon, not a sprint.
An unreasonable diet will reduce the quality of your breast milk and also reduce muscle mass.
It takes six months to restore it properly,
It's the secret to long-term health and beauty."
[4th place] I can't sleep because I'm worried about my baby's mysterious behavior
Is it okay if my nose is stuffy, my stool is green, and I have jaundice?
Medical explanations for new moms' most Googled symptoms
"This nasal noise sounds painful... Should I go to the hospital?"
"Your poop is green! Did I feed you something bad?"
Tamahiyo's investigation revealed
Ranking of "Most Googled search terms by mothers within one month of giving birth."
1st place: "0 months", 2nd place: "Milk", 3rd place: "Jaundice"...
These results show that
The extent of a new mother's anxiety and the depth of her love .
"If there's even the slightest abnormality, it's a big problem..."
With this in mind, mothers continue to search on their smartphones late at night.
However, in many cases,
Symptoms that moms think are "abnormal"
In fact, this is a normal phenomenon for newborns .
First, let's talk about the most common problem : nasal sniffing .
A newborn baby's nose
It is small, about the size of an adult's pinky fingernail.
Therefore, even a slight runny nose or dry secretions can
It makes sounds like "hug hug" and "zoo zoo."
According to pediatricians,
"95% of nasal congestion-like symptoms in newborns are physiological,
There is no need for treatment."
Symptoms to worry about and reassuring criteria:
[Nose symptoms you don't need to worry about]
・There is a noise, but the milk can be drunk
・Can sleep
・No fever (less than 37.5 degrees)
・Not in a bad mood
[Symptoms requiring hospital visit]
I can't drink milk
・Can't sleep, feeling exhausted
・Fever (over 37.5 degrees)
・Breathing is difficult (chest is sinking)
The next most common concern is the color of poop, which is green .
Many mothers believe that "green poop = illness," but
Green poop in newborns is completely normal .
Why does it turn green?
Bilirubin, a component of bile,
It turns green when oxidized in the intestines.
Newborns have few intestinal bacteria,
Bilirubin oxidizes easily, causing green stools .
Midwife advice:
"Look at your baby's mood and weight gain rather than the colour of their poop.
If your baby is drinking milk and growing well,
Don't worry about the color of your poop."
The third most common concern is jaundice .
Jaundice occurs in approximately 60% of newborns.
This is a normal phenomenon called "physiologic jaundice."
Before birth, the baby is in the mother's womb
I was in a low oxygen environment.
Therefore, to transport oxygen efficiently
The red blood cell count was very high.
When you go out into the world, the extra red blood cells are destroyed.
At that time, a substance called bilirubin is produced
It temporarily makes the skin look yellow.
Characteristics of physiological jaundice:
- Appears 2-3 days after birth
- Disappears naturally within 1-2 weeks of birth
The baby is healthy and drinks milk well.
However, pathological jaundice may be present if:
-appears within 24 hours of birth
- Rapidly becoming stronger
- Lasts for more than 3 weeks
・The baby is lethargic
A message from a neonatologist:
"The 'feelings of worry' that new mothers have are
It shows your deep love for your baby.
But with the right knowledge,
Free yourself from unnecessary worries,
You'll be able to enjoy more time with your baby.
If you have any worries, don't worry alone.
Consult your pediatrician or midwife.
We are on the side of moms and babies."
Finally, some tips to help you avoid those late-night anxious searches:
1. Distinguish between "abnormal" and "unique"
Understand that every baby is different
2. Determine reliable sources
Rather than looking at multiple sites and getting confused, consult your doctor.
3. Record "Today was okay"
Focus on steady growth rather than anxiety
I worry because it's my beloved child.
That feeling is the mark of a great mom.
[5th place] Do you hate me because I won't sleep or stop crying?
Back switch activation mechanism
Baby's biological rhythms and sleep patterns
"He falls asleep when I hold him, but the moment I put him down on the futon he starts crying..."
"No matter what I do, he won't stop crying. I wonder if he hates me..."
Many moms search in tears
Keywords: "Baby won't sleep" and "Baby won't stop crying."
In a survey of 7,023 mothers,
These concerns came in fifth place.
First of all, let me be clear.
The reason he won't stop crying isn't because he hates you.
Actually, it's because I trust you the most.
It expresses emotions honestly.
The phenomenon known as the "back switch" involves
In fact, there is a deep scientific basis for this.
[The true nature of the back switch]
For newborn babies,
They have a primitive reflex called the Moro reflex.
This is because the posture changes,
When you suddenly feel like you've lost your support,
It's a reflex that makes you spread your arms and try to grab onto something .
During the evolutionary process, human ancestors lived in trees.
This reflex causes the baby to cling to the mother
It protected me from falling.
Even today, the moment you put it on your futon,
The baby's brain judges it as "Falling! Danger!"
The Moro reflex wakes you up .
In other words, the back switch
It's not a sign that he hates his mom,
It's a sign that they're anxious about being separated from their mother.
The scientific mechanism of newborn sleep:
The sleep cycle for adults is about 90 minutes,
Newborns have very short sleep cycles of around 20-30 minutes .
Furthermore, about 50% of a newborn's sleep is "REM sleep" (light sleep),
This is significantly higher than the adult rate of approximately 20%.
This has important biological implications.
Light sleep ensures that you don't miss the timing of breastfeeding.
It also makes it easier to spot danger .
Experiences of senior mothers:
"My son had an extremely sensitive back switch.
For over a year, there were days when he wouldn't stop crying for 30 minutes.
To be honest, I was almost heartbroken.
However, the midwife told me, "That's proof that she trusts you."
When I heard that, my perspective changed.
Looking back now, that close contact
I think it deepened our bond." (32-year-old mother)
[Back switch countermeasures]
1. Step-by-step placement
・Put your baby on the futon from the bottom first
・Wait 5 seconds before putting your back on
-Wait another 5 seconds before putting your head back on
- Keep your hand on your baby's chest for 2-3 minutes
2. Minimize temperature differences
- Warm your futon in advance
・Lay a towel with mom's body heat on it
・Adjust the room temperature to 22-24 degrees
3. Recreating the feeling of being enveloped
・Wrap the baby in a swaddling cloth
Maintain a C-shaped posture
- Surround it with bath towels to create a sense of security
Top 5 reasons why newborns cry
According to an analysis by an expert in early childhood development,
Newborns cry for the following reasons:
1st place: I'm hungry (40%)
2nd place: I'm sleepy but I can't sleep (25%)
3rd place: Wet diapers are uncomfortable (15%)
4th place: I want to be hugged (10%)
5th place: Colic (crying for no reason) (10%)
Of particular note are:
10% of babies cry for no reason .
This is a phenomenon known as "colic"
It is most common between 3 weeks and 3 months of age.
Colic symptoms:
- Intense crying in the evening and at night
Sometimes crying for more than three hours
- 3 or more days a week for 3 or more weeks
No health problems
A message from a pediatrician:
The cause of colic is unknown,
It's not that the mother is bad at parenting.
In fact, it is thought to be evidence of a well-developed nervous system.
It's okay if you don't try to completely stop the crying.
Just by being touched by a mother's warm hands in a safe environment,
The baby feels loved."
Finally, to moms dealing with a crying baby:
Crying is a "message of love" from the baby to the mother.
"Mom, I'm here."
"Mom, help me."
"Mom, stay with me."
Babies communicate these feelings as best they can.
Even if I can't respond perfectly,
Your love is definitely reaching your baby.
[6th place] I'm scared to go out for the first time after my one-month checkup
Concerns about infection risk and returning to society
Safety rules for babies before they get vaccinated
"I was given permission to go out after my one-month checkup, but is it really okay?"
"There's no vaccine yet, so what if I get infected?"
One month after giving birth.
After a long time at home, it's finally time to step out into the world.
However, what many mothers feel is not joy,
"Great anxiety and fear."
"Going out" was ranked 7th in the Tamahiyo survey.
This shows the extent of this anxiety.
Especially if it's your first baby
The feeling that "the outside world is full of danger"
It's a very natural maternal instinct.
First, let's understand the medical basis for being allowed to go out at the one-month checkup.
[Why is permission to go out granted after one month?]
1. Completion of the immune system foundation
At one month old, your baby's basic immune system begins to function.
2.Improved thermoregulation
Develops the ability to adapt to changes in outside temperature
3. Mom's physical strength recovery
After the postpartum period, the mother's physical functions are almost fully restored.
4. The need for social reintegration
Long-term isolation can have a negative impact on moms' mental health
However, being allowed to go out does not mean you can go anywhere.
Neonatologist-recommended phased out plan:
[Stage 1: Balcony/garden (1 month old)]
・Time: 5-10 minutes
・Purpose: To get used to the outside air
・Caution: Avoid direct sunlight
[Stage 2: Walking around the neighborhood (1.5 months old)]
・Time: 15-30 minutes
・Purpose: To get used to moving
・Points to note: Avoid crowds
[Stage 3: Short outings (2 months old)]
・Time: 1-2 hours
・Purpose: To complete necessary errands
・Points to note: Check the feeding and diaper changing areas
Infectious disease specialist teaches "Infection risk management for babies":
[High-risk locations and situations]
✗ Crowded trains and buses
✗ Large commercial facilities (holidays)
✗ Hospital waiting room
✗ Places where an unspecified number of people touch
✗ Near someone who is coughing or sneezing
[Relatively safe places and situations]
✓ Natural environment (parks and riverbanks)
✓ Weekday availability
✓ Facilities with private rooms
✓ Travel by private car
✓ A friend's home (health-controlled environment)
But most importantly
"Don't strive for perfection."
Important Message from Pediatricians:
"Newborns do have weak immune systems,
Excessive sterilization and isolation can be counterproductive.
With moderate environmental exposure,
The immune system develops normally.
The important thing is to follow basic infection control measures,
Within the limits of what is comfortable for mom and baby
It's about staying connected to society."
Actual experiences of senior moms going out for the first time:
"The first walk was to the park, 100 metres from the house.
I was carrying a lot of luggage and was extremely nervous.
But my son, feeling the fresh air,
He showed me a pleasant expression,
I realized, "Oh, the outside world isn't so bad after all."
Now I think, 'I wish I had left sooner'" (29-year-old mother)
[List of essential items when going out]
Basic set:
・Diapers (twice the planned number)
・Baby wipes
・A set of clothes
・Towels and gauze
・Milk equipment (for mixed or formula feeding)
Infection prevention kit:
・Alcohol disinfectant
・Disinfecting wet wipes
・Mask (for mom)
・Stroller cover
Emergency kit:
・Maternal and Child Health Handbook
・Health insurance card
・Infant medical care benefit certificate
・Contact information for your regular hospital
[Support for breastfeeding and diaper changing on the go]
Many facilities are now becoming more child-friendly:
・Search app for facilities with nursing rooms
・Fully equipped department stores and shopping malls
・Baby rest rooms in public facilities
・Car nursing curtains and sunshades
Advice from a psychological counselor:
"Anxiety about going out is a manifestation of a mother's sense of responsibility.
However, moderate outings are
It's so important for a mom's mental health.
Freed from feelings of isolation and stagnation,
By regaining "myself as a member of society,"
You will be able to raise your children better.
Don't aim for perfection, just start with small steps."
My first time going out was
The first step into a new world for mom and baby.
It's natural to feel anxious.
But once I got over that anxiety,
New discoveries and growth await .
[7th place] Is there a lack of love if you don't exclusively breastfeed?
Breast milk vs. formula debate settled
Fighting guilt and reducing the psychological burden on mothers
"If I can't exclusively breastfeed, I might not be a good mother..."
"Every time I add milk, it feels like there's not enough love..."
The most painful breastfeeding problem for mothers is
I feel guilty about the ``exclusive breastfeeding myth.''
I see it on social media and in parenting magazines.
"Exclusive breastfeeding and lots of love"
"Breast milk is best"
In messages such as
Many mothers are heartbroken .
But here's an important fact.
According to the latest opinion of the World Health Organization (WHO),
"Breast milk, formula, and mixed feeding are all effective for your baby's healthy growth"
It is clearly stated that:
Furthermore, research by the University of Tokyo's Faculty of Medicine, an authority on pediatric nutrition, has shown that
"No significant difference in children's intellectual and emotional development depending on breastfeeding method"
The results have been announced.
In other words, the depth of love cannot be measured by breastfeeding method .
[Scientific comparison of the benefits of breast milk, formula, and mixed feeding]
Benefits of exclusive breastfeeding:
- Transfer of immune substances (IgA antibodies)
・Reduced risk of allergies
・Oxytocin secretion through breastfeeding
・Low financial burden
Disadvantages of exclusive breastfeeding:
・It is difficult for mothers to get enough sleep
Nutritional status depends on the mother's physical condition
Difficult to deposit
Difficult to gauge breastfeeding volume
Benefits of milk:
- Stable nutritional content
- Accurately know the amount of milk you are feeding
・Dads can also participate in breastfeeding
・Not affected by mom's physical condition
Disadvantages of milk:
・Costly
・Preparing formula is a hassle
・I have a lot of luggage when I go out
- No transfer of immune substances
Benefits of mixed feeding:
You can enjoy the benefits of both
・Respond flexibly to the situation
・Reducing the burden on mothers
・Available in emergencies
A pediatrician talks about the essence of breastfeeding:
"I've treated thousands of babies over the past 30 years,
There is absolutely no difference in a baby's growth depending on the feeding method.
What's important is the mother's facial expression and affection while breastfeeding.
Rather than breastfeeding with guilt,
It's better to give milk with a smile,
It's worth it to the baby."
Actual experiences of senior moms:
[Mom who switched from exclusive breastfeeding to mixed feeding]
"At first, I tried my best, believing that breast milk is the best.
But lack of sleep and fatigue have wiped away my smile...
Since we switched to mixed feeding, my husband has been able to join in on breastfeeding,
So that I can get some rest too.
Above all, breastfeeding has changed from a "painful experience" to a "happy time."
Now, my son and I are both doing very well." (31-year-old mother)
[Mom who raised her child on milk]
"Due to medication for a chronic illness, I was on full-milk milk from the beginning.
People around me sometimes say "poor thing",
It was really hard at first.
But my daughter grew up healthy.
Now he tells me every day, "I love you, Mommy."
Affection is not a feeding method.
I really feel that it's all about the accumulation of daily interactions." (28-year-old mother)
[Psychological approaches to reducing guilt]
In a study on "mother guilt" conducted by a clinical psychologist,
The following cognitive distortions have been identified:
1. Perfectionist thinking
"It has to be 100% breast milk."
↓
"The most important thing is for the baby to grow up healthy"
2. Comparative thinking with others
"She exclusively breastfed, but I..."
↓
"Every family has their own optimal solution."
3. Self-responsibility thinking
"I'm not producing enough breast milk because I'm not trying hard enough"
↓
"Constitution and physical condition vary from person to person."
Important messages from breastfeeding outpatient midwives:
"Every day I deal with moms who are struggling with guilt.
But I want you all to know,
There is no such thing as a "perfect mother."
What babies want is
Not perfect nutrition
A mother's warm love.
Regardless of feeding method,
A mother's smile is the best nourishment."
Practical ways to reduce guilt
1. Recording success stories
Write in your diary that "Today, my baby is growing well"
2. Express gratitude
"Thank you for drinking milk today."
3. Conversations with supporters
Talk to fellow moms and experts who have had similar experiences
4. Scientific Fact Check
Don't be fooled by unfounded information
Finally, to all the moms out there.
The feelings you have when you think about your baby are
It is evidence of deep love.
Whether it's full breastfeeding, formula, or a combination,
Your love remains unchanged.
With confidence,
Continue raising your child in your own way.
[8th place] Postpartum body damage: hair loss and tendonitis
Physical symptoms of hormonal upheaval
Doctor-recommended self-care techniques and the path to recovery
"Every time I shower, I lose a bunch of hair... Will I go bald?"
"My wrist hurts and it's hard to hold my baby..."
In the ranking of postpartum physical problems,
The reality is that "physical pain" was the number one cause at 50.2% .
Even though many mothers have completed the great task of giving birth,
"My body is so worn out, I feel like I'm not myself..."
I feel that way.
However, these symptoms include
There is a clear medical reason
It can definitely be improved with the right measures .
First, let's understand the mechanisms of postpartum physical changes.
[The reality of drastic hormonal changes after childbirth]
During pregnancy, in a woman's body
Estrogen and progesterone
It increases by 10 to 100 times the normal amount .
However, at the same time as giving birth,
These hormones
It will plummet sharply to pre-pregnancy levels .
Due to this upheaval,
It affects every system in the body.
[The scientific mechanism behind postpartum hair loss]
During pregnancy, estrogen
The growth phase of hair is extended
The hair that should have fallen out remained .
After giving birth, estrogen levels plummet,
Accumulated hair that was supposed to fall out
It falls out all at once .
Dermatologist-reliable data:
- Peaks 2-6 months after birth
The average hair loss period is 6 months
95% of mothers recover within one year of giving birth
- It is unlikely to cause permanent hair loss
Actual experiences of senior moms:
"Three months after giving birth, I lost so much hair that it clogged the drains.
I'm afraid to even look in the mirror...
However, around 10 months after giving birth, new hair started to grow.
I think I have more hair now than I did before I was pregnant!
I wonder what I was worried about back then." (33-year-old mother)
[Causes and measures for postpartum tendonitis]
Tendonitis is experienced by approximately 50% of mothers after giving birth.
The reasons for this are complex:
1. Hormonal factors
Relaxin loosens joints
- Tendons become stiff due to a decrease in estrogen
2. Physical factors
・Wrist bending during breastfeeding
・Overuse of the thumb when holding the baby
・Muscle fatigue due to lack of sleep
3. Psychological factors
- Muscle tension caused by stress
- Vicious cycle caused by anxiety about pain
Orthopedic surgeon-recommended remedies for tendonitis:
[Preventive measures]
1. Improved breastfeeding posture
-Adjust the baby's height with a cushion
・Keep your wrist at an angle that doesn't bend
Change your wrist position every 15 minutes
2. Changing the way you hold your baby
-Don't support with just your thumb and index finger
Support your baby with your whole palm
・Actively use baby carriers
[Treatment method]
1. Self-care
- Cool with ice water for 15 minutes (inflammatory phase)
・Promoting blood circulation with warm compresses (chronic stage)
・Gentle stretching
・Wearing supporters
2. Treatment at a medical institution
・Steroid injections (safe even during breastfeeding)
・Physical therapy
・Taping instruction
[Other minor postpartum problems]
Urinary incontinence (experienced by approximately 70% of mothers)
It is caused by weakened pelvic floor muscles.
With proper training, improvement can be seen in 3-6 months.
Basic exercises:
・Pull your anus and vagina up and hold for 10 seconds
・Relax for 10 seconds
10 times x 3 sets, 3 times a day
Stiff shoulders and back pain (experienced by approximately 60% of mothers)
The main causes are breastfeeding posture and lack of sleep.
Improvement points:
・Nursing cushion for posture support
・Heat therapy during bathing
・Simple stretching habits
・Use of chiropractic and massage
Constipation (experienced by approximately 40% of mothers)
Hormonal imbalance and lack of exercise are the causes.
Countermeasures:
・Intake of more than 2.5L of water per day
-Fiber-rich diet
・Moderate exercise (start with walking)
・Abdominal massage
Important Message from Postpartum Care Specialists:
Postpartum physical problems
This is your body's sign that you're trying too hard.
Don't seek perfection,
"Thank you for your hard work today"
Take care of your body.
If you continue to take proper care,
Your body will definitely recover.
Don't endure it alone,
It's also important to consult with a specialist.
Physical recovery timeline
・One month after giving birth: Basic functions begin to recover
・3 months after giving birth: Stabilizing hormone balance
・6 months after giving birth: Significant recovery of muscle strength and physical strength
・One year after giving birth: Almost back to pre-pregnancy state
Your body is
It's a wonderful body that has nurtured a new life.
The current discomfort is temporary.
With proper care and love,
You will definitely get your body back in shape.
[No. 9] My husband doesn't understand how difficult child-rearing is
Conversational techniques to avoid postpartum crisis
Awakening of paternal instinct in men and specific division of labor system
"Why don't you understand? I have my limits too..."
"It's not 'I'm tired too'! There's no comparison!"
Postpartum marital relationships
While 70.1% of mothers answered that they "consulted with their husbands,"
Many moms feel
"A feeling of loneliness and not being understood."
According to a survey by the Ministry of Health, Labor and Welfare,
Divorce rates within two years of childbirth are about three times higher than normal
The reality of the "postpartum crisis" is becoming clear.
But the root cause of this problem is
It's not a lack of affection from my husband,
This is due to the differences in brain structure and hormones between men and women .
[Scientific explanation of the mechanism behind men's paternal arousal]
During pregnancy, women secrete maternal hormones,
It takes about 10 months for a baby to become ready to be a mother.
On the other hand, men's paternal awakening
It occurs through "direct contact with the baby"
It varies from person to person, but it takes between 3 months and 1 year .
In neuroscience research,
Men taking care of babies
Prolactin (the love hormone) is secreted
It has been found that it activates the brain's "paternal circuit."
In other words, "Because the husband does not participate in child-rearing, the fatherhood does not develop."
rather than
"It takes time for fatherhood to develop."
Postpartum counseling experts analyze
"Patterns of misunderstandings between couples":
[Wife's psychology]
・A life centered around the baby 24 hours a day
・Impaired judgment due to lack of sleep
・Hormonal imbalance
・Feeling like "I'm the only one working hard"
[Husband's psychology]
The pressure at work remains the same
・I don't know the "right answer" for child-rearing
・Confusion about my wife's changes
・Feeling like "I'll get scolded no matter what I do"
Actual experience of a senior couple:
[A couple who overcame the postpartum crisis]
Wife (34 years old):
"Two months after giving birth, I told my husband, 'Childcare is hard, but
I exploded when he said, ``I'm tired from work too.''
But after calming down and talking it through,
It turns out they didn't understand each other's situations.
Now, my husband takes the initiative to help me with night feedings,
Our bond is deeper than ever before."
Husband (36 years old):
"At first I didn't really know what to do...
I can see that my wife is busy,
When I tried to help, I was told, "No."
Specifically, "Please change my diaper" or "Please give me a bath"
Since I was able to say that,
Gradually, childcare became more enjoyable."
[Effective communication techniques for couples]
1. Make specific requests rather than emotional appeals
❌ "Why won't you help me?"
⭕ "Can I have some milk once in the middle of the night please?"
❌ "Don't you know how hard it is for me?"
⭕ "Can you review the schedule for the day with me?"
2. Don't forget to say thank you
・"Thank you for your hard work"
・"Thank you for doing ○○ for me."
・Say "thank you" at least once a day
3. Watching over her husband's growth
Don't criticize even if you don't do it well at first
Respect your husband's way of doing things
- Recognize and praise even small changes
[Specific methods for building a childcare sharing system]
Recommended by family psychology experts
"Win-win sharing method":
[Division by time period]
Morning (6am-9am): My husband is in charge
Reason: Making effective use of time before work
・Daytime (9am-6pm): Mainly my wife
Reason: My husband's working hours
・Evening (18:00-22:00): Collaborative work
Reason: It's important as family time
・Late night (22-6:00): Shift system
Reason: To get enough sleep
[Division by area of expertise]
My husband's specialties: bath time, playing with me, getting ready to go out
・Wife's specialties: breastfeeding, changing clothes, health care
・Collaboration: putting children to bed, feeding them solid food, going to the hospital
[Emergency response assignment]
Weekday daytime: Wife responds and reports to husband
Weekday evenings: Husband takes the lead, with wife providing support
・Holidays: Fully rotating system
Important advice from a psychological counselor:
"Postpartum crisis is a temporary storm.
Many couples who have survived this period
"We've become closer than ever," he reports.
The important thing is not to try to change the other person,
Change the way you communicate.
And, "The perfect husband and the perfect father"
Don't expect too much from the start.
Men are also growing into fathers."
[How to encourage your husband to awaken his paternal instincts]
1. Spend some one-on-one time with your baby
Time for husband to spend alone with baby while wife is out
2. Accept your husband's parenting style
Don't assume it's the "wrong way"
3. Celebrate your baby's growth together
Sharing "What I did today"
4. Create opportunities for your husband to take the lead role in childcare
When guests come over, the husband introduces the baby.
Finally, to all couples who have just given birth.
The current difficulty is
It's a "test" to build stronger family bonds .
Instead of blaming each other,
As a team, we overcome challenges together.
Please keep walking.
[10th place] Feelings of loneliness and anxiety after returning home
The pros and cons of in-law support
Breaking away from dependency on parents and establishing an independent parenting style
"I had help at home, but now I'm all alone..."
"I'm grateful for the support of my in-laws, but I'm tired of having to worry about them..."
Approximately 60% of mothers give birth at their parents' home.
However, the reality after the homecoming ended
Many moms are experiencing severe anxiety and feelings of loneliness.
Especially in today's world, nuclear families are becoming more common.
The number of mothers who are suddenly thrown into single-parent childcare is rapidly increasing.
Postnatal care professionals
"The most dangerous period is the month after the homecoming."
It warns:
First, let's look at the practical advantages and disadvantages of giving birth at your hometown.
Let's analyze this calmly.
[Benefits of giving birth at your hometown]
・Significant reduction in the burden of housework
Advice from an experienced mother
・Psychological security
・Minimizing the impact on husband's work
・Nutritionally balanced meals
Disadvantages of giving birth at your hometown
・Delayed awakening of fatherhood in husband
・Differences in child-rearing policies between generations
・Difficulty in developing a sense of independence
・Drop after the end of the homecoming
・Impact on relationships with in-laws
Actual experiences of senior moms:
[The shock of returning home from a trip to my hometown]
"At home, my mother helped me with everything.
I thought, "Maybe raising a child isn't as hard as I thought."
But the first day back home.
Folding laundry while breastfeeding,
Preparing dinner while the baby is crying...
I was shocked to realize that this was reality.
My husband also said, "It seemed easy when I was living at home."
They don't understand how difficult child-rearing is,
It was really hard." (29-year-old mother)
[Mixed feelings about supporting in-laws]
"My husband's parents live just a three-minute walk away, and they've been very kind to us.
But I was very careful,
When I got home, I developed a fever of 40 degrees.
I know my mother-in-law means well, but
I feel like my way of doing things is being rejected...
While I feel I need to be grateful,
It also causes stress.
I couldn't tell anyone about these feelings." (32-year-old mother)
[Transition strategy from reliance on returning to the home to independent childcare]
Postpartum care list recommended
"Gradual Independence Program":
[Transition preparation period (homecoming)]
1. Practice single parenting
- Caring for the baby completely on your own for 2-3 hours a day
・Have your mother go out and experience emergency response
・Find your own child-rearing rhythm
2. Gradual recovery of housework skills
Start with simple dishes
・Do laundry and cleaning at your own pace
・Learn time-saving housework techniques
3. Building a collaborative system with my husband
・Get your husband to participate in childcare even when you're visiting your hometown
・Discuss in detail how to divide up responsibilities after returning home
・Establish a contact system for emergencies
[Transition implementation period (1-2 weeks after returning home)]
1. Don't expect perfection
・Minimal housework is OK
・Use convenience store bento and retort foods
・Evaluation criteria: "I made it through another day"
2. Building a support network
・Building relationships with moms in the neighborhood
・Use of local childcare support centers
・Participate in online mom communities
3. Improving your husband's parenting skills
・Ensure that your husband has 30 minutes of childcare time each day
Respect your husband's way of doing things
Actively express gratitude
[Independence establishment period (after one month after returning home)]
1. Establish your own parenting style
・Don't be bound by your parents' methods
・Creating your own rhythm with your baby
Habit of making decisions with confidence
2. Appropriate use of external support
・Using temporary storage services
・Consider using housekeeping services
・Register for family support
How to get along well with in-laws
Family relationship counselor teaches
How to minimize stress:
1. Gratitude and boundaries go hand in hand
・Always say "Thank you"
・But he calmly asserts his own policy.
・Eliminate the question by saying, "I'll take that into consideration."
2. Use your husband as a go-between
・Convey requests to your in-laws through your husband
-Help your husband understand his wife's feelings
・Unify policies through family meetings
3. Maintain a reasonable distance
・Interact 2-3 times a week, not every day
-High-quality communication even in a short time
・Value your own time
Message from the Director of the Childcare Support Center:
"I've seen many mothers who have returned from their hometowns.
Everyone goes through the anxiety of becoming independent.
What's important is,
Don't think you can do it perfectly on your own.
There are various types of support available in the community.
And there are lots of moms out there in the same situation.
When you feel lonely,
Please be sure to visit the local facilities.
You are not alone.”
[Mental preparation for successful independent child-rearing]
1. Stop comparing
Don't compare yourself to your time at home or other moms
2. Build on small successes
Evaluations such as "I was able to take a bath today"
3. Let go of the idea of a perfect mother
Being a "moderate mother" is enough
4. Have the courage to ask for support
The strength to say "Help me"
The end of the homecoming
This is the beginning of true independent parenting .
It's natural to feel anxious.
But beyond that
A wonderful upbringing that suits you is waiting for you.
[11th place] I've reached my limit and want to rely on someone.
How to use postpartum care and support services
Cost-effectiveness analysis of temporary childcare and housekeeping services
"I want to rely on someone, but I'm afraid they'll think I'm being spoiled..."
"Am I a bad mother if I have to spend money to ask for support?"
One of the most serious problems in modern child rearing is
"The loneliness of a mother who has to bear it alone."
According to a Cabinet Office survey,
While 72% of mothers currently raising children answered that they "want to ask someone for help,"
Those who actually use support
The reality is that it's only 28% .
The background to this is
"Mothers raise their children alone"
The old values,
There is guilt about asking for support .
However, the World Health Organization (WHO) clearly states:
"A mother's physical and mental health is directly linked to the healthy development of her child.
Getting the right support is
It's a mother's right and it's for the child's sake."
First, consider the currently available support services.
Let's understand it systematically.
[Services provided by local governments (public support)]
1. Postnatal care business
・Target: Mothers less than 4 months postpartum
・Contents: Visiting care by midwives, day care
・Cost: Self-pay 1,000-3,000 yen per session
How to use: Apply to the childcare support department of your city, ward, town or village
2. Temporary care business
・Target: Children aged 6 months to preschool age
・Contents: Temporary care at a nursery school
・Cost: 1,500-3,000 yen/day
How to use: Apply directly to each nursery school
3. Family Support
・Target age: 3 months to elementary school age
・Content: Mutual assistance by local residents
・Cost: 700-1,000 yen/hour
How to use: Register at the Family Support Center
4. Newborn visits and home visits to all infant households
・Target: All households with babies under 4 months old
・Contents: Free visits by public health nurses and midwives
・Cost: Completely free
How to use: You will be contacted automatically
[Private services (paid support)]
1. Housekeeping services
・Services: cleaning, laundry, cooking, shopping
・Cost: 2,500-4,000 yen/hour
・Advantages: Professional skills, effective use of time
Disadvantages: Cost, reluctance to let strangers into your home
2. Babysitter
・Services: general childcare, transportation, housework assistance
・Cost: 1,500-3,000 yen/hour
・Advantages: Individual support, flexible time settings
Disadvantages: Cost, need to build trust
3. Postpartum doula
・Service details: Comprehensive postpartum support
・Cost: 3,000-5,000 yen/hour
Benefits: Expertise, psychological support
Disadvantages: High cost, limited availability in some areas
4. Meal delivery services
・Service details: Nutritionally balanced cooked meals
・Cost: 600-1,200 yen/meal
・Advantages: Nutritional management, no cooking time required
Disadvantages: cost, taste preference
Actual user experiences:
[Mother (30 years old) who used housekeeping services]
"At first, I thought housekeeping was a luxury.
However, two months after giving birth, I felt I had reached my limit, so I decided to use it once a week.
In just two hours, the whole house will be sparkling clean.
I had a nice time with my baby during that time.
Since I changed my mindset to "buying time,"
Childcare has become so much easier.
It costs 20,000 yen a month.
I think it's a necessary investment in my mental health."
[Mother who used temporary childcare (28 years old)]
"I have been using temporary childcare twice a month since my child was six months old.
At first I felt guilty and thought, "I feel sorry for him," but
The nursery teacher said, "Mom's rest is also important."
He gave me the push I needed.
I left my child with them for three hours and went to the beauty salon.
Going to a cafe alone...
When I went to pick him up after refreshing myself,
My son is having a great time too,
I feel like this is a good time for both of us."
[Scientific analysis of cost-effectiveness]
In postpartum care economics research,
The benefits of using our support services have been quantified:
[Effects on mom's mind and body]
- Stress reduction: 40% reduction on average
・Sleep time: Average increase of 1.5 hours
・Postpartum depression incidence: 25% decrease
・Marriage satisfaction: 30% increase
[Effects on children]
・Number of nighttime crying episodes: Average 20% decrease
・Emotional stability: Improving trend
・Developmental indicators: Good trend
[Economic benefits]
・Medical expenses reduction: Average of 50,000 yen per year
- Long-term stability through improved marital relationships
- Promoting the mother's return to society
[How to overcome the psychological hurdles of using support]
Postpartum psychological counselor teaches
"Guilt relief techniques":
1. Shift in Perception
❌ "It's a shame I can't do it alone"
⭕ "Getting support is a smart move"
❌ "Spending money is a luxury"
⭕ "Investing in your family's health"
❌ "I feel bad for relying on others."
⭕ "A mutually beneficial service"
2. Phased Use
・Phase 1: Start with free services (newborn visits, etc.)
・Phase 2: Try low-cost services (Famisapo, etc.)
・Phase 3: Use paid services as needed
3. Clarifying the purpose
・Emergency relief: temporary care
・Reducing the burden of housework: Housekeeping services
・Specialized consultation: Postpartum care business
・Continuing support: Babysitting
[How to find regional service information]
1. Local government offices
- Childcare support department of your city, ward, town or village
・Regional Comprehensive Support Center
・Health Center
2. Online Information
・Official websites of each local government
・Childcare support app
・Information site for moms
3. Word of mouth and referrals
・Information exchange at childcare support centers
・Mom friend network
・SNS community
A message from the representative of a child-rearing support NPO:
"The idea that 'mothers have to do it alone' is
It's an outdated value system.
In modern society,
Access to a variety of experts and services
This is the basis of smart parenting.
Seeking support is
It's never a weakness.
Rather, the best environment for children
It shows the strength of a mother who tries to keep things in order.
Don't carry it alone,
Please don't hesitate to ask for help from those around you."
[Key points for successful use of support]
1. Don't expect perfection
Flexibility to accept other people's ways
2. Don't forget to be grateful
Proactively say "thank you"
3. Build lasting relationships
Even temporary use requires trust
4. Make effective use of your time
Use your support time for what really matters
You don't have to do it alone.
Lots of people want to support you.
Be brave and ask for help.
I'm sure you'll receive a warmer hand than you could ever imagine.
[12th place] How long will this pain continue? I can't see any hope
Experiences of senior mothers × Expert supervision
Success stories of surviving the newborn period: honest thoughts now
"Every day is so hard, I can't see when it will ever get any easier..."
"It's depressing to think that this lifestyle will continue for the rest of my life..."
The most common response from mothers one month after giving birth is,
"Anxiety with no hope in sight."
In a survey of 7,023 mothers,
The most common response was that the newborn period was the most difficult .
But at the same time, those senior moms
"It's a laughing matter now." "That time helped me become stronger."
He also said:
To those of you who are currently in the midst of a difficult situation,
"There is no night that will never end"
We hope to deliver this hope.
[When does the newborn stage end? A timeline of changes]
Pediatricians, midwives, and psychological counselors
Joint research on "Stages of Postpartum Recovery":
[1 month after birth: confusion period]
・Mom: Postpartum recovery and hormonal changes
・Baby: Day and night reversal, frequent breastfeeding
・Characteristics: A state of not knowing anything
・Tips for getting through: Don't strive for perfection, just live one day at a time
[2-3 months old: Adaptation period]
・Mom: The child-rearing rhythm becomes clear
・Baby: There will be a little longer between feedings, and the baby will smile
・Characteristic: "I feel like I'm starting to get used to it"
・Note: There may be confusion again after the homecoming ends.
[4-6 months: stable period]
・Mom: Gaining confidence and getting used to going out
・Baby: Increased nighttime sleep
・Characteristic: More moments where you feel that "parenting is fun"
・Change: New challenge with starting solid food
[After 6 months: developmental stage]
・Mom: Establishing identity as a mother
・Baby: They start to become shy around strangers, but they become more expressive
・Feature: You can look back and think, "Those were tough times."
Outlook: Time to consider returning to work or having a second child
Actual moms' "then and now" stories:
[Mr. A (35 years old) - present: son is 2 years old]
One month after giving birth
"Feeding every two hours is driving me crazy.
During the rageful phase, she took out her anger on her husband and mother,
It was a daily life of self-loathing.
"I'm not cut out to be a mother"
"I can't love this child"
I just kept crying thinking that.
When will it ever get easier?
It was really hopeless."
"Now I can say my true feelings"
"When my son was just over a year old,
He started saying "Mama, Mama"
I finally felt like a real mother.
Now that I think about it, one month after giving birth
Strangers who don't know each other yet.
It was only natural that I didn't feel any love.
Now I love my son.
Because of that difficult time,
I can truly feel the happiness I feel now."
[Mr. B (29 years old) - Current status: daughter 3 years old, son 1 year old]
One month after giving birth
"We are committed to breastfeeding exclusively,
"Breastfeed every three hours"
Beware of mastitis
I made up my own rules and pushed myself into a corner.
My daughter is a sleepless child,
It's often morning already when I'm holding the baby.
Before I knew it, my smile had vanished,
I was pretty stressed mentally."
"Now I can say my true feelings"
"When my second son was born,
Our motto is "Appropriate and flexible."
Milk is also used actively,
I also asked my husband to nurse my baby at night.
This will make childcare so much easier!
What I would tell my first-born self:
"Don't strive for perfection, rely more on those around you"
Child rearing is a long-term battle.
The most important thing is for mom to smile."
[Mr. C (32 years old) Currently has 4-year-old twins]
One month after giving birth
"Since we were twins, it was hellish.
When one person stops crying, the other starts...
Sleeping time is about 2 hours a day.
I was so cornered that I was hallucinating,
I thought many times, "I can't do this anymore."
My husband comes home late from work,
It was really lonely and painful."
"Now I can say my true feelings"
"The turning point was three months after birth.
I decided to use temporary storage,
I had three hours of alone time.
Go to the hairdresser, have a coffee at the cafe...
I realized, "I'm still alive."
Since then, I have been receiving regular support.
After giving up on being a perfect mother,
Parenting has become more fun.
Now, using my experience raising twins,
I volunteer to support mothers after giving birth.
[Message of hope from experts]
[Midwife (30 years of experience)]
"I've seen over 3,000 moms.
If you thought, "This pain will continue forever,"
In fact, no one lasts forever.
Surely, one day it will get easier.
And what awaits you afterwards is
I feel more love and happiness than I could have ever imagined.
You may not believe it now, but
Someday I'll think, "I'm glad that time happened."
The day will surely come when you will be able to think that way.”
[Pediatrician]
"Medically speaking,
At 3 months of age, your baby's sleep rhythm will become stable.
At six months of age, there will be significant gaps between feedings.
In other words, the current difficulties
There will always be an end.
And in the process
Mom is definitely growing up too.
If you can get through today,
I'm sure we'll get through tomorrow."
[Postpartum psychological counselor]
"The feeling that there is no hope is
Lack of sleep and hormonal imbalance
Because they are no longer able to make sound decisions.
This is a temporary state.
It's not because you're weak.
Right now, I'm just thinking about getting through today.
There's no need to worry about the distant future.
The accumulation of each day,
It's suddenly grown so much."
[A timeline of hope for you right now]
1 month old:
"You made it through another day. Great job!"
2 months old:
"Maybe I'm getting used to it a little?"
3 months old:
"I saw your smile! So cute!"
6 months:
"Childcare might be fun"
1 year old:
"Those were tough times."
2 years old:
"Maybe I want another one."
Finally, to those of you who are currently going through a difficult time.
You are not alone.
You're doing your best.
You will be a wonderful mother.
And the day will surely come when it will get easier.
Today is a day that will never come back.
That's why,
Give yourself a pat on the back for working hard today.
Tomorrow, surely,
It should be a little easier than it is today.
A bright future for you and your baby,
I sincerely hope so.
One month after giving birth, you are an amazing mom
Thank you for reading this guide to the end.
If this article has resonated with you even a little,
To other moms who are struggling with the same issues
I would be happy if you could share it.
Your step today,
May it bring hope for tomorrow.
And when I look back someday,
"Because of that time, I am who I am today."
Until the day we can say that.
I'm rooting for you with all my heart.